Page 1 July 2013 Make apologies meaningful, apologize less often There are plenty of everyday situations that call for an "I'm sorry," or at least a "sorry," like running into someone in the hall or stepping on someone's toe in the break room. But if you find yourself apologizing every day for every little thing in the office, the apologies become meaningless. Try not apologizing unless it's a more serious matter and you'll feel better. A study by three Australian scholars explains why. In Refusing to Apologize Can Have Psychological Benefits (and We Issue No Mea Culpa for this Research Finding), they say apologies act as a transfer of power from the offender to the victim. By refusing to apologize, the harm-doer retains a sense of control. But that means you don't have to admit you've done anything wrong and don't have to do anything different. It's not always a good idea. The psychological rewards often don't justify the cost. Apologizing can go far toward righting a legitimate wrong and in some cases, can save a lot of money. A study in The Lanset shows that among patients who filed malpractice suits, many said an apology from the hospital would have been enough. At the University of Michigan Medical Center, full disclosure of medical errors and an apology reduced its number of lawsuits by 65 percent. In business, there are benefits for taking the blame. When someone accepts responsibility, they're showing they are in charge. If they fix the error, they are showing they are capable. When you don't often apologize, your apologies become more valuable. People notice them and think better of them. Creativity can strike at the most unusual times It's a classic story. A businessman has racked his brain for days trying to come up with a solution to an important problem. Suddenly, while dangling his feet in a swimming pool, the answer comes to him like a bolt of lightning. Several studies show that the "a-ha" moment has occurred when the discoverer was away from work and relaxing. A study in Psychological Science shows that walking away from a problem to do simple, routine tasks and letting the mind wander in the process, can spark new creative connections or approaches to solving dilemmas. A lot of great ideas occur at transition times when people are waking up, falling asleep, bathing or jogging. For morning people, it's more likely to happen in the evening, and for night people, it's more likely to happen in the morning, according to a study by MJJ Labs in Atlanta, which was quoted in The Wall Street Journal. A study of college students shows that viewing the color green helped to make new ideas appear. Another tactic is building time into a daily routine for mind wandering, like when you take a walk, run, gaze out a window or do a routine physical task that doesn't require much thought. Can anyone become more creative? Studies show that they can, although those who have had stimulating experiences may do somewhat better. Kris Spears ND ACN Exec Success Coach - (361) 438-7947 - [email protected]Brought to you by: Spears & Associates Your Helpful Home Tips
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July 2013
Make apologies meaningful,
apologize less often
There are plenty of everyday situations that call for
an "I'm sorry," or at least a "sorry," like running into
someone in the hall or stepping on someone's toe
in the break room.
But if you find yourself apologizing every day for
every little thing in the office, the apologies
become meaningless. Try not apologizing unless
it's a more serious matter and you'll feel better.
A study by three Australian scholars explains why.
In Refusing to Apologize Can Have Psychological
Benefits (and We Issue No Mea Culpa for this
Research Finding), they say apologies act as a
transfer of power from the offender to the victim.
By refusing to apologize, the harm-doer retains a
sense of control. But that means you don't have to
admit you've done anything wrong and don't have
to do anything different.
It's not always a good idea. The psychological
rewards often don't justify the cost. Apologizing
can go far toward righting a legitimate wrong and
in some cases, can save a lot of money.
A study in The Lanset shows that among patients
who filed malpractice suits, many said an apology
from the hospital would have been enough. At the
University of Michigan Medical Center, full
disclosure of medical errors and an apology
reduced its number of lawsuits by 65 percent. In
business, there are benefits for taking the blame.
When someone accepts responsibility, they're
showing they are in charge. If they fix the error,
they are showing they are capable.
When you don't often apologize, your apologies
become more valuable. People notice them and
think better of them.
Creativity can strike
at the most
unusual times
It's a classic story. A businessman has racked
his brain for days trying to come up with a
solution to an important problem. Suddenly, while
dangling his feet in a swimming pool, the answer
comes to him like a bolt of lightning.
Several studies show that the "a-ha" moment has
occurred when the discoverer was away from
work and relaxing.
A study in Psychological Science shows that
walking away from a problem to do simple,
routine tasks and letting the mind wander in the
process, can spark new creative connections or
approaches to solving dilemmas.
A lot of great ideas occur at transition times when
people are waking up, falling asleep, bathing or
jogging. For morning people, it's more likely to
happen in the evening, and for night people, it's
more likely to happen in the morning, according
to a study by MJJ Labs in Atlanta, which was
quoted in The Wall Street Journal.
A study of college students shows that viewing
the color green helped to make new ideas
appear.
Another tactic is building time into a daily routine
for mind wandering, like when you take a walk,
run, gaze out a window or do a routine physical
task that doesn't require much thought.
Can anyone become more creative?
Studies show that they can, although those who
have had stimulating experiences may do
somewhat better.
Kris Spears ND ACN Exec Success Coach - (361) 438-7947 - [email protected] to you by: Spears & Associates
Your Helpful Home Tips
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Health in the news
Finding drugs that lift depression within hours
The problems with depression drugs like Prozac and Celexa: they can
take a month or more to provide relief, and they don't work for everyone.
New, fast-acting drugs work in an entirely different way and can provide
relief in hours or days. The fast-acting treatments being studied include
ketamine or scopolamine, using the existing medications in a new way.
They all work on the brain's NMDA receptors, which are involved in
learning and memory. They also interact with the neurotransmitter
glutamate, the levels of which are out of balance in depression.
Several drug companies are developing new drugs that are based on
ketamine. It will be at least a couple of years before the new drugs hit
the market, but some doctors are already using ketamine off label for
depressed patients.
What you should know about your allergies
The spring tree and grass allergies are just about gone, but the real hay
fever season is coming up.
Normally, you wouldn't look to CNNMoney.com for medical advice, but
they have analyzed how allergies can affect your pocketbook and have
come up with interesting observations.
* Employees who didn't get treatment lost more than two hours a day of
productivity on their jobs.
* If you regularly take over-the-counter pills, get a skin-prick test to
pinpoint allergens and fine-tune your treatment.
* Shots. If your doctor suggests immunotherapy, weekly shots for up to
eight months (tapering down to monthly), the Journal of Allergy and
Clinical Immunology reports that patients saw 38 percent lower costs
over time for doctors and drugs.
* The best air cleaner is an air conditioner. Or a $50 HEPA air purifier
will work, especially for smaller rooms.
It's watermelon time!
Watermelon is not only fat free and great tasting, it's a real heavyweight
in the nutrition department. A standard serving of about two cups (85
calories) has plenty of vitamins C and A. It has potassium, which is
essential for the body's maintenance and plays a vital role in the
response of nerves and the contraction of muscles.
Watermelon also has a healthy dose of lycopene, an antioxidant that
To solve a sudoku, you only need logic and patience. No math is required. Simply make sure that each 3x3 square region has a number 1 through 9 with only one occurrence of each number. Each column and row of the large grid must have only one instance of the numbers 1 through 9. The difficulty rating on this puzzle is easy.
Use up summer vegetables in
bits-and-pieces pie
This egg pie will suit the palate of even the least adventurous eaters. Tailor it to the tastes of your loved ones while using up those garden vegetables and bits and pieces from the fridge. Just about anything can go in this pie but there are some must-have ingredients. You must have at least 5 or 6 eggs for a 9 inch pie. But, if you have oven-ready custard cups, even 2 eggs will do. You must have some cheese. Your favorite will do. You must have some stuff to put into the pie mixture.
Bits-and-pieces breakfast pie 5 to 6 eggs 1 small zucchini diced 5 pieces of bacon, cooked and diced 1 cup diced sandwich ham 1/2 cup onions Three fresh green onions, diced. 4 ounces cut up polish sausage. 3 cups of Mozzarella cheese, diced 1/4 cup Parmesan cheese diced 1/4 cup cottage cheese From this list, substitute almost anything you have on hand. You'll need a lot of your favorite cheese (at least 3 to 4 cups). Use as much or little onion as you would like. Instead of cottage cheese, you can use milk. Use diced beef, chicken, or any other meat. Sweeten the mixture with a splash of nutmeg, if you want. Tomatoes can be mixed in but they are pretty on the top. How to make: Spray vegetable oil on pie pan. Preheat oven to 350. Mix up the eggs first and then add milk or cottage cheese. Next add the rest of your ingredients. Pour the whole thing into your pie pan. Bake for 30 minutes or until the center is set. Cut