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EphEsians 3:14-21 (niV)

14 For this reason i kneel beFore the Father, 15 From whom every Family in heaven and on earth

derives its name. 16 i pray that out oF his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power

through his spirit in your inner being, 17 so that christ may dwell in your hearts through

Faith. and i pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together

with all the lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love

oF christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge – that you may be Filled to the

measure oF all the Fullness oF god.

20 now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according

to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in christ Jesus

throughout all generations, For ever and ever! amen.

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Teen Depression: Guide for Teenagers

on the cover:Pastor Jekia Ledbetter

Victory Ministries of Christ Church240 South Hilton StreetBaltimore, MD 21229

410-400-0689www.victoryministriesofchrist.com

c o n t e n t s™

8-11 Q&A INTERVIEW – Pastor Jekia Ledbetter

Hampton Minister’s ConferenceCelebrates 100 Years

31 SINGLE LIFE Dr. Monique Flemings Dating 101

29 BOOK SHELF Brandie Manigault

The Story By Max Lucado & Randy Franzee)

Feature Articles

Healthy Body

15 GOVERNOR’S PAGE Governor Martin O’Malley Better Choices, Better Results

23 MAYOR’S JOURNAL Mayor Stephanie Rawlings-Blake

Walking in the Light

35 WOMAN’S PERSPECTIVE Tiffany Bethea Climate Check

41 BODY BASICS www.womenshealth.com Kid Fitness: When your child won’t exercise

25 EDUCATION DIGEST Dr. Tim Tooten Take the Time To Write

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In Every IssueScripture Page ....................................... 2

Contributors ........................................... 6

From the Editor ...................................... 733 WORD OF ENCOURAGEMENT Donna Williams-Ross, (In Trust Ministries)

Lazy, Hazy, Crazy Days of Summer

44 GOSPEL INDUSTRY NEWS Ericka Johnson

8-11 Q&A INTERVIEW – Pastor Jekia Ledbetter

Hampton Minister’s ConferenceCelebrates 100 Years

Healthy Body

Healthy Mind

Healthy Soul

Entertainment37 TO YOUR GOOD HEALTH Carla J. Debnam, (Founder, Renaissance Christian Counseling Center)

Look In The Mirror

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Psalm 84:11

Contributors Chairman — Dr. A.C. D. Vaughn

Sr. Pastor, Sharon Baptist Church, MD

Vice-Chairman — Dr. Frank M. Reid III Sr. Pastor, Bethel A.M.E. Church, MD

Dr. Jerome A. Barber Sixth Mount Zion Baptist Temple, Hampton , VA

Dr. Michael A. Battle Sr., U.S. Ambassador President, ITC Seminary, Atlanta, GA

Dr. Timothy Boddie Friendship Baptist Church, Atlanta, GA

Bishop John R. Bryant Presiding Prelate of the 5th Episcopal District

Dr. Harold A. Carter, Jr.Pastor, New Shiloh Baptist Church, MD

Dr. Suzan Johnson Cook, U.S. Ambassador

Dr. WIlliam H. Curtis Mt. Ararat Baptist Church, Pittsburgh, PA

Bishop Ralph L. DennisSr. Pastor, Kingdom Worship Center, MD

Wanda Q. Draper/Media Executive

Michele J.K. Epps/Health Sciences

Cassandra VaughnMedia Executive

Dr. Donte’ L. Hickman, Sr.Pastor, Southern Baptist Church, MD

Pastor Timothy V. Manigault

Bishop Dennis V. Proctor Presiding Prelate of the Western Episcopal Region AME Zion Church

Dr. Kenneth O. RobinsonPastor, Restoring Life International Church, MD

Bishop Walter Scott Thomas, Sr.Pastor, New Psalmist Baptist Church, MD

Dr. Timothy Tooten, Sr. Pastor, Harvest Christian Ministries, MD

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Dr. Jerome A. Barber Sixth Mount Zion Baptist Temple, Hampton , VA

Dr. Michael A. Battle Sr., U.S. Ambassador President, ITC Seminary, Atlanta, GA

Dr. Timothy Boddie Friendship Baptist Church, Atlanta, GA

Bishop John R. Bryant Presiding Prelate of the 5th Episcopal District

Dr. Harold A. Carter, Jr.Pastor, New Shiloh Baptist Church, MD

Dr. Suzan Johnson Cook, U.S. Ambassador

Dr. WIlliam H. Curtis Mt. Ararat Baptist Church, Pittsburgh, PA

Bishop Ralph L. DennisSr. Pastor, Kingdom Worship Center, MD

Wanda Q. Draper/Media Executive

Michele J.K. Epps/Health Sciences

Cassandra VaughnMedia Executive

Dr. Donte’ L. Hickman, Sr.Pastor, Southern Baptist Church, MD

Pastor Timothy V. Manigault

Bishop Dennis V. Proctor Presiding Prelate of the Western Episcopal Region AME Zion Church

Dr. Kenneth O. RobinsonPastor, Restoring Life International Church, MD

Bishop Walter Scott Thomas, Sr.Pastor, New Psalmist Baptist Church, MD

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from the editor

Jackie EppsEditor-in-Chief

The first half of the year has passed and is behind us now. Along with it has also passed some disappointments, some heartache, some ups and some downs. In spite of what has already happened in the first half of this year, all is not lost. We are to forget those things which are behind and keep pressing forward. We have to stay strong and keep the faith. As we look back over these last six months, I’m sure we all can say that God never left us alone; and if we stay strong and keep pressing the Bible tells us that God will never leave us or forsake us. I have discovered that while God is on our side, He has also equipped us for this journey. God has provided us with tools to help us make it through the journey. So now we just need strength for the journey. We can draw our strength from the Word of God. The Bible teaches us that we get strength from the Lord in a number of ways. There are three that I would like to point out . . . prayer, patience and perseverance. Prayer. Prayer changes things and the Word of God tells us that, “The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” James 5:16 Patience. “But we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience; And patience, experience; and experience, hope”; Romans 5:3-4 Perseverance. “But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up on wings as eagles; they shall run

and not be weary; and they shall walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31 We can obtain strength for the journey by always holding on to God’s unchanging hand and trusting and believing in His promises through His Word. With six months already gone, I will agree that it is very difficult to hold on to what you were believing God to do in your life this year. I’m sure you remember all the declarations you made New Year’s Day full of hope and expectations. But if we hold on and faint not, we will see the salvation of the Lord. We have to remember that God is able to supply all of our needs. God will take care of us and He will not forsake us. God will not fall short on His promises. If we remain faithful to Him, He will be faithful to us. God has not forgotten you nor is He worried about this year being half gone. God is still able to do exceeding abundantly above all you could ever ask or think. So I encourage you to not throw in the towel on this year, “But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.” (I Corinthians 2:9)

Peace and Blessings



Q&A

G&G: Pastor Ledbetter, welcome back. We are so excited to help you celebrate your 7th Pastoral Anniversary at the Victory Ministries of Christ Church. We are looking forward to hearing about the celebration and talking with you about these last seven years. Let’s jump right in, how are you feeling right now?Pastor Ledbetter: Amazing!!! I am extremely excited, grateful and overjoyed for this particular season in my life. I would like to Thank Grace & Glory for allowing me this moment of celebration in proving that the God we serve can do anything but Fail! It has been a long time coming but Yes a change has come and that change is called Manifestation. Victory Ministries of Christ has just entered the year of the manifested seed. I can’t help but to bless His holy name. It is one level to hear what God can do but it is a whole other level to experience the arrival of a landmark that was once prophesied to you!

G&G: Pastor Ledbetter, let’s talk about these last seven years. How would you describe the last seven years? Did the years fly by or was it a slow walk?Pastor Ledbetter: I have to say throughout each season it was what it had to be and to God be all the Glory. There were times when I took off running and couldn’t slow down, then there were times when I had to literally search for a source of momentum. Seven years of pastoring and being led by the Hand of God has shown me most assuredly, to learn to settle with the moves of God. You will never know His mind but, as soon as you think He has you in one place, and you have become complacent, He shows up greater, mightier in a more powerful way and sweeps you off of your feet and, before you know it you are in another phase of His workings.

G&G: Pastor Ledbetter, during these last seven years have you ever thought to yourself what have I signed myself up for; have you ever just wanted to throw in the towel? Pastor Ledbetter: ABSOLUTELY!! I don’t know any pastor that could honestly say they have not faced that season. Since my last interview, I lost my spiritual father

overseer Lonnie C. Harris III, whom I shared with you during my interview. That broke me. I felt lost, alone, unfinished, incomplete…..such a range of emotions. When your spirit is tied, and you feel loss beyond your flesh from the depths of your soul it can be paralyzing; and that’s how I felt. I remember thinking it’s not my Love for God it’s the process that keeps messing me up; but, the voice of God revealed to me through great revelation that, “It’s not my process that brings you problems it’s your positioning in the process.” Trust in the Lord with all your might and Lean Not to your own understanding that He shall direct your path (Proverbs 3:5). God in His compassion shows us how to continue. With a relentless love He allows us to mourn but demands that we get back up as soldiers.

G&G: Pastor Ledbetter, in a previous interview you shared with us the vision that led to the creation of Victory Ministries of Christ Church. Now that you have seven years under your belt what have been the most challenging areas in building this ministry? Have there been any significant struggles or difficult periods during these last seven years that you had to deal with?Pastor Ledbetter: Baltimore is a tricky place to minister and pastor in. Most immediately, I’ll share that we need to be better brethren, one to another. We need to gather not just for the shout and the dance but to stabilize each other and to strengthen our communities for the sake of our congregants. We need to deal better with life outside of the church. The day of competing and, not completing one another is growing old. While we are competing to see who the greatest amongst us is or will be, the least amongst us in our communities and churches are hungry, naked, uneducated, abused, homeless, etc. My seven years continues to remind me that work in the vineyard will NEVER be done. Until He returns; there is MUCH work to do. Building ministry is not as difficult as

Q &A Interview Victory Ministries of Christ Church

Baltimore, MD

Pastor Jekia Ledbetter



Q&Abuilding lives and building lives should always be the residual of building ministry.

G&G: Pastor Ledbetter, have you ever been criticized for your work in the ministry? How do you handle criticism when it comes? Do you believe that women pastors are critiqued more than their male counterparts?Pastor Ledbetter: Yes, I do believe we are critiqued more, but I believe that it is more of a social issue than a church/ministry issue. It is undeniable that we carry a lot of community and social issues through the doors of the church. At the end of the day, I will say this, when people are broken, and bleeding they could care less if you have on slacks and loafers, it could be a skirt and a pair of heels; they just need to know that God can rescue and restore you. Can the God that you preach about, heal, deliver, and love me, beyond my faults. I am constantly criticized for sometimes being too real, or not being proper but, God didn’t save me in a proper place so I have no choice but to carry it like God dropped it.

G&G: Pastor Ledbetter, would you tell us about some of your proudest accomplishments and moments as the Pastor of Victory Ministries of Christ Church over the last seven years?Pastor Ledbetter: Along the VMOC journey some of the proudest moments consist of the moving into the new sanctuary in 2008; the Initial sermons of our Ministers; the ordination of our Deacons; My Installation Service; the birthing of VMOC’s legitimate sons and daughters that have kept my arms lifted for this Great Work. In addition graduating from Eastern Theological Seminary; being a part of Set the Captives Free, under Pastors Linwood & Karen Bethea; and being in fellowship with The Apostolic Network with Apostle Damien & Cheryl Hinton. Also being embraced by some of Baltimore’s

Finest Leading Ladies, The Female Clergy Support Group of Maryland; celebrating 12 years of marriage to my husband

Elder Chris Ledbetter and watching the VMOC family grow with the Love and fruit of God and still being attached with Love and support from The Ecclesia Family Worship Center in Dover, Delaware, where Pastor Carol Harris is now the Senior Pastor.

G&G: Pastor Ledbetter, as it relates to running a ministry, after going through these last seven years have you had to change any of your methodology in ministry? What about how you involve yourself in the lives of your people as their shepherd?Pastor Ledbetter: My methodology has only changed in that I realized I cannot live the transformed life for the member; they must do that for themselves. Many leaders who love their flock as I do will often make the mistake of engaging in micro ministry, where we try to watch and participate in every area of everyone’s life in our care. Guess what, THAT’S IMPOSSIBLE!! Someone is going to get missed and usually it’s the leader and his/her family; I see that clearly now. I can give you the tools, show you how to use them even start you off in the building process, but eventually you have to become the foreman of your own life and lead the building project.

G&G: Pastor Ledbetter, what words of advice or wisdom would you give to someone who is contemplating starting a ministry?

Pastor Ledbetter: First make sure God called you and not your feelings or emotions of where you are Right now in your life. Learn to PRAY, PRAY, PRAY; STUDY, STUDY, STUDY; SAVE, SAVE, SAVE!! Part of the hardship in beginning ministry is that we start with depleted resources, in prayer, in

word and in finances; which makes the beginning difficult and discouraging. Know who YOU are as a minister and lead the people of God. Remain steadfast, humble but firm to the work that God has called you to do. Don’t look for the validation from people, or for your strength,

for your strength will come from serving a

sovereign God. I Corinthians 15:58 says, “My brothers and my sisters, be strong and immovable. Always work


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Pastors Jekia & Chris Ledbetter

Men’s group worshiping-Men Destined For Greatness


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enthusiastically for the Lord, for you know that nothing you do for the Lord is ever useless.”

G&G: Pastor Ledbetter, shifting gears a bit, are there any upcoming events planned to celebrate your 7th Pastoral Anniversary?Pastor Ledbetter: The upcoming events for the 7th year Anniversary starts out with our youth week, July 23rd through July 26th. Our church anniversary takes place the entire month of August with various guest speakers and preachers. VMOC will use the month of August to really enjoy family, fellowship and friends.

G&G: Pastor Ledbetter, where would you like to see the Victory Ministries of Christ Church five years from now? What will the Victory Ministries of Christ Church do in the future to continue to lead its community and invest in it?Pastor Ledbetter: We are currently working on our new edifice, the leaders have been working on this project and I am excited to announce that in 2015, not only would we be moving to a new larger edifice but, the City of Victory will be in full effect. This has been a Southwest Hilton Project for the People of God and for the Community. We are looking forward in implicating the following programs for the betterment of change, the GED Program, Grief Counseling, Domestic Violence Counseling, (Safe House), Gang Intervention, HIV Awareness, Job Training, Big Brother/Big Sister Program, Culinary Arts Foundation and the

Continued from page 9 Wallace Banquet Hall. In the following years to come it is my desire with vision to produce a Recreation Center for the youth and a Senior Enrichment Center, (WOW), God is truly Faithful!

G&G: Lastly Pastor Ledbetter, it has now been seven years since you started this ministry, what would you say you know for sure about yourself and about pastoring a church?Pastor Ledbetter: One of the things I can say for sure is that God has shown me that it is not by my might, nor by my power but by the strength and Love of a risen Savior that I am stronger than I ever thought I was. And Yes, I was built to last for a time such as this, to encourage, embrace and restore people of all walks of nationality that through Jesus Christ we shall have the Victory!

G&G: Pastor Ledbetter, we thank God for you and the Victory Ministries of Christ Church and what you are doing for the Kingdom of God.Pastor Ledbetter: I Thank God for the time and opportunity that He has allowed me to share and celebrate with the Grace & Glory Family. It has been a wonderful time of sharing and talking about the goodness of the Lord. I have had many trials, mountains, circumstances and great changes in my life and in the ministry. I can say that I have had many joys, great accomplishments and victories all the while as well. God has given my testimony such balance. I pray that through reading this article you will be forever more blessed and encouraged to know, if you keep your hand in God’s hands, no one or nothing can pluck you out! For this is the Season for the Manifested Seeds of what God has in store for you!

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Better Choices, Better Results

by Governor Martin O’Malley

I experienced a spiritual moment in the first week of June, when it was my privilege to participate in the ribbon-cutting ceremony for the Star-Spangled Banner National Historic Trail in Bladensburg. Along with many other participants in the ceremony I helped unfurl the enormous restored stars and stripes flag – 30 feet high by 42 feet long! I became emotional as I gripped that flag with my fellow citizens. I couldn’t help thinking about 200 years ago— how black and white hands actually sewed together the threads of the Star-Spangled Banner, and dug those trenches, and fought those battles against the powerful British Army in the War of 1812. 200 years ago, Maryland citizens encountered the shock and awe of their time: an unforgiving British invader, and more raids and battles than any state had to endure. And the Battle of Bladensburg, on August 24th, 1814 was one of the toughest challenges of the war. Much of the War of 1812 played out here, in this place. In our place – Maryland. I have always been tremendously encouraged by these pivotal moments in American History. At times, it must have seemed that all was lost and that we didn’t even believe enough in ourselves to join together and hold our ground. Maryland does not forget that second war of independence, the War of 1812. One state chose to step up and take responsibility for saving the United States. And that state was our state. This year we have a responsibility to help the rest of America remember: to remember our country is no stranger to times when it seemed like all the odds were stacked against us. But we all possess a power greater than any forces sent against us: the power of the shared belief in the dignity of every individual, in our own responsibility to defend and advance the common good. We understand that we’re all in this together, and that we need each other. That powerful idea, that from many different individuals, from a great diversity of people, has

come a stronger country, is an idea that still animates us today. Black and white people, native born and immigrant, we depend on each other.

It’s a power that seems to make the wind blow through the stars and stripes we see on our flag every day, on public buildings and flag-poles, on decals and in front yards. Many hands united to stitch that flag. And just like the flag is made stronger by the individual threads, so too our country is made stronger by individual men and women who believe enough in tomorrow and care enough about their children’s future to be able to commit their life’s work, indeed their own lives, to defending this great idea. This summer, all along the Trail, many beautiful Maryland communities will be commemorating the 200th anniversary of real events in a star-spangled summer of Chesapeake Campaign commemorative festivals, culminating with Star-Spangled Spectacular in Baltimore in September. If you want to learn more about the battle I encourage you to visit the Star-Spangled 200 website and view the interactive battle maps. I invite all of you to celebrate the rediscovery of America’s story in Maryland. Let’s remember that this is our story to tell. And Happy Independence Day!









Making Baltimore Better, Safer and Stronger

Mayor Stephanie Rawlings-Blake publishes her “Walking in the Light” column each month in Grace and Glory Magazine.

Walking in the Lightby Mayor Stephanie Rawlings-Blake

Since my time as city council president, and now as mayor, my guiding mantra for Baltimore City has been “Better. Safer. Stronger.” I believe that Baltimore is steadily becoming a better, safer, stronger city.

In our work to make Baltimore better, we must keep an eye on our aging infrastructure. Most pipes in the city are more than 50

years old, and many are 80 years or older—well beyond their intended lifespan. Many private property owners may not realize that the pipes connecting their homes to the public water and sewer mains are aging as well. While the Department of Public Works has an aggressive plan to replace 40 miles of public water mains each year, private homeowners are responsible for the pipes on their side of these service lines. That means that property owners must pay to have their pipes fi xed if they break—repairs that can cost thousands of dollars.

In order to give citizens a way to protect themselves against unexpected costs, the City has partnered with HomeServe USA to off er very low-cost emergency repair service plans—similar to the type of warranty you might purchase for an appliance—to Baltimore City property owners.

The contracts are being off ered on a strictly voluntary basis. Additionally, billing and sign up will be handled directly by HomeServe—the cost of the service will never appear on any City water bill, and the City will never receive any proceeds from customer subscriptions.

Baltimore is also becoming safer, but there has been a lot of debate about the curfew legislation passed last month. Some have argued we should not enact a curfew, but instead focus on providing more services for our young people as a means to keep them safe and off the streets. I want to be clear that this is not an either/or proposition.When children are on the streets late at night without proper supervision, they are more likely to become either the victims or the perpetrators of violent crime. Not only as mayor, but as a mother, I am NOT willing to take that gamble. Our young people are too precious, and many of them are crying out for help.

We have to continue providing resources to assist young people—my administration is working to open more new rec centers and expanded programming; we provide a robust summer jobs program; and our city is constructing the fi rst new schools Baltimore has seen in a generation, thanks to the historic billion-dollar investment in school construction funds that we secured.

But we also have to acknowledge that, despite these eff orts, there are some young people who need assistance that a new rec center or summer job cannot provide. Often, these kids’ home lives are in crisis, and being out on the street is a cry for help! We need to make sure that our youth-in-need can be connected with the support that they and their families require.

This summer my administration will open a year-round connection center to provide a safe place for young people to be taken off the streets and out of harm’s way. The center will off er wrap-around services to assist those young people who have fallen through the cracks.Let me emphasize that this IS NOT criminal enforcement by the Baltimore Police Department, and children will not be entered into the criminal justice system for merely violating curfew. This is about taking them out of harm’s way before their being on the street becomes a law enforcement concern and making sure they have a safe place to get the help they need.

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Hampton Ministers’ Conference Officers 2014-2017

PresidentRev. Dwight

RiddickNewport News, VA

Vice-PresidentPastor Joseph

Conner, Sr.Philadelphia, PA

Exec. Dir. / TreasurerRev. Debra L.

HagginsHampton, VA

LiturgistDr. Geoffrey V.

GunssNorfolk, VA

HistorianDr. Dennis

ProctorEllicott City, MD

Asst. SecretaryDr. Harold A.

Carter, Jr.Baltimore, MD

100 YEars Of GlOriOus histOrYfrOm thE hamptOn uniVErsitY ministErs’ COnfErEnCE

The Huffington Post | By Yasmine Hafizt | www.huffingtonpost.com/yasmine-hafiz

Hampton University’s Annual Minister’s Conference is one of the oldest gatherings of black clergy in America, and this year it celebrates 100 years of influencing the American spiritual landscape and social well-being with the theme, “Honoring Our Past, Anticipating Our Future.” The summer gathering has grown enormously since its inception in 1914, when just forty ministers attended. Last year, over 7,000 ministers from various backgrounds and Christian traditions gathered in fellowship for the week-long conference. The Reverend Debra Lynn Haggins, Hampton University Chaplain and the Ministers’ Conference Executive Director and Treasurer, commented, “In this centennial year, we stand at the foot of history and at the pinnacle of a promise given to a few local educators and clergymen. Their vision was to see an interdenominational model of cooperation. In this centennial year, the vision, the mission, and the objectives have not changed; for Hampton University, and its Ministers’ Conference, the best is yet to come!” The Hampton University Ministers’ Conference began in 1914 when the Negro Organizational Society, the Conference for Education Board in the South, the Southern Education Board, and the Cooperative Education Board sought to address the growing concerns of the African American church and its relationship to the community. Its first home was on the campus’ chapel with only forty ministers from four different denominations. In 1928, the conference celebrated fourteen years of having more than 800 ministers attend, who represented nineteen different denominations and twenty-three different states. In 1934, the Annual Choir Directors’ and Organists’ Guild joined the annual conference following the successful visit by the Westminster

Choir School the previous year. In its early years, the conference faced some opposition from various groups that questioned its significance and the need for another gathering of ministers. There were already several Baptist meetings and conferences being held in Virginia. However, the conference continued to grow and the number of attendees forced the conference to move from the campus’ chapel, to Ogden Hall, to now the Convocation Center with nearly 10,000 attendees. The nondenominational conference is one of the oldest continuous

gatherings of black clergy. Today, the Ministers’ Conference takes place at Hampton University’s Convocation Center. During the Civil Rights Movement, the conference’s president, the Reverend Thomas W. Logan, worked with Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. in organizational and fundraising efforts in Philadelphia to support civil rights strategies. In 1962, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. shared words of hope and inspiration at the 48th Ministers’ Conference. In 1976, Bishop Michael Battle, Sr. was inaugurated as the first black chaplain of the conference. Dr. J. Jasper Freeman of First Baptist Church in Norfolk, Virginia was the first local pastor to speak in the history of the Ministers’ Conference. Dr. Suzan Johnson-Cook (Dr. Sujay) was the first woman to be elected president of the Ministers’ Conference in 2002. Bishop T.D. Jakes was a conference presenter in 2002, and he’ll again headline the conference for the 100th Anniversary in 2014. Coretta Scott King, popularly known as one of the first ladies of the Civil Rights Movement and wife to Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., spoke at the 89th Ministers’ Conference saying, “You have sent a clarion message that women do indeed have a leadership role to play in religious life.” It was a proud moment for the Ministers’ Conference to have then-senator Barack Obama share words that still carry strong in the conference’s legacy in 2007. The Reverend Debra L. Haggins was named university chaplain and pastor of the historic Memorial Church at Hampton University in 2008, as well as the Ministers’ Conference’s Executive Director and Treasurer— the first female to hold this position in the history of the university and conference. Other notable figures that have participated in the conference include Bishop Vashti McKenzie, Dorothy Height, the Reverend Al Sharpton, the Reverend Jesse Jackson, the Reverend Dr. Gardner C. Taylor, Carol Moseley Braun, Arne Duncan, and Kathleen Sebelius.


Dr. Tim Tooten, Sr.

SecretaryDr. Cynthia

HaleDecatur, GA


HistorianDr. Dennis

ProctorEllicott City, MD

education digest

Dr. Tim Tooten, Sr.

I didn’t realize the importance of writing until I landed my first radio job just after high school. I believed back then I was pretty good at introducing the musical artists I played on my afternoon radio show. It seemed evident early on that God had given me a voice that at the time seemed perfect for radio. I admit there was so much more to learn after I started college. There I sat in Mrs. Butler’s English 101 class at Tallahassee community college. My first writing assignment was nothing short of a disaster. The paper I’d written was returned with more red marks than black. It took practically the entire semester to get a respectable grade. It was during those early years and the ones that followed that I began to understand that writing was not only a requirement to pass a course; it was also a necessity in order to graduate. The same rules held true for television reporting. There were employers who would read my broadcast script during those early years and remind me and my fellow rookie reporters of the importance of writing in a broadcast style which is for the ear. It also took a while for me to make the connection between good writing and good speaking. I am blessed to report that I have been writing and speaking on radio and television for more than 38 years. But one day I had another writing wake-up call. It was when I enrolled in seminary. Even though I had become accustomed to the short, concise and to the point broadcast style writing, this would be a return to the days of Mrs. Butler’s English 101 class. In fact, the seminary papers were so much longer. My longest and most in-depth writing assignment was my 285-page dissertation. It was a requirement in order to receive my Doctor of Ministry degree. It was during those years before graduation when I would sit at the kitchen table alongside my children as they completed their school writing assignments. In their eyes I was the writing expert, but I had to admit to

them how at one point writing was not a priority. Today, I teach broadcast writing on the University level and have been for the past 13 years. Nowadays, my life is consumed with writing. I write at least four stories a week to record for my television news reports. I write this column once a month. I also write as many as two sermons a week to share on Sunday mornings at the church where I serve as pastor. It was not long ago that one of my children made the comment that I write a six to seven page paper every week. It turns out they are right. It’s the length of my written sermons. I never thought of it that way. I am writing this column to encourage you to buy a notebook and take time to write down the events of your day. It’s called journaling. There are at least a half a dozen or more journal books in various places in my home. Every now and then I’ll pick up one of those journals and read the handwritten notes from the past. It’s amazing to reflect on how God has ordered and guided my life experiences. I believe writing should become contagious. I believe that having the ability to write is critical in any career or discipline. There is no way we can know for sure, but there may be someone in our homes eager to take note of what we’re putting onto paper. If not paper, perhaps the words we write on our personal computers. Technology has its advantages. In fact, we now have the option of writing on our smart phones. I challenge you to take time to write over the summer and to make this most important discipline a priority in your home.

Dr. Tim Tooten, Sr. is an Emmy-Award winning television reporter for WBAL-TV (NBC) in Baltimore, Maryland. He’s also the pastor and founder of Harvest Christian Ministries in Baltimore County Maryland.






bookshelf

by Brandie ManigaultBook Shelf

The Story By Randy Frazee and Max Lucado

“Be Blessed by this review of Randy Frazee and Max Lucado’s The Story, written by my good friend Siobhan Saulsbury. Let it inspire you to want to know more as it did me.” -Brandie

My church recently started collectively reading and studying The Story by Randy Frazee and Max Lucado. It is the Bible presented as one continuous narrative. I must say, this is excellent! This sort of Cliff Notes version of the Bible is great for believers at all levels. It hits all the highlights and presents them in an easy-to-understand format. The best thing about The Story though is how it emphasizes the fact that the Bible is God’s story, which is all about His love for us. I admit I haven’t finished the book yet and I know it’s not recommended to review something before you’ve finished, but I felt it was ok to break that rule for a couple of reasons. First, I started reading the Bible through every year about 5 years ago... so I know how it ends. Second, I’m too excited to wait! No matter how long you’ve been saved or a part of church life, it’s always amazing and awe-inspiring to read or hear about God loving you so much He’s been trying to win you back from the very beginning!

The Story book also has a study guide and lessons on DVD to accompany it. Both help you get a deeper understanding of what’s going on behind the scenes. The author explains it like this, “In the Upper Story, God creates the Lower Story.” The Upper Story is God’s Story and the Lower Story is our story. “God created the Lower Story so He can come down from the Upper Story and do life with us.” How exciting is that? Knowing that God had a plan to be in a loving relationship

Max Lucado and Randy Frazee - Max Lucado is a best-selling Christian author and writer and preacher at Oak Hills Church (formerly the Oak Hills Church of Christ) in San Antonio, Texas.

After serving as the senior minister at Oak Hills Church in San Antonio, TX for 20 years, Lucado announced in early 2007 that he was stepping down due to health concerns. Lucado has since resumed the more limited ministry role of writing and preaching at Oak Hills with co-pastor Randy Frazee, formerly of Willow Creek Community Church of South Barrington, Illinois. The Lucados have three daughters, Jenna, Andrea, and Sara.

Lucado has written almost 100 books with 80 million copies in print, including three recipients of the Charles “Kip” Jordon Gold Medallion Christian Book of the Year (Just Like Jesus, In the Grip of Grace, and When God Whispers Your Name), and has also appeared regularly on several bestseller lists including the New York Times Best Seller List.

Randy Frazee – is senior minister at Oak Hills Church in San Antonio, Texas. He is the author of The Connecting Church, Making Room for Life, The Christian Life Profile Assessment, and Renovation of the Heart Student Edition.

A graduate of Dallas Theological Seminary, Frazee and his wife, Rozanne, have four children.

About the Authors

with me from the moment Adam and Eve sinned in the garden!

When used in a group setting, The Story is an excellent tool to bring believers together while growing in the knowledge of God’s Word. I, personally, met several ladies in my church that

I wouldn’t have otherwise met. The small group we formed was made up of different ages, ethnicities and spiritual backgrounds, but we all came together with the common denominator of recognizing our need for God to come

down from the Upper Story and interact with us in our Lower Stories. With each example from God’s Word given, from Abraham to Moses to Joseph and on, we see how “bad” circumstances don’t mean “the end.” God is always working things out for His people who love Him.

The bottom line is that The Story is about love. It’s about how the Bible is God’s love story for us. When we can fully recognize that God loves us and has a plan for us, we can trust in Him and rest on the promises given in His Word. The Story is a great encouragement whether you’re new to the faith, inquisitive about who this God is or you just want a refreshing reminder about the God of the Word... The Story has what you’re looking for.

Siobhan Saulsbury

Max Lucado

Randy Frazee



DATING 101

So you have exchanged glances, and it appears that you may have some interest in someone. It has been a long time since you have even thought about someone in that special way. You are now an adult, no longer a child, a Christian, and you desire this time to be pleasing and do things “God’s way”. Before you became a Christian, there were no rules. You lived your life without any accountability to anyone….except you. But this time you wonder… “What are the rules?” “How do I date, God’s way?” “Can I date, since someone told me that dating was not in the Bible?” So now I have a small conflict. I have met someone that I would like to get to know better and I desire to do it in a manner that is pleasing to my God. The life of the single Christian woman or man will come to this fork in the road, and it can be a little scary if not right down frightening experience if you are not careful. Single ministries may increase their value to their single participants by discussing and dealing with dating issues, how to date and how to cultivate relationships. There is this fairytale romance even among Christians that God will open the heavens and drop your mate right in your lap after the praise and worship team finishes their last song during the Sunday morning worship experience. We further enhance the fantasy with the thought that this person will be “perfect” for us…bone of my bone flesh of my flesh….and now we are no longer in the lonely single ministry, but we have now graduated to the marriage ministry. Praise the Lord!! Unfortunately, God has not showered down any potential spouses as of yet, and the dating period can be a time of self-discovery and growth. While you will not find the word “dating” in the Bible due to the culture at that time, dating is the necessary process prior to the engagement period (courtship) that leads to marriage. Dating by definition is the process whereby two people meet socially with the aim of assessing the other’s suitability as a partner for marriage. It is a newer term with protocols and practices from country to country. I am not a relationship specialist, or counselor, but here are some nuggets of wisdom that may help you in dating in a manner that pleases God, represents the Kingdom and doesn’t discredit your Christian witness. 1. Every person that attends church is not necessarily a Christian. Just because someone tells you they attend church, participate in ministry, does not mean that they have the same

“life rhythm” or belief system as you. Make sure you are both headed in the same direction, complementing to each other and “equally yoked”. 2. Make your dates in a public place. Avoid dates that include watching a movie, sharing dinner at each other’s home. While it may sound nice and romantic, you may be setting yourself up for a real battle in your flesh. 3. Do dates that involve activities. Avoid stationary dates. Stationary dates such as going to the movies do not allow you to spend time in conversation. These dates do not allow you to explore and find out about this person, instead you spend time together sitting in the dark for 90 minutes and you conclude that you both enjoy the same things in life because you both enjoyed watching a movie. 4. Ask as many questions as you can think of and LISTEN very carefully to the answers. Watch body language. Repeat your questions if necessary. Think of your meeting like an interview session and you are there to gather as much information as possible. 5. Do not take your date to a family function or social with friends. These gatherings are full of spectators with a lot to say. Family functions are for “family” not dates. These settings can be awkward, uncomfortable and stressful for you and your date. Find a spiritually strong married couple that you know very well and ask them to double dating with you. The experience will be helpful for you both. 6. Keep dates to a time schedule. Don’t allow them to drag out past their time limit. Set a time limit in your mind and stick to that time limit. This will keep the time you have spent together refreshing and allows you to have something to discuss on the next date. Dragging dates out past their time may cause you to let your guards down too soon. 7. Remember this person is God’s child. This will help you to not disrespect them in any way. If things don’t work out, you have gained a new friend. 8. Don’t ignore the warning signs. When you see red flags, take notice and move on. If you see signs this early keep moving. 9. Don’t talk about church. Find something other than the Bible, the church service or Bishop So-In-So to talk about. You should have some interest to bring to the table with your Christian hat. 10. Keep the physical to a minimum. Don’t play with your flesh. There is no need to get your flesh in an uproar over someone you are still getting to know and learn. Hand-holding, hugs, kisses are not necessary at this phase. I pray these tools will guide you in your dating season. Often we use the wrong tools in the wrong season. These are tools for dating and to be used when dating. There are more valuable tools for you in my book and workbook entitled “Yes, I’m STILL Single”. Get your copy today at www.moniqueflemingsministries.com.

Dr. Monique FlemingsMonique Flemings Ministries,

Chicago, Illinoiswww.moniqueflemingsministries.com

single life




word of encouragement

Donna Jennifer[Royalty] Ross

In Trust [email protected]

Roll out those lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer those days of soda and pretzels and beer. Roll out those lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer. Dust off the sun and moon and sing a song of cheer – [Nat King Cole] When Nat King Cole sang that song, I am sure that he didn’t know that the world would become so crazy or hazy. He did not know that the prices for soda, pretzels and beer would be so high. I am also sure that he did not know that words like HIV, STD, juvenile diabetes, mudslides, tsunamis, astronauts, wild fires, iPads, iPods, digital cameras, etc. would rule the world. However we know and serve a God that saw this ahead of time and made plans for each and every one of His children; plans that will prosper us, even in these trying and challenging times. Plans that will not hurt us, even though weapons are daily formed against us. Plans to give us a hope and a future as we trust in Him. We are looking at a world that has changed drastically since Nat King Cole sang that song. I am sure that you remember hearing as a child that the world is coming to an end and I have certainly lived long enough to wonder when that would be. However, we are living in a time where it is much closer than when we first believed and we really have to sit up and take notice. We are not only here to see what is going on, but to take a stand and make a difference. Summers were designed as a time for children to be out of school and be able to run across the street and play with their friends. They could play all day, eat a little

and truly enjoy their summers. However, parents are now more than ever afraid to let their children go across the street, much more spend the night at someone’s home. Sex offenders, drunken driving, pedophiles, texting, etc. has become quite the norm. The price of soda, pretzels and beer are so much higher – sometimes not only because the price of things have escalated but sometimes because of the love of money. There are no longer “rumors of war”, there are simultaneous wars. There are many false prophets out and about and deceiving people. People’s hearts are failing because of the things that are going on in the world. Suicide seems to be at an all time high. We now are watching drug cartels brazenly living the good life and Christians who are financially challenged. Let us not forget who is in charge of this world system – our adversary, the devil. As the Body of Christ continues in competition with each other about this or that, our adversary the devil has boldly walked into our churches. Notice, the devil didn’t sneak in, he boldly walked into our churches and demanded that we accept the world’s standard of living. Heaven help us all! “Why, why, why”, “how, how, how”, “when Lord when”, we continue to ask of the things that are going on in the world, not just in the USA but in the world at large. So are we going to try to roll out those lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer or are we – as the Body of Christ going to stand up and let the devil know that we are making this world safe for our children? Let us move forward by standing for

righteousness, holiness, love for one another, by understanding that the grace and favor of God is still upon our lives. Let us stand for our children, brothers and sisters and the world at large. Let us come together as one body and pray without ceasing [1 Thessalonians 5:17], remembering that the effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much [James 5:16]. In fact let us begin to show the world how safe they can be if we all begin to trust God and take Him at His word. I encourage you to remember that even though we cannot roll out those lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer, you can trust the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords to keep us in perfect peace as you continue to keep your mind stayed on Him. I encourage you to stand on Jeremiah 29:11 that God does indeed have a plan for your life and He intends to bring that plan to fruition. Pray with me: Father, in the name of Jesus, more than those lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer, we want You to be Lord of our summers – Lord of the entire seasons of our lives. Help us to put our confident expectations in You and You only – for it is in You and You only our future and our hope lies. On behalf of In Trust Ministries – “Enjoy your summer”. Luv, luv y’all.




Tiffany BetheaAuthor| Speaker| Mompreneur

Founder & CEO/ The L.I.V.E. Circlewww.tiffanybethea

woman’s perspective

Climate Check!

The heat is on, in full force. The climate has shifted and summertime is truly upon us. This time of year many of us find ourselves regularly checking the temperature in our homes and making the necessary adjustments so that we can keep a cool comfortable atmosphere. If you haven’t already noticed by now, I truly enjoy analogies. The other day as I was adjusting to the sudden sweltering heat, it occurred to me that just as we keep the proper atmosphere in our homes naturally, we must do the same spiritually. As women, we play a vital role in setting the “climate” and atmosphere in our homes. The atmosphere we set plays a huge role in whether or not our husbands and children eagerly return home or stay away and return only when necessary. The atmosphere we set plays a huge role in whether they sleep in peace or turmoil and whether they are free to dream, refresh and be inspired or to the contrary are frustrated, confused, and uninspired. It is in our homes that we gather ourselves and prepare to deal with the external world we live in. The atmosphere we live in often impacts how ready we are to face the world and all that we will encounter each day. “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.” Proverbs 14:1. The word lets us know that if we are wise, we will build up our homes and set the atmosphere properly for those who dwell there. How do we build up our homes? We can do so by making sure that the fruit of the spirit is present in the climate. We must ensure that love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control reign in our homes. We must show love in everything that we say and do. We must allow the joy of the Lord to constantly overflow our hearts. We must suffer long with our loved ones even when it is difficult. We must show kindness and goodness daily. We must be faithful and consistent and be women of our word. We must be gentle and exercise self-control, particularly in

times of conflict. It is in demonstrating this character that we build up our homes instead of tearing them down. What kind of atmosphere are you setting in your home? Is the fruit of the spirit present? Do you and everyone in your home enjoy being there? Just as we adjust the temperature to the changing temperature, sometimes we must adjust the atmosphere to keep up with our changing lives. We must stay in tune to the heart of God to see when the peace is declining or the love or joy is slipping away. At that place we must get on our face and begin to cry out for our homes no matter how many or how few people live there. Because life flows in seasons we must be constantly checking the temperature and noting when an adjustment is needed. Is it time for family prayer or a family discussion? We must allow God to give us wisdom on what will properly adjust the atmosphere in our homes. I encourage you awesome women of God to maintain a Godly climate in your home; one where your husband and children can hear from God, be inspired, and be equipped to live a conquering victorious life. Build your homes through Godly words, prayer and faith in action. Be intentional about being a wise woman who will not tear down her own home or those in it. Watch the awesome things that God will do through you individually and corporately as you maintain a Godly climate in your home. Walk it out wise women!



to your good health

Carla J.Debnam, MS, LCPC

Founder,Renaissance Christian

Counseling Center

We are all prone to expressing our opinions, gossiping and making judgements about others. No one is exempt from being the topic of discussion at breakfast, lunch, or dinner.

Whether it is a casual conversation or a called meeting, none of us wants to be the hot topic of the day. It is with this in mind that we can be reminded of looking at the plank in our eye before pointing out the speck in someone else’s eye. We all are fallible and make poor choices that are questionable. Instead of using the mistakes of others to increase our self-esteem, we all should be using the mistakes of others to make adjustments in our own lives. We often watch reality television as a means of escape or to have persons we can belittle as having low standards or morals. Many of these persons are pretending to be messed up to gain notoriety. Unfortunately some of us are truly messed up. It’s time to take a break from gossip and backbiting and use our words to uplift and encourage. This is a lesson that we are never too old to learn. Whether we are young or old, it’s time to sweep around our own front door. Life is too short to continue with petty discussions and improper

inferences about our neighbors’ lives. Michael Jackson sung these words years ago. “I’m starting with the man in the

mirror. I’m asking him to change his ways. No message could have been any clearer. If you want to make the world a better

place, take a look at yourself and make a change.” Let’s be who we profess to others and represent Jesus by showing

our love and not just our knowledge. Let’s look in the mirror and be the change we want to see.





body basics

By Sarah Henry (WebMD)

12 Tips to Get Your Couch Potato MovingSome children just aren’t into sports, but that shouldn’t mean they have to be glued to the tube. Creative kid fitness may be as simple as a walk in the park. Help your sedentary son or daughter discover the benefits and joys of physical activity with these 12 tips.Kid Fitness Tip #1: Think outside the playing field.Not everyone is drawn to organized sports such as soccer or baseball. Look for other activities your child will enjoy – like dancing, rock climbing, swimming, or martial arts. And have patience – it may take some trial and error before your kid finds the right fit.It’s probably time to explore another option when your child is no longer having fun. Keep trying different ideas until something clicks. It’s important to get non-athletic kids motivated and moving so they can enjoy a lifelong habit of physical activity.Kid Fitness Tip #2: Join in the game.Kids love it when their parents play with them. So encourage children’s fitness by taking a family hike. Have a game of catch. Walk or bike to school together. Play hopscotch. You don’t need a lot of fancy equipment or special classes to encourage your child to exercise.Kid Fitness Tip #3: Limit screen time.The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that kids get no more than one to two hours of screen time a day, whether that’s watching TV, surfing the Internet, or playing video games. But many children spend four or more hours each day in front of a screen. Encourage active alternatives to these passive pastimes, such as shooting hoops at the local playground, walking the dog, or a game of tag.To help keep temptation at bay, remove TVs from bedrooms and put the computer in a shared space where you can supervise. If you have teens, set guidelines about other sedentary pursuits like chatting on the phone or text messaging.Kid Fitness Tip #4: Lead by example.If you vegetate in front of the TV every night, the remote control in one hand and a bag of chips in the other, you’re not practicing what you preach. And your kids aren’t likely to respect restrictions you set on their screen time either. So check your own viewing behavior and serve as a role model by incorporating physical activity into your everyday life. When you can, walk instead of driving. Climb the stairs rather than wait for the elevator. Regularly participate in active pursuits that you enjoy and let your kids see – and hear

about – how much you enjoy them.Kid Fitness Tip #5: Offer positive feedback.Praise a child for perfecting that handstand or figuring out how to pump those legs to swing high in the sky. Out-of-shape or uncoordinated children need to hear encouragement for reaching even small goals, such as walking or biking further than last time. Remember, acknowledge the effort – choosing to be active or trying to improve a skill – rather than the outcome to help build your child’s confidence.Children who aren’t naturally athletic may be self-conscious about their physical skills (or lack of them). They may also fear public failure, embarrassment, or teasing. A child may just be physically cautious. These kids need all the support and cheerleading you can offer. Nagging or negative comments don’t work and will only serve to make your child feel bad.Kid Fitness Tip #6: Bring a friend along.Kids love to hang out with their peers, so invite a buddy along for a bike ride, offer to bring a friend ice-skating, or head to the pool with a companion. Young children enjoy going to the playground with friends to chase, climb, swing, slide, and run. If your child is more likely to check out a team sport with a friend in tow, then go ahead and sign her up. Just make sure the focus is on making fitness fun and learning new skills – not competition and winning – as this can dampen your child’s enthusiasm for the game.Kid Fitness Tip #7: Use exercise as a reward.Forcing a child to go outside and play may backfire and increase resentment and resistance. Exercise should never be punitive. Don’t make your child run laps or do push-ups as punishment. Instead, try using physical activity as a reward. Your child might be happy to play kickball for 20 minutes if it’s a chance to take a break from homework.Kid Fitness Tip #8: Establish a regular routine.Make sure that children’s fitness is plugged into the family schedule in the same way that school, work, shopping, chores, family gatherings, birthday parties, and play dates find their way onto the calendar. You and your child are more likely to stick to an exercise plan if you incorporate it into your life on a routine basis. And your child will begin to expect (and accept) that Saturday morning usually means a bike ride, and a couple of nights a week after dinner the family takes a brisk walk

through the neighborhood.Kid Fitness Tip #9: Take a non-negotiable position.Is going to school, brushing teeth, or wearing a seat belt a subject of debate in your home? No, because these are all activities that promote the health, safety, and well-being of your child. Well, the same approach should apply to children’s fitness. It’s a no-brainer: Getting regular exercise is good for your mental and physical health. Stand firm from the get-go and don’t let your child argue the merits of playing computer games versus playing ball games.Kid Fitness Tip #10: Instill the idea that exercise is in.Some kids really respond to the concept of doing something that’s cool. Maybe your child wants to grind on a skateboard like Tony Hawke, deliver a karate kick a la Bruce Lee, learn the latest hip hop routine, or master the moves of capoeira. Older children, in particular, may have strong opinions about what’s hip and what isn’t. If it’s safe and active and encourages your child to get in shape, then allow your kid to pick an activity that appeals to his sense of style.Kid Fitness Tip #11: Put your child in charge.Let each kid take a turn choosing an active weekend pursuit or after school activity. The nature lover may vote for a hike, the adventurer may opt for a trip to the nearest jungle gym or climbing wall. More sedentary souls may select an activity – like walking, biking, or scootering – with a destination in mind, such as a visit to the local library. Whether you wind up at a batting cage, bowling alley, or belly dancing class, they all count as children’s fitness activities and your child can feel a sense of control over the situation. For younger kids, however, you may want to limit how many options they have to choose from.Kid Fitness Tip #12: Make it fun.Little children don’t need much encouragement to stretch like a cat, run like a tiger, or jump like a kangaroo. And they’ll have a blast doing it. And don’t forget, grade-schoolers still enjoy the opportunity for free play – inside or out – after a day spent at the desk. Stuck inside with tweens or teens on a rainy day? Then break out an action-oriented dance video game, to get your youngsters expending some energy. Younger children may enjoy just putting on some music to dance up a storm together. Whatever the activity, you want to keep the fun in kid fitness.



Teen Depression:A Guide for Teenagerswww.helpguide.org

Learn Tips and Tools for Helping Yourself or a Friend The teenage years can be tough, and it’s perfectly normal to feel sad or irritable every now and then. But if these feelings don’t go away or become so intense that you can’t handle them, you may be suffering from depression. The good news is that you don’t have to feel this way. Help is available and you have more power than you think. There are many things you can do to help yourself or a friend start feeling better.

What depression feels like. When you’re depressed, it can feel like no one understands. But depression is far more common in teens than you may think. You are not alone and your depression is not a hopeless case. Even though it can feel like depression will never lift, it eventually will—and with proper treatment and healthy choices, that day can come even sooner.

Signs and symptoms of teen depression It’s hard to put into words how depression feels, and people experience it differently. There are, however, some common problems and symptoms that teens with depression experience.• You constantly feel irritable, sad, or angry.• Nothing seems fun anymore, and you just don’t see the point of trying.• You feel bad about yourself—worthless, guilty, or just “wrong” in some way• You sleep too much or not enough.• You have frequent, unexplained headaches or other physical problems.• Anything and everything makes you cry.• You’ve gained or lost weight without consciously trying to. • You just can’t concentrate. Your grades may be plummeting because of it.• You feel helpless and hopeless.• You’re thinking about death or suicide. (If this is true, talk to someone right away!)

When teen depression turns deadly If your feelings become so overwhelming that you can’t see any solution besides harming yourself or others, you need to get help right away. And yet, asking for help when you’re in the midst of such strong emotions can be really tough. If talking to a stranger might be easier for you, call 1-800-273-TALK in the U.S. to speak in confidence to someone who can understand and help you deal with your feelings.

Coping with suicidal thoughts. In the meantime, the following suggestions can help get you through until you feel ready to talk to someone:• There is ALWAYS another solution, even if you can’t see it right now. Many kids who have attempted suicide (and survived) say that they did it because they mistakenly felt there was no other solution to a problem they were experiencing. At the time, they could not see another way out, but in truth, they didn’t really want to die. Remember that no matter how horribly you feel, these emotions will

pass.• Having thoughts of hurting yourself or others does not make you a bad person. Depression can make you think and feel things that are out of character. No one should judge you or condemn you for these feelings if you are brave enough to talk about them.• If your feelings are uncontrollable, tell yourself to wait 24 hours before you take any action. This can give you time to really think things through and give yourself some distance from the strong emotions that are plaguing you. During this 24-hour period, try to talk to someone—anyone—as long as they are not another suicidal or depressed person. Call a hotline or talk to a friend. What do you have to lose?• If you’re afraid you can’t control yourself, make sure you are never alone. Even if you can’t verbalize your feelings, just stay in public places, hang out with friends or family members, or go to a movie—anything to keep from being by yourself and in danger.Above all, do not do anything that could result in permanent damage or death to yourself or others. Remember, suicide is a “permanent solution to a temporary problem.” Help is available. All you need to do is take that first step and reach out.

If you are suffering and don’t know where to turn... It may seem like there’s no way your parents will be able to help, especially if they are always nagging you or getting angry about your behavior. The truth is, parents hate to see their kids hurting. They may feel frustrated because they don’t understand what is going on with you or know how to help. Many parents don’t know enough about depression to recognize it in their own kids, so it may be up to you to educate them. You can refer them to this site, or look for further information online. Letting your parents know that you are feeling depressed will probably motivate them to get you the help you need. If your parents are abusive in any way, or if they have problems of their own that makes it difficult for them to take care of you, find another adult you trust (such as a relative, teacher, counselor, or coach). This person can either help you approach your parents, or direct you toward the support you need. If you truly don’t have anyone you can talk to, refer to our resources at the end of this article. There are many hotlines, services, and support groups that can help. No matter what, talk to someone, especially if you are having any thoughts of harming yourself or others. Asking for help is the bravest thing you can do, and the first step on your way to feeling better.

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teen connectThe importance of accepting and sharing your feelings. It can be hard to open up about how you’re feeling—especially when you’re feeling depressed, hopeless, ashamed, or worthless.It’s important to remember that everyone struggles with feelings like these at one time or another. They don’t mean you’re weak, fundamentally flawed, or no good. Accepting your feelings and opening up about them with someone you trust will help you feel less alone. No matter what it feels like, people love and care about you, and if you can muster the courage to talk about your depression, it can—and will—be resolved. Some people think that talking about sad feelings will make them worse, but the opposite is almost always true. It is very helpful to share your worries with someone who will listen and care. They don’t need to be able to “fix” you; they just need to be good listeners.

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What you can do to feel better: Tips for depressed teens

Beating depression, one day at a time. You can’t beat depression through sheer willpower, but you do have some control—even if your depression is severe and stubbornly persistent. The key to depression recovery is to start with a few small goals and slowly build from there. Depression is not your fault, and you didn’t do anything to cause it. However, you do have some control over feeling better. Staying connected to friends and family, making healthy lifestyle decisions, and keeping stress under control can all have a hugely positive impact on your mood. In the meantime, you might need therapy or medication to help you while you sort out your feelings. Look into your treatment options with your parents. If medication is being considered, do your research before making a decision, as some antidepressants used for adults can actually make teens feel worse.1. Try not to isolate yourself When you’re depressed, you may not feel like seeing anybody or doing anything. Just getting out of bed in the morning can be difficult, but isolating yourself only makes depression worse. Make it a point to stay social; even if that’s the last thing you want to do. As you get out into the world, you may find yourself feeling better. Spend time with friends, especially those who are active, upbeat, and make you feel good about yourself. Avoid hanging out with those who abuse drugs or alcohol, get you into trouble, or who make you feel insecure. It’s also a good idea to limit the time you spend playing video games or surfing online.2. Keep your body healthy Making healthy lifestyle choices can do wonders for your mood. Things like diet and exercise have been shown to help depression. Ever heard of a “runners high”? Exercising releases a rush of endorphins, which makes you feel instantly happier. You actually get a rush of endorphins from exercising, which makes you feel instantly happier. Physical activity can be as effective as medications or therapy for depression, so get involved in sports, ride your bike, or take a dance class. Any activity helps! Even a short walk can be beneficial. As for food, an improper diet can make you feel sluggish and tired, which worsens depression symptoms. Your body needs vitamins and minerals such as iron and B-vitamins. Make sure you’re feeding your mind with plenty of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. Talk to your parents, doctor or school nurse about how to ensure your diet is adequately nutritious.3. Avoid alcohol and drugs You may be tempted to drink or use drugs in an effort to escape from your feelings and get a “mood boost,” even if just for a short time. However, substance use can not only make depression worse, but can cause you to become depressed in the first place. Alcohol and drug use can also increase suicidal feelings. In short, drinking and taking drugs will

make you feel worse—not better—in the long run.If you’re addicted to alcohol or drugs, seek help. You will need special treatment for your substance problem on top of whatever treatment you’re receiving for your depression.4. Ask for help if you’re stressed Stress and worry can take a big toll, even leading to depression. Talk to a teacher or school counselor if exams or classes seem overwhelming. Likewise, if you have a health concern you feel you can’t talk to your parents about—such as a pregnancy scare or drug problem—seek medical attention at a clinic or see a doctor. A health professional can help you approach your parents (if that is required) and guide you toward appropriate treatment. If you’re dealing with relationship, friendship, or family problems, talk to an adult you trust. Your school may have a counselor you can go to for help, or you may want to ask your parents to make an appointment for you to see a therapist.

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Helping a Depressed Friend Depressed teens typically rely on their friends more than their parents or other adults in their lives, so you may find yourself in the position of being the first—or only—person that they talk to about their feelings. While this might seem like a huge responsibility, there are many things you can do to help.

Is your friend depressed? If you’re a teenager with a friend who seems down or troubled, you may suspect depression. But how do you know it’s not just a passing phase or a bad mood? Look for common warning signs of teen depression:• Your friend doesn’t want to do the things you guys used to love to do.• Your friend starts using alcohol or drugs or hanging with a bad crowd.• Your friend stops going to classes and afterschool activities.• Your friend talks about being bad, ugly, stupid, or worthless.• Your friend starts talking about death or suicide.• Get your friend to talk to you. Starting a conversation about depression can be daunting, but you can say something simple: “You seem like you are really down, and not yourself. I really want to help you. Is there anything I can do?”• Know that your friend doesn’t expect you to have the answers. Your friend probably just needs someone to listen and be supportive. By listening and responding in a non-judgmental and reassuring manner, you are helping in a major way.• Encourage your friend to get help. Urge your depressed friend to talk to a parent, teacher, or counselor. It might be scary for your friend to admit to an authority figure that there is a problem. Having you there might help, so offer to go along for support.• Stick with your friend through the hard times. Depression can make people do and say things that are hurtful or strange. But your friend is going through a very difficult time, so try not to take it personally. Once your friend gets help, he or she will go back to being the person you know and love. In the meantime, make sure you have other friends or family taking care of you. Your feelings are important and need to be respected, too.• Speak up if your friend is suicidal. If your friend is joking or talking about suicide, giving possessions away, or saying goodbye, tell a trusted adult immediately. Your only responsibility at this point is to get your friend help, and get it fast. Even if you promised not to tell, your friend needs your help. It’s better to have a friend who is temporarily angry at you than one who is no longer alive.


Mali Music

His single “Beautiful” the very first time I heard it played it was on a mainstream secular station. I’ve followed his career and I love his music. His lyrics and instrumentation on his songs have always been edgy and pushed the envelope but that’s who he is; so I was not at all surprised that he was signing to a secular label. I feel his music is more kingdom based and inspirational than any other genre. His single “Beautiful” has charted on both

secular and gospel charts. In this season as believers we have to send our message on a larger scale to reach the universe without compromising our message. MAli’s album has been released and is getting awesome reviews; I admonish you to check it out!

Michelle Williams

I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE Michelle Williams’ new single “Say Yes”! It is feel good, inspirational, kingdom music! “When Jesus Says Yes Nobody Can Say NO”! This song features Beyoncé and Kelly Roland (Destiny’s Child); bringing this awesome trio back together was “pure genius”. I had to hit up my friend and brother Joe “Flip” Wilson to find out the story behind this song. Pretty much with Joe working with Beyoncé and Kelly for many years, this was a “no brainer”. I was literally dancing and singing around my living room listening to this song and watching the video! The lyrics are so uplifting! Kudos to Harmony Samuel for the production on this record. Michelle’s album is slated to be released September 9, 2014. She has some incredible features on this project Fantasia, Tye Tribbett, Deitrick Haddon, and LACrae. The single, “Say Yes” is now available on iTunes, and all digital media outlets.

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Dorinda Clark Cole

“You Are” the first single from Lady Dorinda’s new project, it’s such a new and edgy sound for her but I LOVE IT! The song was written by her and the awesome Deon Kipping. It was produced by the incomparable Joe “Flip” Wilson who has the Midas touch, and Danni Whitherspoon who has been making crazy waves in music for quite some time. The newness of flavor I hear with this song is very refreshing and I’m excited about what’s to come for this project. The single is currently available on iTunes and all digital media outlets. The full album is slated to be released in January 2015.

Top 5 Gospel Songs

#1. Beautiful Day - Jamie Grace

#2. Every Praise - Hezekiah Walker

#3. I Can Only Imagine - Tamela Mann

#4. Amazing - Ricky Dillard

#5. Beautiful - Mali Music

TOP 5 Albums

#1. Amazing- Ricky Dillard & New G

#2. WOW Gospel 2014

#3. Help - Erica Campbell

#4. Below Paradise - Tedashi

#5. Best Days - Tamela Mann


Ricky Dillard

I am absolutely a fan of Ricky Dillard & New G! They always bring it their single “Amazing” is so simplistic in lyrics but

absolutely powerful in impact! I love it!! I was NOT surprised in the least when I heard the album “Amazing” debuted at #1 on both Gospel and Christian (CCM) charts. It’s amazing how God blesses us just for holding on and not giving up. I was reading Ricky Dillard’s Facebook post where he stated he was just “seriously thinking about retiring” NO SIR keep bringing us that good ole choir music with that contemporary swag he gives it. It’s remarkable! Congrats Dr. Dillard & New G! Go grab this project u will not be disappointed!

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