IS peer support final presentation

Island SchoolYear 10 Peer Support Seminar

Sonia BasiliSt. John’s Counselling Service

Peer Support

Brainstorm…..

• Think of a time when you needed support from your peers?

• Who did you go to?• What type of support was helpful?

Who am I?

• What is Counselling?

• Who should see a counsellor?

• Do we need to be counsellors when we support our friends?

• Island School : Rm 416 – Fridays • or by appointment [email protected]

Self- Awareness

• Before I can walk in another’s shoes, I must first remove my own,

What do you see?

Paradigms

Try out new lenses…

Five Essential Helping Skills

Accepting

Non-judgemental

Understanding

Genuine

Trustworthy

Hearing vs. Listening

Listen or thy tongue will make thee deaf

LISTEN FIRST TALK SECOND

I need a pair of….

Listening to people talk about theirproblems makes them feel better

It does 3 things:

1)Shows that we care2)It shows that we

understand3) Makes them feel valued

Attentive listening:listening with

care and empathy

“I can understan

d how you feel.”

“I’m really sorry

you feel that

way.”

SYMPATHYEMPATHY

Volunteer?

Roadblocks to Helping

1) Ordering/Commanding2) Warning/Threatening3) Moralizing/Preaching4) Advising/Giving Solutions5) Lecturing/Giving Logical Arguments6) Judging/Ridiculing/Blaming/Name-Calling/

Sarcasm/Shaming/Put-Downs7) Playing Psychologist/Analyzing/Diagnosing8) Consoling

Lessons from Charlie Brown

Nonverbal AttentivenessKEEP “SOLER” in MIND

S –square stance

O–open posture

L –lean toward

E –eye contact

R – relaxed stance

Paraphrasing:

You feel _______________Because_____________

Student: I know I shouldn’t be so hard on myself. But I can’t seem to stop second guessing everything I do.

• Helper: It sounds like you’d like to be easier on yourself, but you aren’t able to control your reactions

But..what should I say?

Types of Question

C = Clarifying Questions

O-E = Open-Ended Questions

Cl = Closed Questions

Clarifying Questions

• Deepening our understanding of what is being said or to allow people to consider a situation and their feelings about it more deeply.

Do I understand you? Are you saying….?

When you say….What do you mean?

I think I lost you. Could you go over that again?

Open-Ended Question

“What did you do when that happened?”

“How does that make things different”

Closed Questions

“How old were you when you moved?”

“Did that make you angry”

Your Turn…

- Groups of 3

- Counsellor, Student & Observer

Summary:

Are YOU really LISTENING?

THANK YOU!

Remember you can contact me at:

[email protected]

3 things you learned today?