Inner child

WHERE IS YOUR INNER CHILDMaliheh Taheri

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When I grow up I want to be a little boy. ~Joseph Heller,

OUTLINE

Greetings & Introduction: 4mins

Childhood Memories and Clip: 3 mins

Definition: 10 mins

Children Within US 10: mins

Hound-out

Eric Berne Theory: 10 mins

I’m Ok. You are Ok: 5mins

Clip 2

THE GREAT MAN IS HE WHO DOES NOT LOSE HIS

CHILD'S-HEART. ~MENCIUS, BOOK IV

Greetings for New Year 2011

Congrats for Ashwin and Rotary’s achievements in 2010

Why we should know our “Inner Child”?

First 8 years of our life = 80% of a person's personality

3 in one or 40 years, 27, 17, 7, 1

IN EVERY REAL MAN A CHILD IS HIDDEN THAT

WANTS TO PLAY. ~FRIEDRICH NIETZSCHE

Charles J. Fillmore, American linguist

Psychological Definition

Carl Jung referred to a similar concept as the "Divine Child".

Emmet Fox called it the "Wonder Child".

Some psychotherapists call it the "True Self“.

Charles Whitfield dubbed it the "Child Within".

Transactional Analysis calls it simply “Child”.

EXAMPLES OF SOME OF THE CHILDREN YOU MIGHT

FIND INSIDE ARE: HAND OUT

The Playful Child

The Spoiled Child

The Neglected Child

The Abandoned Child

The Fearful Child

The Unbonded Child

The Discounted Child

The Wise Child

"Wise Nurturer" or "Inner Parent Self"

The Inner Child refers to that part of each of us which is ultimately alive, energetic, creative and fulfilled; it is our "Genuine Authentic Self", who we know deep within us, our "Real Self.“

ERIC BERNE THEORY OF TRANSACTIONAL

ANALYSIS

interpersonal relationships to three ego-states of the individuals

Parent

Adult

Child

ERIC BERNE THEORY OF TRANSACTIONAL

ANALYSIS

Parnet

Never, For onceAdult

In my opinion

Child

I don't care

ERIC BERNE'S TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS

Parent is our 'Taught' concept of life

Nurturing (positive) and Spoiling (negative).

Controlling - Structuring (positive) and Critical (negative).

Adult is our 'Thought' concept of life

Adult remains as a single entity, representing an 'accounting' function or mode, which can draw on the resources of both Parent and Child.

Child is our 'Felt' concept of life

Adapted - Co-operative (positive) and Compliant/Resistant (negative).

Free - Spontaneous (positive) and Immature (negative).

KNOWING HOW TO OPERATE FROM THE I'M OK YOU'RE

OK MODEL WILL TRANSFORM YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH

OTHERS

A GROWNUP IS A CHILD WITH LAYERS ON. ~WOODY

HARRELSON

PEACE TO YOU ON YOUR JOURNEY TO

LOVING TO YOURSELF.

You can encourage your Inner Parent to cuddle your Inner Child when it is crying or needs to be heard. Soothe you Inner Child when he or she is under emotional stress.

Use the awareness of the Inner Dialogues that are going on and become apart of the path you are on instead of being lead where you might not want to go.

Ultimately you can heal and be a happy person in your life.

O MEN, GROWN SICK WITH TOIL AND CARE,

LEAVE FOR AWHILE THE CROWDED MART;

O WOMEN, SINKING WITH DESPAIR,

WEARY OF LIMB AND FAINT OF HEART,

FORGET YOUR YEARS TO-DAY AND COME

AS CHILDREN BACK TO CHILDHOOD'S

HOUSE.~PHOEBE CARY

References:

Harris, Thomas. I'm OK, You're OK. Harper 2004..

Games People Play - Eric Berne

What Do You Say After You Say Hello - Eric Berne

Questions?

HE WHO CAN NO LONGER PAUSE TO WONDER AND

STAND RAPT IN AWE IS AS GOOD AS DEAD; HIS

EYES ARE CLOSED. ~ALBERT EINSTEIN

THANK YOU

For your patience and curiosity to participate in my presentation

A grownup is a child with layers on. ~Woody Harrelson

MY CHILDHOOD MAY BE OVER, BUT THAT

DOESN'T MEAN PLAYTIME IS. ~RON OLSON

By Maliheh Taheri© 2010 haiku Centre Pte Ltd