In The Bible and Today. Some Definitions From The Dictionary A protocol of best practices rules governing socially acceptable behavior Guidelines for.

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WHAT IS ETIQUETTE ?

Some Definitions From The Dictionary

A protocol of best practices

rules governing socially acceptable behavior

Guidelines for simple (normally ) un-spoken/unwritten manners

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IN THE BIBLE:

“order in the

church”1 Corinthians 14:40 Let all things be done decently and in order.

Romans 14:16 16Let not then your good be evil spoken of:

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INTERPERSONAL INTERACTIONS

BETWEEN ADULTS

BETWEEN MALES AND FEMALES

BETWEEN ADULTS AND CHILDREN

YOUNG ADULTS/TEENS

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Between adults (we will review 4 areas)

1: General interactions (speech and conversations etc..)

2: Greetings

3: Hugging

4: Praying for adults

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In general speech should never imply anything inappropriate. This is anything that could be viewed as inappropriate by either of the 2 adults

OR ANYONE listening

Behaviors or gestures that reflect anything viewed inappropriate should not occur

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What is an appropriate Greeting?

Hugging vs. Hand shake?

For the most part it requires personal interpretation, certainly you would not want someone to feel “left out or not wanted” by offering no greeting. Also understand people have different acceptance and comfort levels.So most importantly it is the “other person” who decides what “their comfort level is” “Normally the female”

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When one person is uncomfortable, the other may not even be aware that they made someone uncomfortable

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We must also consider ages in any discussion with respect to interactions between people

Generally speaking when age differences are that of 20 years or greater people may greet each other as parent/child. This would be viewed as acceptable, as long as both parties feel this way.

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HUGGING

Well here we go I will try to tackle this very controversial subject. Now remember these are “good guidelines” so let’s ask ourselves a question.

Are there different type of hugs?I can instantly think of 4 different styles of hugging. Before I define some of the different styles, let’s look at the scriptures

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Ecclesiastes 3 1To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:  2A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;

 3A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;  4A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

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 5A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;  

6A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;  7A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;  8A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.

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HUGSAre hugs appropriate at all?

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Are hugs appropriate at all? Yes but subject to different people, relationships and situations.

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HUGS

The “SIDE HUG”

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The “HEAD HUG”

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The “HEAD HUG”

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The “ONE ARM /NECK HUG”

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The “ONE ARM /NECK HUG”

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The “FULL EMBRACE”

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In The Bible and TodayPRAYING FOR PEOPLE

Again:

“decently and in order”

ETIQUETTEPRAYING LAYING ON HANDS

Men should never touch a woman below the waist line to pray for them. (The same in respect would be applicable when woman are praying for men)Above the waist contact should be limited to the head and hands, what are some scriptures?

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JOHN 13:8-9 Peter saith unto him, Thou shalt never wash my feet. Jesus answered him, If I wash thee not, thou hast no part with me.  9Simon Peter saith unto him, Lord, not my feet only, but also my hands and my head.

ACTS 19:11 And God wrought special miracles by the hands of Paul:  12So that from his body were brought unto the sick handkerchiefs or aprons, and the diseases departed from them, and the evil spirits went out of them.

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Acts 5:12-20 (King James Version) 12And by the hands of the apostles were many signs and wonders wrought among the people; (and they were all with one accord in Solomon's porch.  13And of the rest durst no man join himself to them: but the people magnified them.  

14And believers were the more added to the Lord, multitudes both of men and women.)  15Insomuch that they brought forth the sick into the streets, and laid them on beds and couches, that at the least the shadow of Peter passing by might overshadow some of them.

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SO – Pertaining to prayer for people, a shadow, handkerchief was proven effective methods for healing in the bible

Peter said, “wash my head and my hands also”.

Another words these are certainly appropriate places to touch others.

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FOR THE ADULTSADULT INTERACTIONS WITH CHILDREN (HUGS)

The simplest explanation is this:

1: The child must initiate

2: It must be within the CHILD’S comfort level

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ADULT INTERACTIONS WITH CHILDRENThe simplest explanation is this:

1: Avoid the appearance of a situation that could be viewed as inappropriate

2: If something doesn’t feel right, it probably is not

3: How to escape a questionable place, “I have to go to the restroom” Which is totally true if you leaving a situation to walk into a restroom will keep a situation from developing, then you have to do it.

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QUESTIONS?