Participant’s Guide
Mar 24, 2016
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Trust Building DVD creditsProducers: Dave Ping, Craig Spinks, Sadell BradleyStandard Publishing contributors: Lindsay Black, Dale ReevesHosts: Joe Boyd, Elisa MorganContent specialists: Dave Ping, Dave Stone, Barbara Steffens, Anne Clippard, Jeff BakerVignettes written by Brad WiseOriginal music: Ric Hordinski
ISBN 978-0-7847-2409-5
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Introduction .................................................................xx
Breakout One ...............................................................xx
Nonverbal Trust Busters ..............................................xx
Nonverbal Trust Builders .............................................xx
Breakout Two ...............................................................xx
Verbal Trust Busters .....................................................xx
Verbal Trust Builders ...................................................xx
Breakout Three ............................................................xx
Behavioral Trust Busters ..............................................xx
Behavioral Trust Builders ............................................xx
Breakout Four ..............................................................xx
Spiritual Trust Building ................................................xx
Feeling Words Finder ...................................................xx
Contents
Why Trust Building? Trust leads to authentic connection.
Trust meets the longing of our hearts.
Trust helps us to be effective in all our relationships.
Trustworthiness is the goal of this small group experience.
Three Levels of Trust Nonverbal—what you
Verbal—what you and
Behavioral— and
Meet the CharactersJordyn Ed
Bill Eric
Ruth
As you watch the video vignettes, ask yourself, “Which of these char-
acters do I intuitively trust or mistrust, and why?”
“God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. He com-
forts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When
they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort
God has given us.”
—2 Corinthians 1:3, 4
Introductionwith Dave Ping and Elisa Morgan
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Large Group Discussion: Which of the characters do you intuitively trust and why?
Which of the characters do you intuitively distrust and why?
Why Is Trust So Hard?Concerning the first human relationship, Adam and Eve, Genesis 2:25
states, “Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no
shame.” There was no shame, no fear, no lying, and no hiding—only
the fullness of relationship we were all created to experience with one
another and with God.
Galatians 5:22, 23 indicates that God intends our relationships to
produce the fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,
faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
After Adam and Eve sinned, they tried to hide their nakedness from
one another and from God. Thoughts,
feelings, and motives that had been “out
in the open” were now guarded or hidden
even from themselves. It’s as if their hearts
were turned upside-down, with only the
“safe” issues showing above the surface.
Today this is how we naturally tend to
relate to others.
Open Area
Guarded Area
Hidden Area
Unknown Area
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Breakout OneIntroduce Yourselves (fifteen minutes)
1. First name middle name last nameBirth order: ❏ Oldest ❏ 2nd ❏ 3rd ❏ 4th ❏ 5th ❏ 6th ❏ Other ❏ YoungestFavorite pastime Favorite book and movie Hopes or expectations
2. First name middle name last nameBirth order: ❏ Oldest ❏ 2nd ❏ 3rd ❏ 4th ❏ 5th ❏ 6th ❏ Other ❏ YoungestFavorite pastime Favorite book and movie Hopes or expectations
3. First name middle name last nameBirth order: ❏ Oldest ❏ 2nd ❏ 3rd ❏ 4th ❏ 5th ❏ 6th ❏ Other ❏ YoungestFavorite pastime Favorite book and movie Hopes or expectations
4. First name middle name last nameBirth order: ❏ Oldest ❏ 2nd ❏ 3rd ❏ 4th ❏ 5th ❏ 6th ❏ Other ❏ YoungestFavorite pastime Favorite book and movie Hopes or expectations
5. First name middle name last nameBirth order: ❏ Oldest ❏ 2nd ❏ 3rd ❏ 4th ❏ 5th ❏ 6th ❏ Other ❏ YoungestFavorite pastime Favorite book and movie Hopes or expectations
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Nonverbal Trust Buildingwith Dr. Barb Steffens and Elisa Morgan
What You See Our perception of a person’s trustworthiness is the foundation on
which our relationship with them rests.
Some people only seem trustworthy until we see a little more into
their hearts. Proverbs 27:19 says, “As a face is reflected in water, so
the heart reflects the real person.”
We want to see into a person’s and into their .
There is no “magical checklist” we can follow to trust people or
make people trust us.
So much of trust building is – .
Though trust ebbs and flows in relationships, we can show our sin-
cerity by working at communicating caring.
Communicating Caring LoveWhen a verbal message is not consistent with voice tone or non-verbals, the listener gives more weight to the nonverbals than to the verbal message.
Congruent = your matches your
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55% Nonverbals 38% Tone of voice 7% Actual words
Source: Albert Mehrabian, UCLA