HPC3O: Unit 4 Parenting Styles and Outcomes How does the way a parent raises a child impact the child’s development? Why?

HPC3O: Unit 4 HPC3O: Unit 4 Parenting Styles and Parenting Styles and

OutcomesOutcomes

How does the way a parent raises How does the way a parent raises a child impact the child’s a child impact the child’s

development? Why? development? Why?

Quick Quiz: MatchQuick Quiz: Match

1.1. Responsive to Responsive to children's’ needs.children's’ needs.

2.2. Indifferent to children, Indifferent to children, ignore themignore them

3.3. Reject their childrenReject their children

4.4. Critical, derogatory, Critical, derogatory, dissatisfied with their dissatisfied with their children.children.

5.5. Warm, understanding Warm, understanding and accepting.and accepting.

A.A. Hostile and antisocialHostile and antisocial

B.B. Poor self-control, Poor self-control, difficulty with social difficulty with social interactions when interactions when teenagers.teenagers.

C.C. Compliant with Compliant with parent’s wishes parent’s wishes

D.D. Happy and friendlyHappy and friendly

E.E. Dissatisfied with Dissatisfied with themselves.themselves.

Matching KeyMatching Key

1.1. Responsive to Responsive to children's’ needs.children's’ needs.

2.2. Indifferent to children, Indifferent to children, ignore themignore them

3.3. Reject their childrenReject their children

4.4. Critical, derogatory, Critical, derogatory, dissatisfied with their dissatisfied with their children.children.

5.5. Warm, understanding Warm, understanding and accepting.and accepting.

A.A. Hostile and antisocialHostile and antisocial

B.B. Poor self-control, Poor self-control, difficulty with social difficulty with social interactions when interactions when teenagers.teenagers.

C.C. Compliant with Compliant with parent’s wishes parent’s wishes

D.D. Happy and friendlyHappy and friendly

E.E. Dissatisfied with Dissatisfied with themselves.themselves.

Types of Parenting Styles Types of Parenting Styles and Outcomesand Outcomes

There are three Parenting Styles.There are three Parenting Styles. Authoritarian (Brick Wall)Authoritarian (Brick Wall) Permissive (Jelly Fish)Permissive (Jelly Fish) Democratic (Backbone)Democratic (Backbone)

Each style has been studied, and Each style has been studied, and each style has been associated with each style has been associated with an outcome for childrenan outcome for children

Authoritarian Style: Authoritarian Style: Limits without Freedom.Limits without Freedom.

Parents’ word is law, parents have Parents’ word is law, parents have absolute control. absolute control.

Misconduct is punishedMisconduct is punished Affection and praise are rarely giveAffection and praise are rarely give Parents try to control children's’ behavior Parents try to control children's’ behavior

and attitudesand attitudes They value unquestioned obedienceThey value unquestioned obedience Children are told what to do, how to do it, Children are told what to do, how to do it,

and where to do it, and when to do it.and where to do it, and when to do it.

Outcomes of Authoritarian StyleOutcomes of Authoritarian Style

Blindly Blindly ObedientObedient

DistrustfulDistrustful WithdrawnWithdrawn UnhappyUnhappy HostileHostile Not High Not High

AchieversAchievers PassivePassive

Children from Children from authoritarian homes authoritarian homes are so strictly are so strictly controlled that they controlled that they are often prevented are often prevented from making their from making their own decisionsown decisions

Permissive Style: Permissive Style: Freedom without limits.Freedom without limits.

Parents allow their children to do their Parents allow their children to do their own thing.own thing.

Little respect for order and routine.Little respect for order and routine. Parents make few demands on Parents make few demands on

children.children. Discipline is lax: rarely punishDiscipline is lax: rarely punish Non controlling, non-demandingNon controlling, non-demanding Usually warm, indulgentUsually warm, indulgent Children walk all over the parentsChildren walk all over the parents

Outcome of Permissive Outcome of Permissive ParentingParenting

AggressiveAggressive Least self—Least self—

reliantreliant Least self-Least self-

controlledcontrolled Least Least

exploratoryexploratory Most unhappyMost unhappy

Children from Children from permissive homes permissive homes often get used to often get used to having what they having what they want, but without want, but without guidance; they can guidance; they can be spoiled, aimless, be spoiled, aimless, anxious, insecure, anxious, insecure, rebelliousrebellious

Democratic (Authoritative):Democratic (Authoritative): Freedom within limitsFreedom within limits..

Middle ground between the two above Middle ground between the two above Parents set reasonable limits and enforce Parents set reasonable limits and enforce

rulesrules Willing to listen receptively to child’s Willing to listen receptively to child’s

requests interests, and questions.requests interests, and questions. Children contribute to discussion of issues Children contribute to discussion of issues

and make some of their own decisionsand make some of their own decisions Exert firm control when necessary, but Exert firm control when necessary, but

explain reasoning behind it.explain reasoning behind it. Loving, consistent, demandingLoving, consistent, demanding Combine control with encouragementCombine control with encouragement

Outcomes of Democratic StyleOutcomes of Democratic Style

HappyHappy Mostly self-Mostly self-

reliantreliant Friendly, Friendly,

generousgenerous CooperativeCooperative High-achiever’High-achiever’ Less likely to Less likely to

be disruptive or be disruptive or delinquentdelinquent

Children whose Children whose parents expect them to parents expect them to perform well, to fulfill perform well, to fulfill commitments, and to commitments, and to participate actively in participate actively in family duties, family duties, experience the experience the satisfaction that comes satisfaction that comes from meeting from meeting responsibilities and responsibilities and achieving success.achieving success.

Ways that parents can build a Ways that parents can build a child's self-esteem.child's self-esteem.

Provide more successes than failures for the child. Give them

freedom to fail with acceptance.

Give lots of encouragement.

Give unconditional love.

Allow independence.

Eliminate the negative.

Do not set standards unreasonably high. Avoid

ridicule.

Ways that parents can build a Ways that parents can build a child's self-esteem.child's self-esteem.

Be available.

Give your children responsibility

Be a good role model.

Take their ideas, emotions and feelings seriously.

Help your child develop talents

Set Limits Allow exploration and encourage questions.

Summary:Summary:

Democratic parents provide the Democratic parents provide the best outcomes for their kidsbest outcomes for their kids

HowHow you parent (what the home you parent (what the home environment is like) effects your environment is like) effects your child’s emotional well being for the child’s emotional well being for the rest of their livesrest of their lives

What parenting styles and What parenting styles and outcomes have you seen?outcomes have you seen?