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HOW TO GET OVER THE HURT

Thank you for purchasing this eBook. It is going to

help you get over the hurt and become happy again.

So let's get started. Every time you think of your ex

so many emotions come up. They are hurt, pain,

tears, blame, anger, sadness, confusion and more.

The ultimate goal is to get you to the point where if

the thought of your ex comes to your mind, you

won't feel these emotions anymore.

To start, let's first understand that the reason you

keep going through all these types of emotions is

because you KEEP THINKING ABOUT THAT PERSON.

Understand this important fact and that is if you are

NOT THINKING about that person, you WON'T feel

the emotions. Let me give you an example. If you

are watching a really good TV show for 30 minutes,

guess what, because you are TOTALLY into the TV

show, during those 30 minutes you are NOT

THINKING about your breakup. Now when the show is

off and you're doing nothing but sitting around, the

thoughts come into your mind. I am going to show

you what has to be done to get through these

moments to a point where it doesn't get you down

and upset anymore. Below are different things you

can do to get rid of this pain. You MUST do these.

If not, then you've just purchased something to read.

Let’s now start to begin reading this information.

(THINK ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE)

When the thought of that person comes to your

mind, ((IMMEDIATELY)) think about something else.

What happens that makes it hard getting over

someone is that they keep coming into your mind.

Think about it, if they NEVER popped up in your

mind, you would NEVER have to think about them

and you would heal much quicker. But let's go back

to thinking about something else when they come

into your mind. Even though you can't control

someone popping up in your mind, what you CAN

control is what you do AFTER they come into your

mind. You see if you let them STAY in your mind for

even 5 seconds, that is 5 seconds too long because

ALL KINDS of things about them will come and then

your emotions will get involved and before you

realize it, you are THINKING MORE AND MORE about

them and now your pain INCREASES and it's only

getting worse.

To make this work, you CAN'T wait for it to happen

for you to then think about something else. This

would DEFEAT the purpose and it won't work. You

have to PREPARE NOW what you're going to think

about. This is how you prepare. Right now, WRITE

DOWN 3 to 5 things you can think of that would put

you in a TOTALLY DIFFERENT frame of mind from

thinking about your ex. These 3 to 5 things should

also be something that will put and keep a smile on

your face, which will keep your mind occupied and

as long as your mind is OCCUPIED with something

else, you WON'T be thinking about your ex.

Remember, NOT thinking about your ex is the

WHOLE PURPOSE for doing this.

(LEARN TO STOP LOVING THEM)

Another reason you can't seem to get over your ex

is because you still feel you love them. Think about

something. You are no longer in the relationship for

whatever reason, but for it be over, something didn't

go right. Normally it is the other person that did the

wrong thing and that is why you are no longer in it.

Now it's time to re-evaluate this LOVE thing you say

you still have for them. Is it REAL love you have for

them or is it the THOUGHT of love and how the

relationship SHOULD have been? Sometimes people

love the IDEA of love. The way you really know

whether you truly love them is by how THEY

TREATED YOU and by what they have DONE for you,

(Not By How You FEEL When You Are Around Them).

Remember (Feelings and Actions) are 2 totally

different things.

LOVE between 2 people are when you BOTH are

DOING THEIR BEST to make each other happy. When

you love someone, you TREAT THEM RIGHT. Now let

me ask you a question. If your ex was ALWAYS using

profanity at you and putting you down, how can you

love someone who DOES NOT care about your

feelings and even care about how their words are

tearing you up inside. If they are CONSTANTLY

physically beating up on you giving you bruises and

cuts and broken bones, how can you love someone

who DOES NOT care about the physical side of you,

who DOES NOT care whether you are hurting and

have to go to the hospital. Without making any

excuses, answer this question to yourself. Do you

really love the person who is doing all these

TERRIBLE AND HORRIBLE things to you or are you

loving the IDEA of love and the way a real

relationship should be or how your ex would be if

they changed? When you realize this you will start to

stop loving them because you will finally understand

that you can't love someone who through their

ACTIONS proved how they really and truly felt about

you.

(STOP LISTENING TO SLOW SONGS THAT

BRING BACK MEMORIES)

It is that special slow song you heard when you met,

it is that other special song you heard when you

first got into a relationship. These slow songs as well

as others you made to be both of your songs are

the songs you HAVE TO STAY AWAY from. These are

the songs that will bring back the memories and

make it seem like it was yesterday. After a breakup,

it is your job to STOP thinking about your ex, not

start thinking about your ex. When you keep listening

to these songs, you are only hurting yourself more

and PROLONGING the healing process. So if you

have these certain songs on your mp3 player or

other devices, stop listening to them and let the

healing process begin.

(WRITE DOWN SOME NEGATIVE

THINGS ABOUT YOUR EX)

The old feelings you have for your ex have to be

removed. Let me ask you a question. Let's say there

are 2 people, 1 being a total stranger and the other

is your ex. The stranger called you all kind of

derogatory names and put you down and said some

nasty things about you, would it bother you? The

answer is NO. You know why, it's because there are

NO FEELINGS for that stranger, there is no emotional

ties to them. Now, your ex, that is a different story.

You have to get to the point where you view your ex

like you view the stranger. The way that you can get

to this point is sometimes you have to think of the

NEGATIVE things about your ex. In fact write down

the negative things about your ex that will make you

say (I am so glad to not have to go through that

anymore.) It could be they used to physically abuse

you, now you DON'T have to go through that

anymore. They used to start unnecessary arguments,

now you DON'T have to go through that anymore.

They used to call you all kinds of very hurtful

names, now you DON'T have to go through that

anymore. This will definitely help because remember,

the objective is that it will eventually NO LONGER

bother you and that your ex should and will be a

NON FACTOR in your life. They should be like a

stranger to you and that if a person mentions your

ex's name to you, you should be able to respond

back with ((WHO?)).

(LISTEN TO THE RIGHT KIND OF MUSIC)

Music is so very POWERFUL. It can change your

mood INSTANTLY - What I am about to ask you to

do will help TREMENDOUSLY in your healing process.

Make a playlist of about 50 songs that are upbeat,

enjoyable, easy listening and that can make you feel

good, make you smile, brings you joy and gives you

a positive attitude.

(GET A PET)

Animals have a healing power that is extremely

helpful. Animals love unconditionally and they are

always happy, which will make you happy and smiling

all the time.

(LOVE YOURSELF AGAIN)

Many times you can't get over the hurt to move on

is because you have been drained emotionally and

mentally. You probably have low self-esteem because

in the middle of heated arguments, they said certain

things to tear you down and it became an everyday

thing. From this moment on, you have to change the

way you look at yourself. I need you to write down

5 things that you really enjoy doing. Those things

normally connects with who you are as a person.

Things you like doing brings out a certain part of

your personality which is something you have inside

that you love about yourself even though you may

not see it at first. So start writing at least 5 for right

now and as time goes on, you will realize that there

are so many things about yourself that are so great.

Not only will you love these things about yourself

but other people will love those same things about

you as well.

(STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF)

You can't keep putting yourself down just because it

didn't work out. In life it is going to happen. It

doesn't mean anything is wrong with you because it

didn't work out. People like different things. For

example if you go into a donut shop and the first

person in line asked for a glaze donut, the 2nd

person asked for a chocolate covered donut and the

3rd person asked for a powdered jelly donut, does

that mean that something was wrong with any one

of those 3 donuts?

The answer is NO. The reason being is that each

person likes different things so just because it didn't

work out with you in the relationship you just got

out of doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. You

just have not yet met the person that is perfect for

you. So repeat after me, (NOTHING IS WRONG WITH

ME)!!

(STOP WORRYING)

One thing that can sometimes hold you back from

moving forward is that even after the breakup,

especially if it was a bad breakup, you are worrying

about what they think of you because you want all

your breakups to never end on a bad note. Here me

when I tell you this, that is not always going to

happen. I need you to change this IMMEDIATELY and

STOP worrying about what they think of you. Why is

it so important that you wished they still think nice

of you? Whatever your answer is, it should not

matter to you anymore. Think about it. Were they

worried about you when they did what they did?

Were they worried about you when they were doing

their dirt? Were they worried about your feelings?

The answer is NO. If they did worry about you, you

would not be reading this now, but you would still

be in the relationship and the relationship would be

happy. They are NOT thinking about you right now,

so stop thinking and worrying about them.

(FILL YOURSELF UP)

If there is a clear glass with dirt at the bottom of it

and you put it under a faucet and turn on the water

and let the water flow in and keep running,

eventually that dirt will rise and go out of the glass

to the point that the only thing left in the glass is

CLEAR WATER. That clear water is your POSITIVE

THOUGHTS, your POSITIVE ATTITUDE and the

POSITIVE ACTIVITIES that you do that will get rid of

those negative thoughts and emotions connected to

your past relationship.

(GET YOURSELF INVOLVED IN DIFFERENT

ACTIVITIES)

This is so crucial in your healing process and getting

over the hurt. Remember the objective is to occupy

your time and your thoughts with POSITIVE things

because they will soon fill your mind with HAPPY

thoughts and make you feel better about yourself,

your life and your FUTURE without your ex. Just to

get you started with a variety of activities you can

get yourself involved in, notice all the ones below.

LEARN HOW TO PLAY THE PIANO

DO SOME KARAOKE

VOLUNTEER AND HELP CHILDREN

TRY NEW COOKING RECIPES

VOLUNTEER IN YOUR COMMUNITY

GO SCUBA DIVING

PLANTS & GARDENING

POTTERY

RUNNING

WRITE A BOOK OR POEMS

GO FISHING

GO TO THE GYM

WATCH A GOOD MOVIE

GO TO SCHOOL AND START A CAREER

LEARN HOW TO MAKE JEWELRY

SWIMMING

READ A GOOD BOOK

SEWING

YOGA

BIKING

SPEND TIME WITH FAMILY

SPEND TIME WITH FRIENDS

GO BOWLING

GO SHOPPING

GET MORE INVOLVED IN WORK

TAKE UP PHOTOGRAPHY

ACT SILLY

GO HORSE BACK RIDING

DECORATE YOUR HOME

GET PAMPERED

LEARN HOW TO PLAY THE GUITAR

LEARN TO CROCHET

As you can see there are so many activities that

you can do to occupy your mind and that will help

you get over the hurt. Last but not least…..

(ALLOW YOURSELF TO CRY UNTIL

THERE ARE NO MORE TEARS)

When you cry, in those tears are the pain, the hurt

and the memories. Cry until you can’t cry anymore.

You need to get that one last cry out because after

this, you will be on the road to recovery with a new

attitude and new outlook.

You have the tools from this ebook to make a fresh

start, to get over the hurt and to fight the thoughts

when they come into your mind. This ebook is like a

can of paint, it means nothing until you APPLY IT.

So like the paint, apply the information in this ebook.

When you do, you can get better, you will get better.

Use it and allow it to make you move on and be

happy again.

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