How To Eliminate Social Friction

Eliminate Social Friction

When I was a kid we went to this small amusement park.

It had these long slides that required piece of cloth.

Otherwise, you wouldn't slide very fast, and if you were wearing shorts and caught your skin on the plastic, it didn't feel so good.

If you've ever been on a big water slide, you know much faster you can go when much of the friction (between you and the slide) is removed.

When I was in Junior High School, they talked about a frictionless puck (which was quickly transformed into bathroom humor by all the kids),

because talking about friction made everything more complicated.

Air hockey is so much fun because you can hit that puck pretty fast, due to the small cushion of air it's resting on.

In Japan, they have the mag-lev trains, which can go really, really quickly as there's no friction between the train and the track.

And the front of the "bullet trains" actually look like bullets, as they are designed for minimum air resistance.

Friction is everywhere. And billions are spent trying to minimize it.

In games, in amusement parks, in transportation, inside every single engine.

Humans have friction between each other as well. (And I'm not talking about THAT kind of friction that only happens when the clothes come

off!)

There's that social friction that is ALWAYS there.

That uncomfortable tension, the small gaps in conversations that seem to last forever.

That invisible but powerful force field between you and your boss, or you and that attractive person across the room.

How do you reduce THAT kind of friction?

One way is how you start the conversation.

Start off by making it easy on them. Use simple statements that are easy to agree with. Pacing statements, as they are called in hypnosis.

Just mention a few things that MUST be true.

Get them thinking in terms of "uh-huh, uh-huh..."

Ease your way into the conversation, making it easy for them to see your perspective.

Spend some time building rapport.

Another way is to simply get rid of all your inner fears and anxieties.

No matter how well you hide them (and hide from them) they are there.

And they send off a subtle signal that others can pick up on, subconsciously.

This is why some people seem really friendly, and some people don't, yet nobody can really put there finger on why.

When you eliminate all that inner chit chat and doubt that often comes up before any social interaction, you'll also remove a lot of that friction.

This is the definition of charisma.

Somebody who just shows up, and the work is done.

People already feel in rapport with them. People have already decided they are friendly and interesting.

People have already decided, on a deep subconscious level, that whatever they are going to say is likely going to be pretty interesting.

YOU can be that person.

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