How to be a hero to your kids

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How we can be heroes to our kids?How we can be heroes to our kids?

imperfect, questioabe, unrealistic, real-life2, doable

““The family is the The family is the Heart and the Heart and the CenterCenter of the Filipinos. It is where of the Filipinos. It is where

faith, the Christian doctrine and the faith, the Christian doctrine and the Gospel values are learned and Gospel values are learned and

lived… where love, justice, fraternity lived… where love, justice, fraternity and equality are experienced, and equality are experienced,

nourished and cultivated.” nourished and cultivated.” (ECMI, “Organizing The Migrants’ Families,” The Pastoral and Social (ECMI, “Organizing The Migrants’ Families,” The Pastoral and Social Care of Migrants and their Families, (Manila: CBCP-ECMI, 1995) p. 6)Care of Migrants and their Families, (Manila: CBCP-ECMI, 1995) p. 6)

Heart and CenterHeart and Center

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““According to a recent survey According to a recent survey conducted by the conducted by the NSCBNSCB, both Filipino , both Filipino men and women ranked men and women ranked families as families as their primary source of happinesstheir primary source of happiness. . Health ranked second and religion Health ranked second and religion ranked third. Income or financial ranked third. Income or financial

security only ranked 9th and politics…”security only ranked 9th and politics…” (http://thelivingrice.blogspot.com/2010/11/survey-says-family-is-no-1-(http://thelivingrice.blogspot.com/2010/11/survey-says-family-is-no-1-

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Source of HappinessSource of Happiness

Happiness and pain, important but…

Our Internal FlameOur Internal Flame

Each of us has Each of us has an internal an internal flame that flame that

represents the represents the condition of our condition of our

hearts and hearts and soulssouls

Examine, external, choice,, roar,, low, not cared for, we look outside

Why are we attracted Why are we attracted to super heroes? to super heroes?

They are extra-They are extra-ordinary people doing ordinary people doing extra-ordinary thingsextra-ordinary things

Children are in need of parents Children are in need of parents who will do ordinary things, who will do ordinary things,

extraordinarily.extraordinarily.Not confined, even in the ordinary or

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We can be heroes to our We can be heroes to our children resulting to an children resulting to an

incredible familyincredible family

Imperfect, indi talents and powers, suppressed…, shine…

Gideon (Judges 6)Gideon (Judges 6) When the angel of the LORD appeared to Gideon, he When the angel of the LORD appeared to Gideon, he

said, “said, “The LORD is with you, mighty warriorThe LORD is with you, mighty warrior.” .” The LORD turned to him and said, “The LORD turned to him and said, “Go in the strength Go in the strength

you haveyou have and save Israel out of Midian’s hand. Am I not and save Israel out of Midian’s hand. Am I not sending you?”sending you?”

Pardon me, my lord,” Gideon replied, “but how can I save Pardon me, my lord,” Gideon replied, “but how can I save Israel? My clan is the Israel? My clan is the weakestweakest in Manasseh, and I am the in Manasseh, and I am the leastleast in my family.” in my family.”

The LORD answered, “The LORD answered, “I will be with youI will be with you, and you will , and you will strike down all the Midianites, leaving none alive.”strike down all the Midianites, leaving none alive.”

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1. Dare to 1. Dare to llove ove uunconditionallynconditionally

CChoosing to love, period!hoosing to love, period!Understand,

What True Love is (1 Cor. 13) What True Love is (1 Cor. 13)

Love never gives up. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.

Love doesn't strut, Love doesn't strut, Doesn't have a swelled head, Doesn't have a swelled head, Doesn't force itself on others, Doesn't force itself on others,

Isn't always "me first," Isn't always "me first," Doesn't fly off the handle,Doesn't fly off the handle,

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Doesn't keep score of the sins of others, Doesn't keep score of the sins of others, Doesn't revel when others grovel, Doesn't revel when others grovel,

Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Puts up with anything,

Trusts God always, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Always looks for the best,

Never looks back, Never looks back, But keeps going to the endBut keeps going to the end

No ifs or buts, safe, nurturing, amnesia, not emotions, a CHOICE!

The incredible love of a FatherThe incredible love of a Father

Who do you want to be?

2. Choose 2. Choose your battlesyour battles

Do not fight for your right, fight for the relationship.Do not fight for your right, fight for the relationship.Do not fight every battle

Balance is the naBalance is the name of the gameme of the game

Firm, let go, balancleneint-protectiveed parenting,

Bringing BalanceBringing Balance

Which one to tolerate, and which Which one to tolerate, and which one will need special attentionone will need special attention

Which is safe to let go, and which Which is safe to let go, and which one is definite no.one is definite no.

Establish your priorities (H.E.S.)Establish your priorities (H.E.S.)Know where to loosen upKnow where to loosen up

Have wisdomHave wisdom

3. B3. Be aware of our Dark Side e aware of our Dark Side

There are both gooThere are both good and bad in us and it will be d and bad in us and it will be reflected in how we parent our childrenreflected in how we parent our children

No perfect f. , we project what we do not like

We can all step-up into greatnessWe can all step-up into greatness

Issues power play, rejection. Intimacy, hurts

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RR-ealizing-ealizingUU-nderstanding-nderstandingAA-ccepting-cceptingCC-hanging-hangingHH-ealing-ealing

Spill over, next generation

4. Have your 4. Have your own Super Heroesown Super Heroes

Choosing our own version of heroes and Choosing our own version of heroes and making God our ultimate heromaking God our ultimate hero

No manual, , how we learn, hit and miss

Heroes will need heroes Heroes will need heroes themselvesthemselves

Learn from othersLearn from othersHave a rabbit to followHave a rabbit to followCalibrate accordinglyCalibrate accordinglySeek help if neededSeek help if needed

5. L5. Live an empowered lifeive an empowered life

Live and model the kiLive and model the kind of life you want nd of life you want your children to live.your children to live.

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When we become When we become

heroes to our children, heroes to our children, they become heroes to they become heroes to

others as well.others as well.

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John 10:10 (The Message)John 10:10 (The Message)

““I came so they can I came so they can have real and eternal have real and eternal life, more and better life, more and better life than they ever life than they ever

dreamed of.”dreamed of.”