HELPING KIDS BE NAUGHTY NO MORE JODI M ULLEN, PHD INTEGRATIVE COUNS ELIN G SERVICES
Feb 23, 2016
HELPING KIDS BE
NAUGHTY NO MORE
J O D I M U L L E N , P H D I N T E G R A T I V E C O U N S E L I N G S E R V I C E S
INTRODUCTIONS
THE NAUGHTY NO MORE STORY
IDENTIFYING FEELINGS& COMMUNICATING UNDERSTANDING
VerballyNon-verbally
facial expressions body language
Para-verbally
Even when freshly washed and relieved of all obvious
confections, children tend to be sticky.
Fran Lebowitz
WHAT’S THE FEELING?
WHEN THEY CAN TALK IT OUT THEY DON’T HAVE TO ACT OUT
• Use feeling words• Use interjections
• Use developmentally appropriate language
• Use culturally-centric language• Exaggerate your tone
• Exaggerate your non-verbal language• Match non-verbal & verbal language
Play is the Way
Changing your lens:
Manipulative >
Hyper>Stubborn>Childish>Whiny>Disrespectful>
THE POSITIVES DETECTIVEWhat are
some positives in yourself as a parent/teacher/caregiver?
What are some positives in this child?
I’M THE BOSS OF ME! Below put an X next to all this times when you have let anger be the boss. I get angry with myself when I… feel tired say things that are mean hurt other people make a mistake don’t do well in school when I lose say things that I do not
mean You add some more…
Now try this, put an X next to the ways that you can be the boss of you even when anger is trying to be the boss.In order to feel better I can…
take a breath give myself a time out go for a walk (My mom says you
have to ask a grown up first) PLAY draw pretend talk to someone You add some…
STABILITY & CONSISTENCY
How do you create it in your home or classroom?
TimeSoundSightsResponsesRitualsTraditionsCelebrationsWays of getting recognition
MealsDaysExpectationsConsequencesOf your wordEmotionResponsibilitiesSmells
HOW TO FIND M
E…www.integrativecounseling.us
www.jodiannmullen.com
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