Healthy Limits Signs and Symptoms Barriers Character Study – Daniel Skills for Setting Boundaries Team Time Agenda
Healthy LimitsSigns and SymptomsBarriersCharacter Study – DanielSkills for Setting BoundariesTeam Time
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Page 39We must set healthy limits on our:
Body Feelings Attitudes Behaviors
Maturity is the process of properly realizing what our real limits are
Overly strict limits → never find true capacity Few limits → overextend ourselves
Fences let the good in and keep the bad out
Thoughts Abilities Choices Desires
Resentment Passive-Aggressive Behavior
Indirect resistance to demands for adequate performance in social or work settings
Codependency Putting the other person first, often to their own
detriment Victim Mentality and Blaming Feelings of Obligation For a complete list, see notes
Past Injury Injuries can make it more difficult to take
responsibility Distorted Thinking
Ourselves “I am bad for having boundaries”
Others “They will hate me for saying no”
God “God thinks I’m selfish when I say no to others”
For a complete list, see notes
Daniel 1:8-20 How were Daniel’s relationships?
With God With others With himself
How did Daniel set boundaries in captivity? Who else did the boundaries effect?
What was the outcome of the boundaries? Respect, freedom, personal growth, etc. Fiery Furnace trial Interpreting dream to spare lives
Skills for Setting Boundaries Gain awareness – know yourself, ownership Define who you are Define who you are not Develop the “no” muscle Stop blaming others and playing victim Set limits Choose values Challenge distorted thinking For a complete list, see notes
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In your teams, the goal is truth & grace Take turns speaking and listening If you need more time, work it out