Habit #5 Objective: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

Habit #5Objective:

Seek First to Understand,

Then to Be UnderstoodBased on the work Stephen Covey.

”Until you walk a mile in another man’s moccasins

you can’t imagine the smell.” Robert Byrne

Activities and tasks during lessons, provideObjective related ACTIVE Participation and support for prior knowledge.

The Golden Rule

The Golden Rule

LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION

1. Humor/courtesy2. Facts/information3. Expression of opinions, feelings & insights4. Sharing of deep feelings and personal

secrets

Share with your table what level you reach in the Gibberish task.

Listening Road Blocks

Intent to Reply:You listen to yourself as you

prepare in your mind what you are going to say.

Pretend Listening:

You don’t really pay attention to the other

person, but you pretend to. You say “yeah,”, “uh-huh,”

and “cool” but you are really grading papers.

Selective Listening:

Kids babble at you all day so you listen only to the parts

that interest you.

Selfish Listening:

You always bring the conversation back to you

and your life. You say things like “I had that happen too” and “I know how you feel.”

Spelling Test

You are now going to take a simple spelling test. Listen carefully!

Listening Road Blocks

for students with disabilitiesAfferent

Coming from the outside in

External stimulus

Efferent Coming from the inside out

Internal muscle / nerve/ neuron damage

SeekingCompulsive input need

Common tactile & gustatory

AvoidanceT - terror

A - annoyance

P - pain

E – exhaustion

Journal Entry or

Discussion Starter:

We all have times when we are poor listeners. Which “Listening Road

Block” do you most often use?

Explain why

this

happens.

Everybody wants to be listened to. When people feel like you listen, they are more likely to like you.

So, be a good listener, and you’ll have lots of friends.

I’m All Ears

What are some ways that you can show people that

you ARE listening?

Who is a good listener? Create a list of people that you know that listen well.

Count to 10

Counting to 10 in a group will demonstrate out next point.

Listen With Your Eyes:

Sometimes you have to listen with your EYES as much as you listen with

your ears.

People say a lot with their body language and

facial expressions.

Emotion Charades:Find a partner. Practice ‘listening with your eyes”. Choose an emotion to try to express just with your face and body. You can not use words.

•Angry

•Sad

•Embarrassed

•Tired

•Happy

•Thinking

•Bored

•Impatient

•Scared

•Worried

•Relaxed

•Frustrated

•Surprised

•Stressed

•Confused

•Flattered

•Nervous

•Annoyed

•Interested

Mirror, MirrorTo be a good listener, mirror

back what someone says. Repeat back in your own words what the person is saying. Use

statements like

“You seem to be feeling…” and “So what you are saying is…”

Journal Entry or

Discussion Starter:Have you ever had a time

with your family or friends when you knew that you

needed to “zip it” and just listen?

At your tables listen and tell why is it important to do this sometimes? How does this help the person you are listening to?

Do We Match?

Activity - Give students pattern blocks, and have them sit back to back. One student gives verbal directions to the other for making a design. Then face each other and discuss how much easier face to face communication is. Explain how you were able to listen. Were there any listening road blocks?

Are you a good listener?

Very

Good Listene

r

Not Such a Great Listener

How could you be a better

listener?

PLEASE…

Hear What I’m Not Saying

.

Listen Autobiographically :As Teachers, we tend to respond in one of four ways:

Evaluating: judge and then either agree or disagree.

Probing: ask questions from our own frame of reference.

Advising: give counsel, advice, and solutions to problems.

Interpreting: analyze motives and behaviors based on experiences.

Books that support Habit 5:

Younger Children:The Runaway Bunny by Margaret Wise BrownThe True Story of the 3 Little Pigs! by Jon Scieszka. Stellaluna by Janell Cannon. Jamaica’s Find by Juanita Havill.Alejandro’s Gift by Richard E. Albert.

Older Children:Marrying Malcolm Murgatroyd by Mame Farrell. Witch of Blackbird Pond by Elizabeth GeorgeRules by Cynthia Lord.Veronica Knows Best by Nancy RobinsonThe Bully of Barkham Street by Mary Stolz.

Closure: All together now

I listen to other people’s ideas & feelings. I try to see things from

their view points. I listen to others without interrupting. I am confident

in voicing my ideas. I look people in the eye when

talking.

Tell your shoulder partner:

I seek first to understand then to be understood.