1 FVP Voice Fall 2017 October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month Paint Night What you can do Aend an event Join a discussion panel Learn what you can do to help a friend or neighbor Become a Volunteer Make a financial giſt to FVP See insert for a complete list of acvies planned for Domesc Violence Awareness Month.
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FVP Voice Fall 2017
October is
Domestic Violence
Awareness Month
Paint Night
What you can do
Attend an event
Join a discussion panel
Learn what you can do to help a friend or neighbor
Become a Volunteer
Make a financial gift to FVP
See insert for a complete list of activities planned
for Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
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Volunteer Spotlight
Michelle Radloff has been a volunteer with Family
Violence Project since the fall of 2015. Michelle has
worked in healthcare for 32 years, primarily with
underserved and vulnerable populations such as those
with mental illness, developmental disabilities,
substance abuse, brain injuries and geriatric
populations. Currently she works full time as a process
engineer at Pen Bay Medical Center and Waldo County
General Hospital, part time at Waldoboro EMS as an
EMT and volunteers not only with FVP but with Bikers
Against Child Abuse. She is the mom of two grown
boys and a step-daughter as well as Nana to 12
grandchildren. In her “spare” time she hangs out with
her three dogs in the woods of Maine as much as
possible.
Why do you support Family Violence Project?
“Working with vulnerable populations made me realize
that domestic violence has no boundaries. It affects
people of all ages, genders, religions, sexual
orientation, and socio-economic conditions, it does not
discriminate. No one deserves to live in fear. I support
FVP to empower those who are experiencing DV to feel
in control and to realize there are supports and
resources out there to assist them in reclaiming that
control.”
What do you enjoy about volunteering?
“I enjoy the feeling of making a difference. Of
being a small part of something that is making such a
huge impact on so many people’s lives.
What do you know about Family Violence Project that
most people don’t or should?
“That we are not here to tell people what to do, we are
here to empower them to decide what they would like to
do. Then we help them identify available resources to do
it. ”
What is your vision for addressing domestic violence in
Maine?
“To keep educating and empowering, doing my part to
support the efforts of organizations like FVP.”
Books Behind Bars By Robin Miller
Books Behind Bars is an ongoing volunteer effort by
Family Violence Project staff to collect books for
Kennebec and Somerset County correctional facilities.
The question is always asked: "What kinds of books
should I donate?” Thinking about the range of books that
are available in local bookstores, the answer is "almost
anything - but with stipulations".
Neither jail can accept books that are spiral bound with
wire or plastic. Kennebec can accept only soft cover
books, while Somerset is still accepting either. Anything
bound with staples is also not acceptable. Books should
be in good condition and reasonably up to date. Large
print books are useful too, as many inmates manage to
wind up in jail without their glasses.
Subject matter is wide-ranging. In the genre of fiction,
action and adventure, mystery, and science fiction are
preferred: Stephen King, Lee Childs, John Grisham are
popular. Local authors using local settings may have a
special relevancy for Maine readers; thus, Gerry Boyle,
Paul Doiron, and Tess Gerritson are great choices.
Women like these books as well but also enjoy Oprah's
Book Club or Good Read titles. Non-fiction categories
include instructional books on art (especially drawing
and painting), cooking and diets, breaking free from
abuse or addiction, pregnancy and parenting,
psychology, sports, and spirituality. When in doubt,
check with your local librarian or bookseller for
suggestions! Or choose books that you yourself have
If you worry someone you care about is experiencing
abuse in a relationship, there are steps you can take to
help. Consider the following do’s and don’ts when
approaching a friend, family member, co-worker,
neighbor, or other loved one.
Do:
Approach the other person at a time and place that is
safe and confidential.
Start by expressing concern (i.e., “I am concerned
someone may be hurting you, and I am worried
about your safety.”)
Take the time to listen, and believe what your loved
one says. Listen, listen, and really hear the whole
story.
Communicate that you care about your loved one’s
safety, that they do not deserve to be hurt, and that
the abuse is not their fault.
Tell your loved one they are not crazy. A person who
has been abused often feels upset, depressed,
confused and scared. Let them know that these are
normal feelings.
Remind them of their positive qualities, perhaps they
are strong and brave in your eyes. The abuser may be
tearing down their self-esteem.
Respect the victim’s choices. Understand that their
safety concerns are valid.
Encourage them to build a wide support system.
Help find a support group or encourage them talk to
friends and family.
Be patient. Self-empowerment may take longer than
you want. Go at the victim’s pace, not yours.
Sometimes successfully leaving an abuser requires a
lot of careful planning.
Connect them to domestic violence resources. In
Kennebec and Somerset counties, contact the Family
Violence Project at 207-623-3569 or toll-free
1-877-890-7788. For another Maine county, calls
can be made to 1-866-834-HELP (4357) or
1-800-437-1220 (Relay Line). If your area does not
have its own Helpline, you can direct your loved one
to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at
1-800-799-SAFE.
Consider calling your local domestic violence
Helpline yourself to learn more about the kinds of
help available, to ask questions specific to the
situation, and to learn how to be an effective ally.
Communicate to your loved one that help does exist,
and that people in their community care about them
and their children and want them to be safe.
Do Not:
Do not accuse, diagnose, or judge your loved one’s
choices; do not draw conclusions about what they
may be experiencing or feeling; and do not judge or
criticize the abuser.
Do not pressure your friend to leave the relationship.
There are many reasons they may be deciding or
choosing to stay. It is possible the abuser has
threatened to hurt them or their children if they try to
leave. Statistics confirm that when someone leaves
an abuser, that is the greatest challenge to the
abuser’s control of them and the family and could
result in serious injury or even death. The abuser
may control all of the finances and may have isolated
the victim from friends and family, leaving the
victim with very few resources of their own. The
abuser may have promised to change, and the victim
may still love him/her. It is never as simple as
encouraging a victim to “just leave”.
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Our shelter wish list
towels, wash cloths hand towels
dish cloths
twin size bedding
deodorant
full size body wash
full size shampoo
full size conditioner
dishwasher pods
silverware
drinking glasses
diapers - all sizes
baby wipes
trash bags
mops, brooms & dust pans
food storage containers
plastic wrap
coffee, sugar and creamer
cold and cough medicines
women’s hygiene items
bandages
kitchen utensils
first aid kit
curtain rods
aluminum foil
zip lock bags
grocery store and gas cards
Family Violence Project
Support Group Schedule
In Augusta
Thursday 3:00 to 4:30pm
In Waterville
Wednesday 5:00 to 6:30pm
In Skowhegan
Thursday 4:00 to 6:00pm
For more information, please call
our Helpline 1-890-7788
We See You Update:
Nancy Provost, Prevention Educator/Co-Director/
Producer of We See Y ou
After almost a full year of filming, editing, and
planning, Family Violence Project hosted a very
successful premiere screening of our film
We See You at the Theater at Monmouth on May
13th, 2017! It was a true collaboration with many
talented and dedicated community partners, many of
whom were able to attend the event. Following the
film, a lively and educational panel discussion added
to the success of the project. Did you miss the event?
Did you want to share it within your community for
Domestic Violence Awareness Month this October?
We are about to launch a digital release that will
include the film, a film guide, and a bonus film of the
panel discussion that you don't want to miss! Please
check our Face Book pages for updates on how and
when it will be available!
Visit/Like/Share at: https://www.facebook.com/
weseeyouthefilm/ or https://www.facebook.com/
familyviolenceproject/
Pictured from front to back, left to right: Row 1: Mikki (McFadden) Lane, Meredythe Dehne Lindsey, Siuan (Cody) Shepard. Row 2:Colleen Lowrie, Dale McCormick, Melody Fitch, Mary Joseph, Nancy Provost, Michelle LeClaire, Christina Hal-lowell, Susan Clark, Savannah Green. Row 3: Ella Mock, Christo-pher Blair, Nan Bell, Jon Heath, Ken Hendra, Eva Stoyovich, Nicole Maines.