BY MIKE DIVITOUWSKI Follow-Up Report: Our Date Copyright 2011 Divitouwski LLP
Dec 18, 2014
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M I K E D I V I T O U W S K I
Follow-Up Report: Our Date
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Agenda
Statement of Purpose
Note of Caution
Background
Flirting: Signs of
Commonalities
Attraction
Career
Conclusion
Contact
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Statement of Purpose
I’m disappointed in you.
Haven’t responded to voicemail, text
I believe we should go out again
Flirting
Shared Interest
Attraction
My career
Contact me
Second date or
Apology
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Note of Caution
[Powerpoints] sound more impersonal Harsher
Easy to misinterpret
Can’t see body language
Can’t hear tone of voice
I’m honest and direct by nature Not trying to:
Be harsh
Patronizing
Insulting
I Google searched your email, approx. age
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We went out on a date You did not return my calls
Background
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Flirting, Signs Of
Playing with hair Common sign of flirtation
39M Google results
Never dated a woman with so much hair playing
You didn’t seem nervous
Eye contact Set personal record for eye contact/minute
Stated, “It was nice to meet you” Inconclusive
Nice conversation over dinner Incontrovertible
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Commonalities
Intelligence
Classical Music
We can watch together
NY Philharmonic
Stated interest
Convenience – no extra time necessary
Age
Google states 32-33
Optimal
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Attraction
You were attracted to me No one will go on a date to those they are not attracted to
You knew what I looked like before date
I have attractive features Philosopher
Writer
I have gone out with a lot of women If they are attracted to me, so should you be
Not a serial dater
Occasionally date once
Sensitive person Ref: this powerpoint
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Career
I have a job
Manage my parent’s money
Ref: Trumps, Soros
I make money
Not monopoly money
Have made millions of dollars with my parent’s money
Ergo, “real” job
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Conclusion
We should go on a second date Let’s see what happens
However, I find you less appealing now
Willing to give you second change
Open minded and flexible • Benefit of the doubt
I thought the date went well, deserved 2nd date
First date went well enough
Not a Hollywood movie
Remember, I spent time, effort, and money on first date
You owe me
You arrived 30 minutes late
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Conclusion, continued
If no second date
Biggest mistake of your life
Should have called to tell me so
Not emailed
Maybe emailed
Or texted
Should have responded to my messages
Impolite
Immature
Passive Aggressive
Cowardly
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Contact
Phone Please leave a detailed voicemail
Will call you back
Email me, and I will call you back
Would appreciate the courtesy of a call
Email Email is ok, but not preferred
Better than no response at all
Potential for miscommunication, etc.
Text Last preferred method
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