Estoril Youth Leadership Bootcamp

Leadership Praxis: Let’s Dialogue

Matthew Rich-Tolsma Estoril Youth Summit: Estoril, Portugal (17th May 2015)

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Open Sentences

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Three questions• What are you doing here? • But, why are you here? • Okay, but what are you REALLY

doing here?

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Reflection• What did you like about this

exercise? • What did you not like about this

exercise? • How was this experience different

or surprising for you?



Reflecting on Plan B Simulation



Fields of conversation (Scharmer)


Generative Dialogue (Flow)

Reflective Dialogue (Inquiry)

Politeness (Shared Monologues)

Talking Tough (Skilfull Conversation & Debate)




A range of new capacities

• Critical reflection (reflective judgment)

• Collaborative capacity • Perspective coordination • Contextual thinking • Decision-making process



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Thinking fast and slow


System 1 System 2

Knowledge Instinctive, tacit, intuitive, habitual, and unconscious Explicit and conscious

Processing Drives, heuristics, and associations Deliberation and executive control

Speed Fast Slow

Activation Nothing unusual is happeningWe are in danger, under stress

Something novel is happeningWe are intentionally learning, attending,

communicating, or deliberating

Weaknesses Some heuristics lead to biases that influence system 2

Tends to believe system one even when it is wrong (unless consciously overridden)

Teachability Can learn from repeated activation of system one

Can be trained to override system oneCan be taught when not to trust system

one


Cognitive biases• overconfidence • prejudice • mistaking luck for cause • gambler’s fallacy • empathy gap • judging based on inadequate

evidence • regressive bias



Dialogue Practices

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Speaking

Respecting

ListeningSuspending

Honouring and witnessing the

legitimacy of another’s stance and point of

view

To partake of and take part in

Stepping back to perceive what is taken

for granted

Speaking from one’s deepest self



Speaking

Respecting

ListeningSuspending

Intention: Value that there is a good reason for what is being sad (even if

it is not yet apparent Action:Inquire into what is being said; be aware of your own assumptions

and judgments and hold them lightly

Intention: Recognise that what is in them is also in me

Action: Reframe others’ views as equally important

Intention: Acknowledge that there are multiple valid

perspectives and that we can learn from all of them

Action: Let go of certainty and draw out different points of

view

Intention: Express what is unfolding / pressing to be said in self and others

Action: Change discourse from ‘outside-in’ to ‘inside-out’.


Working with a live situation• Identify a conversation that you had

recently that was difficult for you in some way.

• Write down he key points of the conversation as you remember them. What did you say? What did the other(s) say?



Working in triads• Tell each other briefly about the

conversations • Choose one to work with • Decide who is coach and who is

observer • Tell about the conversation in a little more

detail • SILENCE • INQUIRY: questions and answers • DISCUSSION: Observer leads sharing.

How did you do with utilising the three skills?



Reflection

• What did you like about this exercise?

• What did you not like about this exercise?

• What is the most important thing that you learned?



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