EQ for Young Learners Getting them emotionally smart enough to succeed Teresa Doguelli.

EQ for Young Learners Getting them emotionally smart enough

to succeed

Teresa Doguelli

“Learning doesn’t take place in isolation from kids’ feelings. Being emotionally literate is as important for learning as instruction in math and reading.”

Karen Stone McCown

“Stress makes people stupid, i.e when emotionally upset, people cannot remember, attend, learn, or make decisions clearly.”

Daniel Goleman

Kindergarten• Insecurity/anxiety• Jealousy• Feeling left out/unloved• Teasing• Fears• Pride• Confidence

Comparing self with others

Puberty

• Not being asked out on a date• Being left out of the group• Being picked on/bullied• Self-esteem issues• Anger management• Impulse and mood control• Lack of empathy from peers & family

Defensive forms of the Group Dynamic

SUBMISSION FLIGHT ATTACK

Acceptance Acceptance anxietyanxiety

Orientation Orientation anxietyanxiety

Performance Performance anxietyanxiety

Repressed grief

Repressed fear

Repressed anger

John Heron The Facilitator’s Handbook Kogan Page 1989

What is Emotional Intelligence?

“It is the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in our relationships.”

Daniel Goleman Emotional Intelligence Bantam Books 1995

EQ Activities while you work

• Feelings Register• Problem mailbox• Feelings Cube• Stoplight Poster

1. Stop, calm down, and think before you act

6. Go ahead and try the best plan

2. Say the problem and how you feel3. Set a positive goal4. Think of lots of solutions5. Think ahead to the consequences

Recognising emotionsHappy or Sad?

English World Level 1

Managing emotionsWhat should you do?

English World Level 4

Managing emotionsWhat should you do?

English World Level 4

Managing emotionsWhat’s the problem?

English World Level 4

Managing emotionsWhat’s the problem?

English World Level 4

Reacting to others

English World Level 3

Reacting to others

English World Level 3

Communal Responsibility

English World Level 3

Communal Responsibility

English World Level 3

Personal responsibility

English World Level 3

Revenge or favour?

English World Level 5

Borrow or steal?

English World Level 5

How often do you..................?

• Brush your teeth• Take a shower• Change your socks• Play football with your friends at

school• Chat on MSN • Watch TV

Self Disclosure

How often do you: Very often often sometimes rarely never

Cry

Laugh

Quarrel with your sister/ brother

Feel sad for no reason

Feel happy for no reason

Daydream

Forget things

Wish you were someone else

Get angry

Do silly things

Make mistakes

Really enjoy yourself

Change your mind

EmpathyImagine you are your partner and complete Imagine you are your partner and complete the sentences.the sentences.

1. I like the colour_________because__________________2. I sometimes worry about__________________________3. My biggest fear is________________________________4. My ambition is to________________________________5. I like people who________________________________6. People like me because___________________________

IF I WERE YOU

1. If I found some money, I would..........................

2. If I saw a snake, I would.................

3. If I could be anyone else, I would be.........

4. My perfect day would be ...............................

Empathy

PREDICTING SIMILARITIES

• We are both...• We both have...• We both like...• When we were younger we both

used to...• In the future both of us will

probably...

Communication, Disclosure, Insight, Empathy

CLASS RECORDSFind out how many times people in the group have broken their legs

Find out how many people in the group have owned pets who have

died or run away. What kind of pets?

Find out how many times people in the group have fallen in love

Find out what objects people in the group have lost which were

important to them

Find out how many people in the group have had an operation

Find out how many people in the group have single parents

AS A GROUP WE HAVE:

Broken our legs 3 times Owned 5 goldfish, 2 cats, a dog, a snake

Fallen in love 21 times Lost 2 mobiles and a pair of Converse

Had 5 operations 2 single parents

Self awarenessSelf-acceptance

English World Level 4

Self awarenessSelf-acceptance

English World Level 4

The Negative Feelings Dustbin

Medals

English World Level 4

The Self Science Curriculum• Self-awareness• Personal decision-making• Managing feelings• Handling stress• Empathy• Communications• Self disclosure• Insight• Self acceptance• Personal Responsibility• Assertiveness• Group dynamics• Conflict resolution