Emotional intelligence lsis

Emotional Intelligence

Keeping them trim through change

Emotional Behaviour

“We are what we repeatedly do.

Excellence then is not an act. It

is a habit”

Aristotle

“No mortal can keep a

secret. If the lips are

silent, he chatters

with his fingertips;

betrayal oozes out of

every pore”

How Many Passes

Well rounded view, high levels

of self awareness and awareness

of others

Well rounded view, high levels

of self awareness and awareness

of others

Well rounded view, high levels

of self awareness and awareness

of others

Centred and well grounded – acts

on the basis of personal integrity.

Emotionally strong and resilient in

the face of failure.

Well rounded view, high levels

of self awareness and awareness

of others

Centred and well grounded – acts

on the basis of personal integrity.

Emotionally strong and resilient in

the face of failure.

Dynamic, forward thinking. A

strong sense of destiny and ability

to create new futures.

Well rounded view, high levels

of self awareness and awareness

of others

Centred and well grounded – acts

on the basis of personal integrity.

Emotionally strong and resilient in

the face of failure.

Dynamic, forward thinking. A

strong sense of destiny and ability

to create new futures.

Well rounded view, high levels

of self awareness and awareness

of others

Centred and well grounded – acts

on the basis of personal integrity.

Emotionally strong and resilient in

the face of failure.

Dynamic, forward thinking. A

strong sense of destiny and ability

to create new futures.

Well rounded view, high levels

of self awareness and awareness

of others

Centred and well grounded – acts

on the basis of personal integrity.

Emotionally strong and resilient in

the face of failure.

An unhealthy obsession with

Alcohol and sex

Unconscious

Culture

Fast & Intuitive

• 50 cards gamblers have a hunch

• 80 cards gamblers have figured it

out

• Stress responses to the red

decks by the 10th turn (sweat)

• Started favouring the blue cards

and taking less from the red decks

Fast & Intuitive

• 3 lots of ten second video clips of teachers

• No Sound

• No difficulty in rating the teacher’s effectiveness

following post semester evaluations

• Five seconds showed same findings

Thin Slicing

…the ability of our unconscious to find

patterns in situations and behaviour based on

very narrow slices of experience

Coup D’Oeil – Power of a Glance

Thin Slicing

• John Gottman

•20 separate categories corresponding to

emotions in a marriage

•95% accuracy of predicting divorce after 1

hour observation

•Four Horsemen – Defensiveness,

Stonewalling, Criticism, Contempt

The Locked Door

• him was worried she always

• from are Florida oranges temperature

• ball the throw toss silently

• shoes give replace old the

• he observes occasionally people watches

• be will sweat lonely they

• sky the seamless gray is

• should now withdraw forgetful we

• us bingo sing play let

• sunlight makes temperature wrinkle raisins

The adaptive unconscious

• Aggressively

• Bold

• Rude

• Bother

• Disturb

• Intrude

• Infringe

• Respect

• Considerate

• Appreciate

• Patiently

• Yield

• Polite

• Courteous

Dark Side of Thin-Slicing

Implicit Association TestMale Female

John

Bob

Amy

Holly

Joan

Derek

Peggy

Jason

Lisa

Matt

Sarah

Male or Female or

Career Family

Lisa

Matt

Entrepreneur

John

Merchant

Bob

Capitalist

Holly

Joan

Home

Corporation

Siblings

Peggy

Jason

Kitchen

Housework

Male or Female or

Family Career

Lisa

Matt

Entrepreneur

John

Merchant

Bob

Capitalist

Holly

Joan

Home

Corporation

Siblings

Peggy

Jason

Kitchen

Housework

Retraining the dark side

experiences

environment

First Impressions

Retraining the dark side

• Exposure at a higher level

• Comfortable with experience until normalised

• Frequently

• Positive associations

Communicating

with

Emotion

Emotional Intelligence

•Knowing your emotions.

•Managing your own emotions.

•Motivating yourself.

•Recognising and understanding other people's

emotions.

•Managing relationships, i.e. managing the

emotions of others.