Early Middle Early Middle Childhood Childhood Self Esteem, Self Esteem, Friendships and Friendships and Social Skills: What Social Skills: What You Need to Help You Need to Help Your Child Your Child CHEO Connects, November 28, 2011 CHEO Connects, November 28, 2011 Dr. Simone Kortstee, Psychologist Dr. Simone Kortstee, Psychologist
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Early Middle Early Middle ChildhoodChildhood
Self Esteem, Self Esteem, Friendships and Friendships and
Social Skills: What Social Skills: What You Need to Help You Need to Help
Your ChildYour Child
CHEO Connects, November 28, CHEO Connects, November 28, 20112011
Dr. Simone Kortstee, PsychologistDr. Simone Kortstee, Psychologist
What will we talk about What will we talk about todaytoday
• Early Middle Childhood (6-9): Normal Development
• What are the red flags for disruptions in normal development?
• What can we do to facilitate healthy self esteem and social skills
Middle Childhood: Normal Middle Childhood: Normal DevelopmentDevelopment
Social and Emotional ChangesSocial and Emotional Changes
• Continuing development of behavioural and emotional regulation
• Increased independence from parents and family
• Their world becomes larger and children begin to understand their place in it
• Friendships and relationships outside immediate family become important
• Children want to be accepted as part of a group
Middle Childhood: Normal Middle Childhood: Normal DevelopmentDevelopment
Thinking and LearningThinking and Learning
• Fast development of thinking / reasoning skills
• Better able to describe experiences, talk about thoughts and feelings
• Less self-centered: less focus on self and more concern for others
Middle Childhood: Normal Middle Childhood: Normal DevelopmentDevelopment
• Mentally and physically ready to be part of a greater context.
• Through social interaction children begin to develop a sense of pride in their abilities and accomplishments.
• Children who are encouraged by their parents / teachers start to enjoy that they can accomplish something.
• They develop a feeling of competence and belief in their skills.
• It feels good when that happens
Middle Childhood: Normal Middle Childhood: Normal DevelopmentDevelopment
SummaryDuring this stage, children are ready to
enter a larger social world. Through interaction with other children as well as their parents, teachers, and other
adults in their lives, they start to enjoy their accomplishments and
begin to develop a sense of belonging.
What to look for?What to look for?
• Wide range of normal: children are different in terms of temperament and personality.
• Be accepting of individual differences
• Difficulties with emotional / behavioural regulation
• Irritability / sadness • Fears and anxieties
What to look for?What to look for?• Difficulties with
friendships• Learning
Difficulties• Sleep difficulties
• Withdrawal / aches and pains / not wanting to go to school
How to support your child How to support your child developing healthy self-esteem developing healthy self-esteem
and social skills?and social skills?
Talk with your child at their developmental level.
Talking with your child at this age allows your child to share and sort out their thoughts and feelings, build a sense of connection and belonging, and sets the stage for continued communication at later stages of development.
Set the stage now, while your child wants to talk to you, be with you, be like you
How to support your child How to support your child developing healthy self-esteem developing healthy self-esteem
and social skills?and social skills?
Spend time with your child, live a family life
Play together and do chores together
Guide your child’s thinking and problem solving
Be part of your child’s world
Share your valuesProvide a sense of
belonging!
How to support your child How to support your child developing healthy self-esteem developing healthy self-esteem
and social skills?and social skills?
Facilitate unstructured play
Arrange play opportunities: time, playmates.
Allow free play without interference of adults
How to support your child How to support your child developing healthy self-esteem developing healthy self-esteem
and social skills?and social skills?
Positive ParentingShow affection, be kind.
Build trust.Set clear expectations and create predictable routines.
Show confidence and be in charge.Instill confidence by realistic praise.
Praise or correct the behaviour not the child.Problem Solve collaboratively, while remaining in
charge.Welcome your child’s experiences as an opportunity to
talk.
What about bullies?What about bullies?
Talk with your child about bullies and teach them what to do.
Ensure that your child feels safe to speak to you and involve your child in how to solve the problem