Disciplining of Disciplining of Black African Black African Children Children 1 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo
Mar 28, 2015
Disciplining of Black Disciplining of Black African ChildrenAfrican Children
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ObjectivesObjectives• To understand the views of some
African parents regarding discipline.• To explore why we should discipline
and not punish our children• To explore some strategies of
disciplining and improving behaviour of our children
• To bring to light the impact of these strategies on our children
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Views about disciplineViews about discipline
What are your views about discipline?
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Discipline not PunishDiscipline not PunishEffective discipline begins with a trueunderstanding of the difference betweenpunishment and discipline. Punishment is a negative consequencefor inappropriate behavior. Punishment paints the parent as a harshdictator rather than as a respectedauthority.
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Discipline not PunishDiscipline not Punish
Discipline looks forward to the future• ‘If we as parents discover ways to
teach our children without demeaning them, yelling at them or hitting them, we create space to empower them to learn how to amend an error with penalty but without violence’. (Harriette Cole)
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Discipline not PunishDiscipline not PunishDiscipline deals with bad behavior by teaching the childwhy their behavior is unacceptable while alsoteaching them self-control. When a parent shows control over their emotions, itteaches the child that they are capable of doing thesame. Discipline should be positive and emphasize what thechild should do instead of focusing on what theyshouldn’t. Discipline works best when it is memorable andincorporates a lesson.
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Ways to improve Ways to improve behaviourbehaviour
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Parenting PyramidParenting Pyramid• Where on the pyramid should each of
the following be placed and why?• Discipline• Family rules• Special time • Praise and rewards
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Parenting PyramidParenting Pyramid
Special time
Praise and reward
Family rules
Discipline
Use in abundance
Use selectively
Your child's behaviour
Does a better job than criticism.
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Special TimeSpecial Time• What is special time and why do our
children need it?• How can we as black parents give
our children this?• What good could special time do for
your child?• What will make it hard to give special
time?
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Praise and rewardPraise and reward• Giving praise and encouragement to
our children is vital for their confidence and self esteem.
• Praise does a far better job than criticism and builds confidence and self respect.
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Principles of PraisePrinciples of Praise• Do it immediately• Label the good behaviour• Be consistent• Combine verbal praise with physical
affection• Try and find something daily• Really mean it!!
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Family RulesFamily RulesRules are important and help us know
what is expected of us. It encourages responsibility and respect. Children behave well and feel secure because they know their boundaries.
• Simple rules for the whole family• To be discussed and accepted by
everyone in the family• Do you keep the same rules forever?
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Family AgreementFamily Agreement• Write five rules the whole family will
agree and adhere to• What will you do to get these
established at home?
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DisciplineDiscipline• The soft ‘No’-spoken with authority and
firmly• Give a choice- help children to see there
are good and bad outcomes to how they behave
• Loss of privileges- it has to be something that matters to the child; otherwise it won’t work. This is particularly good with older children.
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DisciplineDiscipline
• Choose 3 situations that apply to your family
• Which strategies could you use?
Hitting another child
Throwing food
Refusing to stop playing Xbox
Not completing homework
Returning home late
Swearing Tantrum in supermarket
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Empowerment Points• Balance warmth and nurture with
firmness and control • Balance giving freedom and
autonomy with restriction and limits.• Positively reinforce all positive
behaviours.• Use reasoning and explanation when
trying to get the child to obey.
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Empowerment Points• Give children alternate options forbehaviours instead of simply saying
“No.”• Employ discipline consistently.
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Impact on childrenImpact on children
• Grow to be responsible and disciplined individuals that will help shape the generation to come.
• Discipline helps to build self-esteem, giving a child the confidence to make better decisions in the future.
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