BEETLE BAILEY SNUFFY SMITH BORN LOSER HAGAR THE HORRIBLE BIG NATE FRANK & ERNEST BLONDIE HI AND LOIS Tuesday Evening November 15, 2011 8:00 8:30 9:00 9:30 10:00 10:30 11:00 11:30 12:00 12:30 WPTA/ABC La st Man Man Up ! Danc in g Wi th St a rs Bo dy of Pr oo f Lo ca l Ni gh tl in e Ji mmy Ki mme l Li ve WHIO/CBS NCIS N CIS: Los Angeles Unforgettable Local Late Show Letterman Late WLIO/NBC The Biggest Loser Parenthood Local Tonight Show w/Leno Late Tuesday, November 15, 2011 The Herald Tomorrow’s Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol Ai: Hst t alwas bst Dar Ai: My cousin “Kelly” went from a rotten marriage to a horrible rela- tionship, with no break in between. During this past year, her boyfriend has cheated, lied and threatened her. I was her shoulder to cry on and finally had too much and told her how stupid the whole situation was. This guy doesn’t love her. He uses her. He has nowhere else to go because he pays so much child support for the four children he has from dif- ferent women that he has noth- ing left to live on. Kelly feels sorry for him. Unfortunately, now that I’ve told her exactly what everyone else in our family was saying behind her back, I’m the bad guy, and no one is speaking to me. There is a family graduation com- ing up, and we all will be together. Do I act like noth- ing happened or, better yet, tell them all to grow up? I don’t want to cause prob- lems for the graduate, but this is ridiculous. What do you propose? -- Th Wst Dar Wst: Honesty is not always the best policy, especially when it accom- plishes nothing but hurt feel- ings. It obviously felt good to get this off your chest, but it cost you. Telling all the relatives to “grow up” will cost you a little more. There are diplomatic ways to get your point across, and if you don’t want to alienate the entire family and ruin the graduation, you might try utilizing some of them. Start with, “I’m so sorry I created a rift. I was simply exhausted from listening to Kelly, and I took it out on her. Please forgive me.” Dar Ai: Several months ago, I lost the love of my life. We were in the Caribbean for my son’s wed- ding when a blood clot made its way to her heart and lungs, and in seven minutes, the woman I had been married to for 33 years was dead on the streets of Nassau. Once back home, my friends and family surround- ed me. One by one, they asked me to their homes for good food and caring company. During two of these visits, however, the hosts turned to me with straight faces and said they “knew what I was going through” because they each went through a divorce. I could not believe my ears. How could they compare a divorce with the death of a beloved spouse? When I attended group grief coun- seling sessions, several in the group mentioned they had heard similar remarks. I am here to scream out loud that in no way is a divorce anywhere close to the death of a loved one. No matter the amount of pain, you can see your divorced spouse if you want to, maybe even reconnect someday. I will never, ever be able to touch or see my love again. Death is forever. -- Th Saddst Ma i th Wrld Dar Sad: Our deepest condolences on your loss. Your well-meaning friends and rela- tives do not intend to minimize your grief, which is considerable. They are simply trying to connect with the pain of being alone. But you are right -- these things are not the same. We appre- ciate your telling our readers to be careful not to make such comparisons in their efforts to empathize. Dar Ai: “Unhappy 80-Year-Old Woman” right- ly gave power of attorney to one of her children when she was ill, but then the child sold her belongings and still controls her money and her mail. Please tell her she has the right to revoke that power of attorney or grant a limited power of attorney. This is a form of elder abuse, intentional or not. -- D.N. in Toledo Dar Tld: Thank you for the excellent sugges- tion. Annie’s Mailbox is writ- ten by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime edi- tors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmail- [email protected], or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Ai’s Mailbx www.delphosherald.com WeDneSDAy, nov. 16, 2011 There is a strong possibility that you could end up being far more socially active in the year ahead, mostly because of a new group you meet. You don’t want to forsake old pals, because they are likely to follow you into your new life. SCoRPIo (oct. 24-n. 22) -- Something quite fortunate could transpire for you today through the good auspices of a relative. Try to be nicer than usual to both kith and kin. SAGITTARIUS (n. 23-Dc. 21) -- In an area where you’re trying to make progress, you might initially meet resistance but will soon find complete cooperation. Don’t be too quick to make any major judgment calls. CAPRICoRn (Dc. 22-Ja. 19) -- Because of having a natural ability to establish order where chaos is running rampant, you’ll function far more effectively today than most other group members. AQUARIUS (Ja. 20-Fb. 19) -- Once you discover you are allowing challenging developments to intimidate you, you’ll be able to do anything you put your mind to today. PISCeS (Fb. 20-March 20) -- By bringing people who possess talents you lack into an endeavor that is giving you fits, you can solve most any problem you might encounter today. ARIeS (March 21-April 19) -- An infusion of hope concerning a financial matter could come through for you from an unexpected conduit today. It could happen just when you’re not looking for it. TAURUS (April 20-Ma 20) -- It behooves you to develop a few partnership arrangements today, especially where each has a different expertise to offer. Where one is weak, the other should be strong. GeMInI (Ma 21-Ju 20) -- Don’t be so quick to give up on hope where your career is concerned, because something significant is brewing for you that could turn things around. Stay the course. CAnCeR (Ju 21-Jul 22) -- If a friend or associate of yours should make a promise to do something for you today, don’t take it lightly. Chances are your pal will follow through and do exactly what he or she says. Leo (Jul 23-Aug. 22) -- Something on which you’re working could yield far more benefits than you ever expected it to do. No matter the trouble you run into, stick to it. vIRGo (Aug. 23-Spt. 22) -- Regardless of how bumpy the road looks, stay the course with someone you recently met who you would like to know better. Be the first one to initiate another get-together . LIBRA (Spt. 23-oct. 23) -- Chance could play a powerful role today in bringing about conditions for producing more material growth than you ever thought possible. It’ll be up to you to stay with it, however. CoPyRIGHT 2011 UnITeD FeATURe SynDICATe, InC.