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Save Our HomesBy Ebony Chandler

Equally Yoked Marriage Ministries

When a marriage has been wounded by the effects of infidelity or any other kind of abuse, most often we as believers who desire to see marriage together simply expect to see the husband and wife pick up where they left off and move on. In our zeal to keep marriages alive we begin to pray that they would get back together and that all that has been lost will just be found. The error in that way of thinking is that in our prayers we forget to first pray that God would heal the broken places in both the husband and wife that 1) Caused them to cheat or abuse 2) That caused them to either accept the abuse or that God would keep their heart guarded from the possible long term effects of being abused or cheated on. Marriage is a gift and truly is honorable before God, but to desire that a marriage simply be out back together without first putting God at the head of the reconciliation and restoration is not healthy either.

When we don’t surrender our broken places that enabled us to damage or stay in a damaging place, we run the risk of our mistakes and low places being on a constant “replay” button and the merry-go-round ride will make us more than dizzy it will make us sick. There is no question to the healing abilities of a Great big God who sits high and surely looks low, but we have to pray in order for order. That would be what the elder folks would call ,”Putting the cart before the horse” and the results can cause the entire horse and buggy to crash devastatingly.

One of the greatest ways to help a hurting home is to cover it in prayer just as we would if was affecting our personal homes because the truth is that every hurting marriage affects our homes and families. We are to be one unified body and when one marriage suffers, it is a shot and stab at all others as well. With the sacred bond of marriage being torn down and fought against daily across the country , it will truly take an entire nation to heal the problem. We speak candidly on the financial and educational deficits but what about the marital deficits that plague our communities? It has become taboo to mention the very real issues that are snuffing our marriages out one at a time and as long as we continue to close our eyes and thank God that its not our home, we will see more leaders and even pew members losing the very thing that promised God to keep until death they do part. Denial and high hopes wont mend our bridges and build our fences, but prayer and open transparent dialogue along with commitment unto God can.