By Alysa Poindexter Ralph and Mille Boeshore are truly a striking couple when they are together—whether it is celebrating more than six decades of marriage or rolling impressive strikes at their local bowling alley. Approaching their 66 th wedding anniversary in October, the 90-year-old and 87-year-old Mechanicsburg residents’ continued enthusiasm for bowling has earned them several titles and respect amongst fellow bowlers. After decades of being part of such a precious partnership, their love for one another and for bowling is evident. In 1946, Ralph—originally from Jonestown in Lebanon County—had just returned from serving during World War II when the couple first met while working at the Middletown depot. “I was a widow and my husband was killed in Germany,” said Mille. Both were attracted to one another instantly. They can still recall the early blossoming of feelings for each other. “She’s very attractive,” Ralph responded affectionately about his wife. “She wore her hair up—it was very pretty.” “He was a very nice person,” Mille added with a smile. “He’s a loving, dear man—very kind and a caring person.” It was then that couple would discover their shared love of sports on their A Striking Couple Ralph and Mille Boeshore have spent more than 50 years reaping the benefits of bowling: mental, social, and physical. Memory Loss: What’s Normal, What’s Not page 17 Traveltizers: A Toast to the Keys page 19 please see STRIKING page 12 Inside: Local Couple Continues Bowling after Decades of Partnership Dauphin County Edition June 2012 Vol. 14 No. 6
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By Alysa Poindexter
Ralph and Mille Boeshore are truly a striking couple when they are
together—whether it is celebrating more than six decades of marriage or
rolling impressive strikes at their local bowling alley.
Approaching their 66th wedding anniversary in October, the 90-year-old
and 87-year-old Mechanicsburg residents’ continued enthusiasm for bowling
has earned them several titles and respect amongst fellow bowlers.
After decades of being part of such a precious partnership, their love for
one another and for bowling is evident.
In 1946, Ralph—originally from Jonestown in Lebanon County—had
just returned from serving during World War II when the couple first met
while working at the Middletown depot.
“I was a widow and my husband was killed in Germany,” said Mille.
Both were attracted to one another instantly. They can still recall the early
blossoming of feelings for each other.
“She’s very attractive,” Ralph responded affectionately about his wife. “She
wore her hair up—it was very pretty.”
“He was a very nice person,” Mille added with a smile. “He’s a loving,
dear man—very kind and a caring person.”
It was then that couple would discover their shared love of sports on their
A StrikingCouple
Ralph and Mille Boeshore have spent more than 50 years
reaping the benefits of bowling: mental, social, and physical.
Memory Loss:
What’s Normal, What’s Not
page 17
Traveltizers:
A Toast to the Keys
page 19
please see STRIKING page 12
Inside:
Local Couple Continues Bowlingafter Decades of Partnership
Dauphin County Edition June 2012 Vol. 14 No. 6
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The Lady of the Wheel (La Ruotaia)By Angelo F. Coniglio
“In some towns, she might have
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That cold January morning, Anna heard
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Angelo F. Coniglio’s historical fiction
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children abandoned by their families as
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Enduring
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Coniglio draws the reader
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This Month in History: JuneEvents• June 6, 1872 – Pioneering feminist Susan B.
Anthony was fined for voting in a presidential
election at Rochester, N.Y. After voting rights had
been granted to African-American males by the 15th
Amendment, she attempted to extend the same rights
to women. She led a group of women that voted
illegally, to test their status as citizens. She was
arrested, tried, and sentenced to pay $100, which she
refused.
• June 12, 1963 – Civil Rights leader Medgar Evers
was assassinated in Jackson, Miss., by a rifle bullet
from an ambush. He had been active in seeking
desegregation of schools and voter registration for
African-Americans in the South. Widespread public
outrage following his death led President John F.
Kennedy to propose a comprehensive Civil Rights law.
Evers was buried in Arlington National Cemetery.
• June 28, 1914 – Crown Prince of Austria Archduke
Francis Ferdinand and his wife were assassinated in
Sarajevo, touching off a conflict between the Austro-
Hungarian government and Serbia that escalated into
World War I.
Birthdays• June 1 – Norma Jean Mortensen, famously known
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photographer’s model, which led to a movie career.
She later married baseball legend Joe DiMaggio. She
died in Los Angeles from an overdose of sleeping pills
on Aug. 5, 1962.
• June 7 – French painter Paul Gauguin (1848-1903)
was born in Paris. He worked as a stockbroker and
then became a painter in middle age. He left Paris
and moved to Tahiti, where he developed an interest
in primitive art. His style of using broad, flat tones
and bold colors inspired artists such as Edvard
Munch, Henri Matisse, and the young Pablo Picasso.
• June 29 – Social worker Julia Lathrop (1858-1932)
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GoneThere’s little left that I can do.
My bones are weak,
my strength is gone;
my days of lifting children high,
of sending kites
up to the sky,
of playing softball on the lawn,
of climbing sand dunes
by the lake,
of nailing shingles on a roof,
of painting a gable,
of planting a shrub,
of trimming a tree,
of being half the man I used to be.
Gone
I’ve thought about it a lot;
questioning
why I’m still around.
I always felt,
contemptuously,
that if one takes up space
without producing
for the common good;
without earning a place
in the scheme of things,
it’s time to go.
And then a grandchild smiled and said,
“Grandpa,
can you help me with this?”
A neighbor
needed me to
fix a faucet.
A stranger
asked me to show him
the way.
I held the door
for one older
and more crippled than I.
I prayed
with a bereaved
friend who sought comfort.
The more I helped others,
the more I found
I had much to offer.
I felt guilty
knowing my own depression
was depressing others;
especially
those I love most.
And at last I realized
that I still have much to do
that does not require
physical strength;
and all at once,
my fears,
my doubts,
my depression;
Gone Written and submitted
by Tom Doenges
first date to a hockey game. In the same
year of their meeting, the two married
and began their life together, never
ignoring their affection for sports.
By the 1950s, the United States had
embraced new technological
advancements such as super glue, power
steering, and transistor radio.
With such inventions, there were also
many technical improvements in the
sporting world, which included the
introduction of automatic pinsetters and
better wood oils that made bowling a
very accessible sport for all ages.
Bowling became a very popular sport
in communities
across the nation,
including the
Boeshores’ small
Camp Hill
development where
they would form
their own league at
a local bowling
alley.
The Boeshores
bowled with their
founding league up
until 1965. They
would go on to
bowl with four
other leagues—a
few they are still
part of—and earn
several trophies and awards, including
Best Team in the League, four 600 series
awards, and other impressive scores.
The highest score a bowler can
accomplish in a single game is 300,
which is earned through 12 consecutive
strikes.
“Rolling a score of 256 was my
biggest thrill,” Ralph commented.
Achieving a three-game, cumulative
score of 600 is a difficult feat in the
world of bowling. To be a member of a
600 series club, a bowler must bowl
three consecutive games with a grand-
total score of at least 600. Bowlers are
also required to be in a USBC
authorized league or tournament
competition to be eligible.
“I belonged to the 600 club for
several years,” said Mille.
Although rather modest about her
many bowling accomplishments, Mille
attributes some of her success to her
upbringing.
“I lived on a farm, so I’ve got a pretty
strong arm!” she joked.
The bowling duo currently competes
with leagues at Trindle Bowl in
Mechanicsburg. Just about all of the
regulars in the alley know the Boeshores
if asked.
“I bowl with a lady’s group Tuesday
mornings,” said Mille. “I’ve been
bowling with them for 30 years.”
On Tuesday afternoons, the
Boeshores are also part of the Senior
Citizens Bowling League. The couple
has been bowling with this league since
2002.
After decades of bowling, they still
look to one another for ways to
improve their game, which is a benefit
of bowling with a spouse.
“We share our thoughts with one
another,” Ralph clarified. “If she does
something wrong, I mention it to
her—we just try
to improve
ourselves by
checking with
each other.”
Through
bowling, the
Boeshores have
also discovered a
great benefit:
exercise. Both
Mille and Ralph
find the sport to
be a valuable
asset in
maintaining their
health.
“I think it
strengthens your
body,” Mille described. “The weight of
the ball tones your body—it is very
beneficial.”
According to the National Institute
on Aging, being active is important for
physical as well as mental health.
Physical activity allows seniors to remain
independent and also serves as
preventive treatment against some
chronic diseases.
“We have some seniors on the team
with disabilities who keep at it and they
find it’s beneficial for their well-being,”
said Mille. “It is good exercise and we
really enjoy meeting friends.”
Mille and Ralph also have a growing
family with three grandchildren and one
great-grandchild. They hope to pass on
their passion and love for the game to
the next generation.
“We took our grandchildren bowling
quite often when they were younger,”
said Mille.
When it comes to bowling, there is
nothing else like it for the Boeshores.
“It’s just been enjoyable to be with
my husband because we get along
beautifully,” said Mille.
“We do enjoy it very much and plan
to keep on going as long as we can,” said
Ralph.
STRIKING from page 1
The Versatile Clematis
The Green Mountain Gardener
Dr. Leonard Perry
Are you looking for a plant that
can grow up a trellis or fence,
serve as an interesting ground
cover, or perform well as a container
plant? If so, then the plant you want is
the clematis.
This versatile and hardy flowering
vine comes in a variety of colors
ranging from deep purple to shades of
blue, mauve, pink, red, yellow, cream,
white, and bi-colors. Flower size,
depending on variety, can be as small
as one-fourth inch up to 9 or 10
inches in diameter.
Some varieties—there are more than
250—are best suited for shade, others
for full sun, meaning you can probably
find a clematis for every growing
situation.
The most popular are the large
flowering varieties, which were first
introduced in the mid-19th century.
“Jackmanii,” with its showy purple
flowers, became popular in England in
1863. “Elsa Spath” is another prolific
bloomer, producing lots of lovely blue-
purple flowers. If you like pink, try the
classic “Nellie Moser” with flowers 5 to
6 inches across.
A favorite white variety is “Duchess
of Edinburgh” with early semi-double
flowers and yellow stamens. For bi-
colors, try “Lincoln Star.” It sports 8-
inch, raspberry-red flowers with white
edges.
Planting several different varieties
almost guarantees you a continuous
sweep of color from spring to the first
hard frost. Most varieties do well in
hardiness zone 3 and up, but talk to
your local garden center experts for
recommendations on variety selection.
Although you can plant clematis
almost any month you are able to work
the soil, spring and early autumn are the
best times to plant. Dig the soil about
18 inches deep, working in several
scoops of compost. Water in a liquid
fertilizer according to the label
directions. You should plant your
clematis 1 to 2 inches deeper than it was
in the pot, burying one set of leaves
below the soil level.
Water thoroughly, and then add
mulch around the base of the plant to
keep the roots cool and conserve
moisture. Staking may be needed if you
want to train the clematis to grow up a
trellis, though obviously would not be
required for plants you plan to let
sprawl on the ground or grow through
low-growing shrubs and hedges. For a
fence post, use fishing line to train the
vines to wind around the post.
Don’t expect instant results. The first
year the plant may produce only one to
three shoots with only a flower or two.
For a bushier plant in future years,
prune these shoots back once or twice
the first year to one-half their length. It
may take two or three years before the
plant is covered in flowers. Be patient.
Although clematis is attractive as a
landscape plant, it also makes an
excellent cut flower. When cutting
clematis for arranging, choose flowers
with strong, thick stems. Remove foliage
to reduce transpiration, and place in
cold water immediately. Blossoms need
to be conditioned overnight before
arranging.
Clematis plants can be found at
many nurseries, greenhouses, and garden
centers, or ordered though online
catalogs. With proper planting, early
care, and patience, they will continue to
prosper for years to come. So, why not
plant some today? Their place in your
landscape is only limited by your
imagination.
Dr. Leonard P. Perry is an extension
professor at the University of Vermont.
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