Dating In The Age Of Facebook

Research  shows  that is  changing  the  way  we  meet,  date  and  also  slowly  rip  

each  others  hearts  out.  Image By Franco Bouly !Source: How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too).By Allison McCann!

They  friend  the  person  they  are  

da9ng  early  in  the  “get to know”  phase.  

Image By Nick Grosoli!Source:  Da9ng  in  the  Age  of  Facebook.  By  Dr.  Michelle  Mazur.    

!Facebook  brings  us  too close to  people  !

too quickly.!!

Source: 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse). By Samuel Axon ! Image By pedrosimoes7!

We  oGen  Facebook stalk “to  reduce  some  of  the  uncertainty  in  rela9onships.”    

Image By Mervi Eskelinen aka tasselflower!Source: How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too). By Allison McCann !

 But  the  uncertainty  can  some9mes  be  the  

most  exciting  part.    

Source: How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too). By Allison McCann ! Image By Boris SV !

Facebook  created  a  

whole  new  set  of  obstacles,  awkward

conversations  &  

unclear situations.  

 Image By Rick Tew's NinjaGym™ Martial Arts!Source:  How  Facebook  Ruined  Da9ng  (And  Breaking  Up  Too).  By  Allison  McCann.    

Exclusivity  in  rela9onships  is  now  based  on  whether  you  are  

 Facebook Official or  not.  

Image By factoryjoe !

Trying  to  decide  your  “relationship status”  is  complicated  -­‐  Especially  when  you  have  to  pick  from  a  drop down menu.

Image By Shelby Jansen!

 Deciding  to  go  FBO  means  laying  your  emo9onal  cards  on  the  table,  face  up.  

Source:  I  Now  Pronounce  You  FBO:  Facebook  Official.  By  Tom  Jacobs.     Image  By  CitySkylineSouvenir    

But  becoming  official  on  Facebook  is  not  

where  the  confusion  ends.  

Image  By  gomaXolson    

Image By Joe Shlabotnik!

It's  almost  guaranteed  that  Facebook  will  somehow  catch  up  to  your  budding  rela9onship  and  challenge  it  with  some  confusion  eventually. !

Source: 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse). By Samuel Axon. !

 Facebook's  erosion  of  personal  

boundaries  and  privacy  has  made  finding  

security  in  love  and  sex  

more  difficult.  

 Source: 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse). By Samuel Axon. ! Image By Mance!

Those who

had the walls with high

levels of self-disclosure

reported less intimacy and satisfaction with their

relationships compared to those with the more minimal walls.

Image By Andrew Cheal Photography!

Source: From bullying to relationships: Mapping our online communications. e! Science News !

"Disclosing  a  high  degree  of  personal information  online,  regardless  of  whether  or  not  the  informa9on  is  

related  to  your  partner  or  rela9onship,  will  likely  negatively  affect  your  

roman9c  rela9onship,"      

Source: From bullying to relationships: Mapping our online communications. e! Science News !

Image By Shelby Jansen!

-­‐Juwon  Lee  of  the  University  of  Kansas  

Overanalyzing  will  drive  you  

crazy.

Image By Zuhair Ahmad !Source: 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse). By Samuel Axon. !

Image By Shelby Jansen!Source: 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse). By Samuel Axon. !

Rela9onships  and  breakups  are  public.

Image By Olivier GR !

When  a  rela9onship  ends,  how  soon  is  it  okay  to  

switch  back  to  single?  

 Source: 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse). By Samuel Axon. ! Image By pedrosimoes7 !

“People  feel  more  pressure  from  friends  and  family  to  stay  together  when  they  have  their  partner  in  

 their    profile picture

&  relationship status.”  

!-­‐  Gretchen  Kelmer  

Source: How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too). By Allison McCann. !Image By Shelby Jansen!

 Facebook  rela9onship  baggage  can  hinder  

your  ability  to  move on.    

Image By geishaboy500!

 It's  tough  to  get  over  someone  you've  just  lost,  but  it's  even  harder  when  you  know  she's  having  

a  smashing  9me  without you.    

Image By Scarto !Source: 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse). By Samuel Axon. !

Da9ng  is  as  much  about  maintaining  healthy  and  safe  boundaries  as  it  is  about  intimacy.  

Source: Dating in the Age of Facebook. By Dr. Michelle Mazur. ! Image By Thomas Leuthard !

Social networking makes that harder than ever.

Image By birterohden !Source: 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse). By Samuel Axon. !

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Sources

•  I  Now  Pronounce  You  FBO:  Facebook  Official.  By  Tom  Jacobs.  Pacific  Standard.  January  2013.    

•  How  Facebook  Ruined  Da9ng  (And  Breaking  Up  Too).  By  Allison  McCann.  BuzzFeed.  October  2012.    

•  From  bullying  to  rela9onships:  Mapping  our  online  communica9ons.  E!  Science  News  January  2013.  [no  author  listed]  

•  Da9ng  in  the  Age  of  Facebook.  By  Dr.  Michelle  Mazur.  Speak  Up  -­‐  Speak  Out  -­‐  Make  Your  Impact.    

•  The  NEW  rules  for  romance:  It  was  the  da9ng  bible  of  the  Nine9es.  Now  The  Rules  is  back  -­‐  with  essen9al  9ps  for  love  in  the  age  of  Facebook  and  TwiXer.  By  Ellen  Fein  And  Sherrie  Schneider  

•  5  Ways  Facebook  Changed  Da9ng  (For  the  Worse).  By  Samuel  Axon.  April  10,  2010.  

SOURCES!

Image By Mervi Eskelinen aka tasselflower !