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FeaturesAugust 26, 2011
Shalom Bayis-Peace On TheHome FrontYou don’t have to argue to win, youneed to argue to express your feel-ings. Spouses have the right to ex-press themselves and to say whatthey feel.
Rabbi Eli Hecht
Giving Personally
"You see, "explained the sage."You are coming to ask forgivenessfrom the Brisker Rav. That is notwho you insulted.
Parshas Re’ehRabbi Mordechai Kaminetzky
Do We Love TooMuch?When passion is mitigated with a de-gree of inhibition, when intimacy istempered with a modicum of re-serve, love flourishes. But when alllimits are betrayed, love burns out.
Yanki Tauber
Leading JewsToward Tradition,Even in Death:
Hy does not get paid for his work.He even spends much of his ownfunds as he travels many miles tothe homes of children of thedeceased...
About 20 years ago, Hy Arnesty re-tired from his work as a salesman fora large toy company. Many retireesmove to the Desert or to Florida.Others travel or relax by the pool.One man, Hy Arnesty, embarked ona new life’s journey. Along the way,he has helped to shape Jewish life inLos Angeles in important ways, bring-ing Jews closer to tradition, even indeath.
A couple of decades ago, Hy real-ized that with retirement, he had a lotof time on his hands. He volunteeredto serve as Chair of the Cemetery and
Burial Committee of Sephardic Tem-ple Tifereth Israel, the large Sephardicsynagogue on Wilshire Boulevard. Inthe past, this position involved over-seeing the dozens of plots that havebeen purchased by the synagogue andare available to families who have suf-fered loss. But Hy saw in this posi-tion far more. An Army veteran ofboth World War II and the Koreanconflict, Hy was assigned during theKorean War to help families who hadexperienced the loss of a loved one inthe war. He knew that helping fami-lies after the passing of a loved one
involved more than just the purchase of a burial site. Hesoon expanded the committee role and his position.
Hy gave out his phone number to the entire communityto call whenever someone died. He offered to go to theJewish mortuaries with the families who suffered loss. Hearranged with the mortuaries to have traditional prepara-tion for burial for the Sephardic families he brought in.Cremations, a procedure which violates Jewish law, wereno more in the community as Hy explained appropriateprocedures to each family. Appropriate services and burialswere arranged. He arranges the traditional Huevo serviceand meal after the family returns from the cemetery as wellas the Mincha and Arvit (Maariv) services following the fu-neral. Hy himself asks to speak at the funeral service invit-ing the families to come on Shabbat to services to reciteKaddish. He guides the families through the first 30 daysand the months of mourning which follow. He ensuresthat a memorial candle is lit in the synagogue and that eachfamily is informed of the anniversary of the passing.
Hy Arnesty, a retired toy salesman, has brought traditionto thousands of families over the past two decades. Hehas guided people, many of whom are virtual strangers toJudaism and Jewish tradition, to the path of tradition. Hemakes an unpleasant and difficult time very meaningful forfamilies. His efforts have helped to maintain Sephardic tra-ditions. He helps families do what is right.
Hy does not get paid for his work. He even spends muchof his own funds as he travels many miles to the homes ofchildren of the deceased and to mortuaries and cemeteriesthroughout Southern California.
Hy Arnesty is not “frum” (religiously observant) in theway we often think about a Jew who devotes his life torestoring and maintaining tradition, though he is a syna-gogue Jew who states that he has gone to every Shabbatservice at the Sephardic Temple for the past 20 plus years.He is not trained as a Rabbi. He is not a teacher in the tra-ditional sense. Yet, in his calm manner, he instructs on av-erage a couple of families each week in what is appropriateafter a death according to Jewish tradition. He guides syn-agogue members as well as unaffiliated who call him be-cause they do not know where else to turn.
Hy Arnesty’s other love is the Jewish War Veterans asso-ciation, as he has long held leadership positions in the Hol-lywood post. He combines his veteran duties and hisposition in the synagogue in some interesting ways. Whenthere is a military veteran who has passed away, he proudlyarranges for an honor guard to play Taps and perform a
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flag presentation when requested by the family. Each mili-tary vet is saluted. Hy also chairs one of the largest Memo-rial Day commemorative services at a local Jewish cemetery.
Here is a man who lives for country and community.
Hy Arnesty has been nominated for California Veteran ofthe Year. It has been my personal privilege to second thatnomination. But based on his work on behalf of those whopass away and their families in the Jewish Community, Iwould recommend the highest honors in the community forHy. In time of need, he is always there. He brings hundredscloser to Jewish tradition. He helps mourners to do what isright.
When you call the Arnesty home and he is not there, ashe is so often out helping families in need, the phone ma-chine answers with the words, “Arnesty is the best policy.”Indeed, calling Hy to help in properly mourning for a lovedone is the best policy.
On behalf of the Jewish community of Southern Califor-nia, thanks go out to Hy. Hy Arnesty deserves the honorof Veteran of the Year. And so much more!
Robert J. Rome, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist inclinical practice in Encino, California.
With great and bursting praise to the Almighty, we formally announce the beginning of the New LINK Shul – an offshoot of the LINK Kollel.
Where will the shul be located?
In our Kollel, 1453 Robertson Blvd. – corner of Saturn and Robertson. It is a beautiful space with a backyard area, two classrooms and a gorgeous sanctuary. We are in the process of
beautiful renovations as well.
What are the membership costs?
Free. That’s correct. We certainly welcome and need donations, but we hope b’ezras Hashem for as long as we can, to keep the membership
all free. To be a member, you must fill out a form which can be downloaded here. We will charge for seats for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. No
one will be turned away for lack of funds for RH/YK – but we may sell out – so please reserve im-
mediately by filling out the membership form.
Will there be childcare/youth groups?
Yes! We will have baby care on the shul premises and three childcare groups that will be staffed by energetic and responsible coun-
selors under the supervision of experienced adults in a fantastic preschool facility that has
an indoor/outdoor area.
What type of shul will it be and whom do you expect to attend?
Warm and Serious. All different types of Jews – united by a desire to grow in their Judaism
Warm in that everyone will feel comfortable. Warm in that no one feels judged. Warm in that everyone will have a place for a Shabbos meal. Warm
in that the mechitza allows women to see well while maintaining ideal halachic standards. Warm in that the LINK shul will have wonderful
melodies and sweet singing. Warm in that the LINK shul seeks to develop community and connections.
Serious in that a shul is a place to pray to Hashem and the decorous davening will be assumed, not imposed. Serious in that the davening
will not be shleppy and belabored. Serious in that you will feel like you are in a special space.
Will there be shiurim during the week?
The LINK Shul is affiliated with the LINK Kollel. The Link Kollel will provide over 25 weekly shi-urim (for men and women) and 50+ Chavrusa
Slots. Go to www.linkla.org for details.
Will there be a Kiddush every week. If so, will it be a hot Kiddush?
Yes. We really hope so.
Does Pico need another shul?
We need at least as many shuls as res-taurants. In truth, the Pico Robertson
community is moving eastward and we seek to meet the growing demand of the
vibrant Pico community.
How can I help? How can I find out more?
1. Spread the word2. Click to donate (www.linkla.org/build)
3. Fill out a membership form, send us an email at [email protected] or go to the website www.
linkla.org to sign up for our newsletter(s).4. Offer your services to help the shul [ we need
a web guy, a carpenter, Kiddush committee, N’shei LINK, etc.]
1. Our wonderful Kollel Rabbis, Rebbitzens and their families form the nucleus of
the community 2. Over Shabbos, there will be at
least 8 distinct learning oppor-tunities.
3. Every non-winter Shabbos, when feasible, we will have a women’s
shiur in the Pico community with childcare provided. The first 3 shiurim will be given by Rebbitzen Batyah Brander on Yonah. 4. Every non-winter Shabbos, we will have father-son learning.5. Approximately once a month, there will be a soulful, beauti-
ful and extended Seudah Shlishis6. During winter months, we will have an Oneg Shabbos 1-2
times a month7. A serious teen minyan [for young men, 11-16] run by one of
our Kollel Rabbis, to empower the youth8. Approximately 4 beautiful Shabbatonim with outstanding and
Rabbi Asher Brander and Rabbi Eli Stern. Rabbi Brander has been the Rabbi of the Westwood Kehilla for the past 17 years, and Rebbe at YULA High School and Bnos Devorah for a total of 21 years. He founded the LINK Kollel in 2002. Rabbi Stern has been a shul Rabbi and an Outreach teacher for the past
24 years in 4 cities, including the last 15 in LA.
This week the Torah teaches us about charity. Notonly does it tell us who to give, it tells us how to give.And it does so in an uncharacteristic and seeminglyrepetitive fashion.
"If there shall be an impoverished person from among you orany of your brethren in your cities... you shall not harden yourheart nor close your hand against your destitute brother. Ratheryou should shall surely give him and you shall not harden yourheart when you give him" (Deuteronomy 15:7-10).
The repetitive expression and emphasis on the wordhim is troubling. "Youshall surely give him andnot feel bad" would suf-fice. Why is the phrase"when you give him"necessary? The Torah isreferring to the personto whom you havegiven. It tells us not tofeel bad about givingcharity. Why the extraphrase about the recipi-ent?
Rabbi Yosef DovSoleveitchik, the Rav ofBrisk, was reveredthroughout Europe as a foremost scholar and Talmu-dic sage. One aspect of his character was known toshine even brighter than his scholarship - his humility.
Once, he stopped by an inn in the middle of a freez-ing night and asked for lodging. He had no entouragewith him, and the innkeeper treated him with abuse.He did not disclose who he was, and after pleadingwith the innkeeper, he was allowed to sleep on thefloor near a stove. The innkeeper, thinking that theman was a poor beggar, did not offer him any foodand refused to give him more than a little bread andwater for which Rabbi Soleveitchik was willing to pay.
The next morning Rabbi Soleveitchik did not see theshocked expression on the face of the innkeeper whena few of the town notables came to the inn. "We un-derstand that the Brisker Rav was passing through thistown. Is it possible that he came by your inn lastnight?"
At first, the innkeeper dismissed the question - until
the Rav appeared and the group entered to greet himwarmly. In a few minutes the town dignitaries con-verged on the inn with their students and children allin line to meet the great sage.
Terribly embarrassed, the innkeeper, who realizedthat he had berated and humiliated a leading Torah fig-ure, decided to beg forgiveness from the Rav.
"Rebbe," he cried, "I am terribly sorry. I had no ideathat you were the Brisker Rav. Please forgive me."
The Rav replied. "Iwould love to, but yousee that would be im-possible."
"But why?" asked theowner in shock.
"You see, "explainedthe sage. "You are com-ing to ask forgivenessfrom the Brisker Rav.That is not who you in-sulted. You debased asimple Jew who camefor lodging - and he isno longer here to for-
give you."
The Torah explains that there are in essence twoparts to tzedaka - the patron and the recipient. Oftenthe giver becomes detached from the recipient; hewants to give but has no concern for the receiver. Hemay even have disdain for the person at the door, butthe mitzvah of tzedaka overrides his pre-judgementand a contribution is given. Perhaps the Torah stressesthe words "do not feel badly in your heart when yougive to him," to teach us an important lesson.
In addition to the mitzvah of giving, one shouldidentify with the recipient too. Know the true situationof the person to whom you are giving. Understandwhat you are giving for. Be sure that when you are giv-ing to him, your heart should not be in bad spirits. TheTorah recognizes the simplest beggar as someone wor-thy enough to have his pronoun repeated. "Surely givehim; do not feel bad in your heart when you give him."If the Torah is careful enough to classify the beggaras an individual who transcends a generic recipient-and transform him into a personal beneficiary, thenperhaps he is worthy of recognition by all of us. •PARSHAS RE’EH
The Torah not only tells us how to live our lives andwhere to go, this week it tells us how to get there as well!First the Torah tells us about a man who was negligent andaccidentally killed someone. We are to establish cities ofrefuge where he can flee and live until he can return home."You shall separate three cities for yourselves in the midst of yourLand, which Hashem, your G-d, gives you to possess it" (Deuteron-omy 19:2). But theTorah does more thantell us to build cities ofrefuge. In an unprece-dented command, it es-tablishes a highwaycommission, telling us,"Prepare the way for your-self, … and it shall be forany murderer to flee there.”
Rashi quotes the Tal-mud in Makos thatthere were signs postedat each crossroadpointing and declaring,"Refuge! Refuge!" eachpointing the way to thenearest refuge city.
But, why? If roadsigns should beerected, shouldn'tthey be for Jerusalem, guiding the thousands of tri-annualtravelers from the north and south who journeyed therefor the shalosh regalim? Why should cities that housemanslaughter offenders, get guideposts while the holiestcity of Israel doesn't?
Rav Meir Shapiro, established one of Europe's most pres-tigious Yeshivos of its era. The Yeshiva Chachmei Lublin,not only housed a magnificent Bais Medrash, it had a spa-cious dormitory and dining hall. Its fine accommodationswould spare Yeshiva boys the embarrassment of having toeat teg, virtually begging for meals in the homes of wealth-ier business people.
But in order for the students not to plead, Rabbi Shapirodid. And so he traveled around the globe, crossing theocean to the US and Canada, to raise funds for the beautifulYeshiva. In fact, he even served as a cantor in a prestigiousNorth American congregation in lieu of a one thousanddollar gift to the Yeshiva.
On avisit to the
office of a prominent businessman, one who had strayedfrom the path paved in Europe by his parents and grand-parents, Rabbi Shapiro was asked an unusual question.
"Rabbi," the industrialist proposed, "why is it that youhave to see so many Jews to accomplish your goal? IfHashem wanted your Yeshiva to flourish, why didn't He
arrange that you meet justone philanthropist who willundertake the entire proj-ect, by adding a few zerosto the amount of hischeck? After all," contin-ued the magnate. There areplenty of modern institu-tions in the US that havebeen established by onebenefactor!"
Rabbi Shapiro smiled."Let me explain: Hashemnot only wants that theYeshivas Chachmei Lublinshould thrive, he wants asmany people in America aspossible to know what ishappening there as well!
Had one man given mea check, and I wouldhave taken the next
boat back, I never would be talking to you about Yid-dishkeit, about your heritage, your past, and your future!Now however, I meet hundreds of Jews who have heardabout the tremendous love for Torah that our studentshave. They have heard the beauty of their mission and theirdevotion to the cause of learning Torah. They know whatTractate we are studying and how we apply Torah to every-day life.
Some ask about the size of the building and all about theSifrei Torah that will be place in the Aron Kodesh.
When someone with a single check endows a music hall,nobody else gets involved in its development and its intri-cate details become the obsession of individuals, not theshared responsibility of a community! So there is no ex-citement, no involvement, no buzz! You can't build enthu-siasm in that manner.
Imagine the scene: A man kills accidentally; he has to fleeto the city of refuge. He does not know where the city is.He knocks on a door. "Hello," he exclaims to the startledhomeowner, "I just killed someone, um… accidentally. Do
you know where the Ir Miklat (city of refuge) is?"
Anxiety, depression and even despair is fostered. The buzzis bad. There are murderers loose. And when they inform thepublic, often enough of their misdeeds, it sets an apathetictone, where reckless manslaughter becomes the norm. Theshock of death is dulled, and it becomes part of the repertoireof the urban experience. And wanton disregard becomes con-tagious. And the virus of sin spreads rapidly. And so the signsare set and the directions are clear and the murderers flee tak-ing refuge in clearly marked cities, no questions asked, at leastuntil the situation is adjudicated.
On the other hand, take the trip to Jerusalem: The city withno directional advisories. Imagine: There is a crossroad. Thereis no sign. One must knock on a door. "Excuse me, do youknow how to get to Jerusalem?"
"Oh! You are going to Yerushalayim?" the person declaresand asks in unison. "Maybe you can wait, I'll come along!""Perhaps you can shlep this small package for my son inYeshiva there!" (Some things never change!) Oh! You are goingto Jerusalem! When is Yom Tov? It is time for me to make mypreparations as well! When people have to share the goodqueries there is excitement, tumult, even spirituality in the air!And it becomes contagious for the good! •
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Do we love too much?
Apparently we do. Many marriages fail for a dearth oflove; an equal number are suffocated by an overabundanceof the same.
So desirous are we for connection, so hungry for com-munion with another human being, that we forget that forlove to endure it must be complemented with an equalmeasure of restraint. Soeager are we to give of our-selves to the one we love --be it a spouse, a child, or afriend -- that we often givewithout consideration ofthe needs and desires of therecipient of our love.
When passion is mitigatedwith a degree of inhibition,when intimacy is temperedwith a modicum of reserve,love flourishes. But when alllimits are betrayed, loveburns out.
A love relationship canthus be compared to an elec-trical circuit. In a circuit, theattraction between the posi-tive and negative charges creates a current of energy join-ing the two; the current meets with a certain degree ofresistance as it passes through the circuit, delimiting its in-tensity. The natural tendency of this attraction is to seekthe shortest possible route, carrying the highest possiblecurrent, to join the attracted charges. But should this ten-dency be indulged -- should the "resistance" fall -- the cir-cuit will "short": the current will escalate, ultimatelycausing the destruction of the circuit and the breakdownof the very connection which the current seeks to create.
The Book of Leviticus speaks of the tragic death ofAaron's two elder sons, Nadav and Avihu.
After many months of labor and anticipation, the Sanc-tuary had finally been set up in the Israelite camp and theDivine Presence came to rest within it. Amidst the joyous
dedication ceremonies, "Nadav and Avihu each took his censer,and put fire in it, and put ketoret on it, and offered strange firebefore G-d, which He commanded them not. And a fire went outfrom G-d, and consumed them, and they died before G-d" (Leviti-cus 10:1-2).
In his commentary on Torah, the great sage and mysticRabbi Chaim ibn Atar explains that Nadav and Avihu diedfrom an overdose of love.
Once a year, on Yom Kippur, the High Priest wouldenter the innermost chamber of the Sanctuary, the Holyof Holies, to offer ketoret to G-d. This occasion -- onwhich the most spiritual human being performed the most
sacred service in the holiestplace in the world on theholiest day of the year -- wasthe point of utmost intimacywith G-d attained by man.Nadav and Avihu werepriests, but not High Priests(though they would havebeen, had they lived to suc-ceed their father in that of-fice); it was a very specialoccasion, marked by specialofferings to G-d, but it wasnot Yom Kippur. But theirthirst for intimacy with G-d
could not be satisfied by any-thing less than the ultimate.They wanted to get closer yet,though "He commanded
them not."
Human life is a love affair between the soul and herG-d. Our passion for life is a craving for the "spark ofG-dliness" implicit within every one of G-d's creations;ultimately, everything we do is motivated by our soul's de-sire to draw closer to our Source. So powerful is this de-sire, that it can lead us to do things that are contrary toG-d's will -- things that violate the bounds of our love anddestroy it.
For our marriage to live and thrive, we must feed ourpassion for life; but we must also know when to hold back.As in every truly loving relationship, we must learn to lovein the manner that our beloved needs and desires to beloved. •
When the Almighty G-dcreated life on earthhe created male and
female. Both were created at the sametime. Animals were created male andfemale, as was the sea and sky crea-tures. In the Torah it states, “G-d said:‘Let us make man in our image’... AndG-d created man in His own image.”The only life created singular was man.Later the Torah relates how Eve was
fashioned from Adam’s rib. The cre-ation of humankind is different than allother creations. Why was man createdsingular? Jewish philosophors teachthat in order for a man and woman tolive a harmonious life they had to becreated from one place. As we know,man is very different from woman. Sohow is it possible that male and femaleare able to marry and bond? It is be-cause the male and female are not twoseparate people, they are really one. Atmarriage the female returns to themale, fusing and becoming one, hu-mankind. Because the woman was ini-
tially created from man she thereforecan live together harmoniously. Hadwoman had been created separatelythere would never be a true harmony.For some there are problems betweenmen and women are with communica-tion and arguments.
For example: When a man asks hiswife to have an extra guest in thehouse. She may say, “No problem, sureor O.K.” Why doesn’t she say “Look,
I am worn out, I have been taking careof the children all week and I am tired.I refuse to have a guest.” She may befrightened to speak up. When thewoman really wants to have a guest shewill say “It’s my pleasure.” When a per-son says “no problem, sure, or O.K.”they really don’t mean it. This is worsethan saying no. I believe there is atremendous need for the people tospeak up and explain their feelings. Anargument is only good if one has theintent to express one’s feelings. Youdon’t have to argue to win, you need toargue to express your feelings. Spouses
have the right to express themselves and to say what theyfeel. One should not be intimidated to the extent that theycan’t express themselves. One of the reasons people don’texpress themselves is because they think they have to beable to win the argument or else they look bad. That iswrong.
In the Torah we find a perfect example of a good argu-ment. G-d reveals himself to Abraham, at age 100, tellinghim he is going to have a son. Sarah hears about this andshe laughs. G-d comes to Abraham and tells Abraham“Why did your wife laugh?” Abraham says “Sarah, why did youlaugh?” Sarah says “I did not laugh.” The Al-mighty G-dtold Abraham that Sarah laughed and Sarah answers thatshe did not. Abraham expresses himself, Sarah expressesherself. Nowhere in our rabbis’ commentaries do we findthat they had a fight and/or went to a marriage counselor.They were able to express their feelings, whether right orwrong and they continued on.
Another case in the Jewish writings is regarding the birthof Samson. Samson’s mother was told by G-d, by an angel,that she is going to become pregnant. Her child, Samson,would grow up to be a hero of the Jewish people. Themother goes home and tells her husband, Menoa. She saysthat an angel told her that she will have a child blessed byG-d to become a great leader. Menoa doesn’t believe her.He say’s “When this angel comes why don’t you call meand I’ll speak to the angel,”suggesting that this would nevertake place. Sure enough, the angel comes again to the wifeand repeats the prophecies. She tells her husband who thenmeets the angel and asks the angel “What are we supposedto do?” The angel says “listen to G-d and your wife.”Imagine, the angel tells the husband to listen to the wife.The wife is clever enough never to put the husband down.All through the story she is called the wife of Menoa. Weare never told her name. She was smarter and more worthyto see the angel. She is careful to let her husband feel good.These are two examples from the scriptures of where wesee arguments are not for winning, they are for expressingone’s self.
If we need to find help it ought to be from a religiousperson that truly understands the needs of expression andcommitment. Our religion has answers and guide lines.They teach us how to live and most of all how to get alongwith each other.
Rabbi Eli Hecht, Chabad of South BayVice-President, Rabbinical Alliance of America.
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YOUTH DIRECTOR/COUPLE WANTED!
Congregation Adat Yeshu-run, located in the beautifulcoastal community of LaJolla in the San Diego area,is looking for a dynamic, funand inspiring Youth Direc-tor. This part time positionincludes creating, runningand supervising the Ortho-dox shul's Shabbos morn-ing youth programs frominfants to teens, implement-ing Shabbos afternoon ac-tivities, Sunday and/orweekday activities for youthand their families and pre-Holiday activitites. Willing toconsider individual/coupleable to commute on theweekends from LA/OrangeCounty.Candidate should have ex-perience with youth of allages and be capable of or-ganizing, implementing andmarketing creative youthactivities.Please send resumes and