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Communication Skills. Leadership Certification Level 1. Jesus’ Four Encounters. The woman at the well (John 4:4-26) The rich young ruler (Luke 18:18-25) Zaccheus (Luke 19:1-9) Nicodemus at night (John 3:1-15). Principles to Understand and Use Information. “Lag time". - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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Page 1: Communication Skills

Communication Skills

Leadership Certification

Level 1

Page 2: Communication Skills

Jesus’ Four Encounters

• The woman at the well (John 4:4-26)

• The rich young ruler (Luke 18:18-25)

• Zaccheus (Luke 19:1-9)

• Nicodemus at night (John 3:1-15)

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Principles to Understand and Use Information

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“Lag time"

• The gap between the speed of talking and the speed of listening

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“Lag time" is to be used to:

• listen to the words being used

• observe the body language

• make note of the repetition of thoughts and words

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Questions to keep in mind while listening are:

• Why is this person saying this to me now? • Why did they choose to say this at this time? • They keep repeating certain words and thoughts, why? • When did they lower their voice to a whisper? Or when

did they become agitated? • What were the first words they used? • Why are they keeping their arms folded so tightly across

their chest?

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Congruence

• Congruence is when words, tone of voice, and body language all convey the same message

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Three components to congruence

• Words are only 7% of the total communication package

• Tone carries 38%

• Body language is 55% of the overall picture

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The interpersonal gap

The interpersonal gap is the difference between the backgrounds, education, religious beliefs, and history of each party and how clearly each understands the other.

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Body language

Certain gestures give an idea as to how a person is feeling. Especially is this true when several gestures point to a specific characteristic.

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Becoming aware of the cry for help

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Anxiety is brought about in four ways

• Something bad really happens

• A moral issue

• A neurotic problem

• An existential issue

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Anxiety is caused by conflicts

• Within the family

• Between families

• With work overload

• With boss or pastor

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The outcome of anxiety provoking events

• The individual issues subconscious cries for help

• When the cries are not "heard" the individual gets angry and her behavior changes

• They do or say things they've not done before

• They begin to be irregular in their activities

• They seal off their pain

• They seal off their pain that will once again give a sense of belonging

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Ask the right question at the right time

• Listen for information that is volunteered in the conversation

• Use questions that show interest

• Start with generalities, then move to more specific questions

• Ask only those things which apply to the conversation

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Do not use prying questions

• Questions that probe into personal affairs

• Change the subject

• Questions that appear judgmental and that appear as if we know the right answer

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Do not be afraid of silence

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CHECK FEELINGS

HAPPY

SAD

ANGRY

AFRAID

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Direct expression of feeling

• Use "I" statements and not the blaming "you" statements

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Language dominance

• Audio – words related to sounds

• Visual – words related to seeing

• Feeling – words related to feeling

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Language Dominance

Visual

see

view

eye to eye

look

straight

Audio

hear

loud

listen

soft

sound

Feeling

soft

touch

squeeze

hug

fluffy

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Listening to Stories)

         I know some who...       Anniversary story       Rehearsal story       Reinvestment story       The counter story

Five types of stories

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Four levels of stories

• Long ago and far away

• Feelings long ago

• Feelings now

• Self disclosure

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Commandment Listening