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Choose To Lead Your Emotions

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Choose To Make A DifferenceEMOTIONS!to lead your Page 1091

Learning Objectives What are emotions Shredding and its emotional consequencesSix emotional Languages for better relationships Leading different types of emotionLiving a principled LifeEffective Stewardship

InformationImpartationApplication3Why do People work?

The truth is that all of us want more than money for our work. 4Why do We WorkWe work for the Big Picture Capital FormationFor the advancement of Humanity you are empowered to empowerWork to Learn

Work is a noble thingVideoHappiness lies not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort. The joy and moral stimulation of work no longer must be forgotten in the mad chase of evanescent profits. These dark days will be worth all the cost if they teach us that our true destiny is not to be ministered unto, but to minister to ourselves and our fellow men - Franklin RooseveltAll work contains drudgery; the issue is whether it holds meaning or notWendell BerryPage 111, drudgery hard boring work, or toil8

What are emotions?All emotions are impulses to actThe root word: emotion mowere latin verb to move, prefix e connotes move awaySo our emotion determines our choices, and our choices determine our results. You can do things with your emotions. You can either lead it, or you are lead by it.9

What is the Purpose of emotion?Our emotions they say guides us in facing predicaments and tasks too important for intellect alone. THEY ARE GUIDES FOR SURVIVAL.10

Case Study Maltilda Crabtree

Our emotions they say guides us in facing predicaments and tasks too important for intellect alone. THEY ARE GUIDES FOR SURVIVAL.11

People are EMOTIONAL Beings!So our emotion determines our choices, and our choices determine our results.Most Barbaric, and the most heroic act act were done under the Influence of emotionsIf you are led by emotions, you are impulsive and you are predictable

12People are SOCIAL Beings!

It allows people to come to one anothers rescue, emotionally.With open loop nature of our brain, there is interpersonal limbic regulations, whereby one persons action or inactions transmits signals that can alter hormonal levels, cardiovascular functions, sleep rhythms, and immune functions inside the body of another.13Emotions are Contagious!

Quick QuestionsWhy should we workWhat is the purpose of emotionWhy are people social beingsWhat killed Matilda CrabtreeWhy are people emotional beings

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Learning PointsEmotions are real, every normal person should feel.You have control over your feelings it can be harnessed, it can be domesticated. No emotion is permanent, if yours is, see a physician.You have the capacity to choose and lead your emotions

PASSION AND REASONTen CommandmentsThe code of HamurabiEdicts of Emperor AshokaHamurabi Babylonian KingAshoka India, Nepal, PakistanSociety has had to enforce from without rules meant to subdue tides of emotional excess that surges too freely within.18

Emotions VS MoodsEmotions are highly intense, fleeting or momentary, and sometimes disruptive to productive work. Moods tend to be less tense, longer lasting feelings that typically dont interfere much with the job at hand.

IQ VERSUS EQAcademic intelligence offers virtually no preparation for the turmoil or opportunity lifes vicissitudes bring.The brightest among us can founder on the shoals of unbridled passions, and unruly impulses.

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The rules of work are changing, we are being judged by a new yardstick: not just by how smart we are, or by our training and expertise, but also by how well we handle ourselves and each other Daniel Goleman

Emotional intelligence

Is the ability to recognize, understand and manage emotions in both ourselves and othersEmotional Intelligence

Activity IQ TESTWrite down as many different uses that you can think of for the following objects, in 5 minsA BrickA BlanketDivergence Test24

If intelligence matters only up to a point, then past that point, other things things that has nothing to do with intelligence must start to matter more Malcolm Gladwell (Outliers)

IQTechnical ExpertiseEQThree Domain of CompetencesSome competencies are purely cognitive, such as technical expertise baseline competence. Others combine thought and feeling; these are emotional competenciesPeter Principle People lifted to their next level of incompetence.26

Emotional competence: An emotional competence is a learned capability based on emotional intelligence that results in outstanding performance at work. An emotional competence is a learned capability based on emotional intelligence that results in outstanding performance at work27

Some Misconceptions of EQ EQ does not mean merely being nice.

EQ is not giving free rein to feelings

Women are not smarter than men when it comes to EQ, nor men superior to women.

Shredding and its Emotional consequences

Shredding: is a corporate abuse, expressed inform of severe public reprimandShredding attacks an emotional competency called: SELF CONFIDENCE.

People Shred because: - Emotional Unintelligence competencesEgo: lack of people skill; absence of empathy as an emotional competence

Insecurity: not confident of oneself; absence of self confidence as an emotional competence

Transferred aggression: absence of people skill, lack of empathy

IV.Generally lack people skill.

You may not be able to stop those who are out to frustrate you, but you can find ways of neutralizing the frustrations that is coming at you and ensure those working with you are not frustrated.

Become emotionally intelligent to overcome shredding and get the best out of peopleLeading Emotions at work

Work place is a place of diverse and changing emotions. These emotions if not properly managed can really get in the way of productive work. Quick QuestionsWhat is emotional IntelligenceWhat is shredding, how can you overcome itWhat are the three domains of competenciesWhat is the difference between mood and emotionsWhy should passion be schooled

Emotional FreedomYou have emotional freedom when your emotions work in your favour. With emotional freedom you seek to appraise and understand others, and you seek to achieve a win-win outcome in your relationships Seyi Wright CMAD

A man with emotional freedom can skillfully separate a man from the problem in any issue involving problems created by man37

Leading different types of emotions

Leading worryWorry is usually linked with our expectation. It is the opposite of faith. When we worry, we lack the ability to concentrate on constructive thingsMake credible decisions.39

Step one: self awareness; first recognize the feeling, and the thought sponsoring the feeling, or image that is sponsoring the anxiety

Step two: analyze the situation fearlessly and honestly and figure out what the worst that could possibly happen as a result of the failure

Step three: after figuring out what was worst that could possibly happen, reconcile yourself to accepting it, and accepting all of its consequences.

Step four: now devote time to think constructively on how to improve upon the worse which has been mentally accepted

Steps in overcoming worry to make a difference by Willis H. Carrier

Be Willing to have it so.. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step in overcoming the consequences of any misfortune Prof. William James

In summary, learn to move from negative and anxious thoughts towards positive concerns about your goals. - CMAD

Leading angerIn its foundation, the more determined you are to make a difference, the more difficult it is for you to be provoked to anger.

Anger is never without a reason, but seldom a good one. Benjamin Franklin

Anger is the most seductive of the negative emotions, and it is the feeling people are worst at controlling. It is the most intransigent. Brooding Fuels angers flame47

Anger Cycle

Balm for AngerSince anger builds on anger, challenge the thought (by obtaining or formulating mitigating information) that is sponsoring the first burst of anger. Timing is very important here, as the mitigating information should arrive earlier in the anger cycle.

Cooling down: cooling off physiologically by waiting out the adrenal surge caused by anger thus de-escalating it. While cooling of you put brakes on the thoughts that escalate anger, by seeking out distractions

Avoid catharsis giving vent to rage

Note: Lashing out at people may sometimes provoke positive actions, when it restores a sense of control or rights an injustice for instance, but the decision to discipline someone shouldnt be taken during the moment of anger-CMAD

Leading fearFear is the greatest undoing of the average person E.A Adeboye

Most of our fears originate from our avid self fascination: our jobs, our reputation, our health, our finances, our families and so on. The more self-focused we are, the more we are afraid of loosing those things with which we are obsessed.

Overcoming fearsDo the things you are afraid to do and death of fear is certain Ralph Waldo Emerson

Boldly step out to do those things that you have been afraid, but need to do.

A major step towards overcoming your fears is to carefully think through and answer these questions:What am I afraid of?Why am I afraid of it?What can I do about it

Work on gaining the right perspective of events or people that makes us afraid. We sometimes overestimate them

D.Preparation: prepare ahead of time to manage and lead your fears, indeed to meet it head on

Lead your regretsWe all have certain things that we wish we had done better in the past which now feeling sorry for.

To lead your regrets you really ought to be thankful for themWe all have certain things that we wish we had done better in the past which we are now feeling sorry for. 54

Lead Malicious thoughts Your ability to initiate reconciliation with others shows a high level of emotional maturity.Maintaining the right Perspectives

Maintain a right perspective.Seeing things from the right perspective impacts positively on your people skill. This is an emotional intelligence domain.

Learn how to manage your expectations of people allow room for human frailties, no matter how low your tolerance for errors might be, or how much principled you are.

Express your feelings of empathy, love, and care without expecting reciprocal actions

Take it as a personal responsibility to make every relationship a better one.

How to develop the right perspective:

Emphasize the presentWhat can you do now that will make you feel good and that will be in tandem with your long term goal?

ConclusionsOur emotions can either lift us up, or create challenges for us in our relationships regardless of our level of intelligence. Unless a conscious choice is made regarding how we will respond before an event occur, it is usually too late to control our emotions at the point when it happens

Quick QuestionsWhat are the different types of emotionsHow can you lead RegretHow do you lead worryWhat is the most dangerous point in an anger cycleHow do you lead anger?

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Choose To Make A DifferencePRINCIPLED!to bePage 10962

I CHOOSE TO BE PRINCIPLEDBehind every noble life there are principles that have fashioned it. - George H. Lorimer 63PRINCIPLESWhat is a principle?

What are corporate principles?

Many organisations are unable to get their staff to comply with stated corporate principles. Why? 64What are principles?What are your principles?

How principled have you sincerely been?

65PRINCIPLES66Being principled may land you in jail, you may lose your job, may earn you a stigma, and like SELMA, lose your life. Thats finebut, the COURSE OF A PRINCIPLED MAN, WILL ALWAYS WIN, WITH HIM, or after HE IS LONG GONE. PJI CHOOSE TO BE PRINCIPLED Discuss Awolowos code of personal discipline and its possible objectives

What are your code of personal discipline and how does it impact positively to make a difference?

67I CHOOSE TO BE PRINCIPLEDAdvantages of being principled

You become credibleYou get away with being yourselfYou have better healthInspiring visionDeterminationContentmentWill powerOthers68

Case StudiesI CHOOSE TO BE PRINCIPLEDSeven Critical Principles:IntegrityDisciplineForgivenessHumilityCourageEmpathyPersistence

70I CHOOSE TO71BE AN EXCELLENTSTEWARDI Choose to be an excellent stewardHappiness is not in the possession of money ; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort. The joy and moral stimulation of work no longer must be forgotten in the mad chase of evanescent profits. These dark days will be worth all they cost us if they teach us that our true destiny is not to be ministered unto, but to minister to ourselves and to our fellow men - Franklin D. Roosevelt72What is stewardship?It is an ethic that embodies the responsible planning and management of resources.Resources include: Time, Money, Physiological state, talents

73When we have the mentality of the owner we become selfishCATEGORIES OF STEWARDSHIP Stewardship of timeStewardship of the physiological stateStewardship of moneyStewardship of talents

74The four major categories of Stewardship

Stewardship of Time757576You can always create time to anything that is important to you.Here are some questions you can ask that will help you reassess how you should manage and priorities the use of your time:What are my priorities and purpose in life?Is the use of my time consistent with my purpose and priorities?How can I create time for the things that support my purposeWhat is the one thing that can change my life and those of others if I devote time to itWhat should I stop doing if I choose to make a difference?

7780/20 PrincipleThe followings should be included in the 20%RenewalReflectionRecuperationHow long do you have before retirement?`

78ReflectionsYou can manage time but not money, time is lifeYou are never limited by time, but by the choices you make within time availableCreate time for important issues.Learn to work with Live LinesBe more disciplined about punctualityAvoid distraction from technologyTiming: there is time for everythingShort as life is, we make it still shorter - Victor Hugo

7980Attention Deficient Trait (ADT)DistractionsInner Frenzy (agitation)Impatience

Stewardship of physiological stateWhat are the things we do that can affect our physiological state?81

Food: The health of the body is to be regarded as essentially for growth in grace and the acquirement of an even temper. If the stomach is not properly cared for, the formation of an upright, moral character will be hindered. The brain and the nerves are in sympathy with the stomach. Erroneous eating and drinking, results in erroneous thinking and acting E.G WhiteRest: why should you rest?Temperance: self management moderation Recreation: rejuvenates the mindExercise: you can exercise on the job

82Stewardship of physiological state10 THINGS TO CONSIDERStewardship of physiological stateKnowledge: get knowledge, life becomes easierSkillsPerceptions: negative perception on the job, saps mental energy.Relationship: ability to share burden with others will demand on your people skills. The benefit is a reduced load on the mind.SpiritualityMentoring

8310 THINGS TO CONSIDERStewardship of Money

84Stewardship of moneyMoney CAN be used to achieve something else! (means to an end).The moment you are able to overcome money matters in relationships, the easier it is to relate to people and make a difference.85

Stewardship of moneyFacts about Money86It causes tensionFrictionHostilityRudenessImpatience and distrust in many calm and sane situationDeathDefenseSolution

Stewardship of money87It is not about having money before you can make a difference, but, its about, making a difference whether or not there is money

TeaserWhich of the following options would you select?

VERY GOOD NAME minus MONEYABUNDANT MONEY minus GOOD NAMEVERY GOOD NAME plus AVERAGE AMOUNT OF MONEYVERY GOOD NAME plus ABUNDANT MONEY?88

Stewardship of Talents89At creation, certain things were deposited inside of you to make you a success on planet earth. There is something inside that is able to answer the questions of life. There is a treasure in your nature that is able to terminate all your pressures in life. Until you know it, your struggle continues. The treasure is what I call talent Dr. David Oyedepo90STEWARDSHIP OF YOUR TALENTYour uniqueness should be used in making a difference in different undertakingsGifts are divine endowment fulfil a purpose.

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STEWARDSHIP OF YOUR TALENT92Don and Katie Fortune categorizes gifts into seven categoriesPerceiver - clearly perceives Gods willServer loves to serve othersTeacher loves to research and communicate the truthExhorter loves to encourage others to live a victorious lifeGiver Loves to give time, talent, energy and means to benefit othersAdministrator loves to organize lead or directCompassionate person show compassion, love and care for those in needSTEWARDSHIP OF YOUR TALENTIt is the identification and the good use of your gift, that makes the difference.Help others discover and improve on their gift93

Analysis of personal managementPlease refer to page 34 of your workbook94Reflection questionsDo an analysis of the number of years you have left for work. What activities should you emphasise and which ones should you de-emphasise?95STEWARDSHIPLIST ACTION PLAN (Workbook Page 36)96Questions and Comments

EMPATHYSELF AWARENESSPERSONAL COMPETENCESOCIAL COMPETENCE

Political AwarenessLeverage diversityUnderstanding othersService orientationDeveloping othersOptimismSelf ConfidenceEmotional Self awarenessAccurate self assessment

SOCIAL SKILLSSELF MANAGEMENT

Self ControlConscientiousnessAdaptabilityTrustworthinessInnovation

InfluenceCommunicationConflict managementLeadershipChange catalystBuilding bondsCollaboration and cooperationTeam capabilities

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SELF MOTIVATION

Achievement DriveCommitment InitiativeOptimism