© Copyright 2010 Fireproof Ministries In the “Mood” for Porn Jake Larson Teaching Pastor, Arcade Church, Sacramento, CA Chapter 9
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In the “Mood” for
Porn
Jake Larson Teaching Pastor, Arcade Church, Sacramento, CA
Chapter 9
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I. What are Moods?
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I. What are Moods?
– Starbucks
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I. What are Moods?
– Starbucks– What are moods ?
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I. What are Moods?
– Starbucks– What are moods ? – This internal alarm…– The “Starbucks” mood
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I. What are Moods?
– Starbucks– What are moods ? – This internal alarm…– The “Starbucks” mood– Seems to be only one response
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I. What are moods?
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I. What are moods?
– They are triggers – internal ones that move us to do something
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I. What are moods?
– They are triggers – internal ones that move us to do something
– Moods often times trigger us to do something we don’t want to do
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I. What are moods?
– They are triggers – internal ones that move us to do something
– Moods often times trigger us to do something we don’t want to do
– A “TRIGGER” is something that takes you from one thing to another
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I. What are moods?
– They are triggers – internal ones that move us to do something
– Moods often times trigger us to do something we don’t want to do
– A “TRIGGER” is something that takes you from one thing to another
– Things are normal one minute, then the next, you are not doing well
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II. What moods trigger you?
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II. What moods trigger you?
– Stress / papers / too much to do
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II. What moods trigger you?
– Stress / papers / too much to do– Sometimes a mood is created by a
pattern of behavior – like your “weekend routine” drink, sex, etc.
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II. What moods trigger you?
– Stress / papers / too much to do– Sometimes a mood is created by a
pattern of behavior – like your “weekend routine” drink, sex, etc.
– You most likely are not “in the mood for pornography” every moment of every day
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II. What moods trigger you?
– Stress / papers / too much to do– Sometimes a mood is created by a
pattern of behavior – like your “weekend routine” drink, sex, etc.
– You most likely are not “in the mood for pornography” every moment of every day
– The goal is to be able to identify them
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III. Why do moods trigger us?
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III. Why do moods trigger us?
– To pursue Godliness is to pursue adversity.
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III. Why do moods trigger us?
– To pursue Godliness is to pursue adversity.
– Ephesians 6:16
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III. Why do moods trigger us?
– To pursue Godliness is to pursue adversity.
– Ephesians 6:16– You are in a battle!
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III. Why do moods trigger us?
– To pursue Godliness is to pursue adversity.
– Ephesians 6:16– You are in a battle!
Moods affect your RESPONSE to temptation!
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IV. Cycle of temptation
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IV. Cycle of temptation
– Stimulation
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IV. Cycle of temptation
– Stimulation– Entertainment
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IV. Cycle of temptation
– Stimulation– Entertainment– Action
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IV. Cycle of temptation
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IV. Cycle of temptation
1. STIMULATION:– The first look
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IV. Cycle of temptation
1. STIMULATION:– The first look– The thought of sitting down and what you
could do online
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IV. Cycle of temptation
1. STIMULATION:– The first look– The thought of sitting down and what you
could do online– Going in the door at your girlfriends--then
shutting the door behind you
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IV. Cycle of temptation
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IV. Cycle of temptation
2. ENTERTAINMENT:– I might be interested
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IV. Cycle of temptation
2. ENTERTAINMENT:– I might be interested– Letting the thought in
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IV. Cycle of temptation
2. ENTERTAINMENT:– I might be interested– Letting the thought in– You have “opened the door” for the salesman
and are now talking to him
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IV. Cycle of temptation
2. ENTERTAINMENT:– I might be interested– Letting the thought in– You have “opened the door” for the salesman
and are now talking to him– Entertaining the idea can create a kind of “porn
fog” – where you are in this mental state where you don’t think straight
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IV. Cycle of temptation
2. ENTERTAINMENT:– I might be interested– Letting the thought in– You have “opened the door” for the salesman
and are now talking to him– Entertaining the idea can create a kind of “porn
fog” – where you are in this mental state where you don’t think straight
– You begin to do things you never thought you would do – cross boundaries you never thought you would cross
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IV. Cycle of temptation
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IV. Cycle of temptation
3. ACTION:– Relapse
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IV. Cycle of temptation
3. ACTION:– Relapse– Acting on the temptation
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IV. Cycle of temptation
3. ACTION:– Relapse– Acting on the temptation– Using pornography – or doing something else
that is against your sobriety statement
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IV. Cycle of temptation
3. ACTION:– Relapse– Acting on the temptation– Using pornography – or doing something else
that is against your sobriety statement
I understand. I know what this is like. BUT I KNOW THAT I WAS NOT DESIGNED FOR THIS.
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IV. Cycle of temptation
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IV. Cycle of temptation
Summary:• God designed “stimulation” –
“entertainment” – “action”
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IV. Cycle of temptation
Summary:• God designed “stimulation” –
“entertainment” – “action”• But it was designed to take place inside
a marriage relationship
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IV. Cycle of temptation
Summary:• God designed “stimulation” –
“entertainment” – “action”• But it was designed to take place inside
a marriage relationship• Don’t be tricked into thinking that it
doesn’t matter who or what is at the “end” of the cycle
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V. Do Something
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V. Do Something
– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep falling into the same temptations
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V. Do Something
– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep falling into the same temptations
– Deciding in advance that you are not going to put yourself in situations that cause you to go through this cycle
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V. Do Something
– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep falling into the same temptations
– Deciding in advance that you are not going to put yourself in situations that cause you to go through this cycle
– But don’t set boundaries that are just about “not looking at porn”
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V. Do Something
– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep falling into the same temptations
– Deciding in advance that you are not going to put yourself in situations that cause you to go through this cycle
– But don’t set boundaries that are just about “not looking at porn”
• Don’t go “searching” – feeling your way around the “edges” of the porn
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V. Do Something
– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep falling into the same temptations
– Deciding in advance that you are not going to put yourself in situations that cause you to go through this cycle
– But don’t set boundaries that are just about “not looking at porn”
• Don’t go “searching” – feeling your way around the “edges” of the porn
• Example, “I can look at Maxim, but not Hustler”
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V. Do Something
– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep falling into the same temptations
– Deciding in advance that you are not going to put yourself in situations that cause you to go through this cycle
– But don’t set boundaries that are just about “not looking at porn”
• Don’t go “searching” – feeling your way around the “edges” of the porn
• Example, “I can look at Maxim, but not Hustler”
– Set boundaries that are more about what you will do – PURSUE GOD
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Just a little porn is not OK
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