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Applying The Three Keys to Change by Alan Deutschman Francis Madojemu

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The Iron Lady Margaret Thatcher

“It used to be about trying to

do something, now is about trying to be someone.”

CHANGE OR DIE.

What if you were given that choice?

Were talking actual life and death now.

Your own life and death.

CHANGE OR DIE.

What if a well-informed, trusted

authority figure said you had to make

difficult and enduring changes

in the way you think, feel, and act?

CHANGE OR DIE.

If you didn't, your time would end soon—a lot sooner than it had to.

Could you change when

change mattered most?

CHANGE OR DIE.

This is the question Alan Deutschman

poses in Change or Die, which

began as a sensational cover

story by the same title for Fast Company

CHANGE OR DIE.

Deutschman concludes that although we all

have the ability to change our

behavior, we rarely ever do.

CHANGE OR DIE.

In fact, the odds are nine to

one that, when faced with the dire need

to change, we wont.

Alan Deutschman

"From patients suffering from heart disease to repeat offenders in the criminal justice system to companies trapped in the mold of unsuccessful

business practices, many of us could prevent ominous outcomes by simply changing our mindset."

Alan Deutschman

A powerful book with universal appeal, Change or Die deconstructs and debunks age-old

myths about change and empowers us with three critical keys—relate, repeat, and reframe—to help us

make important positive changes in our lives.

Alan Deutschman

My mission is to replace those three

misconceptions about change—our trust in facts, fear, and force (the three Fs)—with

what I call “the three keys to change.”

Facts

We like to think that the facts can convince people

to change.

We like to think that people are essentially “rational”—that is, they’ll act in their self-interest if they have accurate

information.

Facts

We believe that “knowledge is

power” and that “the truth will set

you free.”

( it's not the truth that sets you free it's the the truth you know and act on or do, that makes you free. Look at Scripture)

What Does Scripture Say?

John 8:31-32 (KJV)

Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then

are ye my disciples indeed; 32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall

make you free.

Fear

After we try “rationally”

informing and educating people, we resort to scare tactics.

Fear

We like to think that change is motivated by fear and that the strongest force for change is

crisis, which creates

the greatest fear

RARE EWE FETISH BROOM

Fear is limited.

Young Hungry Boys

Fear of Sweeping all night long

Discovered not to be so

Now fear no more works on them.

Force

Finally, we often believe that people can’t

change or that they “resist”

change We think that this is

simply human nature.

Force

Our most distinguished

experts think that it’s naive and

hopeless to expect the vast majority of people to change.

Force

So we give up or resort to force which leads to

rebellion Those who try to force

changes on their Children discover this and with

Armed robbers

Alan Deutschman

Change doesn’t involve just “selling”; it requires

“training.”

Deutschman calls these keys the "Three Rs":

Relate (i.e. "Your form a new, emotional

relationship with a person or community

that inspires and sustains hope"),

Greatest Motivation for Change

We are not changing today because we have lost Hope in God and in

ourselves.

Our greatest need now is


Hebrews 12:2 (KJV)

Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down

at the right hand of the throne of God.


Proverbs 13:12 (KJV)

Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the

desire cometh, it is a tree of life.

We Have Lost Hope

The country is so corrupt that helping our

fellow man is not enough motivation but we must remind them

of judgement.

Judgement not for sin but did you fulfill your

purpose

We Have Lost Hope

What did you do with the life I gave you?

There are adulterers who fulfilled purpose like David and non adulterers who did

not like Saul

Connection Between Hope & Vision

Genesis 15:2-3 (KJV)

And Abram said, Lord God, what wilt thou give me, seeing I go

childless, and the steward of my house is this Eliezer of Damascus?



3 And Abram said, Behold, to me thou hast given no

seed:and, lo, one born in my house is mine heir.



And, behold, the word of the Lord came unto him, saying, This shall not be thine heir; but he that shall come

forth out of thine own bowels shall be thine heir.



5 And he brought him forth abroad, and said, Look now toward heaven, and

tell the stars, if thou be able to number them:and he said unto

him, So shall thy seed be.

What's Your Hope?

A vision gives or empowers you

with energy

You need a vision of your

future

What's Your Hope?

What makes you get up in the morning

It's the purpose of the marriage that gives you hope not the

marriage

The Importance of Vision

Proverbs 29:18 (KJV)

Where there is no vision, the

people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.

The Importance of Vision

Proverbs 29:18 (NIV)

Where there is no revelation, the people cast off restraint; but blessed is he who keeps the law.

Without Vision People Cast Off Restraint

Openly Stealing Since there no

hope to get money legitimately

If all all you see is hopelessness then

you give up.

Without Vision People Cast Off Restraint

If we don't reconnect with our

purpose and hope.

We would simply return to being

mere men!

Hope is The Anchor of Our Soul

Hebrews 6:19-20 KJV

(19) Which hope we have as an anchor of the soul, both sure and steadfast, and

which entereth into that within the veil; (20) Whither the forerunner is for us entered, even Jesus, made an high priest for ever

after the order of Melchisedec.

Hope Lost

Luke 24:19-21 KJV

(19) And he said unto them, What things? And they said unto him,

Concerning Jesus of Nazareth, which was a prophet mighty in deed and word before

God and all the people:

Hope Lost

Luke 24:19-21 KJV

(20) And how the chief priests and our rulers delivered him to be condemned to death, and have

crucified him. (21) But we trusted that it had been he which should have

redeemed Israel: and beside all this, to day is the third day since these things were done.

What Did Peter Do?

John 21:1-2 (AMP)

AFTER THIS, Jesus let Himself be seen and revealed [Himself] again to the disciples, at the

Sea of Tiberias. And He did it in this way: 2 There were together Simon Peter, and Thomas, called

the Twin, and Nathanael from Cana of Galilee, also the sons of Zebedee, and two others of His

disciples.

What Did Peter Do?

John 21:3 (AMP)

Simon Peter said to them, I am going fishing! They said to him, And we are coming with you! So they went out

and got into the boat, and throughout that night they caught nothing.

Jesus Restores Peter

John 21:17 (AMP)

He said to him the third time, Simon, son of John, do you love Me [with a deep, instinctive, personal affection for Me, as for a close friend]?

Peter was grieved (was saddened and hurt) that He should ask him the third time, Do you love

Me?

Jesus Restores Peter

John 21:17 (AMP)

And he said to Him, Lord, You know everything; You know that I love You [that I have a deep, instinctive, personal affection

for You, as for a close friend].

Jesus said to him, Feed My sheep.

2nd of Deutschman's "Three Rs":

Repeat (i.e. "The new

relationship helps you learn, practice, and master the new

habits and skills that you need"),

2. Stay in the community of hope builders

That's why you join a church

Attend weekly services

Join in Prayer Meetings

Everything your learn would be challenged

after here

2. Stay in the community of hope builders

Hebrews 10:24-25 (KJV)

And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:25 Not

forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one

another:and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.

3rd of Deutschman's "Three Rs":

Reframe

(i.e. "The new relationship helps

you learn new ways of thinking about your situation and

your life").

Change Your Thinking

These are the three keys to change:

relate, repeat, and reframe.

New hope, new skills, and new thinking


“Problems cannot be

solved by the same level of thinking that

created them.” Albert Einstein


Romans 12:1-2 (KJV)

1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present

your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your

reasonable service.


Romans 12:1-2 (KJV)

2 And be not conformed to this world:but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may

prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.


Romans 12:2 (NLT)

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for

you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

Pray

It's to help you overcome the

barriers

Without hope I won't change

It drives me to change

Jeremiah 29:11

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm

you, plans to give you hope and a future."

1 Thessalonians 5:8-11

But since we belong to the day, let us

be self-controlled, putting on faith and love as a

breastplate, and the hope of salvation as a helmet.

1 Thessalonians 5:8-11

For God did not appoint us to suffer wrath but to receive salvation through our Lord

Jesus Christ. He died for us so that whether we are awake or asleep, we may live

together with him. Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.

Romans 15:4

For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that

through endurance and the encouragement of the

Scriptures we might have hope.

1 Corinthians 13:13 (NKJV)

And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these

is love.

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