SECTION I UNDERSTANDING CARE GROUP MINISTRY A BIBLICAL BASIS FOR CARE GROUP MINISTRY Our basis for Care Groups is found in the word of God. The Bible, especially in the book of Acts provides the perfect model for groups meeting together. The word of God also shows the impor- tance of loving each other, caring for and looking out for the interest of each other. Accordingly, this will result in many people being saved. The following scriptures give the basis for New Di- mensions Care Group Ministry. 1. Our God is a God of relationship - Genesis 1:26; 2:18 2. Moses and small groups - Exodus 18:13-26 3. The Jesus model - Mark 3:14 4. The early church model - Acts 2:41-47 5. Peter at Cornelius house - Acts 10:22-48 6. Mary’s house - Acts 12:12 7. The churches at Philippi - Acts 16:30-34; Acts 16:15, 40 8. The 20/20 model - Acts 20:20
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SECTION I
UNDERSTANDING CARE GROUP MINISTRY
A BIBLICAL BASIS FOR CARE GROUP MINISTRY
Our basis for Care Groups is found in the word of God. The Bible, especially in the book of Acts
provides the perfect model for groups meeting together. The word of God also shows the impor-
tance of loving each other, caring for and looking out for the interest of each other. Accordingly,
this will result in many people being saved. The following scriptures give the basis for New Di-
mensions Care Group Ministry.
1. Our God is a God of relationship - Genesis 1:26; 2:18
2. Moses and small groups - Exodus 18:13-26
3. The Jesus model - Mark 3:14
4. The early church model - Acts 2:41-47
5. Peter at Cornelius house - Acts 10:22-48
6. Mary’s house - Acts 12:12
7. The churches at Philippi - Acts 16:30-34; Acts 16:15, 40
8. The 20/20 model - Acts 20:20
9. Paul’s house - Acts 28:30-31
10. Churches in homes - Romans 16:3-11
11. Church history According to church history, the first church building was built around
323 A.D. by Constantine. Before that, churches met in homes.
12. Modern day example The original modern pioneer of the care ministry is Dr. David
Yongi Cho in Seoul, Korea. He was the first leader to take the biblical principles and
build a large church. His method is based on the Jethro model of multiplication.
VISION FOR NDM CARE GROUP MINISTRY
The vision of New Dimensions Care Group Ministry is based on Acts 2:42-47 and Acts; 20:20
which say:
Acts 2:42-47 NIV - They devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and to the fellowship, to
the breaking of bread and to prayer. 43 Everyone was filled with awe, and many wonders and
miraculous signs were done by the apostles. 44 All the believers were together and had every-
thing in common. 45 Selling their possessions and goods, they gave to anyone as he had need. 46
Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes
and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, 47 praising God and enjoying the favour of all the
people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.
Acts 20:20 NIV - You know that I have not hesitated to preach anything that would be helpful to
you but have taught you publicly and from house to house.
The vision of New Dimensions Care Group Ministry is as follows:
1. To care for, edify and minister to every partner of New Dimensions Ministries.
2. To include, if they so desire to be involved, those who regularly attend services at NDM, but
are not partners.
3. To disciple every new believer under our care.
4. To evangelize unsaved family members, friends and neighbours.
5. To reach out to those who visit New Dimensions.
6. To meet for fellowship and discussing the Word of God.
7. To conduct different styles of care group meetings: prayer, prayer walks, fellowship, bible
discussions, for the purpose of group participation and development.
8. To care for all those in our group, even if they don’t attend Care Group meeting
9. Where possible, each group may have the same theme on care group night.
10. To encourage the use of the gifts of the Spirit in Care Group to minister to each other.
TEN SCRIPTURAL VALUES FOR CARE GROUPS
Core ValuesThe core values in our lives determine what we really believe. Unless these values
are based on the scriptures, we find ourselves just trying another good idea. These ten scriptural
values of the New Dimensions Care Ministry give us a foundation for having small groups in any
church. Any organization's values openly declare how it expects everyone to behave and are of-
ten embedded in its vision. Therefore as a church, our values are biblically bases. Values come
from vision and values form the basis for culture. The culture of an organization is its corpo-
rate personality a living blend of values, traditions, norms and experiences that produce an ill-
defined code of behaviour that is often referred to as unwritten rules.
There are three types of churches that Holy Spirit is using mightily today:
Real teamwork requires commitment. When team mates cant make it you carry them the rest of
the way for the sake of the team.
Level Type of Team mate Description
Green Beret Colonel Committed Team Leader Dedicated to the cause; focused on the
big picture. Has a whatever-it-takes atti-
tude.
First Lieutenant Team Achiever Buys into the spirit and culture of the or-
ganization. Is self-motivated and produc-
tive.
OCS Graduates Genuine Team Player Has a passion and enthusiasm. Arrives
early and stays late. Is not yet a proven
leader.
Private Formal Team Member Enjoys being on the team. Wants to stay.
Serves out of duty. Not yet a high
achiever.
Boot Camp Recruit Begrudging Follower Will work but only with a kick in the seat
of the pants.
Deserter Non-follower Wont do anything. Needs to be court-
martialled.
Sniper Dangerous follower Works, but makes life difficult for team.
Will shoot team mates if given the
chance.
Teamwork: Communication
Only with good communication can a team succeed. It doesn’t matter whether that team
is a family, a company or a ministry. Effective teams have team mates who are con-
stantly talking to one another. Communication increases commitment and a connection
which in turn fuels action. If you want your team to perform at the highest level, the
people on it need to be able to talk to and listen to each other.
Communication Matters
If you lead a team, give yourself these standards to live by as you communicate to your people.
Be consistent: Nothing frustrates team members more than leaders who cant make up their
minds. Leaders must be effective in their communication
Be Clear: Your team cannot execute if the members don’t know what you want. Don’t try to
dazzle anyone with how much you know or try to impress people with your straightforwardness
Be Courteous: Everyone deserves to be shown respect, no matter what the position or what kind
of differences you might have with them. By being courteous to your people, you set the tone
for the entire team.
Never forget - Because you are a leader, your communication sets the tone for the interaction
among your people. Teams always reflect their leaders. Never forget that good communication
is never one-way. The best leaders listen, invite and then encourage participation.
Good team leaders never want yes-men. They want direct and honest communication from their
people. In addition to directness, the other quality team members need to display when commu-
nicating with leaders is respect.
A team is a group of people with complementary skills, who are committed to a common pur-
pose for which they hold themselves mutually responsible.
Create a Safe Environment
The most important thing you can do as a member of any team, is to create a safe environment -
an environment where differences are valued and celebrated, where it is okay to have personal
goals and ambitions, to tell the truth or to be yourself.
INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
A working definition of interpersonal relationships: verbal and non-verbal interactions between
two or more persons.
God has without a doubt spoken to us in His Word about the importance of healthy interpersonal
relationships (interpersonal relationships can also be unhealthy).
The foundation of interpersonal relationships is communication. Good communication produces
good interpersonal relationships; and bad or mis-communication produces bad interpersonal rela-
tionships.
Over 90% of all failed relationships result from lack of good and honest communication.
Hebrews 10:24-25 - And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good
deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encour-
age one another-and all the more as you see the Day approaching.
Dealing with interpersonal relationships is a complex subject that is often given inadequate atten-
tion. Each individual in a group has a particular and unique personality style that has been
shaped by the lifetime of their experience. There are the talkative in your face types, quiet folk,
expressive types, analytical types, reserved, shy, reactive and many others. After you have been
working together for awhile, an attentive person with training will recognize members personali-
ties and styles and then use that understanding to help the group function well. However, at times
there will be conflicts and the elements of group dynamics and personality style need to be taken
into account by the group leader.
The first step for you as the leader is - Getting to know yourself.
It is important to make, even at a surface level, some determination about yourself and how you
are likely to affect the group dynamic. Ask yourself:
1. Do I talk a lot, or very little?
2. Am I confident about myself and about my ideas?
3. Do I listen to others well, or am I impatient when having to listen to others?
4. Am I empathetic to others or do I care mostly about getting the task done?
5. When others speak, am I listening to what they say, or thinking about what I am going to
say?
6. Am I quick to anger?
7. Am I defensive or accepting when someone talks about my behaviour?
8. Do I ramble or am I a bulleted list sort of person?
9. What makes me annoyed?
10. What makes me feel good?
As you define yourself as a member of the group, you will find your strengths and weaknesses.
A good exercise in creating healthy relationships in your group is to share how you perceive
yourself.
The next step is - Getting to know each other
Getting to know one another is not a fast process and the more the group changes and the larger
it becomes, the longer it takes. It is hard to trust strangers; healthy relationships demand a great
deal of trust. Many groups neglect this, assuming that the "business" is more important than their
relationships. But we really need to get pass the superficial in order to have meaningful interac-
tion. Encourage the group to share stories of where you grew up, important turning points
in your life, and people that you admire, etc. Spend time talking and learning about one another.
There is so much in the Bible that speaks to the importance of good and healthy relationships. As
children of God or Kingdom people, we are held to a much higher standard than the world. This
certainly is true when it comes to interpersonal relationships.
Matthew 22:35-39 - One of them, an expert in the law, tested him with this question "Teacher,
which is the greatest commandment in the Law?" Jesus replied: "'Love the Lord your God with
all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest com-
mandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbour as yourself.'
John 13:34-35 - "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you
must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one an-
other."
John 17:20-21 "My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me
through their message, that all of them may be one
Romans 12:3-5 - For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself
more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with
the measure of faith God has given you. Just as each of us has one body with many members,
and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we who are many form one
body, and each member belongs to all the others.
Romans 12:10 - Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honour one another above your-
selves.
Galatians 6:1-2 - Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore
him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other's burdens, and in
this way you will fulfil the law of Christ.
So with all the Biblical instructions pointing us to healthy relationships, why then does it seem
like such a challenge for us to live in unity? Most people are afraid of conflict, but conflict is a
natural part of all relationships. So we need to learn how to manage conflict.
Working with Personality Style Conflicts
One of the most common sources of conflict in groups is the friction between the doers and the
talkers. This dichotomy between task and process is very common and is often a source of con-
flict and frustration in a group.
A healthy group has a balance between task and process. Think of task and process like the
wings of a bird. If one wing is shorter than the other, the bird flies around in circles. If there is
mostly task and little process, the friction between people will erupt into communication prob-
lems and the resulting conflicts keep tasks from moving forward. Conversely, too much process,
and everybody spends much of their time in feelings meetings and the tasks that need to be done
suffer. However, when task and process are balanced, both wings are working at maximum effi-
ciency to carry the group in the direction it wants to go. You need process to determine the direc-
tion to go and how to work together; you need task orientation to accomplish all the projects you
need to do.
Often the conflicts that arise from process and task come from personality styles. Personality
style characterizes how we approach group work, and it usually does affect our attitudes about
the other people we work with.
The Task-oriented vs. the Process-oriented Person
A task-oriented person is one who derives great pleasure in getting results. They create priori-
tized, bulleted to do lists and then check off items accomplished. They are often fact and results
driven, and want the bottom line clearly defined. They often want details organized, and they
tend to know exactly where things are. So conversely, they are uncomfortable with ambiguity
and get annoyed by discussions that are not related to tasks at hand. They have little patience for
digressions. In extreme cases, if you ask them how they feel about an issue, they will minimize
it, and be annoyed by the fact that you asked them for their feelings not the facts.
A process-oriented person is one who gets pleasure from working with people. They want to
make people feel good about what is happening, and they see the world in terms of relationships.
They tend not to be interested so much in facts as the consequences of the facts, and may also be
disorganized, easily losing place of the current discussion thread. They may care more about get-
ting out peoples feelings than worrying about details or results. They tend to be very comfortable
with ambiguity and tend to get annoyed by bulleted prioritized task lists and serial sequencing. If
you ask them for the facts, they tend to want to move into relationships and concepts instead and
may become annoyed that you asked them for the facts rather than their feelings.
Both the descriptions above are huge oversimplifications of the enormously complex arena of
personality types, but it illustrates the differences and sets up the idea that both styles look at
group endeavours with very different perspectives. However, it is important to note that both per-
spectives are equally valid.
The key element to understand is that neither the task nor process-orientated person is right; they
are simply differences in orientation to working in the group. Both styles (and all the others that
exist) need to be recognized, celebrated and then worked with as the group dynamic unfolds.
Ideally, your group has a good mixture of styles, and although this may seem chaotic, it is actu-
ally a very good thing, much better than if you were all one style or another. Both task and proc-
ess styles really do benefit the group as long as you learn to respect each others strengths.
Recognizing your personality style and the needs and limitations it places you under, is a key
step in understanding how to work with a group. Both task and process styles have important
contributions to make and you have to be patient and recognize the value of styles that are differ-
ent from yours. You will be annoyed with your style opposite sometimes, so use that annoyance
constructively to make changes in the process that benefit the group.
If you are a task-oriented person, you can help the group get organized and working on results.
Your skills at seeing the bottom line can help the group when you summarize information, add
facts, or urge the group towards concrete proposals.
If you are a process-oriented person you offer the skills of building relationships and understand-
ings so that proposals can be made that get accepted and implemented with a high degree of
spirit. You can work to keep the morale of the group high by offering personal support and ac-
knowledgment of peoples work.
Over time, most experienced and successful groups learn to balance the task and process parts of
their activities so each works to complement the other. As meeting skills grow in the group, the
facilitator can capture emotional issues that get raised as part of a task agenda and skillfully roll
them into the task processing so the end result is the optimum for everyone. When you can bal-
ance both the task wing and the process wing so they work together, your group will fly as high
as it can go.
Sharing Feelings
There can be undercurrents of bad feelings that aren’t recognized and therefore not discussed.
One technique that can bring this out is to do a feeling circle, in which everyone in the group ex-
presses how they are feeling.
For this to work some ground rules are needed:
1. Only one person speaks at a time around the circle.
2. No defensive reactions are allowed in the circle.
3. Start your contribution to the circle with "I".
The goal of the feelings circle should be written down and placed where everyone can see them.
Some sample goals:
I am here to learn about my brothers and sisters in Christ and also about myself.
I will listen carefully with an open heart to what others have to say about me.
I will speak for myself only, and speak the truth as I see it.
Active Listening
Active listening is a skill which enhances communication and therefore relationships. In active
listening you listen carefully, then paraphrase back what you heard, with the goal of supporting
and drawing out the feelings of the speaker. When this is done well it validates a persons feelings
and encourages him or her to fully communicate. The goal of active listening is to help clarify
the feelings and thinking behind the words. When active listening is applied, it creates a suppor-
tive bond between the speaker and the listener. Because there is no threat of criticism or judg-
ment, the speaker is encouraged to express feelings honestly.
The important thing about active listening is that it is not intended to change or alter the feelings
of the speaker, only to support them in expressing their feelings. When you try and advise or
change the message the speaker gives, it forces them to defend themselves, which often causes
further denial of the feelings and experiences. When the listener responds by trying to change the
speakers way of looking at things, to see the situation from the listeners perspective, the listener
is trying to divert the communication down the path to meet their own needs, not the speakers.
In effective active listening, the goal is to convey back to the speaker that we are seeing things
from his or her viewpoint. The listener must look for and respond to feelings. Not all of a mes-
sage is in the words, so non-verbal clues can help the listener be aware of the speakers feelings.
Talking about others when they are not present
When people get into conflicts with each other, one of the fine arts of conflict is to win over oth-
ers to your side of the issue. The way this works is that when A and B have a conflict, B talks to
C and tells C lots of negative things about A. The goal of this type of speaking (sharing) is to de-
grade the person not present. This kind of malicious gossip can occur very easily and spontane-
ously, you may not even realize that it has been done until you analyze why you feel a certain
way towards someone, or how you ever got such a wrong notion about someone. Malicious con-
versation is dysfunctional behaviour and is one of the worse things that can happen in a group.
Malicious gossip and character assassination undermine relationships in a huge way. They poison
peoples perspectives of each other, fill voids of understanding with misinformation and deceit,
and create an atmosphere of distrust, disrespect and paranoia. That is why God looks very
harshly on this kind of behaviour. (Proverbs 6:19)
To help your own understanding of people and their conflicts, sometimes you need to get and
share information about people who are not present. This is healthy and normal and there is an
easy test to distinguish between what is healthy and helpful and what is unhealthy and destruc-
tive. It's the invisible person test. When the topic of someone who is not present comes up,
imagine that the person of whom you are speaking or hearing about is standing behind you. If
what you say, or hear would make that person hurt, defensive, or unhappy, as well as make you
feel uneasy, you are engaged in an unhealthy conversation. Remember, people who gossip to
you, in turn, will gossip about you.
Managing Conflicts
Conflicts and mis-communications occur. They are part of life. Not everyone thinks, acts or re-
sponds in the same way and members come under stress at different times that causes differences
in tolerance and patience. Not everyone has the same level of commitment, honesty, or even in-
tegrity. It is important to define a process that resolves problems and encourages members to talk
about the issues under conflict in a controlled and reasonable way, even if those issues are in-
tensely personal. Many people are conditioned to avoid conflict at any cost, because they see
conflict as being bad, or an indication of some failure. Overcoming this tendency to avoid con-
flict is difficult, thats why conflict resolution training is important.
Conflict is NOT a sin! However poor management or handling of conflict can lead to sin.
Conflict is healthy and a normal part of any human relationship. One of the most important ele-
ments of all successful groups is a clearly defined process for dealing with conflicts. Sometimes
conflicts can't be resolved and must simply be respectfully accepted as differences.
An example of properly managed conflict, Paul and Barnabas - Acts 15:36-41
Some time later Paul said to Barnabas, "Let us go back and visit the brothers in all the towns
where we preached the word of the Lord and see how they are doing." Barnabas wanted to take
John, also called Mark, with them, but Paul did not think it wise to take him, because he had de-
serted them in Pamphylia and had not continued with them in the work. They had such a sharp
disagreement that they parted company. Barnabas took Mark and sailed for Cyprus, but Paul
chose Silas and left, commended by the brothers to the grace of the Lord. He went through Syria
and Cilicia, strengthening the churches.
An example of poorly managed conflict which led to sin, Cain and Abel - Genesis 4:3 11.
In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the LORD. 4 But
Abel brought fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock. The LORD looked with favour
on Abel and his offering, but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favour. So Cain was
very angry, and his face was downcast. Then the LORD said to Cain, "Why are you angry? Why
is your face downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do
what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it." Now
Cain said to his brother Abel, "Let's go out to the field." And while they were in the field, Cain
attacked his brother Abel and killed him. Then the LORD said to Cain, "Where is your brother
Abel?" "I don't know," he replied. "Am I my brother's keeper?" The LORD said, "What have you
done? Listen! Your brother's blood cries out to me from the ground. Now you are under a curse
and driven from the ground, which opened its mouth to receive your brother's blood from your
hand.
Sometimes if you ignore conflicts between individuals, you could find these conflicts coming
into meetings as hidden agendas later. Interpersonal conflicts often start out as poor communica-
tion. The more frank and open you are while communicating, the less conflict and less severe
conflict will exist.
Some guidelines for managing conflict:
1. Begin conflict communication with "I" statements that reflect how you feel. The "I am
feeling" statements create a group process where individuals feelings are out front.
2. A very key question in working with conflicts is "why?" Why do you feel so strongly
about this? Why are you shouting? Why do you think that way? Learn to ask for clarification
when an issue becomes a conflict.
3. Determine whether the disagreement is over facts or the respective feelings about the
facts. Ask questions to discover the underlying assumptions, values, and attitudes. Separate
feelings from facts by using the phrases like: "To me", "in my opinion", "it appears to me
4. Don’t make it personal. If you disagree about an idea or concept frame the discussion
around the idea, not the person. Say: "I don't agree with that idea", not, "your idea is stupid".
5. Always focus on reconciliation and problem-solving, and not assignment of blame or in-
timidation.
6. Only speak for yourself and not claim to represent others, either present or absent.
7. Focus on actions and behaviours of others that have been problematic to you, but avoid
making judgments about the motives behind those behaviours.
8. Always describe events, actions and statements as specifically as possible; avoiding gen-
eralizations.
9. Focus on the present and the future rather than on the past, which cannot be changed, but
can be forgiven.
10. Once you expect change from the person(s) with whom there is conflict, be also willing
to make your own changes as well.
SECTION III
LEADING VIBRANT CARE GROUP MEETINGS
THE ROLE OF THE CARE GROUP LEADER
The leaders of the Care Group Ministry act as facilitators and their overall responsibilities are to:
1. Build relationships
2. Provide clear direction to the Care Group
3. Resolve conflicts
4. Reinforce the purpose of the Care Group
5. Cast strong vision for reaching the lost in your community
6. Develop additional people for leadership training
7. Prepare Care Group for new members
8. Activate and encourage every member to be involved in the local church
9. Prepare group for multiplication and changes
10. Don’t do all the work. Encourage others to participate in group sessions and phoning group
members.
STRUCTURE OF CARE GROUP MEETING
This section deals with the structure and agenda of the Care Group meetings. It answers the
questions, how to do it and what to do. If you might remember, the main purpose for Care Group
Ministry is to care for your group members and evangelize the unsaved. This should never be
forgotten. Your group should never remain at the same number. It should always be growing.
When the group has become too big, then the Eldership will decide how to split it. Never allow
your group to become a clique or should you hold on to them as if they are personally yours.
We have designed Care Group meeting so that the sessions will be easy to manage and teach.
Care Group sessions should go for no more than two (2) hours 7:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. or 7:30
p.m. to 9:30 p.m. It should also be noted that if anyone wants to leave before the close of the ses-
sion, they are free to do so. Also, no one should feel pressured to stay beyond the two hours.
Please desist from taking your fellowship all into late hours of the night or early morning. We are
aware that when hearts are knitted together there is strong camaraderie and losing sight of time
may occur. We never want to prevent fellowship, because so many good things happen when fel-
lowship is strong. However, we are asking Care Group leaders to be careful about going over
time.
Care Group sessions are geared to educate, edify, exhort and evangelize and the structure is very
simple - welcome, worship, word, witness and wrap up. The main part of the session is the word.
This is not a teaching or preaching session, but a discussion session on a scripture passage, or
Biblical or relevant topic. The chart on the next page carefully outlines how the agenda and the
activities for each Care Group session should flow.
Care Group leaders are facilitators and the first thing they must do is to choose two assistant
leaders who in association with you will lead the group and assist you in anything relating to
Care Group Ministry.
AGENDA OF A CARE GROUP MEETING
Objectives Activities
Welcome Help newcomers feel at ease and
welcomed.
Help members feel a sense of be-
longing and bonding
Informal - create a conducive environ-
ment for them to gel. e.g. Correct light-
ing, seating, music, etc.
Formal - ice breakers
Worship Glorify God
Encourage one another to see the
greatness of God
Worship
Testimonies (planned and spontaneous)
Word Bring about life change by applying
the Word of God
Cultivate passion for God and pas-
sion for the lost
Sharing
Discussion on the Word (everyone should
be encouraged to participate)
Witness Spur one another on in targeting, in-
terceding and association with the
Lord and community with the pur-
pose of seeing them received Jesus
Christ
Combine our efforts and giftings to
achieve maximum impact
Pray for the unsaved
Encourage and be accountable to one an-
other to do care acts, events and witness
Prayer walking around the community
Minister to the sick and those with needs,
flow in the gifts of the Spirit
Wrap Up Reinforce church and Care Group
vision and direction
Motivate members and help them
embrace their role in the church and
Care Group vision and activities
Fellowship
Announcements
Remind members about sharing at ses-
sions and arrange for group to do practi-
cal activities for the church
Snacks, fun, games, chitchatting
Remember:
1. The sequence of Care Group agenda is flexible. Be creative!
2. However, you should always start with Welcome and end with Wrap Up.
3. It is not necessary to have every agenda item in one meeting for it to be successful and effec-
tive. It all depends on the objective of the meeting.
Two key questions to ask:
1. How do you want your care group to feel?
2. Do they have a sense of purpose?
HOW TO LEAD A GOOD DISCUSSION
Make discussions simple and motivating by using the acronym, L.I.G.H.T
Launch a question
Invite a response
Go on to another person
Handle responses
Take time to apply and envision
Launch a question
1. Questions are keys to life-changing discussions
2. By asking the right questions, the facilitator helps the members to:
Discover for themselves what God is saying to them and the whole care group
Obey and apply what God is saying.
5. It is crucial that the leader learns to ask the right questions
6. It takes time and practice to ask the right questions
7. Never tell when you can ask. Remember, you are leading a discussion, not preaching.
A good question...
generates discussion and feedback
helps you get to know each others world view better. They are designed to discover,
what others think, how others feel and what should they do.
A poor question...
can be answered by a simple yes or no
is phrased such that it will force the member to give you your desired answer
Invite a response
1. Resist the temptation to do all the talking
2. DO NOT teach or preach
3. Remember you are a facilitator, not a teacher
4. Your goal is to get everyone to participate
5. How you treat their responses will either promote or stifle discussion
Go on to another person
1. Do NOT let any one person dominate the meeting
2. You need to involve everyone in the discussion
Handle the responses
1. Help to clarify by asking questions, e.g.
What do you mean by...?
Could you elaborate...?
Is this what you mean...?
2. Handling difficult questions
If you do not know the answer, do not try to hide your ignorance. When we are hon-
est, we are more credible.
You could come back with the answer the following week, or you could assign some-
one to find out.
3. Handling wrong answers
Never tell anyone that he is wrong
Acknowledge his answer and solicit another answer by saying something like, That
was a good attempt...how about Mary...what do you think?
4. Handling irrelevant questions and getting back on track
Acknowledge the question and redirect the discussion by saying something like, That
is a good question, but it is not really related to the discussion, perhaps we will dis-
cuss it some other time.
5. Handling silence
Do not be afraid of silence! Give time for people to think.
Rephrase a question if necessary
6. Summarize
Summarize all positive points that have been shared and you may add in some other points
that have not been shared.To help you clarify and summarize, it is strongly recommended that you jot down what was
said and who said it.
Take time to apply and envision
Information without application leads to frustration. - Larry Burkett1. Ask an application question, e.g. We have seen how important it is to be single-minded about
glorifying God. What changes in your life would you make to become more single-minded?2. Paint a picture of what it would be like if everyone in the group were all single-minded
about glorifying God.
3. Have them share and pray for one another. This can be done in pairs, threes or as a group. You can end with a rousing chorus.
HELPFUL TIPS IN LEADING A DISCUSSION
Types of Questions
Good questions are a key to lively and life changing discussions. You can ask several types of questions when facilitating a discussion. These questions can be placed in three categories:
Launching questions
Guiding questions
Application questions
1. Characteristics and use of Launching Questions They initiate meaningful discussions
They help determine the scope or depth of discussion because of the responses ex-
pected.
2. Characteristics and use of Guiding Questions They help open up, deepen, illustrate or clarify the discussion
They encourage members to go beyond their initial observations
3. Characteristics and use of Application Questions
The link between Bible knowledge and daily living. In other words, they help nail
down the difference that the new understanding will make in our daily lives tomor-
row.
Any discussion Gods Word or Christian living is useless unless application questions
are asked to make people think through the implications of new knowledge.
More remarks about questions: Good questions are open ended and not close ended. They are phrased in such a way
that different responses can be given and not just with a yes or no.
Good questions are simple and short and easily understood.
Questions should deal with feelings as well as facts
Questions should deal with the true interests of the participants
You can answer a question with another question
Avoid asking questions that assume a certain answer
AREA LEADERS
We realize that not only Care Groups need to be loved and cared for, but also Care Group Lead-
ers. Therefore, we will be divided Care Group Leaders into teams with an Elder being responsi-ble for each team. The Area Leaders will:
18. Attend Care Group meetings within their zone
19. At intervals, meet with Care Group Leaders for feedback, instruction and
fellowship. 3. Handle major issues or challenges that may occur within the Care Group
4. Take care of issues or challenges the Care group Leader may have5. See after requests for transfers of members from one group to another6. Motivate Care Group leaders to function with excellence
THE IMPORTANCE OF EVANGELISM
What is Evangelism?Evangelism is the driving force of the church. Without evangelism, there would be no church. Evangelism is the gift of sharing the good news of Jesus Christ to the lost and seeing souls won into the kingdom of God. Through evangelism, lives are transformed and purpose is restored.
Evangelism is the ability to show the love of God to a lost and dying world. It is more than talk-ing but rather the person evangelizing can use various practical means of expressing care and love. One can use any of the following means to provoke evangelism:
Friendship
Acts of service
Inviting someone to church
Giving someone a gift
Sharing lunch with a school mate
Offering to take a work mate to work
Building friendship with a gym partner
Evangelism is recognizing that there is a need for humanity to receive the love of Christ. By re-ceiving Christ, they can live an abundant life because of the purpose that is found in God. Con-sider the following terms:
Image of God
Purpose
Destiny
The thriving church is one that is evangelistic in nature. The church of Jesus Christ has been and is meant to be an active church. If a local assembly is not active there will be little progression. In this apostolic age, we cannot depend upon peoples own initiative to find Jesus. We must be
like John the Baptist and prepare the way of the Lord. As an apostolic people, we are to literally prepare the way of the Lord. We can do this through the ministry of evangelism and outreach.
Evangelism flows out of Jesus desire for us to be fishers of men (Matt 4:19). We are challenged to seek the lost and win them for Christ. Evangelism is to flow out of the redemption that we
have received. Since we have received Christ, then we must be willing to share Christ to all men.
Many people misunderstand evangelism. To many people, evangelism has become an annoying
ministry rather than an anointed ministry. This misconception happens because the evangelist has not taken time to understand the principles of evangelism. Evangelism is not forcing the gospel down someones throat. Many today, have turned evangelism into a labor rather than a love. We are not to evangelize because someone told us to but rather we are to evangelize because of our love for God and for people. Yes, evangelism does require us to be active but it is not to be a
burden.
Why Evangelize?The people that inhabit the world were personally designed by God for a purpose. What we must realize is that many have shifted off track because of sin and the tug of the enemy. Our responsi-
bility is to be ministers of reconciliation assisting others in finding the hope that they lack. So that we can fully understand why we should evangelize, Mark Mittleberg gives us the following four values:
1. People Matter to God (John 4:1-26)
2. People are spiritually lost (Luke 19:10)
3. People need Christ (1 Peter 3:18)
4. People need answers (1 Peter 3:15)
Recognizing that humanity is in a desperate state, the Lord has placed an apostolic call for evan-
gelism on the church of Jesus Christ. We can brand this call as apostolic evangelism. The follow-ing can be said of apostolic evangelism:
The apostolic ministry is not an at home ministry
Evangelism is apostolic in nature because it is a sending ministry
The apostolic ministry puts a new focus on outreach and evangelism
It recognizes that the church must move from being I centered to being outward fo-
cused
Apostolic evangelism states that the coastline is not the limit but it is the launching
pad
Apostolic evangelism includes compassion for the poor, the outcast, the homeless,
the disadvantaged, and the disabled
Many churches talk about it but apostolic/ evangelistic churches find a way to do it
Apostolic/ evangelistic person use the book of Acts as a model for evangelism
Apostolic evangelism encourages persons to become friends of sinners
Apostolic evangelism takes on the attitude of the Apostle Paul by becoming all
things, to all men, to save some
We are to evangelize because the call is on the body of Christ.
Who is to Evangelize?
All men are called. Evangelism is an area of church ministry that is open to all believers. The bible is clear in its command to go and make disciples. The command does not relate only to the nations of the world but also to your local community. When Jesus made the commission, He was speaking to all of His disciples. Anyone that has received Christ has been given the respon-
sibility to share the faith that they hold to. It is not a ministry that only requires a specific gender but all believers, men and women, are required to spread the good news of Jesus Christ. Jesus disciples were told to be fishers of men. The call was not only for the select twelve but also for us!
The book of Acts is to be used as our model for apostolic evangelism. One of the obvious princi-ples of this apostolic move is the expansion of the church of Jesus Christ. Let us take a look:
~ Acts 2:41 ~ Acts 6:7~ Acts 2:47 ~ Acts 11:21
~ Acts 5:14 ~ Acts 11:24
Using Acts as our biblical model, we can see that the disciples proclaimed the message of salvation and the church grew. In other words, we are to follow the same pattern by accepting the call of God.
When to Evangelize?
Evangelism is to begin when an individual becomes a disciple. A disciple means, A fol-lower of Christ. From the point of salvation, a disciple is to be reproducing himself into another. In other words, when you receive Christ as Lord of your life then you are to tell of what you have received.
In the calling of Jesus disciples, we can learn much concerning the call of God on an in-dividuals life. History tells us that when a person was born into the Jewish culture they would study the first five books of the Bible. By the age of ten they would have it memo-rized and then begin learning the family trade. Those who were the best of the best would then be allowed to continue learning the remainder of the Old Testament. These persons
were allowed to follow their rabbi. The interesting twist that captures our attention is that those who were called by Jesus were not the best of the best because they were in the family trade. Jesus decided to break down the religious and cultural norms of the day by calling unlearned men to come and follow him. He then said to them, I will make you fishers of men. From the moment that persons accept Jesus call to follow him they are to
go and gather others from the sea of sin.
According to Robert E. Coleman in his book, The Master Plan of Evangelism, Man was His method. When Jesus began His ministry on earth, he chose twelve men to be His fol-lowers. These twelve men that were selected to be His disciples were not the most edu-
cated but they were willing. Jesus selected them so that He could train them in the work of the ministry. From the time of the selection, these men were in for the ride of their lives. From hillside sermons to a large feeding outreach, these men were trained in the field of ministry. Jesus saw it fit for men to be his method of advancing the Kingdom of God.
John the Baptist is a prime example of one who witnessed the good news of Jesus Christ and be-gan to testify. In the same light, when a person has witnessed or experienced Jesus Christ, he or
she must then tell of the power of salvation. It is essential that a testimony agrees with the truth.
This means that as a testimony is being delivered through word or deed it must be in agreement with the word of God.Where and How to Evangelize?There are various areas through which one could engage in evangelism. The care group is one of the easier places to evangelize because of its relaxed, family oriented nature. The basic needs that any person looks for can be found in the care group. The care group members are responsible to
ensure that the atmosphere of love is created and that the no one is left without an opportunity to feel accepted.
Below are some ways through which one can engage in care group evangelism:1. Care group members can invite non-believers to the meeting.
2. Care group members can conduct community centred evangelistic outreaches.
3. Care group members can invite work colleagues to the care group meeting.
4. Care group members can invite neighbours to the care group meeting.
5. Care group members can build relationships with others so as to lead them to salva-
tion.
The chart below details some of the attitudes that are required for effective care group evangel-ism.
Having a good understanding of the gospel of Jesus Christ would also be an asset in care group evangelism. The message should go like this:
God created humanity.
Humanity rebelled against God.
God sacrificed His son to be reconciled to mankind.
Those who believe go to heaven.
Those who reject go to hell.
The object of care group evangelism is not to force the gospel on an individual but to love them into the Kingdom of God.
SECTION IV
CARE GROUP DISCUSSION
Topic: Gods People in Right Standing
Scripture: 2 Chronicles 7: 12 14
I. There is a cry from the Holy Spirit for the nation of Barbados. In the above verses God's requirement and desire for national blessings are expressed. Those who believe this must forsake their sins, turn from a life that is self-centred and yield to God's Word and will.
From the above text discuss how the Holy Spirit is desirous of blessing Barbados.
XI. The prosperity of our nation rest in the hands of the church. The church is the 'theatre' for
displaying God's wisdom and the mirror that reflects His glory. It is entrusted with the
business of maintaining, defending, transmitting and upholding truth in the world.
This means that the stability and prosperity of a nation is dependent on the church.
What position must the church be in for this to take place?
According to verse 13 how far is God willing to go to get his people into position?
Is Gods concern for the church only? If so give your reason(s).
Is Gods concern for the entire nation? If so how will He bless our nation?
XII. God appeals to His people to humble themselves. It is the only way to arrive at the
highest degree of dignity in the sight of God. Those who patiently submit to Him, He
exalts and honours in due time.
What do we understand by humbling ourselves and in what practical
ways can we do this?
Why is humility so important to the healing of our land?
IV. God also request that we pray. When judgment is coming upon a land there is always the need for God to show favour. The blessings and mercy of God must be sought after and His
people therefore should constantly seek His face in prayer, asking Him to heal our land.
Why is prayer so important to the healing of our land?
Give some of the reasons why the devil attacks our prayer lives? Give some of the difficulties we encounter when we go to pray?
Give practical and spiritual ways in which we can defeat the enemy of prayer?
CARE GROUP DISCUSSION
Topic: Gods People in Right StandingScripture: 2 Chronicles 7: 12 14
I. God urges us to seek His face. The word seek means to search out diligently, to strive after, to desire greatly, to inquire, and to make investigation concerning. It is just not enough to pray, but there is another level God wants us to come, it is to seek His face.
What do you understand by seeking Gods face? What sacrifices are you willing to make in order to seek Him?
What are some of the benefits in seeking Gods face?
II. If we want more of God then we must go after Him. There is a place in God that is not eas-ily revealed, a place that we have not yet touched that He wants us to go after.
Only those who seek His face can find it. There is a clear distinction between people who pray daily and those who seek His face. Those who seek Him move to another level, and are no
longer concerned about their needs, only going after God Himself. Discuss the lessons we can learn from Moses about seeking the face of God accord-
ing to Exodus 33: 14 17
III. The person who seeks the face of God seeks His presence, His glory, and strong
relationship with Him above everything else. We must come to a place where
nothing else matters in life but God Himself. He must be first and foremost. Every-
thing we need in life comes from God and by God. If we are not going after intimacy with Him, we are not going anywhere.
Discuss the type of passion David had for God according to the Scriptures
given.
Psalms 63: 1 5; 42:1, 2; 143: 6; 27: 4
CARE GROUP DISCUSSIONTopic: The Spirit of an IntercessorScripture: 2 Peter 3: 9; Gen: 18: 16 32
When a word comes forth of an impending danger, it is imperative that Gods people intercede rather than become afraid. Fear sets an atmosphere for the enemy to work; intercession creates an atmosphere where the enemy cannot work. If God is about to bring destruction in some form, whether totally or partially, it is because He wants His people to intercede and not be afraid for He is not willing that any perish, but that all come to repentance.
I. THE SPIRIT OF A TRUE INTERCESSOR ABRAHAM Whenever there is grievous sin in a land there is a stench that goes up to God that must be removed. For this reason, God was about to judge Sodom and Gomorrah in order to re-move the repulsive stench of their sin, but before He did He consulted Abraham.
Give your opinion why it was necessary for God to consult Abraham before He brought judgment.
According to Gen. 18: 17 19 what level of intimacy must we have with God, and what kind of people must we be if God is to share His heart with us.
Explain how Abraham exhibited the function of an intercessor (What he did).
Explain how Abraham demonstrated he had the heart of a true intercessor (Who he was).CARE GROUP DISCUSSION
Topic: The Three BattlegroundsScripture: Ephesians 6:10-12; 2 Corinthians 10:4-5Part One:
The Battleground of the MIND
I. THE ORIGIN OF THOUGHTS
Every thought that enters our mind has three sources. They can originate from us, from God, or the devil. Discuss how can we decipher from which source thoughts are coming?
II. THE WEAPONS OF OUR ADVERSARYIn warfare it is always important for us to know what armory our enemy possess so we can better defend ourselves against his attacks. Our adversary the devil uses the weapons of guilt, fear,
doubt, condemnation, etc. to defeat us in our minds. Discuss the effectiveness of these weapons in keeping us in a state of defeat
Share a personal testimony of a victory you’ve gain, the weapon(s) used, and the
mindset you maintained.
CARE GROUP DISCUSSION
Topic: The Three Battlegrounds
Scripture: Ephesians 6: 10 12
Part Two: The Battleground of the HEART
I. Guarding Our Emotions - Romans 4:18-21; Mark 11:22-23
One of the main areas of our heart that must be constantly guarded is our emotion. Satan at-
tacks us in our emotions to prevent us from making godly decisions. His aim is to stop us
from moving to the next level by causing us to make choices based on fear and doubt.
How can fear and doubt prevent us from moving to the next level?
II. Guarding Our Attitudes Numbers 13:26 to 14:1-9
Our attitudes are displayed in actions. When we display bad attitudes we display the spirit of
Satan. Israel, for example, displayed bad attitudes when confronted with challenges in the
desert.
In what way did the desire to go back to Egypt display a bad attitude
How was Satan able to get Israel to display bad attitudes when faced with the
challenges of the desert?
CARE GROUP DISCUSSION
Subject: The Three Battlegrounds
Text: Ephesians 6: 10 12
Part Three: The Battleground of the MOUTH
In bringing to past Gods will and purpose for our lives, it is importance that we declare what God
says concerning our lives and not what we see or feel. Satan knows the power of the confessed
Word and therefore attacks our mouths so that we would not declare what God says about us.
His aim, through our negative confessions, is cancel out Gods promises to us by our own words.
I. Discuss why it is so important for us not to use our mouths to say what is contrary to
Gods will for us.
The following Scriptures are given to aid our discussion and help us to understand why Satan
desires to attack and gain control of our mouths.
Proverbs 13: 3 Proverbs 18: 21
Proverbs 21: 23 Matthew 12: 37 James 3: 2
God is a God of declarations. Whatever God intends He says and what He says happens be-
cause His Word has power and authority to create and bring about change. Therefore, as His
children, we have to live a life of declaring His Word.
II. Discuss why it is so important for us to declare what the Word of God says about us.
The following Scriptures are given to aid our discussion and help us to understand why it is
so important to confess the Word of God.
Mark 11: 23 Luke 17: 6
Joshua 1: 8 Matthew 17: 20
NDM MISSION & VISION
About New Dimensions Ministries
New Dimensions Ministries is a registered non - denominational Church with an apostolic and
prophetic ministry to the nations. Its pastors are Apostle Stephen and Pastor Sandra Holford who
bring to this Church over twenty-five (27) years of pastoral ministry. New Dimensions was