Bullying

Bullying

How NOT Be One & What to Do If Someone

Is Bullying YOU.

By Vicki Dabrowka

Third Grade Teacher, Eagle Cove School http://www.eaglecoveschool.org/

Author: The Green Team Gazette http://greenteamgazette.blogspot.com/

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So… what is bullying?

2. that occurs over & over again,

3. and that happens in a relationship that seems to be unequal in power or strength.

What does bullying look like?

Ask yourself….

What does bullying

sound like?

What does

bullying feel like?

Kids move in & out of these different roles…often time kids who bully are being bullied themselves by someone else (sometimes in

their own home).

Bullying behavior Being an Ally

Being a Bystander

Being a target or victim

The 4 Sides of Bullying

“Bully Dance:” The Video Check out: http://

www.bullfrogfilms.com/catalog/bully.html

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Reach out & ask for help.

What should you do if you are being bullied?

(You = Victim)

Tell an adult—it’s not tattling if you need help or if you are getting hurt

(inside or out).

Ignore the bully and walk away.

Getting angry, defensive, or crying gives the bully exactly what they

want.

Fighting back can make the bullying worse.

What should you do if you are being bullied?

(You = Victim)

Don’t show the bully that you are mad, sad, or scared.

Stay cool in the moment.

Ask your friends to help—there is safety in numbers.

Be calm…when you are calm, bullying loses it’s power.

What should you do if you are being bullied?

(You = Victim)

Smile or laugh—it’s the opposite of what the bully expects and takes

away the “fun” & power of bullying.

Practice what to say to bullies with parents, teachers, friends.

Stand up for yourself.

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Help solve the problem…don’t make it worse by adding to it.

What should you do if you see someone bullying someone else?

(You = bystander)

Interrupt it. Stand next to or speak up to the person being bulliedHelp the person

being bullied by giving

friendship.

Don’t go along with the bullying.

Ask the bully to stop.

What should you do if you see someone bullying someone else?

(You = bystander)

Walk away from your

friend who is being a bully

to show them you don’t care

for that behavior.

Let the bully know he/she is being a bully.

Ask an adult to step in and stop it.

Help the person who is bullying see what the victim might feel like.

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Decide if your words will are helpful or hurtful.

What if you have been a bully and you want to change? What can you do?

(You = Bully)

Know that if you are saying putdowns to someone else, you

are doing it to make yourself feel bigger,

better, & more important—which is

hurtful.

Think before you speak.

If you start to bully, walk away

and find something else

to do.

Talk to an adult about how to get along better with people.

What if you have been a bully and you want to change? What can you do?

(You = Bully)

Ask a friend to help you stop

your bully behavior.

Make a commitment to

change.

Apologize to kids you have bullied.

It’s okay to have your beliefs, but it is NOTokay to persecute

or make fun of others for THEIR beliefs.

How “Bullying,” “Put Downs,” & “Mutual Respect” Are All Related.

RESPECT• everyone• yourself

• your friends• your family

• people you like• people you don’t like• people you know

•people you don’t know• EVERYONE!

When you see it: Say “NO” to Bullying.

No one deserves to be bullied!!

Several activities from www.tolerance.org

Much information from Susan M. Swearer, PhD’s “Target Bulling:

Assessment & Intervention” workshop in Ellicott City, MD on

Oct. 19, 2010http://www.targetbully.com/

Resources

http://mark-lawton.com/bullying-school-workplace/

http://bullyfreecampaign.sg/

http://youthviolence.edschool.virginia.edu/bullying/bullying-research.html

http://blogs.smarter.com/babieskids/2009/06/04/helping-your-kids-deal-with-bullying/

More Resources & Picture References

Created by Vicki Dabrowka, author of the environmental blog

“The Green Team Gazette” and teacher at Eagle Cove School

in Pasadena, Maryland

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