document.doc Page 1 of 62 Beyond Gay Marriage By Lisa Dettmer Problems with the Institution of Marriage.................3 Civil Marriage — Tool of Social Control...................4 Gay Marriage, from San Francisco to the Supreme Court.....5 Out in the Community: Interviews with queer activists and academic.................................................. 6 Disabled AIDS Activists Have Other Priorities.............7 LGBT Economic and Cultural Trends, 1960s – 2000s..........8 Marriage as Economic Institution for Intimate Care and Domestic Work............................................10 Marriage Is A Tool Of Anti-Black Racism..................11 Government Policy Punishes Single Mothers................12 Family Is More than Marriage.............................14 Race and Class in the LGBT Movement......................14 Health and Housing Loses to Marriage.....................15 “What happens when queers move into the halls of power?”. 17 “Can a gay movement which is run by one class, really serve the needs of another?”...................................17 Gay Marriage Advocates...................................18 Why White?............................................... 19 Cooptation by the Right..................................20 Marriage is a tool of colonialism........................20 Pinkwashing.............................................. 21 Marriage is a tool of xenophobia and immigration enforcement.............................................. 22 Does Gay Marriage Reduce Homophobia?.....................22 Is Fighting Homophobia Enough?...........................23 Race and Marriage........................................23 Key Issues for the Queer Community.......................25 Supporting Diverse Forms of Relationship.................26 Where Do We Go from Here?................................28 Afterword................................................ 30
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Beyond Gay Marriage
By Lisa Dettmer
Problems with the Institution of Marriage.................3Civil Marriage — Tool of Social Control...................4Gay Marriage, from San Francisco to the Supreme Court.....5Out in the Community: Interviews with queer activists and academic..................................................6Disabled AIDS Activists Have Other Priorities.............7LGBT Economic and Cultural Trends, 1960s – 2000s..........8Marriage as Economic Institution for Intimate Care and Domestic Work............................................10Marriage Is A Tool Of Anti-Black Racism..................11Government Policy Punishes Single Mothers................12Family Is More than Marriage.............................14Race and Class in the LGBT Movement......................14Health and Housing Loses to Marriage.....................15“What happens when queers move into the halls of power?”. 17“Can a gay movement which is run by one class, really serve the needs of another?”...................................17Gay Marriage Advocates...................................18Why White?...............................................19Cooptation by the Right..................................20Marriage is a tool of colonialism........................20Pinkwashing..............................................21Marriage is a tool of xenophobia and immigration enforcement..............................................22Does Gay Marriage Reduce Homophobia?.....................22Is Fighting Homophobia Enough?...........................23Race and Marriage........................................23Key Issues for the Queer Community.......................25Supporting Diverse Forms of Relationship.................26Where Do We Go from Here?................................28Afterword................................................30
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This paper considers perspectives on marriage in the Queer
and feminist community reviewing key contemporary thinkers
on the subject and using direct interviews and material from
radical Queer activists and academics in the field. It
examines problems inherent in the fight for gay marriage and
examines the ways gay marriage intersects with issues of
race and class. I conducted dozens of interviews over the
course of the research involved in this project. Many of
them were broadcast in a documentary entitled, “Beyond Gay
Marriage, broadcast on KPFA in 2010 and podcast by Race,
Poverty & the Environment
http://reimaginerpe.org/rpe/radio/dettmer. Quotations from
these interviews are interwoven in the text without specific
footnote. Unattributed direct quotations are excerpted from
the transcript of Lisa Dettmer, Beyond Gay Marriage audio
documentary, KPFA/ RP&E (2010).
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From Stonewall to the Occupation Wall
Over 45 years ago street and bar queers rioted against
police harassment at the infamous Stonewall rebellion
igniting the U.S. gay and transgender liberation movements.
It was led by homeless queers, trannies, butch dykes and
other gender non-conforming queer street people among the
rioters and their allies. Many radical gay groups, such as
Gay Liberation Front emerged immediately following the
uprising sharing beliefs with other New Left and radical
groups of the 60’s and 70’s: economic equality, challenging
police and state violence against all oppressed groups and a
refusal to cooperate with dominant institutions.
At the around the same time, however, some middle class
white gays and lesbians disassociated themselves from the
violent riots of Stonewall seeking more assimilationist
goals as the homophile Mattachine society had earlier.1 It
is in that context groups like the Gay Liberation Front
began organizing across a spectrum of issues against the
everyday injustices experienced by poor queer people
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included street people, hustlers, trans people and homeless
queers and other queer outlaws.2 The first “Gay Liberation
Day” celebrated on the anniversary of the resistance to the
police has now devolved into the LGBT Pride parades
celebrated all over the world.3
Intersectional organizing for peace and justice and against
colonialism and imperialism and state violence led by
lesbians and feminists has been derailed into a struggle for
legal recognition that puts the LGBT movement in alliance
with some of the most conservative economic forces in the
country.4 From radical beginnings, the LGBT movement has
grown much-more aligned with mainstream political
perspectives. Campaigns for same-sex marriage are emblematic
of this paradigm shift to a more homo-national form of
consciousness and organizing. Gay marriage and the
assimilationist politics of the current mainstream gay
movement must be seen within the context of that broader
understanding of neoliberalism nationally and
internationally. It is that paradigm that allows us to
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understand the broad success and support of that issue and
its relationship to other issues like gentrification, the
xenophobia of policies in relationship to immigration and
Islamaphobia and the politics of terrorism. In other words
accommodation to racism and imperialism are enabling factors
for gay acceptance and official citizenship5 as symbolized
by widespread legalization of gay marriage.
Problems with the Institution of Marriage
Marriage has been criticized by feminists for over a century
(for example Emma Goldman’s 1914 essay Marriage and Love6),
many of the 19th century socialists7 and by gay
liberationists since the 1970s. It is still being criticized
by radical feminists and queer activists today. The website
beyondmarriage.org displays the names and organizational
affiliations of over 2,000 well known scholars and activists
(including this author) who have signed onto a statement
that advocates for the reframing of the narrow terms of the
marriage debate in the United States.
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The statement argues that the “opposition to same-sex
marriage is only one part of a broader pro-marriage, ‘family
values’ agenda that includes abstinence-only sex education,
stringent divorce laws, coercive marriage promotion policies
directed toward women on welfare, and attacks on
reproductive freedom.”8 This attack when seen within the
context of a 30 year attack on the social safety net that
has ended up putting the burden on households to take up the
slack one can begin to see the larger societal interests in
pushing for a marriage agenda for gays and for poor people.
The statement argues that the LGBT movements focus on
marriage as a stand-alone issue may secure rights and
benefits for some LGBT families but it ends up leaving
others isolated and vulnerable. These activists seek to
create a movement where the struggle for marriage rights is
part of a larger movement to strengthen the stability and
security of diverse households and families. To that end,
they advocate four policies.
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Legal recognition for a wide range of relationships,
households and families – regardless of kinship or
conjugal status.
Access for all, regardless of marital or citizenship
status, to vital government support programs including
but not limited to health care, housing, Social
Security and pension plans, disaster recovery
assistance, unemployment insurance and welfare
assistance.
Separation of church and state in all matters,
including regulation and recognition of relationships,
households and families.
Freedom from state regulation of our sexual lives and
gender choices, identities and expression.
Civil Marriage — Tool of Social Control
Professor Dean Spade and Craig Willse and others in the
Against Equality coalition9 also argue that civil marriage
has always been a way for societies to categorize those who
will be rewarded or normalized (and get those 1,000
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benefits) and those who will be punished or criminalized.
While marriage is being rewarded, other ways of organizing
family, relationships and sexual behavior do not receive
these benefits and are stigmatized and criminalized. In
short, people are punished or rewarded based on whether or
not they marry. They argue marriage isn’t about the freedom
to marry or equality rather it is a coercive regulation
where those who are not married can lose vital life
resources like health care and paths to legalized
immigration and that changing who can join the “charmed
circle” and be rewarded doesn’t change the fundamental
inequalities.
In an article on Organizing Upgrade, Spade and Willse
contend: “Freedom and equality are not achieved when a
practice crosses over to being acceptable. Instead, such
shifts strengthen the line between what is considered good,
healthy, and normal and what remains bad, unhealthy,
stigmatized, and criminalized. The line moves to accommodate
a few more people, who society suddenly approves of,
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correcting the system and keeping it in place. The legal
marriage system—along with its corollary criminal punishment
system, with its laws against lewd behavior, solicitation,
indecency and the like-enforces the line between which
sexual practices and behaviors are acceptable and rewarded,
and which are contemptible and even punishable
“We learned feminist, anti-racist and anti-colonial
movements social movements, they argue that “ marriage as
a technology of social control, exploitation, and
dispossession wrapped in a satin ribbon of sexist and
heteropatriarchal romance mythology.” 10
Gay Marriage, from San Francisco to the Supreme Court
Over the last eight years, same-sex marriage has been a
predominant issue in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and
transgender (LGBT) community. Largely as a result of
decisions by federal and state courts, same sex marriage is
now legal in over 30 states,11 leading some to believe the
gay community is winning their battle for acceptance. But
many in the LGBT movements for social justice question
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whether gay marriage is really the most critical issue for
their communities. and whether the focus on marriage is
something that upholds their ideas of creating a more
radical Queer culture.
1 Neil Miller, Out of the Past: Gay and Lesbian History from 1869 to the Present. New York: Vintage Books, 1995. 2 Christina B Handhardt, Safe Space; Gay Neighborhood History and the Politics of Violence, pg 1).3 http://www.columbia.edu/cu/lweb/eresources/exhibitions/sw25/gifs/ stonewall_national_historic_landmark_nomination.pdf4 Urvaishi Vaid, Irresistible Revolution: Confronting Race, Class and the Assumptions of LGBT Politics5 “The (symbolic) entry into citizenship by (some) gay subjects… is predicated on the globalization of anti-Muslim racism in an international context of war, as well as the various local and national regimes of migration and/or occupation with which this war intersects. The myth of gay assimilation is crucially enabled by a redefinition of the West as sexually progressive. Puar and Rai argue that gender and sexuality discourses are central to these new knowledges, which draw on anthropological and psychological arguments in order to explain the apparent proneness of ‘Muslim’ cultures to producing terrorists. In particular, it is an improper, failed heterosexuality, manifested in polygamy and other ‘dysfunctional’ family structures, which produces these ‘evil’ masculinities, whose destruction serves as the spectacular rationale for the ‘war on terror’. Colonialism, once described by Gayatri Spivak as ‘white men saving brown women from brown men’ is rewritten, in this moment of gay assimilation, as ‘white (straight and gay) men saving brown women (and gays) from brown men’.” Jin Haritaworn,Loyal Repetitions of the Nation: Gay Assimilation and the ‘War on Terror’http://www.darkmatter101.org/site/2008/05/02/loyal-repetitions-of-the-nation-gay-assimilation-and-the-war-on-terror/#foot_src_25 who cites: Puar, Jasbir (2005), ‘Queer Times, Queer Assemblages’, Social Text 23(3-4): 121-139, Puar, Jasbir and Rai, Amit S. (2002), ‘Monster, Terrorist, Fag: The War on Terrorism and the Production of Docile Patriots’, Social Text 20(3): 117-148. 6 Emma Goldman, Anarchism and Other Essays (1914) https://www.marxists.org/reference/archive/goldman/works/1914/marriage-love.htm7 Richard Weikart, Marx, Engels and the Abolition of the Family, History ofEuropean Ideas, Vol. 18, No.5, pp.657-672, (1994)
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That same sex marriage has been a dominating issue is a
particularly pointed question in California where pro-gay
marriage groups spent over $43 million to oppose Proposition
8, which outlawed same-sex marriage, despite the fact that
domestic partnership in California provides almost the same
benefits that same-sex marriage would. 12 After the passage
of Proposition 8 there were many “gay” groups that blamed
African Americans as voting in favor of Prop 8 in large
numbers even though those statistics were later proved
unfounded.13 This blaming of black people once again points
out how not only does the mainstream gay community fail to
8 http://beyondmarriage.org9 http://www.againstequality.org/about/marriage/10 Dean Spade and Craig Wills, Marriage Will Never Set Us Free, Organizing Upgrade, http://www.organizingupgrade.com/index.php/modules-menu/beyond-capitalism/item/1002-marriage-will-never-set-us-free11 Twenty one states legalized same sex marriage as a result of court decisions: Alaska (Oct. 17, 2014), Arizona (Oct. 17, 2014), California (June 28, 2013), Colorado (Oct. 7, 2014), Connecticut (Nov. 12, 2008), Idaho (Oct. 13, 2014), Indiana (Oct. 6, 2014), Iowa (Apr. 24, 2009), Massachusetts (May 17, 2004), Nevada (Oct. 9, 2014), New Jersey (Oct. 21, 2013), New Mexico (Dec. 19, 2013), North Carolina (Oct. 10, 2014), Oklahoma (Oct. 6, 2014), Oregon (May 19, 2014), Pennsylvania (May 20, 2014), Utah (Oct. 6, 2014), Virginia (Oct. 6, 2014), West Virginia (Oct.9, 2014), Wisconsin (Oct. 6, 2014), Wyoming (Oct. 21, 2014). Eight states legalized same sex marriage as a result of by State LegislatureDelaware (July 1, 2013), Hawaii (Dec. 2, 2013), Illinois (June 1, 2014),Minnesota (Aug. 1, 2013), New Hampshire (Jan. 1, 2010), New York (July 24, 2011), Rhode Island (Aug. 1, 2013), Vermont (Sep. 1, 2009). Three states legalized same sex marriage as a result of Popular Vote: Maine (Dec. 29, 2012), Maryland (Jan. 1, 2013), Washington (Dec. 9, 2012)
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create racial and social justice alliances but how the idea
that African Americans are more homophobic than other groups
is linked to how mainstream LGBT groups imagined their
relationship to low income people of color within urban
centers in the early years of the consolidation of the LGBT
rights movement. A relationship were mainstream gays with
money helped enable the displacement of people of color by
gentrifying urban neighborhoods or creating policing tactics
in coalition with other white middle class property owners
to criminalize poor street people even when it included
Queer homeless youth. As LGBT urban spaces have become more
and more closely tied to tourist areas and less refuges for
homeless and displaced queers migrants from around the
world, those communities have also colluded more and more
with the racist policies of gentrification and police
criminalization of poor people. The focus on marriage needs
to be seen within that context of a history of the LGBT
12 Section I. Title,This measure shall be known and may be cited as the "California Marriage Protection Act." Section 2. Article I. Section 7.5 is added to the California Constitution, to read:Sec. 7.5. Only marriagebetween a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California.
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community become more middle class and racist as it become
more assimilated.14
A 2008 study done at Hunter College shows that the majority
of LGBT people actually consider economic discrimination to
be the No. 1 issue in their lives. 15 And Lisa Duggan, New
York University professor of social and cultural analysis
has pointed out that queer white men are the most likely to
be coupled whereas black lesbians are the least likely to be
coupled, thus demonstrating that marriage will benefit gay
white men more than queer women of color. So the question
remains. Why is same sex marriage the issue drawing the
largest attention and funding by mainstream LGBT groups and
the media?
Out in the Community: Interviews with queer activists and academic
As part of my research I visited the Pacifica center which
is my local queer center in Berkeley, CA and went to a
13 http://seachangeprogram.org/what-we-do/work-with-us/ 14 Christina Hanhardt, Safe Space: Gay Neighborhood History and the Politics of Violence,2013).15 Patrick J. Egan, Murray S. Edelman, Kenneth Sherrill, Findings from the Hunter College Poll of Lesbians, Gays and Bisexuals: New Discoveries about Identity, Political Attitudes, and Civic Engagement 2008.
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local gay senior event to find out what other queer folks
are thinking about the gay marriage movement. A variety of
respondents made the point that other issues were far more
significant including: homophobic violence, health care,
affordable housing and internalized oppression. They also
noted that gay marriage advocates tended to tokenize Black
people Comments such as: “I would much prefer not being
terrified of getting beaten up.” “I don’t hear the gay and
lesbian, bisexual, transgender community thinking about the
issues of seniors lives.” “The campaign for marriage
equality is very white, very Eurocentric...” “What about all
the discrimination that happens internally to the people of
color, to trans folks, to the young folks to the elders?” 16
where common responses.
Disabled AIDS Activists Have Other Priorities
For a more in depth view I did a longer interview with Brian
Bassinger, executive director of the San Francisco AIDS
Housing Coalition, which works with homeless and low-income
people with AIDS.
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Bassinger lives in San Francisco with his partner, James.
Both of them live on the money they get for their AIDS
related disabilities. Brian’s story is one example of how
some queer people continue to struggle for basic economic
survival. Even if Brian and James wanted to get married,
they couldn’t without losing their disability support. And
their story is not unusual for queer people with AIDS.
16 Lisa Dettmer, Beyond Gay Marriage audio documentary, KPFA/ RP&E (2010) Direct quotes from respondents from this mini-survey.Respondent 1: “There are other issues that have affected me more immediately than marriage ever will. I would much prefer not being terrified of getting beaten up. There’s a lot more issues that I would prefer were addressed.”Respondent 2: “I don’t hear the gay and lesbian, bisexual, transgender community thinking about the issues of seniors lives. For example, the issue of health care, the issue of affordable housing. As we age, most of us are living on very limited incomes. I received an email from the Courage Campaign, asking us what issues they should focus on. I looked at the list of 5 issues and there was not one thing on that list that affected me personally. There was not one word about senior’s lives. Andthe needs of seniors that don’t have a lot of money” Respondent 3: “I think the campaign for marriage equality is very white,very Eurocentric, especially with the fact that it did get passed, and both the Black and Latino communities were demonized by saying that theywere the majority of voters voting in favor of it, when in fact, black and brown people are the minority in the state of CA as far as voting. And I feel like in my experience there’s been a lot of tokenizing, like ‘yeah! We do people of color work, we have this one Black person workinghere! And they talk to Black people’ kind of thing. As opposed to everyone working on their issues and white people checking their privilege,”Respondent 4: “I want to know, from the gay community, what’s going to happen after gay marriage? Ok. We get these rights to marry, what about all the discrimination that happens internally to the people of color, to trans folks, to the young folks to the elders. I feel like gay marriage is a way for people with privilege to gain more privilege and almost forget about the people who are still struggling.”
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Brian Bassinger: “I’m on a program called SSDI, and he's on
a program called SSI. These poverty programs are very
strict, and they don't let you have any money. And so, they
want James to live on $845 dollars a month, and my income
from Social Security disability of $1300 dollars a month
would have disqualified him from SSI, cause it's a poverty
program. You're not allowed to have anything in order to
quality for that income, and also for the health insurance
that's attached to it. And in addition he pointed out
marriage was not an option for most poor, disabled or
homeless queers. And even if they were to get married it is
very unlikely that their partner would have money or health
insurance so the financial benefits or marriage would be few
And he said ,” it annoys me when these people try to use us,
when people who are promoting the marriage agenda try to use
us. Use disabled people with AIDS, and poor people—those of
us who are really going through these real-life critical
struggles, to advance what is really a set of benefits that
are not part of our reality. There is nothing about gay
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marriage that benefits my life today. It has nothing to do
with me whatsoever.”17
LGBT Economic and Cultural Trends, 1960s – 2000s
Dean Spade, an assistant professor of law at Seattle
University, suggests that the way the gay community came to
prioritize marriage reflects a broader shift in politics
away from an approach that looks at larger structural
issues. “In the social movements of the ‘60s and ‘70s, there
were a lot of questions being asked about what oppression is
and how to solve it. People were thinking about how
policing, in general, impacts black communities in the U.S.,
and the ways in which militarism is a part of U.S.
imperialism abroad, and how that reflects in the domestic
arena... As movements professionalize and upper class people
take the reins and set the agenda, a shift happens towards
an individual rights framework and what kinds of major
structural changes would have to happen to make it so that
people have what they need.”18
17 Lisa Dettmer, Beyond Gay Marriage audio documentary, KPFA/ RP&E, 2010.18 Ibid.
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Historian Christina Hanhardt explains that the difference
between 1960 and 2006 was that in 1960 there were still many
laws on the books criminalizing sodomy which affected gay
men across race and class although not evenly enforced.19
And laws against lewdness, vagrancy, and cross dressing were
targeted a wide range of gender non-conforming people so
that an imagined connection existed between many of those
arrested at the Stonewall Inn.20 By 2000 private acts of
anti sodomy had been decriminalized and lewdness and
vagrancy laws were almost exclusively used against poor
queers of color dissolving that imagined solidarity and
setting the stage for white middle class gays and lesbians
to dissociate themselves from the issues of poor queers of
color. So we saw the rise of LGBT groups with
assimilationist politics even working together with anti-
crime groups in NYC to clean up the historically Gay West
Village of the young queers of color who used that
neighborhood to cruise and hook up . While in the 1960s it
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was still politically salient to argue that crime and
poverty were linked and structural solutions were sought,
by 2000 “crime” was seen as result of unhealthy kinships and
intimate relations. Mainstream LGBT people and groups began
creating coalitions with other white and middle class
gentrifying groups in the formerly Gay West Village were
most gay business had been gentrified out of existence to
create safe streets by getting rid of the same constituency
that had lead the Stonewall Rebellion, queer street kids and
outlaws. This effort to “clean up” the village of those
unsavory street people also lead to the formation of another
radical queer group FIERCE (Fabulous Educated Radicals for
Community Empowerment) organized to fight against the
gentrifying middle class straights and gays. It was these
very quality of life policing tactics that were targeted at
queer youth of color in Greenwich Village that were the of
the larger policing tactics of NYC that have ignited the
new civil rights movement of today.21
19 Christina B. Hanhardt, Safe Space: Gay Neighborhood History and the Politics of Violence,2013.20 Ibid pg. 5.21 Ibid pg. 4.
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Others like Sarah Schulman point to the AIDS epidemic as one
of the reasons the gay community has become so
assimilationist seeking rights like gay marriage and the
right to be in the military prior to seeking the right to
protection in the workplace. She argues “"Our intense
desire to be accepted, and hence- hopefully- defended, is a
consequence of AIDS trauma: our collective memory of being
discarded and abandoned to die like our friends before
us.”22
And she argues becoming a more assimilationist community and
movement end up making us more vulnerable instead of more
powerful.
"The consequence of these marginalizations on our collective
consequences are significant politically as well as
psychologically. If, at the start of the AIDS crisis, in
1981, we had been divided into privatized family units,
instead of constituted as a community, as consumers instead
of activists, with leaders hand-selected by the networks,
22 Carolyn D’Cruz and Mark Pendleton, Editors. After Homosexual: The Legacies of Gay Liberation, UWA Publishing pg. 168.
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and dependent on cable TV and Entertainment Weekly to learn
about AIDS, we would never have been able to respond to the
epidemic as effectively as we did. ...in the liberation
years we knew that we were misrepresented, and therefore
built a vibrant LGBT press, literature and activist direct-
action groups that forced AIDS in the spotlight." 23
Marriage as Economic Institution for Intimate Care and Domestic Work
Lisa Duggan believes that the focus on the individual and
the family is rooted in the neoliberal economic model that
pushes privatization in many arenas. “The kind of social
supports that were put in place between the ‘30s and the
‘70s have eroded since the ‘80s,” she observes. “If you have
fewer services and fewer benefits provided by your
employment and fewer services provided by the state, the
slack gets taken up by private households. All these costs,
as they’re cut away from the state and corporations [get]
moved to the private household. There’s a strong ideological
23 Ibid. pg. 189 .
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push to make family, marriage, and the private household the
proper, moral place to do this kind of social support.”24
Idealizing marriage is a way of making the institution of
marriage seem like this is the institution where social
support should happen. It's idealized as really the best
place to take care of elderly people, take care of sick
people, bear the cost of raising children. All these costs
then as they're cut away from the state and they're reduced
in corporations and they're moved to the private household,
there's a strong ideological push to make the family, and
marriage, and the private household seem to be the proper,
sanctified, moral and good place to do all of this kind of
social support. But most people are unaware of this
connection between gay marriage and economic issues.
Marriage Is A Tool Of Anti-Black Racism
Dean Spade and Craig Willse further point out the connection
between racism and marriage. They argue that since the
founding of the U.S regulating family formations has been
24 Lisa Dettmer, Beyond Gay Marriage audio documentary, KPFA/ RP&E, 2010.
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key to racism and violence. For example during slavery the
family ties of slaves were regulated to create the best
economic interest of the slave holder to ensure that
children would be enslaved and to be able to continue to
maintain black people as property. This continued after
emancipation when the government coerced marriage among
newly freed black people and criminalized adultery as one
way to recapture them and put them into a convict lease
system. After Brown v. Board of Education, which challenged
formal, legal segregation, illegitimacy laws became a
favored way to exclude Black children from programs and
services. We can see how even today Black families are
portrayed as pathological and criminal in academic research
and social policy based on marriage rates which was most
famously and overtly depicted in the Moynihan Report.
“Anti-poor and anti-Black discourse and policymaking frame
poverty as a result of the lack of marriage in Black
populations. Clinton’s 1996 dismantling of welfare
programs,25 which disproportionately harmed Black families,
“In the mid ‘90s, when the U.S. welfare system was
dramatically reorganized, the image of single, black mothers
with bad family values was frequently invoked to justify
cutting assistance to working class people in this country.
So, when the same-sex marriage movement takes up this same
language of ‘good families are two-parent families,’ i.e.
families that have a certain kind of economic status, they
are implicitly reinforcing our assumptions about what it
means to be in a single-parent family or a family that is
not as economically well off.”27
These government policies, Kandaswamy argues, were similar
to the Christian right ideology, which “constantly invokes
the idea of marriage as foundational to the family and to
the nation. It’s striking when gays and lesbians start to
use the same language and says a lot about who they are
trying to appeal to.”
The Bush administration continued the Clinton era emphasis
on portraying marriage as a was out of poverty. Tommy
27 Lisa Dettmer, Beyond Gay Marriage audio documentary, KPFA/ RP&E, 2010.
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Thomson HHS Secretary said the Bush administration plan
“puts a new emphasis on marriage.” The rationale he
presents: “Children living in single parent households are
on average 5 times more likely to be poor, 2-3 times more
likely to use drugs, experience educational, health and
emotional problems and be victims of abuse. Thus, it is
simply common sense to redirect our policies to encourage
the formation and maintenance of healthy marriages.”28
Kandaswamy says the idea that marriage is a solution is
nothing new. “The welfare reform law that was passed in 1996
starts with the proclamation that marriage is a foundation
of a successful society. And goes on then to create
mandatory work requirements, to put a lifetime limit on
certain forms of public assistance, to deny assistance to
certain populations. And I think that that statement,
though, that marriage is a foundation of a successful
society, is often echoed in what advocates of same sex
marriage say.”
28 2002 NPR report recoding can be heard at http://reimaginerpe.org/rpe/radio/dettmer.
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Lisa Duggan also tracks the origins of gay marriage advocacy
to a similar constellation of issues. “So when the same sex
marriage movement then starts to come into really prominence
in the 1990s, a lot of the rhetoric of saying marriage is so
important, marriage is a sign of our full adulthood,
marriage is how we show we're responsible, marriage is the
key to citizenship, that kind of language adds to marriage
promotion of the conservative marriage movement and ends up
promoting privatized marriage, private households as the
site for social support to the neglect or disadvantage of
collective social supports.”
Priya Kandaswamy echoes the critique that the strategy is a
dangerous concession to the right. “So, when the gay
marriage uses a discourse of family values, what they're
doing is implicitly invoking the same set of ideas around
family. When one says that gay and lesbian families deserve
citizenship rights because they are families that are just
like the normative two-parent, white, suburban, heterosexual
family, what they're arguing is that other people whose
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families don't conform to those models don't deserve those
rights. That idea has been manifested in US welfare policy—
to very violent ends, in fact. And so, I think that's a very
dangerous claim for the marriage movement to make.”
In California, domestic partnerships, which already existed
were created to have the same benefits as marriage. But
groups leading the fight knew that all along. For example,
Kate Kendal, the executive director of National Center of
Lesbian Rights said “ There are very few actual formal
legal differences between domestic partner benefits and the
protections that couples get under state law from couples
who are married under state law.”
Family Is More than Marriage
In the 70s and 80s when as feminists we were fighting for
the right for our female friendships to be valued and for a
new definition of what family is. Today, people live in all
kinds of family relationships especially queer people who
aren’t married and don’t have children. Priya Kandaswamy
says for these reasons, it is dangerous to talk about
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marriage as the only way that relationships and families are
validated.
Priya Kandaswamy: “In other words, when we say that marriage
is a human right and it is fundamental to our existence,
what are we saying about people who don't want to get
married, or people who aren't married, or about families
that are not organized through marriage? Arguing that
marriage is a human right elevates marriage over all other
forms of relationships. Similarly, the idea that marriage is
a foundation of a good nation sounds a lot like conservative
family values discourse. The Christian right is constantly
invoking the idea of marriage as foundational to the family,
as foundational to the nation. It is striking when gay and
lesbians start to use that same language, and it really, I
think, says a lot about who they are trying to appeal to and
who they see their constituency as. “
Race and Class in the LGBT Movement
Some believe that it is the race and class divisions within
the LGBT movement that lead to single issue policies like
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gay marriage. “The landscape of LGBT organizations is pretty
polarized,” says Duggan. “There are national organizations—
basically structured around private fundraising—which have
prioritized marriage equality. They don’t have
constituencies, they’re not grassroots, they don’t mobilize.
And, they tend to be dominated by prosperous white people.
Many grassroots organizations, usually locally based, have a
different structure and different politics. In New York
City, queer groups predominantly made up of people of color,
such as the Audre Lorde Project, Queers for Economic
Justice, and FIERCE, tend to prioritize around poverty,
racism, immigration, health care, retirement, and violence
on the street.”
One of these more grassroots organizations is Queers for
Economic Justice in New York City. This group closed 2 years
ago … It was a non-profit that promotes economic justice in
the context of sexual and gender liberation. Kenyon Farrow
is the executive director, she sees problems with the impact
of gay marriage on poor people. Kenyon Farrow : “The effect
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of gay marriage on the rest of us who are working on other
issues in queer spaces is huge. There are funders who want
to only fund marriage, or people working on access to
military service, or any of those number of things. The way
it usually gets framed to us, as grassroots organizations,
is 'Well, we don't know what impact you're really having, or
what impact you're really going to have. So, if you're not
working on a very specific and narrow policy change but
you're doing more work that's building a grassroots base to
do organizing,' and among marginalized queer communities,
like Queers for Economic Justice, and working with a lot of
queer and trans homeless people for whom the groundwork to
do that kind of organizing and advocacy, or even creating
policy solutions that folks are interested in takes a much
longer time.”
Health and Housing Loses to Marriage
Critics of the gay marriage movement believe that it has
taken funding away from other critical needs for queer
people. Leslie Ewing, who worked from 2004-08 at San
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Francisco’s Lyon-Martin Health Care, the only freestanding
community clinic in California providing health care
specifically to trans, lesbian, and bisexual women, notes
that she was often unable to get funding for issues
affecting poor lesbians and transpeople from those same
funders who were more than happy to fund gay marriage. “As a
queer community, we have to look at issues that affect all
of us, not just some of us,” she argues, “and not just
issues that are lucrative for fundraising... People who have
inheritance, people who are concerned about property values
are writing the checks to keep this issue on the front
burner.”
Brian Bassinger, executive director of the San Francisco
AIDS Housing Coalition, which works with homeless and low-
income people with AIDS, claims that “the gay marriage
movement took the air out of the AIDS movement, as well as
the funding. While we as a community were fighting for gay
marriage, the Governor decimated the state’s Office of
AIDS!”
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When Bassinger heard that $43 million were spent on
Proposition 8, which he feels was “such a narrow agenda for
such a small part of the population,” he was livid because
“at the same time, they were cutting $85 million in HIV/AIDS
care in the state of California. They eliminated funding for
housing, including residential care facilities for the
chronically ill.” But the response in the LGBT community was
negligible.
Bassinger and his partner are both HIV positive and on
disability funding. If they were to get married they would
lose their SSI and SSDI benefits. And his situation is not
uncommon.
“The majority of people with HIV and AIDS in San Francisco
are living in extreme poverty,” says Bassinger. “There’s
this mythology that gay men are wealthy. The reality is that
gay men living in poverty are twice the national average. We
are poor. And poor people see marriage equality as a middle
class and upper class issue.”
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Tommi Avicolli Mecca, a long time queer activist who now
works in housing rights in San Francisco, argues “If we as a
movement are not going to be fighting for housing and jobs,
food, and basic essentials like health care, then I’m not
sure what we stand for as a movement.”
“According to a study done by the National Lesbian and Gay
Task Force in conjunction with the National Coalition of
Homelessness, 45-50 percent of homeless youth in America are
queer or trans,” Mecca points out. “In San Francisco, the
number is considered to be about 30 percent. Now, those
numbers are way above what is considered the percentage of
queers in the population, i.e. 10 percent. And that’s scary.
I think that that should be a wake-up call for our movement,
but it hasn’t been.”
“What happens when queers move into the halls of power?”
Tommi Avicolli Mecca: “I think that a lot of the mainstream
gay movement has not addressed this issue is because I think
that a lot of the people who have gotten into power, from
the queer community, are not people who see this as their
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issue. Especially here in SF, the people who have gotten
into city hall, the people who have gotten the jobs in city
hall, and the department of health and a lot of the service
provision, are what we call ‘A-Gays.’ They are people who
are making maybe a three-digit salary, or close to a three-
digit salary. They are living in very comfortable
surroundings. They are not worried about losing their
housing, they eat well, they have health care, so I think
for them, the reality of the people who live not far from
city hall, in fact, the tenderloin is right near city hall,
surrounds city hall, they don’t see that need. And for them,
the issue is wanting to get married, or wanting to become a
homeowner, because in SF it’s really difficult to become a
homeowner because there’s not a whole lot of affordable
housing available for people to buy. So they are looking at
it from their class perspective, and from their class
perspective, those are the issues.
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“Can a gay movement which is run by one class, really serve the needs of another?”
Tommi Avicolli Mecca: “The people who are on the advantaged
side of the class divide are not going to really see the
concerns of the people who are on the other side, as being
their concerns or as even being important. And at times I
think they pay lip service and at times I think at times, at
Christmas time, Thanksgiving, you see these folks coming to
the food program where I volunteer, and volunteering and
bringing the big bag of old cans of beans and corn out of
their closets that have been sitting their for 17 years, and
that soothes their conscience. So they think they’re doing
something, but they’re not. That’s not what poor people
need. They don’t need your old cans of corn. What they need
is living wage jobs, they need decent housing, they need
universal health care, they need services. They basically
need the same things that we all need, it’s just that for
the ‘A-gays,’ the ‘a-gays’ have achieved this stuff and it’s
on the backs of the radical queers movement. Because it was
the radical queer movement of the early 70s that created the
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atmosphere and the acceptance that these people now take
advantage of, and enjoy.
Gay Marriage Advocates
Of course, many LGBT people do want equality and are
actively fighting for gay marriage. Andrea Shorter is the
Deputy Marriage and Coalitions Director for Equality
California. She says that marriage is very significant to
her on a personal level.
Andrea Shorter: It’s really about potential. See, I believe
that when you are holding people back, and you keep them in
a state of a second-class status, we know that through human
history that we lesson people’s opportunity to really give
themselves, and really be a full partner in our communities.
If I get up every day, I go to work, I pay my taxes, I
should be able to go to the clerk's office like anyone else,
in a city hall, with a woman that I love and say, 'We are
ready to make a contract, a commitment, and as citizens in
the state of California, as citizens in the United States
under Constitutional law,’ I should be able to do that.
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“I know that one of the perceptions of the issue of marriage
is that it's a luxury issue for white gay folks, and middle
class, upper middle class folks. I don't agree with that.
I'm an African-American lesbian, but I am aware of the
perception. I'm also aware of the perception that
predominates popular notions of who is LGBT. And what I mean
by that is that again, it's gay, white folk.”
Why White?
For Joseph DeFilippis the mainstream LGBT movement is
deliberately fostering the image of the gay movement as
white and middle class because that serves its own interest.
Joseph DeFilippis: In the 80s there were these surveys
done, in magazines like the Advocate and they found this
information out as the result of the surveys of the
readership that has been widely circulated for 20 years now
which is that we tend to be white, double income, no
children, with you know, disposable income. And the fact
that women weren’t subscribing and trans folks weren’t
subscribing, and poor people weren’t subscribing was
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completely lost in this mythology. The mythology was
completely put forward by our movement, by our leaders,
because they were trying to flex this newfound political
muscle that they were developing, and as AIDS was mobilizing
many people in our community, this became a tool, with which
we could go to politicians, go to corporations, and say ‘you
better pay attention to us, our needs, we vote, we shop and
we have power.’ And so it became this myth that has become
internalized and has been used against us, frankly, by the
right. Which has characterized almost all of our battles,
they’ve characterized in the work that they do as a bunch of
spoiled white privileged people who already have lots of
rights and why are they fighting for special additional
rights?
“And nowhere in these discussions were a butch, Black dyke
who just got out of prison and is trying to find a job. That
is not how our community is depicted. The most that is
depicted with regards to poverty in our community is the
issue of young people being kicked out of their homes for
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being queer or running away from home because they’ve been
abused.”
Cooptation by the Right
Urvashi Vaid, the author of Irresistible Revolution: Confronting Race,
Class and the Assumptions of LGBT Politics points out that the
intersectional organizing for peace and justice led by
lesbians and feminists has been derailed into a struggle for
legal recognition that puts the LGBT movement in alliance
with the most conservative economic forces in the country.
In the book she explores what it means to be in alliance
with the Koch Brothers, who are supportive of gay rights and
who hosted a fundraiser for Republican politicians who
supported gay rights in New York State. “One of the things
that disturbs me so much is that, in the politics of our
time, the consensus that we are supposed to build is with
the right wing, and not with other progressive forces. Not
with one another. And that is disturbing to me.
Pragmatically speaking, many gay rights wins in state
legislatures have been won by appealing to moderate and
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conservative Republicans. We’ve gotten a few of them on our
side because they have gay kids, or because somebody
prominent in the state who’s a gay Republican donor got
involved and made it safe for them (to also become
involved).”29
Marriage is a Tool of colonialism.
In their article on “Marriage Will Never Set Us Free” Dean
Spade and Craig Willse look at how colonization utilizes
notions of sexuality and gender.30 They say: “Colonization
often casts invasion as rescuing colonized populations from
their backward gender and family systems. Forcing indigenous
people to comply with European norms of gender, sexuality
and family structure and punishing them for not doing so has
been a key tool of US settler colonialism in North America.
Marriage has been an important tool of land theft and ethnic
cleansing aimed at disappearing indigenous people in many
ways. The US encouraged westward settlement by promising
29 Urvaishi Vaid, Irresistible Revolution: Confronting Race, Class and the Assumptions of LGBT Politics and Virtual Equality: The Mainstreaming of Gay and Lesbian Liberation .Published by: off our backs, inc. Stable URL: http://www.jstor.org/stable/20835389.30 Dean Spade & Craig Willse Marriage Will Never Set Us Free., Organizing http://Organizing Upgrade.com, September 2013
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male settlers 160 acres to move west, plus an extra 160 if
they married and brought a wife. At the same time, the US
criminalized traditional indigenous communal living styles,
burning longhouses where indigenous people lived communally,
eliminating communal landholding methods, and enforcing male
individual ownership. Management of gender and family
systems was and is essential to displacement and settlement
processes. Enforcing gender norms in boarding schools as
part of a ‘civilizing mission,’ and removing children from
native communities through a variety of programs that
persist today are key tools of ethnic cleansing and
settlement in the US.”
Pinkwashing
In it’s extreme form, gay assimilationism has enabled
contemporary imperialism to engage in “pinkwashing”
(covering up imperial aggression through marketing and
political strategies aimed at promoting a product or an
entity through an appeal to queer-friendliness.) As Jaspir
Puar has pointed out in her 2007 monograph31 and in a more
recent article32 the Israeli government has created public
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relations campaign to alter public perception of Israel as
"militaristic and religious" and promote it instead as a
"modern democracy", a "safe and secured place for
investment", and a "tourist destination with the sun and the
sand for gay tourists” because of its supposedly gay
friendly laws and atmosphere.
Puar characterizes this, and a related cluster of gay
actions that support conservative political agendas as
Homonationalism. For Puar homonationalism undergirds U.S.
imperial structures through an embrace of a sexually
progressive multiculturalism justifying foreign
intervention. Puar critiques the deployment of
homonationalism in the United States as a justification for
violently implementing the doctrine of American
exceptionalism embodied in the War on Terror. Puar argues
that like Israel the United States flaunts its supposedly
liberal openness to homosexuality to create an identity that
is in contradistinction to sexual oppression in Muslim
31 Jaspir, Puar, Terrorist Assemblages: Homonationalism in Queer Times, 2007.32Jaspir, Puar, Rethinking Homonationalism Int. J. Middle East Stud. 45, 2013.
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countries. This so called oppression then serves as an
excuse for the United States to “liberate” oppressed women
and sexual deviants in these countries, simultaneously
papering over sexual inequality in the United States.
Marriage is a tool of xenophobia and immigration enforcement.
Spade and Willsa argue that “From its origins, US
immigration law has put in place mechanisms for regulating
those migrants it does allow in, always under threat of
deportation, and labeling other migrants “undesirable” to
both make them more exploitable by their bosses and easier
to purge. Keeping out poor people, people with stigmatized
health issues, and people of color have been urgent national
priorities. Marriage has been one of the key valves of that
control. The Page Act of 1875, for example, sought to keep
out Asian women, hoping to prevent Asian laborers in the US
from reproducing, but allowed the immigration of Asian
merchants’ wives. Marriage continues to be a deeply unjust
tool of immigration control in the US, with marital family
ties being one of the few pathways to immigration. One
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impact of this system is that it keeps people stuck in
violent and harmful sexual and family relationships because
their immigration status depends on it.”33
Does Gay Marriage Reduce Homophobia?
Some in the gay marriage movement admit that gay marriage
may not benefit many queers especially those who are singe
or without property but they argue that raising the issue of
gay marriage has helped has helped reduce homophobia
generally, but DeFilippis disagrees.
Joseph DeFilippis: “When homophobia is your only target
then the removal of homophobia will only benefit the people
for whom that was the only issue facing them. If you’re
homeless and you’re a person of color, and a person of color
who is an immigrant, and you’re queer, getting rid of
homophobia tomorrow doesn’t change the immigration battles
you have, or the racism you have to contend with, or the
struggles to have to pay for your apartment.
33 Dean Spade & Craig Willse Marriage Will Never Set Us Free., Organizing http://Organizing Upgrade.com, September 2013
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“If you look at the generation of today, if you look at the
attitudes of 20-year-old gay people versus 60 year olds,
it’s just a cultural shift that is happening and to credit
it all to gay marriage I think is ridiculous. To say that it
helped to expedite it a little, probably, but that doesn’t
justify the huge resources that have been poured into it,
the ways in which other more life and death issues were
utterly ignored. It doesn’t justify any of that in my mind.”
Is Fighting Homophobia Enough?
For DeFilippis, fighting only against homophobia is not
enough and, in some ways, it is racist. Joseph DeFilippis:
“I would say, absolutely, the mainstream gay movement is
racist. And I would say that racism takes many forms and
sometimes you are aware you’re being racist and most of the
times you are not. And that institutional racism is much
more potent and deadly than some individual person using
some racist epitaph, which is what they hear when they hear
things like ‘they are racist.’ They think it means that
you’re calling someone a ‘nigger.’ And, in fact, what it
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means is that you are completely ignoring their lives, their
issues, their agendas, and you’re taking money away from the
funding of their lives, their issues and agendas to focus on
yours which you perceive as being much more important. You
perceive as being the ‘real’ work, not all of this ‘extra
stuff on the side,’ which is how our work is often dismissed
and I would call that racist. Yes.
Race and Marriage
Lisa Duggan argues that beyond the stereotypes, there’s
reason to believe fewer queers of color are even looking to
get married. Lisa Duggan: “The majority of the LGB
population is un-partnered. The majority—more than 50%. But
the white, wealthy gay men are the most partnered population
in California. And for instance, Black lesbians are the
least partnered and the most likely to have children. But if
you were looking at that data and wondering, what do our
constituencies really need? Marriage would not be at the top
of your list.”
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Priya Kandaswamy, says a large percentage could not get the
material benefits gained through marriage, for a whole host
of reasons. Priya Kandaswamy: “There are certainly queers of
color who are interested in marriage, and who as individuals
would benefit in certain ways if they were given access to
the institution of marriage. However, if we think
structurally about the rights that people might get through
marriage, these rights are incredibly racially stratified.
For example, we can think about property rights. There are
queer people of color who stand to gain from the property
rights that marriage would bring them. However, the
allocation and organization of property in this country is
still really racially stratified. And the same is true for
healthcare through a spouse's employer. While certainly some
people of color might gain healthcare through a spouse's
employer through marriage rights, it is in fact true that
far more white people work in jobs that provide healthcare
through an employer than people of color do. So, if people
of color disproportionately don't get healthcare through
their employer, then people of color are disproportionately
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not going to benefit from the right to healthcare through a
spouse's employer.”
Dean Spade: “And this is part of this theory that what the
law says is what matters, rather than whether or not people
have what they need to survive. If we were really concerned
about the survival and basic needs of queer and trans people
in California, our top priority would have been dealing with
immigration detention in California, and the violence
against queer and trans people, and the massive criminal
punishment system in California. But that's not the goal of
what this supposed movement is, right? The goals of the
marriage campaign are very narrowly about this formal legal
right. And the people who are the most vulnerable are
communities who could really stand to have some much more
urgent life and death issues dealt with. They're really
basically left out of the picture, and those issues don't
get the attention or the resources.”
“As the racial wealth divide grows in the United States,”
Spade continues, “you’ll have an agenda that’s going to
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benefit the people with the most privilege. And the vast
majority of the people are certain to be left in the same or
a worse position because they don’t even have solidarity
with other people in their community anymore!”
Key Issues for the Queer Community
Kenyon Farrow, former executive director of Queers for
Economic Justice, a grassroots group in New York City,
believes that the queer community ought to be focusing on
issues that would go a long way towards protecting the lives
of queer and transgender folks. “I absolutely think housing
for poor, homeless, and low-income queer folks is a huge
issue for us, as is doing anti-violence work,” he says.
“HIV/AIDS is still a huge issue and [perhaps] more broadly,
the question of what the healthcare reform package means to
the LGBT community.”
Kandaswamy believes that if mainstream lesbian and gay
organizations are interested in working towards racial
justice, they need to take on issues like the criminal
justice system. “They should think about the fact that
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people of color—including queer people of color—are
incarcerated at incredibly high rates in this country,” she
says. “They need to think about racist immigration policies
and racial disparities in economic security in this country.
Racial justice is not about bringing a few people into an
organization to represent the interests of queer people of
color. It’s about being willing to do political work that
betters the lives of queer people of color in all dimensions
of their lives.”
The consensus among marriage equality critics seems to be
that if we had taken the $43 million spent on the failed
Prop 8 effort and really invested it in a broader LGBT
social justice movement, we could have sustained a change
for all kinds of vulnerable people—such as, preventing new
HIV infections among young African Americans.
Supporting Diverse Forms of Relationship
Lisa Duggan is also part of an online group, “Beyond
Marriage” that advocates for recognizing a greater diversity
of households and partnerships.
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Lisa Duggan: “We want domestic partnership and reciprocal
beneficiary for members of our community who don’t want to
or aren’t in a position to marry. We don’t want health care
and social security allocated through marriage. We want
universal benefits.”
Instead of marriage, Lisa Duggan says the concept known as
‘reciprocal beneficiaries’ is better way to imagine legal
partnerships.
“So that, for instance, the great thing about reciprocal
beneficiary is that it allows you to have a partnership with
someone with whom you do not claim to have a sexual
relationship. It could be your best friend or your sister.
And you could then get recognized for purposes of medical
decision-making and taxation and things like that.
Reciprocal beneficiary, actually exists in several states
and that form of recognition really takes the regulation of
sex away from the state altogether. “
Even Kate Kendal who fights for gay marriage with the
National Center of Lesbian Rights, says that marriage
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shouldn’t be the only way relationships are protected. “You
shouldn't have to get married to have your relationship
protected, and you shouldn't lose benefits by getting
married. The ideal construct, from my perspective, would be
to have marriage have less of that psychic, cultural
importance. Have it be a religious ceremony for people who
want to have their union solemnized in a church, but for
everyone: gay, straight, older, younger, poor, rich—if you
want to have legal entwinement with each other, and
obligations, you're domestic partners, you're in a civil
union, you're reciprocal beneficiaries. But as a lesbian
legal advocate, until we have an equality of systems
available to all, marriage is how we best protect couples in
this culture. And until that changes, that has to be a
fight.”
In the national movement, we’re very much still engaged in
trying to get ourselves recognized in the law. And I’m not
denying the value of that. I understand that our rights have
to be written into the law in order to be protected by it.
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But what I’m saying is that being written into the law, in a
way, brings with it a bunch of other problems. We’re bought
into a system of compliance with the law when we really need
to be talking about how to use the law to restructure power
in this country. So there’s a disconnect sometimes between
the issues that are important to people on the ground and
what the mainstream organizations are fighting for.
But if you look at the legal organizations that are actually
representing clients, like the immigration groups or the
transgender groups, those groups are very much involved in
these bread-and butter issues and the economic justice
issues, and access to services and denials to services and
fighting criminalization.
So marriage equality has dominated the headlines and it was
a conversation that everybody was talking about. But the far
less sexy issue of how many gay people and transgender
people are unemployed didn’t dominate the headlines. It’s
also harder to address.
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Although gay marriage is still the issue that most of the
media and mainstream voices from the LGBT community continue
to amplify and highlight—there are plenty of queers who are
challenging that agenda by dedicating their lives to
issues that affect the poor and disenfranchised members of
our communities.
Kenyon Farrow feels now is the time to re-orient the LGBT
movement to more fundamental issues. “This is a moment where
the agenda may be changed, but it won't be changed by the
organizations that are pushing the mainstream agenda. I
actually think they have painted themselves into a corner,
because they've been so narrow in their focus. And from
everything I hear from talking to civil rights
organizations, to economic justice organizations, to labor
movements and what have you, they have succeeded in ticking
off a lot of organizations by . . . people have felt very
used by many of the mainstream organizations. And as soon as
the mainstream organizations got what they wanted out of
them, they walked. Said that they wanted to build bridges
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and work with civil rights organizations and communities of
color, with labor, with women's organizations—all of whom
I've heard a range of things from lately—who've all felt
that the mainstream LGBT organizations approached them, got
what they wanted, and then they walked. And they never got
another call again about anything that the other groups on
the other side wanted, and needed their support around. So,
I think it's a good time to strategically begin to build
better relationships, and relationships of integrity, with
those kinds of organizations that are interested in working
with queer organizations, but have been burned by the
mainstream agenda. And I think we can begin to advance a
different kind of queer agenda.”34
Where Do We Go from Here?
Now that in the majority of states and for the bulk of the
population in the U.S. same-sex marriage is now legal, even
groups that were heavily invested in the marriage fight are
setting their sites on new goals. The Human Rights Campaign
35 has laid out an ambitious agenda of civil rights
34 Lisa Dettmer, Beyond Gay Marriage audio documentary, KPFA/ RP&E, 2010.
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protections for people based on their sexual orientation and
gender identity, including employment housing, and
education. The Center for American Progress, a mainstream
liberal group that works on many issues other than gay
rights has also advocated for shifting the focus to issues
such as protecting workers, immigration reform, youth
homelessness, and health disparities.36
In a 2013 article published in The Nation magazine,37 three
LGBT rights advocates, including Lisa Duggan reflect on
where the LGBT movement in the U.S. should be heading on
post-supreme court rulings favoring gay marriage.
In a 2013 interview with the Newspaper Street Spirit Urvashi
Vaid analyzes the strengths and weakness of gay marriage as
a means for building a movement for seep structural change.
38 35 http://www.hrc.org/campaigns/beyond-marriage-equality-a-blueprint-for-federal-non-discrimination-protect36 https://www.americanprogress.org/issues/lgbt/report/2013/07/09/69047/whats-next-for-lgbt-equality/37 Urvashi Vaid, Lisa Duggan, Tamara Metz and Amber Hollibaugh, What's Next for the LGBT Movement? June 27, 2013 -http://www.thenation.com/blog/175015/whats-next-lgbt-movement38 Urvashi Vaid, Irresistible Revolution: Confronting Race, Class and the Assumptions of LGBT Politics
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There are many alternatives to marriage being created. Many
different family structures and living arrangements are
popping up all over. Co-housing arrangements often combining
Queers and straights and self sustainable urban farms. And
radical sexual outlaws like the queer Fairies or feminist
women’s land is still caring on traditions of the past
transformed with those new practices of the present and
future. More single people enjoying solitude, and many
people reinventing concepts of community beyond the
virtual even in these post-modern times. Hundreds of others
queer and feminist activists and scholars are dedicating
their lives to challenging the neoliberal discourse and
making our communities more focused on the needs and lives
of queers of color and women, homeless and imprisoned
queers, and queers with AIDS, and are working to making the
whole queer community truly part of our family. Almost a
decade ago the National Gay And Lesbian Task for resisted
our workshop title that linked gay marriage with racism .
now even liberal institutions are challenging the focus on
marriage and the military because of the pressure of radical
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activists and ordinary people who felt their lives were not
being represented . Change is happening. While we may not
be that visible yet , we’ll are continue to fight for a new
vision… just beneath the radar.
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Afterword
In 1980, I wrote a paper for a history class at Earlham
College about how marriage as we now know it—defined as
romantic relationships between two persons—was not the
primary purpose or understanding of marriage prior to the
1900’s. I asserted that historically, marriage was not an
affective relation but was primarily an economic
relationship in a world that was often homosocial.39 My
paper was not accepted because the professor felt my thesis
was not historically accurate. In the era of compulsory
heterosexuality in which I was living then, this rejection
seemed a direct outcome of the rampant homophobia in the
educational system.
In addition to imposing compulsory heterosexuality, dissent
was squelched in the defense of heteropatriachy40 and more
broadly the educational system was used to “legitimize
39 Definitiion of Homosocial: J. Childers/G. Hentzi eds., The Columbia Dictionary of Modern Literary and Cultural Criticism (New York 1995) p. 13840 “The academy is a place of transformation, of incitement to learning of disobedience. Yes, it is here and now a heteropatriarchal institution.” Tamsin Wilton, Lesbian Studies: Setting An Agenda, Routledge NYC, 1995
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notions of Manifest Destiny and foundational mythologies of
settler colonialism and exceptional democracy.”41
Nonetheless, this suppression of dissent has been punctuated
by attempts by scholars to challenge and subvert that
tendency especially within disciplines that grew out of the
movements of the 1960s: Women’s Studies, Ethnic Studies, and
now Queer Studies.42 None of those disciplines existed at
Earlham in 1980 when I was attempting to graduate. With
the submission of this paper, I now I get a chance to
demonstrate that contested knowledge can occasionally be
accepted into the academy.
41 Chatterjee and Maira, Academic Repression and Scholarly Dissent, Imperial University; 2014 ) 42 Tamsin Wilton Lesbian Studies: Setting An Agenda, Routledge NYC