Being Master

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Being Master

By: Draven


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TABLE OF CONTENTS

PREFACE

i. Quotesii. The Purpose of This Documentiii. Acknowledging Our Differences

COMMENCEMENT

1. Mastering Yourself2. Know Your Environment3. General Guidelines For Personal Conduct

SOJOURN

1. Finding The Slave2. Collaring The Slave3. Mastering The Slave4. Releasing The Slave

ATTAINMENT

1. Axiom


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Preface


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QUOTES

One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself.~Leonardo da Vinci

Only one who devotes himself to a cause with his whole strength and soul can be a true master. For this

reason mastery demands all of a person.~ Albert Einstein

The eye of the master will do more work than both his hands.~ Benjamin Franklin

Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.~ Lao Tzu

One reason so few of us achieves what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never

concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in

particular.~ Anthony Robbins

What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly~ Richard Bach

Personal mastery is the discipline of continually clarifying and deepening our personal vision, of

focusing our energies, of developing patience, and of seeing reality objectively.~ Peter Senge

A man of self-control becomes the master~ Sam Veda

No man is free who is not master of himself.~ Epictetus

I have only one counsel for you; be master.~ Napoleon Bonaparte


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THE PURPOSE OFTHIS DOCUMENT

I often hear people ask, Is there any trainingfor men, on how to be amaster? The common response is, Either you are master or you are not, one who is not amaster cannot be taught to be one. And, while I suspect this is true, I also think, we may not be

able to be taught to bea master, but we certainly can learn to be a bettermaster. My focus here is

to improve upon the thought process and techniques of those who are already skilled masters.

I will be the first to admit that I am not perfect, no, far from it. Even as I have prepared this

document through a precise outline of what I wish to discuss, I am plagued with the fact that

even itsauthor will scarcely be able to live up to the ideals and efforts dictated below. An

important concept to employ when reading this, and certainly while living life, I believe, is to be

better than yourself. Though we will inevitably falter and succumb to our lesser traits, and toss

aside our lofty ideals and make grievous errors in this world, we must also be capable of

transcending our petty selves towards something better, something noble. Honor, Strength,

Fortitude; these are not just words to toss about as casually as a Tal. It is within ourselves that

we can see how to improve, for only we can know where we are true to ourselves and when we

are being petty or needlessly cruel.

It is not my intent to tell anyone how to live their lives, nor to point fingers or lay blame or even

to suggest that anothers method isnt absolutely the right way of doing things. My perceptions

are based on common topics of conversation and questions directed towards me personally. My

ideals come from truth, and when spoken plainly and without design, truth rings clear and

echoes within our hearts.

The real purpose of this document is to help you explore yourselves and find the truth within,and listen to it. Without discovery there can be no growth. Without growth there can be no

understanding. Without understanding there can be no excellence. Without excellence there can

be no consistency. Without consistency there can be no peace. Without peace there can be no

happiness. Without happiness there can be no love.


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ACKNOWLEDGING OUR DIFFERENCES

There is no ultimate formulato use when mastering a slave. As eachman is an individual, so is his slave. The master must be able to incorporate new skills andtechniques along with his regimented training style when dealing with a new girl. He cannot

expect to get the same results with a new slave as he had obtained with a previous slave using

the exact same methods. He must discover what style of teaching she can most easily learn. He

must not be afraid to adjust his technique to bring out the most his slave has to offer. It is true,

she is to change to suit him, but if the man cannot change enough, to allow her to be capable of

suiting him, then the road will be much longer and filled with more difficulties than is

necessary or healthy for the relationship.

A man who is to be master must know how to co-exist with his peers. If you are unable to live

in harmony with the other men around you then ultimately you are unable to live in harmony

with yourself. While we all have different opinions and ideas of how things ought to be, we

must understand that we may not know the best possible way to do absolutely everything; that

there may be another who has a method more suitable to obtaining the results desired. We must

be willing to listen to the thoughts and opinions of others without disparaging them out of

hand. Even if we cannot or will not agree to the philosophies of others is no reason to turn a

deaf ear to their words. It is in listening that we can know for certain if we are secure in our

ways, or perhaps if we might make adjustments based on wisdom imparted upon us.

A slave too will pick up on any perceived weakness and subconsciously it will dictate her

actions. Even while she obeys, it is possible she loathes. A large part of maintaining respect and

control is to exude absolute authority. A man who is weak in the eyes of his peers will more

than likely appear weak to the eyes of his slave. Such things lead to a downward spiral and are

very difficult to stem once the idea has taken seed. The best possible barrier against such

situations is to maintain peace with those around you. This is not to say that you should meekly

follow the will of others, certainly you must stand up for what you believe, but a man who

does not receive the respect of his peers may not be worthy of respect from anyone.


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Commencement


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MASTERING YOURSELF

Self control is total control. This is true in all areas of life, not only whenmastering a slave. In order to be a master you must consider whether or not you have controlover your own life, before attempting to control the life of another. A true master cannot be a

man who is still searching for himself; he must know who he is at his very core. He must be of

sound mind and be stable in his home life and have a clear sense of direction. You cannot be the

source of wisdom for another if you cannot make wise decisions for yourself. A man must

understand and have a grip on the most important areas of his life, to possibly include, his

health, financial status, job security, mental stability, emotional stability, family life, general

morality, or social standing. Any other subject which directly affects his life should be well

balanced as well, before undertaking active mastering of another.

One thing I think many men do not take into account, when they begin searching for a new

slave, is that they are seeking to directly influence a human life in every way possible. He will

ask her to surrender her heart and mind and body to his will. He will be manipulating her

actions and thoughts and feelings. This is inherently dangerous and potentially life changing to

the individuals involved. It should never be approached as a game or in ignorance or fear. It is

reckless and irresponsible to knowingly abuse your position as master to engage in some sort of

juvenile sport, in which you intentionally string along the heart of another only to dash their

hopes and dreams upon the cruel rocks of your sadistic pleasure.

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Another aspect to mastering yourself is controlling your reactions and emotions. You must be

able to set aside your immediate thoughts and allow yourself to delve deep within yourself tosearch out answers to the difficult questions or decisions in your life, especially when mastering

slaves. You must not allow inner conflicts to keep you from making rational choices and sound

judgments. You must be willing to be fair and not forbid a thing simply because it was not you

who initiated the thing. An example might be if you had to make an important decision

regarding your slaves future but she has recently disobeyed you on a minor matter. While not

neglecting to punish the slave for the infraction you must not allow yourself to impose an even


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greater penalty by allowing the fact of the punishment to influence the important decision you

must make. You must be able to separate the situations and review each as an individual, not

on the whole. It is extremely easy to continue to compound transgressions together until it

shows such a picture as to suggest that you only encounter one huge problem after another,

without allowing yourself to clearly see that you enjoy far greater good than bad from yourslaves actions.

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Another aspect of mastering yourself is the ability to maintain order within the master/slave

relationship. Do not allow chaos to run rampant. When your slave oversteps her boundaries, try

to limit the amount of time she is allowed to misbehave without repercussion. Do not argue,

negotiate, or take orders from your slave regarding how you will deal with her transgressions.

If you intend for things to be a certain way then it is your responsibility to ensure your slave

understands that, without thinking its possible to sway your mind through manipulation or

demands. This does not mean that you shouldnt listen to logic and make informed decisions.

Its perfectly reasonable to consider that your slave may have knowledge of a situation which

could possible change its outcome if you only give it time to sink in. But, it is imperative that

you are making the decisions, notyour slave.

When it comes to mastering yourself, you are in a never ending task to continuously look

within yourself, examine your mind and motivations and intent, before engaging in important

discussions or making major decisions for either yourself or your slave, especially when your

decisions could potentially affect the mental stability of the slave. Remember you reap what you

sew and what you grow comes back to you. If you follow logic and make careful choices in the

training of your slave, you will be rewarded with a creature that is a well balanced individual

and trusts you implicitly. The alternative is to fight at every turn of the training because you

show yourself to be reckless with your actions and she is automatically fearful of every

potential decision you make.

And how do you know if you are master? When in doubt, there is no doubt.


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KNOW YOUR ENVIRONMENT

Understanding your surroundings is criticalto knowinghow you should exert your will. If you are in a Gorean setting, then know Gor. There is nothingso exasperating within the realm of Gor than a master who does not know Gor. If you are to

seek a kajira to be your slave then you must be aware of the protocol and history behind the use

of such girls. You must be aware of the demands put upon such slaves and how they were

regularly called to task within the books. This way you ensure that your slave doesnt lead you

to false assumptions as to what she is capable of doing, when serving you. Perhaps you have

not read the books completely, I havent. Thatdoesnt mean you just make things up as you go

along. Learning to be a better master includes knowing who to trust when seeking information.

There are a number of online sources to reference, for accurate text of the books of Gor. Youshould never rely on quotes alone because more often than not you have not considered their

appropriate context. Always back up your source with at least two others and if possible get the

concurrence of one or more free person who is in a position to know. There is an old adage

which claims fake it til you make it; this is not appropriate for Gor. If you are unaware of the

proper procedures when dealing with kajira or other free, then it is your duty to research and

learn what is proper before attempting to implement any strategy. There is no real substitute for

reading the books yourself and gaining an exact contextual basis for how every situation is to be

handled. Contrary to popular misconception the books of Gor leave very little open to

interpretation.

A true master must also know how to balance his lifestyle choice within different types of non-

lifestyle environments. Your knowledge of how the master/slave dichotomy works can serve

you well in all walks of life, not strictly in online or lifestyle interactions. You can edit the

explicit tendencies that such a lifestyle invokes and use the basic principle of self control and

acknowledgement of differences with colleagues in the workplace, peers in a social setting, and

even relatives at family functions. If you maintain a calm, assertive, and commanding presence,

those around you will naturally heed your word. You will find you are commanding

conversations, and thus thought processes, with more ease than if you were presenting a

shakable, uncertain front. Being a master in the workplace is ensuring that you hold the political

high-ground. If you are in a position of little authority, then it is with your co-workers that you

must maintain order. Let it be you who they look towards to solve questionable situations. Do

not allow them to gather information on you, but rather you must ensure you are


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knowledgeable about them. If you see a source of conflict between two of your co-workers be

sure that you have the ability to either exasperate it by pitting them against each other, or quell

it by intervening and establishing control once more. Refer to the team you are a part of as your

team, and be certain you are in the best position to present your teams efforts personally

whenever possible. If you are in a position of authority within your workplace, you must runthe environment with careful calculation. Ensure those directly below you, who may have to

supervise others, have the knowledge necessary to make decisions that increase productivity.

Be sure that all your employees know that you expect cooperation not only with yourself but

with each other. Listen to the ideas of those beneath you but ensure that your overall plan is

what they promote.

Within a family environment know that quiet confidence reigns supreme. Be strong with your

opinions without needing to raise your voice to have them heard. State the salient points in anydiscussion and conclude it intelligently. Do not get dragged into pointless arguments which you

know you cannot convince your point in. Show them you are well adjusted and you will be well

loved. Understand that in matters of the family there is no recipe for perfection, save that which ends in a

smile.

When you are at home, you cannot allow your authority to be questioned. It must be known

without the need to say it. A mans home ishis castle and as such you must be king. The

womans role in the home is to keep it orderly, and ensure the children mind their betters. The

mans role in the home is to keep the woman in order to ensure the house continues to run

smoothly.

The point to considering thoughts such as these when interacting in non-lifestyle situations is to

develop a sense of being that you carry with you wherever you go. If you are only a master

when it comes to pushing text across a screen, then you are no master at all. One must take the

confidence he feels online and force himself to feel that confidence everywhere else. There is no

room for fear in life, unless it is accompanied with courage. If you have the need to say your

peace, then say it with no regret. Speak in a strong voice, one filled with wisdom. Let it be

thought that you know exactly what you are saying and the reasons you are saying it. If you

have hesitation and a quiver in your tone then others will dismiss your words as unimportant,

and therefore you will be relegated to a similar title in their eyes. You must know your

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GUIDELINES FOR PERSONAL CONDUCT

First and foremost is honesty.There are few measures of a man towhich second chances are not afforded. Honesty is one such measure. If there is nothing elseyou take with you, let it be the virtue of the truth. Most importantly, the truth should be a

natural and consistent factor in any master/slave relationship. Though she may doubt from time

to time your statements, let your actions be her guide. Give neither her, nor anyone else for that

matter any reason whatsoever to suspect that your actions are counter to your words. They

should mirror one another and be seen as being consistent with one another. When you tell the

truth you never have to worry about repeating the same lie at a later date and possibly getting it

wrong. When you are honest in answering questions or making statements the truth shows

through and people instinctively know the right of it. When people become used to hearing thetruth from you and find it confirmed time and again they begin to accept your word much more

readily and without confrontation and you find that you gain the power of their respect and the

strength of their backing. You will find that your own life is improved incalculably by the

confidence gained through such honorable acts. You will gain the peace of mind and confidence

needed to maintain a significant presence in the community of your peers. It becomes a chain

reaction to which you are elevated ever higher in the esteemed opinion of those around you.

You must push through the inner roadblocks which prevent you from fulfilling your duty as

master. At times you will find you have a knot in the pit of your stomach. It may say to you that

she is such a priceless treasure, that which you have been seeking for years, impossible to

replace, and the idea that you might break such a fragile possession makes you hesitate. Such a

feeling inside you could possibly betray you if you are not careful. You must push past such

fears and use your courage to know the truth of her. She is not to be placed upon a pedestal and

worshiped, for it is her lot to serve. Even during her moments of resistance, she simply seeks an

assurance that you can do what is necessary to control her. In your fear that she might break, do

not hesitate to break her and command her obedience. It is far more important that she

understand without question that she cannot breakyou.

You cannot fight change within yourself. Through time we grow and mature and modify our

thought process to adapt to the ever changing world around us. Be sure that you do not remain

stagnant and un-evolved in the whole of life. Find within yourself the differences from your


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past and employ those which have made improvement upon your present, in respects to how

you approach your future. Be aware that a slave may be required to mold herself to her master,

but a master must know the best techniques to use on that particular slave to ensure she is

capable of complete surrender. Each individual is different and must be handled differently, in

turn. Be aware that you may benefit from compromise. If faced with the choice of listening to aproposed form of change and ignoring outright any such possibility, you should listen, and

perhaps discover an opportunity within yourself for improvement.

Do not be a slave to your emotions. When you are master, you are in a position of great power

and responsibility. You are required to make decisions frequently and those decisions need be

made regardless of your current state of mental wellness. If you allow yourself to be guided by

emotion then you are submitting yourself to the will of the person who has triggered said

emotion. If an individual has made you angry and you act out of anger you might as well bedancing on the string of a marionette. One who is easily brought to outrage or fear, likewise

those who can be enamored without effort, are victims of those who induce such emotion

within others. When you must decide an important course of action, be certain to only do so

with clear skies within your head and calm waters within your heart. You will find that the end

result is far less backpedaling, and misunderstandings amongst those around you. Take the

time needed to understand the reasons behind your decisions; do not just issue blind orders.

Do not be ignorant of your own mistakes. Admit when you have erred, though never in a way

which suggests that you arent the wiser for it.Recognize the wisdom in others and learn to

adapt to a better way of living, if it also increases the richness of your own life. A person who

argues a point even knowing he is in the wrong is acting out of pride and stubbornness. He is

ignorant to the damage he does to himself in the eyes of his peers and those he commands. The

man who can admit thoughtful acknowledgement of his inaccurate suppositions is capable of

growing and maturing in thought as well as retaining the respect of those around him, both

peers and subordinates. Being a master means knowing when to agree and when to disagree.

Know yourself. Be aware of your limits and your habits. Understand what sets you off so you

can safeguard against such happenings. Be alert to your emotional and mental state so that you

may know when to avoid conflicts and when you might seek them out intentionally. Know

your inadequacies when approaching a debate and do not put yourself in a position to be

unable to refute information you cannot be sure is genuine. You must often reflect upon your


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life. Study your past and imagine your future. Know that life is lived in the present, but only

where we have been will be an accurate guide for where we are going. Wonder about your

failures and discover the reasons for those failures and prevent such reasons from recurring. To

be master you must be intimately familiar with every aspect of yourself. Before you can know

another, you must first know yourself; else, you run the risk of blindly conforming.

For the love of all that is good, learn. Recognizing your errors is quite admirable, but he who

understands where he went wrong and continues to repeat the same mistakes is a fool. Only

someone who can do better the second time around is capable of achieving any greatness at all.

The definition of insanity is repeating the same action over and over again while expecting a

different result each time. Commit yourself to seeking out the materials vital to understanding

your surroundings and learn them. If you wish to build a structure you must first learn the

blueprints. If you are to be a master of Gor you must learn Gor. If you are to master a slave youmust learn her soul.

Be better than yourself. There are moments in our lives when we know damn well what we are

doing isnt right.Unless you are completely devoid of morality and conscience then you are

capable of determining when you are acting in contradiction to what you might normally

expect from others. Perhaps it is a moment where you take advantage of another mans slave. It

may be when you are being unnecessarily cruel to one of limited aptitude or dialect, simply for

the sake of hurting their feelings or, perhaps the revelation or concealment of information that

will embarrass or harm an individual. When we have power we also have a potential to abuse

that power. If the only thing you gain from the abuse of power is a momentary cheap thrill,

then you are sure to expect long-term damage to your credibility in the eyes of those around

you and an eventual self loathing from within. Ultimately you must answer yourself this

question; what kind of man do I pretend to be vs. what kind of man am I really? If you cant

give yourself an honest answer that you enjoy hearing, then you might consider re-evaluating

your priorities.


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SOJOURN


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FINDING A SLAVE

When searching for a slaveyou should understand your motivations. Areyou looking to engage in a short term sports activity in which you play the master and she playsthe slave? Are you not sure what you want but have heard that supposedly masters have

slaves? Are you looking to replace the slave you mishandled last time and quickly fill the void

so as to keep up appearances? Are you seeking your next victim? Do you want to one-up the

Ubar of another home? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you should take a

step back and re-evaluate your purpose within the lifestyle. What will you do once you acquire

a slave? The correct answer is that you are seeking to establish a rewarding relationship in

which you develop a willing slave into her greatest potential, establishing a level of complete

trust and exploring both the slave and yourself in all areas of life and the lifestyle. Setting andexpanding limits keeps you aware of every aspect of your body and brain as well as hers. How

prepared are you for the commitment of a slave, before you attempt to find one? You should

think long and hard about the ramifications of your actions, when exercising control over a life.

When seeking a slave, you should know what to look for. It is vital to determine compatibility

so as to maximize the rewards afforded the owner of a slave. She should be intelligent; when

the sex is over its nice to have something to talk about. However, you should gauge your own

intelligence as well. If your slave is far above your intellectual capacity you will end up being

manipulated and she will become bored and begin to hold contempt for you. You should

understand her experience level. It is not necessary for a slave to have less experience within the

lifestyle and may even be desirable that her experience is as much as or greater than the master

owning her, but only if his experience is significant to begin with. This way he can move her

along more smoothly and get to the more intricate levels of mastering sooner rather than later.

A man has to be very careful in any and all attempts at rushing training with a slave; regardless

of her experience there is a potential to damage her mentally and physically if you rush

needlessly. The slavesage is another factor when determining compatibility. Within a range of

5 or 7 years of your own age is ideal. If she is too much younger you will find she is too

concerned about things you no longer have an interest in. Her experience wont be as mature as

yours and she may lack wisdom you have culminated long ago. If she is too much older she

may feel as if she is your better, even if its subconscious, based on the same principle of mature

wisdom. Of course there are exceptions to this and no set qualification of age is ever required,

as long as the individuals involved can properly handle the realities of life. Similarly those who


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make a distinction from only a few years difference in age are likely doing so out of ignorant

superciliousness.

You should fully understand the slaves limits. Now, its a popular misconception that kajira ofGor supposedly have no limits, save that which is set for them by their owners. That may be the

case in a series of fictional writings, but for individuals of living, breathing, flesh and blood,

nothing is ever so simple. Several times in these pages there is reference to the responsibilities of

a master when dealing with the health and well-being of a slave and the reason is simple;

mismanagement of a slave can cause long-lasting mental instability and emotional trauma. Her

physical wellbeing is in the care of the owner as well, and should he treat her as a character in a

book he may find he has broken several really good laws. So have a care in being cavalier; some

things are better-off taken slow and with consideration. Be sure, however, that while exploring

the girls limits that she does not convince you she is weaker than she truly is. You must makeher understand that some limits are meant to be stretched, others broken. While this isnt the

rule, it certainly is a common exception. As a master/slave relationship grows so does her

understanding of what her true limits are. In exploring those things she must first be able to

establish absolute trust in her owner. This is why actually delving into this layer of the lifestyle

is best saved for long after youve collared the girl and know her through and through.

The master of a slave is her lifeguard. The term is so simple and yet it is as accurate a title as Ive

ever found when describing the level of responsibility a man undertakes when collaring a slave.

He is responsible for the level of danger she encounters under his watch. He is charged with

pulling her from turbulent waters if she happens to get in over her head. If she enjoys playing in

the deep end of the pool, he must ensure she does not drown. Her life is in his hands.

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A crucial part of determining compatibility of a slave you have an interest in is determining her

overall commitment expectations. You must know if you are both willing to make the same

pledge of loyalty to each other and the lifestyle. If she is not interested or capable of seeking a

face to face relationship and you are determined to establish an off-line relationship, then you

are both potentially walking into a short term contract. As long as you both understand the

level of commitment which is expected then this shouldnt be a problem.


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Assuming you have made an informed judgment and have found the slave to be acceptable,

then you will likely collar her. Be certain she understands your expectations completely. Be

certain you understand the responsibilities completely. It is proper for the slave to beg your

collar. Do not ask the slave if she will accept the collar. That sets up the opportunity for the

slave to dominate the decision. She is slave, she has no rights, if you understand the relationshipto be compatible then you will know the slaves desire by hearing her beg for your steel. If she

refuses to beg for the collar, then she has exercised the one and only right she retains as a

person of Earth, not of Gor. If thats the case then obviously you have made an error in

judgment.

A collar is only a token symbol of the ownership of your slave. A collared slave is not

necessarily owned simply because she has steel about her throat. She may be someones

possession, but in order to be truly owned she must be unquestioning in his judgment,uncompromising in his will, unfailing in his desire. Her trust must be absolute. Certainly there

are levels of ownership and only when she has surrendered herself completely can you attain

true power over her. If you have that power then a collar represents far more than the outward

steel it appears to be. The stronger the relationship is the stronger the representation of the steel.


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MASTERING THE SLAVE

You have collared the slave; now what? Assuming you qualified theviability and worthiness of both yourself and the slave to co-exist in the manner you havepredetermined, then, you are ready to begin the journey together. Too often people only

concern themselves with the chase and dont really have a clue how to proceed afterwards.

They figure, I have managed to capture and collar this girl, what more need I do? Surely, that is

all it takes for me to be labeled a master, now and forever, right? Wrong. Y ouve only just begun

to realize how little you actually know. Even if you are a seasoned master and have owned a

number of slaves, there is always that initial period of starting all over, yet again. You must

reacquaint yourself with the basics, which you may have begun to take for granted in previous

relationships, assuming the girl knew well your manner and ways. Here it is all new again, andthough you have taken into account your knowledge and techniques, you must reassemble

them both to ensure she stays on the same page.

One of the first things you might want to do is come up with some specific Core Rules, which

she is to be held accountable for following. The rules are usually pretty standard, if youve done

this sort of thing before, but should be tailored around each individual girl as much as possible.

You should already have discovered what types of traits she possesses from the query sessions

you had before collaring her, so the rules may well address some of her most inconsistent or

troublesome traits, in an effort to help her grow to set aside fears or inhibitions. I had thought to

list an example of some Core Rules, but I discover that I cannot agree on a set to cover each and

every individual. A master and slave are too unique and individualized to be able to follow the

same set of rules as anyone else. I can however make a couple of very basic suggestions for your

consideration. Below are only a few examples:

1. Family comes first.The need for this rule may vary from slave to slave, but in the context in which I write

the slaves are generally living their lifestyle online and maintaining an offline existence

with vanilla husbands and children and other family. It is my most earnest

recommendation that this rule be the number one priority in any master/slave

relationship. Likewise, anyone who would allow or insist that the slave neglect her home-


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life and family matters, in my opinion, is not fit to be a master of slaves. In such cases I

would implore the girl to extract herself from the influence of such a man as soon as

possible.

2.

Masters word is final. The slave may have the final word, if it is yes, Master.

This seems self explanatory, but is also very important. Excluding conversations in

which you are attempting to gain information that the slave is in a position to provide,

and focusing on discussions which are instructional in nature and meant to impart

commands or knowledge upon the slave, the master must ensure that he has the final say

in how things will be and what he expects. A man who allows his slave to dominate a

discussion or lecture will soon find he is being topped from the bottom.

3.

Master will decide when and how the slaves training will progress.

The time for a slave to impart her concerns about limits and past experiences and other

concerns was before the collar was put in place. The master has a strict responsibility to

ensure that he does not push his slave further than she is able to go either physically or

mentally, keeping her safety a number one priority at all times. Having said that, if we

are to believe that the master has the mental wellbeing and physical safety of the slave in

mind, then it is up to him to set the pace and enforce the training regimen. If it is left to

the slave to decide when and how to proceed, you will find that progress to be limited

indeed, while her behavior suffers as a direct result.

4. The slave will complete her scheduled or timed tasks as instructed and withminimal question.

You should set the slave to regular and varied tasks, such as essaying her slave thoughts,

maintaining a project online or around the house, performing certain chores in a certain

manner. Basically its busy work, but its also a constant reminder of who and what she

is, as well it gets her accustomed to a bit of regularity in her life, and often times allows

you to observe unfettered thoughts and feelings she may not know how to express in just

any situation. The more you learn about your slave the better able you are to train her to

please you.


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Other rules might revolve around her behavior in the home and about in public, her manner of

speech, her dress code, the ritual of being in her masters presence. Still more detailed and

personally created rules may regard her eating habits, her toilet privileges, her recreational

abilities including self gratification, and any number of things meant to keep the slave focused

on your pleasure and reminding her of her lot in life.

* * *

I will counsel you, as a master, to take your time. If you are confident in all that has lead up to

the point of owning a slave, then you must believe that you will own her for quite a long time.

So, take that time, and be sure things happen when its right for them to happen, not because

you forced it to be so. A girls submission should be a natural occurrence, not an ultimatum.

As a master you must know everything there is to know about your slave. You must be able to

manipulate her body and mind at will. While keeping her personal safety as a primary goal, it is

essential that she feels what you allow her to feel. You should explore her past to put together

the pieces of the puzzle that is a slave. It will help you to discover why she behaves as she does,

or perhaps the reasons behind some of her fears. And you need to remember what you learn. If

weeks later a situation occurs that has direct bearing to a traumatic past then it is your duty to

help her avoid it, or at the least, traverse it safely. A girls slavery is not one dimensional; it is a

complex weave of need, experience, and desire. Understanding her slavery is the only way to

properly master her.

It is essential that you avoid being manipulated by the slave. An intelligent slave is adept at

double meaning, innuendo, begging, and passive aggressive behavior. If you let her, she will

dominate your will and manipulate your feelings, thoughts, and actions in order to get what

she wants, or to direct events in her favor. While it is perfectly acceptable to give your slave

allowances, for good behavior, you must guard against constant begging for superfluous favors.

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A slaves life needs structure. Setting a routine will bring a bit of stability to the relationship. A

routine can consist of things which are required of her, daily or weekly, such as essays,

meetings, tasks for a project, or other similar events. Routine also promotes attention to detail.

Routine is necessary to embed within the slave a sense of purpose and usefulness. By providing

several varied and significant tasks she is given many opportunities to please her master. Thiswill go a long way toward creating a slave that is both obedient and helpful in the masters

daily life.

* * *

At some point in a master/slave relationship the slave may show signs of resistance to training.

Obvious instances are when she lacks the motivation to put forth the effort required. She may

be approaching new territory and feel insecure and unsure as to how to proceed. Perhaps she is

just throwing a tantrum and childishly refusing to cooperate. It could be as well that you are

only recently passed a limit and she gets cold feet about approaching it again. In these

instances, where the slaves safety isnt in question, you must necessitate compliance. You must

take what is yours and require her surrender, even if she is reluctant to give it. In the end, she is

your slave and she must learn to obey.

* * *

It is essential that in most instances you balance your punishment with compassion and

nurturing. The slave must know that after the punishment is over she is still desirable as a slave

and ever regarded your prized property. Nearly always a slave will feel the need to be closer to

her master after punishment, not farther away. Take advantage of this to continue building the

ever growing bond between you and instill in her a sense that, not only are you the giver of

pain but also the healer of wounds. To properly do this you must condition the slave to

understand her punishments and accept them.

Conditioning the slave is a long and subtle process. You cannot program a girl like a machine,

with quick instruction and continued compliance. She must be shown the correct ways to do

any number of things and then be shown yet again, over and over, until it becomes second


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nature. A wise master will instill conditioning in his slave without her ever truly being aware of

what he has done or how he did it. He will only have made small adjustments in her life that

were easy enough to follow individually, one at a time and never straying from his goal, until

she looks at herself one day seeing such a drastic change that she cannot fathom its origin. He

will bend her to his will as surely as the accumulation of rain bends the leaf. Examples of suchcondition can be found in behavior modification, overall outlook on life and love, work ethics,

and health and fitness awareness. Make use of the effects of good conditioning, but be alert for

signs of bad conditioning as well. For, just as unaware the slave becomes of the changes within

her for the better, so may you be unaware of potentially bad conditioning taking place as an

unintentional result from other actions of yours.

Good conditioning is gained primarily through two methods of reinforcement: positive and

negative. Positive reinforcement consists of:

1. Praise2. Physical touch3. Sex4. Treats/candy5. Allowances6. Lifting of restrictions

Negative reinforcement may be exampled by:

1. Denial of pleasure2. Restricting speech3. Limiting travel


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4. Removal of allowances or privileges5. Placing toilet restrictions6. Limiting social/recreational time

All types of reinforcement can aid in the development of a slave. The overall effects are that the

slave will feel cared for; she will know you are not only taking the time to change her, but that

you know enough about her to be able to; this makes her feel treasured and valued as a slave. It

will create a continued desire to work towards other changes that might improve, as she sees

the positive result. As well, if the end result is rewarding enough, the slave may be eager to

duplicate whatever behavior she portrayed to earn a similar reward in the future.

Going hand in hand with positive and negative reinforcement is punishment. No lesson is

learned quite so well as that which is punctuated with discipline. An important factor in

deciding when and how to issue punishment is being able to gauge the appropriate level of

punishment necessary for any type of infraction. You must also ensure you stand firm on your

decisions for punishment without allowing yourself to be needlessly cruel in its delivery.

Some examples of punishments that fall under good conditioning are:

1. Corporal punishment2. Additional tasks/assignments3. Restriction of movement4. Clamps, plugs, or other discomfort tools5. Endurance or stress punishments6. Humiliation


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7. Sensory deprivation

* * *

The other side of the coin is bad conditioning. Through various acts a slave may become less

secure in the abilities of her master to keep her safe; she loses trust and becomes self reliant

upon maintaining her wellbeing, both physically and mentally. When this occurs, she will

inevitably retreat from any good progress your training might have produced. Left unchecked

this will result in the ruin of the master/slave relationship.

Bad conditioning can be found in manner forms. Over and above reasonable kinks, some of the

most dangerous manifests itself in the following ways:

1. Excessive physical abusea. Repeated beatings which lead to damage of the flesh.

b. Placing the slave in physically unsafe or life threatening situations.c. Turning control of a slave over to one who is unskilled, inexperienced or out

of control.

2. Mental abuse/terrora. Disparaging remarks about her appearance or physique.

b. Constant threat of physical violence, regardless of the level of follow through.c. Constant uncontrolled hollering or cursing.

3. Emotional abusea. Constant threat of the removal of her collar.

b. Threat of a substitute or replacement slave.c. Prolonged isolation.d. Betrayal of confidences.


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There is a seemingly innocent danger lurking within the unsuspecting minds of those who are

inexperienced in dealing with the realities of influencing a slaves life. Being online presents an

opportunity to explore areas you may never have attempted in a face to face environment. As

well, characters portrayed in books are put through all manner or trials and experiences which

do not portray the subtle damages caused by excessive violence or mistreatment. When youundertake the mastering of a slave it is time to put aside the grand notions of fantasy role-play

and embrace the harsh realities of life. What you say makes an impact in the slaves life. Her

body is susceptible to damage. Her emotions are fragile. Her mind is capable of imbalance. You

hold the power and it is your responsibility; use it wisely or risk destroying a life.

* * *

A truth we seldom care to entertain is the necessity, at times, to release the slave. I will not

argue the debate as to whether or not you should place the care of the slave into the hands of

another, or simply remove her collar and send her on her way. That opinion will be as varied as

the number of people asked of it. You should however recognize the times releasing a slave is

appropriate, and for what reasons, as well as know that there are times a reason for release may

be given yet still be deemed inappropriate.

The first truth is, only a master should remove the steel. A slave has no rights. Those were

relinquished at the moment of collaring and remain in the control of the master until he releases

her. There are times when a slave may be forced to remove her own steel, but they are few and

far between, and may just indicate, should such a thing be necessary, either her masters

inability to control her further, or his lack of mastery to begin with. If removal of her own collar

isnt necessary, which is to say she takes it off in a fit of anger or out of purposeful deceit to her

owner, then she deserves what she gets should he not allow her to resume wearing it.

There may be more than a few occasions when the slave, in the heat of the moment, might

decide to push the boundaries of her slavery and your power over her and beg release of your

steel. This shouldnt put you off your guard, even if it is unexpected. It is important to remain

objective and realistic when dealing with situations such as this. More than one master, Ill

wager, has ended up regretting a hasty decision to let an emotional slave talk him out of what

was rightfully his. In cases like this he has allowed her to manipulate him, often to the


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detriment of both master and slave. At those times he should deny her request and silence any

further indication that she may continue to beg out of the steel she belongs in. One dangerous

habit to let your slave fall into is to repeatedly beg release of the collar as a reaction to any

number of things she doesnt like, or perhaps to gain the upper hand in an argument. If the

slave feels you wont release her out of fearof losing her then she may use that to her advantagein gaining leverage over you. You should either call her bluff or find some other way to end the

constant threat, as you can never grow as master and slave if she is allowed such inappropriate

behavior.

On the other hand, there very well may be times when it is appropriate to accept a slaves

begging of release. This would mostly be appropriate for the owner of an establishment which

retains a number of slave girls for the service of its guests, such as a Castle, Manor, Inn, Tavern,

or other such establishment. In such situations, perhaps a girl has been kept until such time asshe can be found suitable for ownership by another master, in which case the release of the

slave would be an expected and perhaps even welcomed event.

There are other situations which would be less than common, but still considered appropriate

for a slave to be released. If the slave is able to honestly and logically explain the realities of her

life as to describe herself as being better off outside a master/slave relationship, then it may be

considered appropriate to acknowledge the truth of the situation and release the slave. Personal

inabilities and health concerns as well as mental stability are all important issues to listen to

your slave about. The situation may be that the slave does not wish to be released but you know

you must. Even through the begging and pleading you must be strong enough to stand up for

your convictions, if you are indeed being true to yourself. Its unfortunate, but we can never

guarantee that even through all our efforts, certain relationships are not meant to be.

Once in a while a master and slave enter into a relationship knowing it cannot be a permanent

arrangement. If his expectations are to eventually develop a life-long partnership and/or

marriage with the slave of his choice and the girl he has collared is involved with a marriage of

her own, then they have likely come to the understanding that at some point they will move

their separate ways. There can still be many fine benefits to such an arrangement, but the need

to release the slave is inevitable and should be prepared for carefully and with much

consideration. If the master is going to take on the commitment of a collar then he has an

obligation at the very least to fulfill some level of training or growth for the girl in question.


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That and the pleasure she brings him while in this stage of their lives can ensure that the time is

not ill spent.

Regardless of the reasons for release, if it has come to that then let it be done properly. Do notabandon a slave without formally releasing her. Besides showing you to be a coward, it can also

leave long lasting emotional scarring for a girl to be simply left with no purpose, but not having

been relieved of duty. Worse still is if the girl doesnt even know if her master has left her or

not. If one day he just disappears and doesnt return, how long is she to waitaround, expecting

him to return? Its better to just face the fact like a man and get the job done. If youre going to

release a slave, then release her, dont run away from her.

You should also be able to provide an honest reason for releasing your slave. Your reasons are

your own and theres nothing to say that you cannot release the slave for whatever reason you

choose, but at least tell her what that reason is. Perhaps you just dont like her anymore;

perhaps you are pursuing other areas in your life and cannot take on the responsibility of the

slave any longer. Whatever the reason is tell her; give the slave closure so she can move on with

her life.

Move on with your own life. Many people forget the reasons they thought it was a good idea to

break off a master/slave relationship and soon after they are back in front of the person

bargaining for another chance or imagining they can make it work this time. The best solution is

to not look back. Be confident in your choices and keep looking forward.

That said, we can never account for the unexpected circumstances, and there are exceptions to every rule.

Its up to each individual to make the choices they feel is best for them.


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ATTAINMENT


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AXIOM

The axiom is an established principle or universal truth. While there are infinite variations of

the meaning of being master, logic stands to reason that some truths can hold on merit alone.

1. Master yourself.2. Maintain order.3. Step outside yourself and be objective.4. Be fair.5. Be honest.6. Do not be a slave to your emotions.7. Learn.8. Strive to be better than you are.9. Understand your motives for mastering a slave.10.Know what to look for in a slave.11.Master the slave.12.Avoid being manipulated by the slave.13.Bend the slave to your will.14.Avoid bad conditioning techniques.15.Release the slave for the right reasons.


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The simple truth is, there is no simple truth. The best laid plans go right out the window as soon

as you start putting them into effect. You will have moments of doubt. You will have moments

of triumph. You will feel the frustration and anger of your humanity. You will feel the joys and

rewards of your efforts.

Being a master is an ever-evolving process. It is a journey of self exploration, deconstruction,

and revelation. You are taking upon yourself the goal of shaping, not only your own life, but

the lives of the slaves you take under your wing. It was what we were born into and it is a fate

we cannot escape.

Even now, after having completed this lecture I wonder if I am worthy of my own words. I

think anyone who doesnt question his own motives and worth has no understanding of

attainment. I am a better man simply for having dissected my thoughts and I hope to continue

to improve through the interaction with my peers and the ownership of my slave.

~ Draven

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