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1A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS –A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – Creating Positive Hockey Experiences Creating Positive Hockey Experiences
A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – THE PRESENTATION A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – THE PRESENTATION TEMPLATETEMPLATE
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A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – THE PRESENTATION A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – THE PRESENTATION TEMPLATETEMPLATE
• AGM Focus Groups• National Hockey Parent Day• Safe and Fun Program• Safety for All • PSA Programming• Development Programming• Branch Programming• Parent Handbook – To be Completed
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A. Educate Educate the masses
National ProgramsBranch Initiatives
District/MHA Delivery
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A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – THE PRESENTATION TEMPLATE A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – THE PRESENTATION TEMPLATE B- B- Create and CommunicateCreate and Communicate
B. Create and CommunicateAssociation Philosophies
•Team selection•Ice time
Code of Conduct• All involved including parents
Remember – We can’t expect people to act within our expectations if we don’t let them know what our expectations are!
District/MHA Philosophy• Educate your coaches for consistency• Frame the need for your coaches to have
parent meetings to clarify philosophies on:Ice timePlayer rotation with respect to positionsRespect of officialsShift lengthPre and post game routines March 7, 2006
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A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – THE PRESENTATION TEMPLATE A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – THE PRESENTATION TEMPLATE B- B- Create and CommunicateCreate and Communicate
B. Create and CommunicateAssociation Philosophies
•Team selection•Ice time
Code of Conduct• All involved including parents
Remember – We can’t expect people to act within our expectations if we don’t let them know what our expectations are!
Codes of Conduct/Behaviour• Guidelines for acceptable and unacceptable behaviour• Provide the foundation for accountability of the membership when enforcing a sanction becomes a
reality• Keep your code simple and straight forward • Pledge forms can be effective in communicating your code• Communicate your code whenever you can• Alberta SMART Program a great template!Remember – We can’t expect people to act within our expectations if we don’t let
them know what our expectations are!
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A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – THE PRESENTATION TEMPLATE A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – THE PRESENTATION TEMPLATE B- B- Create and CommunicateCreate and Communicate
B. Create and CommunicateAssociation Philosophies
•Team selection•Ice time
Code of Conduct• All involved including parents
Remember – We can’t expect people to act within our expectations if we don’t let them know what our expectations are!
Resource Tools to Create and Communicate• Branch/District/MHA Constitution/Operations Manual• PSA Programming such as Relax...• Codes of Conduct• Guiding Principles for Parents of Value • Roles and Responsibilities for Parents of Value • Alberta SMART Program• BCAHA Team First Program• Dartmouth Fair Play Program• Franc Jeu Program• Parent Approach Manual • Parent Handbook – To be Completed
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A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – THE PRESENTATION TEMPLATE A MINOR HOCKEY TOOLBOX FOR PARENTS – THE PRESENTATION TEMPLATE C- Engage C- Engage
C. ENGAGECreate Solid Partnerships
• Get parents involved• Strong parent/coach relationships
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C. ENGAGE Create Solid Partnerships• Get parents involved• Strong parent/coach relationships
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So what can we do to positively deal with parents?
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Team MeetingsPre SeasonMid- SeasonEnd Of SeasonSpecial Meetings
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Encourage kids to participate and respect their choices
Enjoy their participation and focus on new skills, improving performance and having fun
Support our players emotionally by helping them to deal with fear, anger, guilt,
embarrassment and happiness
Stress to parents that they need to:
C. ENGAGECreate Solid Partnerships
• Get parents involved• Strong parent/coach relationships
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Discuss concerns with them with the intent of helping positively address the situationModel respectful behaviour for their childrenCommunicate in a professional and courteous mannerAsk questions if they are unsure
Teach coaches to encourage parents to:
C. ENGAGECreate Solid Partnerships
• Get parents involved• Strong parent/coach relationships
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Resource Tools to Engage in Creating Solid Relationships
•NCCP Team Meeting •Safe and Fun Parents Approach Seminar•Branch Mentorship Programs•Evaluation Templates
C. ENGAGECreate Solid Partnerships
• Get parents involved• Strong parent/coach relationships
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Solving minor issues at the team level…..before things escalate!
D. RespondInformal Response to Complaints
CommunicationConflict Resolution
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• Conflict is inevitable but anger and grudges are not!
• Conflict resolution is important but people taking responsibility for their own behaviour is more important.• When conflict does occur how we respond determines if a conflict escalates or is resolved.• Recognizing your own personal power can influence how you deal with conflict.
D. RespondInformal Response to Complaints
CommunicationConflict Resolution
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• Every conflict has two components:– How people think– How people feel
• To resolve conflict we need to consider how people feel (their emotions)
• The key is to avoid escalation of a disagreement
• Sometimes the best thing to do is to “walk away” to let the other person cool down
• The expression of anger and how each person manages their anger will determine how intense the conflict becomes
D. RespondInformal Response to Complaints
CommunicationConflict Resolution
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• Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy human emotion. • Out of control anger is destructive. • Anger is “an emotional state that varies from mild irritation to intense fury and rage”. • When you get angry, your heart rate, blood pressure and hormone levels increase. These determine your response.
D. RespondInformal Response to Complaints
CommunicationConflict Resolution
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HOW TO DIFFUSE ANGER?• Before you speak or do anything else, stay cool and
calm• Take several slow, deep breaths and relax for a few
seconds to slow down your heart rate• Take a few seconds to think about how you can diffuse the situation and avoid a confrontation• Maintain eye contact and watch your body posture• It is okay to walk away from this fight• Consider all the options for responding and their possible resultsIT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO RESOLVE A CONFLICT WHEN EITHER PERSON IS ANGRY. TAKE A BREAK AND ATTEMPT TO RESOLVE THE CONFLICT LATER, IF APPROPRIATE.
D. RespondInformal Response to Complaints
CommunicationConflict Resolution
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• Acknowledge what you have heard and the other person’s position• Ask for clarification to understand their reason or rationale• Summarize what you have heard and verify that this is correct• State your position IF the person is ready to listen• State what points you agree on• State points of disagreement• When the person responds, acknowledge what they
have said • Continue until you have resolved the issue or agreed to disagree• Bring in a neutral person if possible
D. RespondInformal Response to Complaints
CommunicationConflict Resolution
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Resource Tools to Respond
• Branch Mentorship Programs• Informal Meeting of the Parties• Conflict Resolution Training – To Be Completed• Ombudsman
D. RespondInformal Response to Complaints
CommunicationConflict Resolution
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If all the steps we just talked about are put in place the number of formal complaints should be reduced, however;
We must be prepared to deal with formal complaints in a fair, consistent manner!
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At one point during a game, the coach called one of his 7 year oldhockey players aside and asked, "Do you understand what cooperation is?What a team is?"
The little boy nodded in the affirmative.
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Do you understand that what matters is not whether we win or lose, but how we play together as a team?"
The little boy nodded yes.
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"So," the coach continued, "I'm sure you know, when a penalty is called, you shouldn't argue, curse, attack the referee, or call him a jerk. Do you understand all that?"
Again the little boy nodded.
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The coach continued, "And when I call you off the ice so that anotherboy gets a chance to play, it's not good sportsmanship to callyour coach 'a dumb jerk', is it?''
Again the little boy nodded.
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"Good," said the coach.
“Now go over there and explain all that to your mother and father!”
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Any comments or suggestions to improve this template, please contact any member of the Hockey Canada “Parent Education Committee”
Mike Bruni – Chair Joe Drago Frank Lento Dr. Vern Stenlund Jack Forsyth Brian Whitehead Joe Kompon