A COACH’S TOUR OF THE PERSONALITY · 2017-06-27 · A COACH’S TOUR OF THE PERSONALITY Margaret Moore, aka Coach Meg Co-Founder, Co-Director of Institute of Coaching CEO, WellcoachesCorporation

A COACH’S TOUR OF THE PERSONALITY

Margaret Moore, aka Coach Meg

Co-Founder, Co-Director of Institute of Coaching

CEO, Wellcoaches Corporation

Co-Founder, National Board for Certifying Health & Wellness Coaches

Faculty, Harvard Extension School, Harvard Medical School

Harvard Health author: Organize Your Emotions, Optimize Your Life

www.coachmeg.com

AGENDA

• background• personality tour• inner family tour• coaching principles• Q&A

ORIGINAL WORKPLEASE CITE

© COACH MEG

ONE CAN HAVE NO GREATER MASTERY

THAN MASTERY OF

ONESELF

L E O N A R D O D A V I N C I

Richard Schwartz, Internal Family Systems

the personality is a complex system

INNER FAMILY

• needs

• drives

• values

• strengths

• capacities

DAN SIEGEL, MDMIND?

• self-organizing

• emergent

• complex system

• embodied process

• relational process

• conscious + unconscious

• regulates energy + info flow

MINDFUL SELF?

C OAC H IN G T H E M U LT IP L IC IT Y O F M IN D :

A S T R E N G T H S - B A S E D A P P R OAC H J U LY 20 13

HARVARD HEALTH BOOK PUBLISHED BY

WILLIAM MORROW

2016

TALK TO EMOTIONS IN 3 RD PERSON TO GAIN WISDOM

A PART OF ME IS ANGRY

Kross, E., Grossmann. (2012). Boosting Wisdom: Distance from the self enhances wise reasoning, attitudes, and behavior. Journal of Experimental Psychology. Vol. 141, No. 1, 43-48

Coach Meg’s inner family

yes! BRAIN BREAKS no!

Jung functions & Inner Family

Introverted Extraverted

Beebe (2016) Energies and Patterns in Psychological Types

Feeling A - AutonomyIntuition MM - Meaning Maker Sensing BR - Body RegulatorThinking EM - Executive Manager

Feeling R - RelationalIntuition Cre - CreativeSensing Adv - AdventurerThinking Ss - Standard Setter

INNER FAMILY & ENNEAGRAM TYPES

1. Reformer Autonomy2. Helper Relational3. Achiever Standard Setter4. Individualist Creative5. Investigator Executive Manager6. Loyalist Body Regulator7. Enthusiast Adventurer8. Challenger Confidence9. Peacemaker Meaning-Maker

INNER FAMILY & HOWARD GARDNER INTELLIGENCES

1. Intrapersonal Autonomy2. Interpersonal Relational3. Linguistic Standard Setter4. Visual Creative5. Musical Meaning-Maker6. Logical Executive Manager7. Kinesthetic Body Regulator8. Naturalist Adventurer

Carl Jung mental processes

Howard Gardner intelligences

Enneagram personality style

Inner Family needs & values

introverted feeling intrapersonal 1 reformer Autonomy

extraverted feeling interpersonal 2 helper Relational

introverted intuition musical 9 peacemaker Meaning Maker

extraverted intuition visual 4 individualist Creative

introverted sensing kinesthetic 6 loyalist Body Regulator

extraverted sensing naturalist 7 enthusiast Adventurer

introverted thinking logical 5 investigator Executive Manager

extraverted thinking linguistic 3 achiever Standard Setter

memory and action? memory? 8 challenger Confidence

RESOURCES

Carl Jung functions/processes www.cognitiveprocesses.com

Myers-Briggs types www.myersbriggs.org

Howard Gardner intelligences www.multipleintelligencesoasis.org

Enneagram types www.enneagramspectrum.comwww.enneagraminstitute.com

Inner family www.organizeyouremotions.com

MYERS BRIGGS PERSONALITY TYPES

MM Introverted Intuition Ss Extraverted ThinkingA Introverted FeelingAdv Extraverted Sensing

Enneagram 3 – AchieverEnneagram 8 - Challenger

Cre Extraverted IntuitionEx Introverted ThinkingR Extraverted Feeling BR Introverted Sensing

Gardner intelligence – logical

COACH MEG - INTJ

DOMINANT LESS DOMINANT

FIVE-FACTOR PERSONALITY TRAITS

1. Openness Adventurer Extraverted Sensing

2. Conscientiousness Standard SetterExtraverted Thinking

3. Extraversion CreativeExtraverted Intuition

4. Agreeableness RelationalExtraverted Feeling

5. Neuroticism Confidence?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Five_personality_traits

INNER FAMILY & VIA CHARACTER STRENGTHS

Autonomy Bravery, Honesty

Relational Fairness, Kindness, Love, Social Intelligence, Teamwork

Body Regulator Prudence

Adventurer Curiosity, Open-mindedness, Zest

Executive Manager Judgment, Self-regulation

Standard Setter Humility, Leadership, Perseverance

Creative Creativity, Humor, Appreciation of Beauty

Meaning-Maker Gratitude, Perspective, Spirituality

Confidence Hope, Love of learning

http://www.viacharacter.org/www/Character-Strengths/VIA-Classification

INNER FAMILY & GALLUP STRENGTHSFINDER

Autonomy Belief, Individualization

Relational Empathy, Includer, Relator, Winning Others Over

Body Regulator Consistency, Deliberative, Discipline, Restorative

Adventurer Adaptability, Input, Learner, Positivity

Executive Manager Analytical, Arranger, Focus, Intellection

Standard Setter Achiever, Maximizer, Responsibility, Significance

Creative Communication, Futurist, Ideation, Strategic

Meaning-Maker Connectedness, Context, Developer, Harmony

Confidence Activator, Command, Competition, Self-Assurance

www.gallupstrengthscenter.com

INNER FAMILY & MAJOR CHAKRAS

Chakra 1 Root Body Regulator

Chakra 2 Navel Adventurer

Chakra 3 Solar Plexus Standard SetterConfidence

Chakra 4 Heart Relational

Chakra 5 Voice Autonomy

Chakra 6 Third Eye Executive ManagerCreative

Chakra 7 Crown Meaning-Maker

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chakra

INNER FAMILY & MASLOW’S HIERARCHY OF NEEDS

Self-Actualization AutonomyAdventurerMeaning MakerExecutive ManagerCreative

Esteem Standard SetterConfidence

Social RelationalSafety Body RegulatorPhysiological Body Regulator

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs

meet the inner family

AUTONOMY

• self interests first• self-determination• march to own drummer• authenticity• aligned with values• inner compass• freedom to choose

Deci, Ryan, (2000).The What and Why of Goal Pursuits. Psychological Inquiry. Vol 11. No. 4. 227-268

autonomyJung function introverted feelingEnneagram 1. reformerVIA Strengths bravery, honestyStrengthsFinder belief, individualizationGardner intrapersonal

RELATIONAL

• others first• benevolence• compassion• connection• loyalty• trust

relationalJung function extraverted feelingEnneagram 2. helperVIA Strengths kindness, love, social intelligence, teamworkStrengthsFinder empathy, includer, relator, Win Others OverGardner interpersonal

BODY REGULATOR

• vitality• health• balance• stability• sustainability

body regulatorJung function introverted sensingEnneagram 6. loyalistVIA Strengths prudenceStrengthsFinder consistency, discipline, deliberative, restorativeGardner kinesthetic

ADVENTURER

• curiosity• novelty• risk• adventure• change• zest

adventurerJung function extraverted sensingEnneagram 7. enthusiastVIA Strengths curiosity, open-mindedness, zest StrengthsFinder adaptability, input, learner, positivityGardner naturalist

• organize

• order

• focus

• understand, clarify

• strategize

• be productive

• manage time

• self-regulate

EXECUTIVE MANAGER

executive managerJung function introverted thinkingEnneagram 5. investigatorVIA Strengths judgment, self-regulationStrengthsFinder analytical, arranger, focus, intellectionGardner logical, mathematics

• sets the bar• measures• achieves• ambitious• compares• judges • self-worth

STANDARD SETTER

standard setterJung function extraverted thinkingEnneagram 3. achieverVIA Strengths humility, leadership, perseveranceStrengthsFinder achiever, maximizer, responsibility, significanceGardner linguistic

CREATIVE

• spontaneous• nonlinear thinking• imaginative• generate ideas• invent• humor• beauty•

creativeJung function extraverted intuitionEnneagram 4. individualistVIA Strengths beauty, creativity, humorStrengthsFinder communication, futurist, ideation,strategicGardner visual

MEANING MAKER• quest• zoom out• higher purpose• gratitude• awe• wisdom• inner coach!•

meaning makerJung function introverted intuitionEnneagram 9. peacemakerVIA Strengths gratitude, perspective, spiritualityStrengthsFinder connectedness, context, developer, harmonyGardner musical

CONFIDENCE

• strength• competence• confidence• power

confidenceJung function ??Enneagram 8. challengerVIA Strengths hope, love of learningStrengthsFinder activator, command, competition, self-assuranceGardner ??

COACHINGPRINCIPLES

1. know your strengths

2. navigate inner conflict

3. seek more balance

4. seek more wholeness

5. transform self

PRINCIPLE #1: KNOW YOUR STRENGTHS

PRINCIPLE #2: NAVIGATE INNER CONFLICT

PR I N C I PL E # 3

S E E K M O R E B A L A N C E

P R I N C I P L E # 4

S E E K M O R E W H O L E N E S S

P RINC IP L E #5

T R A N S F O R M S E L F

A COACH’S TOUR OF THE PERSONALITY

Margaret Moore, aka Coach Meg

Co-Founder, Co-Director of Institute of Coaching

CEO, Wellcoaches Corporation

Co-Founder, National Board for Certifying Health & Wellness Coaches

Faculty, Harvard Extension School, Harvard Medical School

Harvard Health author: Organize Your Emotions, Optimize Your Life

www.coachmeg.com