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a conversation on life and faith 8 THINGS I USED TO HATE ABOUT YOU A funny look at how differences can be magnified in marriage. MAKE THE APPEAL James MacDonald looks in the book of Philemon to learn the difference between demanding change and making an appeal for change. THE DEADLY ROOTS OF BITTERNESS Pastor Craig Groeschel shares his story of deep bitterness and the long road to freedom from its power. IT’S TIME TO DIG SOME DITCHES A call to respond to the incredible growth at Central. BEAUTIFUL. PAINFUL. PERMANENT. Our February series called Poison&Wine delves deep into the beauty and the pain found in all types of relationships. FEBRUARY 2013 ISSUE NO. 32 A PUBLICATION OF CENTRAL COMMUNITY CHURCH ONLINE AT WWW.CENTRALCC.CA
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a conversation on life and faith

8 THINGS I USED TO HATE ABOUT YOUA funny look at how differences can be

magnified in marriage.

MAKE THE APPEALJames MacDonald looks in the book of Philemon to learn the

difference between demanding change and making an appeal

for change.

THE DEADLY ROOTS OF BITTERNESS

Pastor Craig Groeschel shares his story of deep

bitterness and the long road to freedom from its power.

IT’S TIME TO DIGSOME DITCHES

A call to respond to the incredible growth at Central.

BEAUTIFUL.PAINFUL.PERMANENT.Our February series called Poison&Wine delves deep into the beauty and the painfound in all types of relationships.

FEBRUARY 2013 ISSUE NO. 32

A PUBLICATION OF CENTRAL COMMUNITY CHURCHONLINE AT WWW.CENTRALCC.CA

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DEPARTMENTS

08 | EDiToRiAl by Andrew Plett

It’s like getting inked.

10 | ThE big PicTuRE by Bill Markham

Infectious living.

12 | MiSSioNAl ThiNkiNgAround the world. A call to pray for our aggressive mission assignments this winter/spring.

14 | chuRch liFEIt’s time to dig some ditches.

24 | cREATivE bRiEF by Andrew Plett

Behind the scenes of our Poison&Wine video shoot.

CONTENTS

ON THE COvER:

Jeremy Bundy on location for our February seriesvideo shoot.

PhoTo: ANDREW PlETT

FEATuRES

16 | EighT ThiNgS i uSED To hATE AbouT You by Phil Callaway

A humorous look at marriage.

20 | ThE DEADlY RooT oF biTTERNESS by Craig Groeschel

Pastor Craig Groeschel shares his personal experience with the poisonous effects of bitterness.

22 | MAkE ThE APPEAl by James MacDonald

Pastor James MacDonald unpacks relationship principles according to Paul in the book of Philemon.

28 | voluNTEER FocuSMarlene Reynolds from our Niagara Falls Campus.

iNFoRMATioN

32 | coNTAcT iNFoRMATioNCentral’s staff directory.

34 | cAlENDARFebruary 2013 events across all campuses.

COPY EdITORS:

The Loop is edited by a team of volunteers.liNDSAY MoRToNSuSAN gERbESMARilYNN bERTibARRY WillS

PROdUCTION:

The Loop is printed by Bertie Printers, Stevensville, ONbertieprinters.com

Leaders’Breakfast

saturday march 2, 20139 - 11am (scott campus, lower aud)

A scrumptious morning breakfast for all LifeGroup leaders to connect together and dream for the future.

LifeGroup Leaders Breakfast

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I’ve never gotten a tattoo, so I don’t know what it feels like and I don’t know what it’s like to look at something on my skin that I’ve commited to for the rest of my life.

I’m not sure if you wake up some mornings and wonder why you decided to get a tattoo, or wish you had gotten something different. I’ve contem-plated getting a tattoo, but since I don’t like to eat

the same cereal two days in a row, it might be a bad idea.

A number of months back we started talking about our February series called “Poison and Wine” and Pastor Bill was adamant that this was not to be another cliché series

about marriage or dating, but a series exposing the joy and the pain of all relationships.

The more we talked about what relationships were like, the more we were drawn to the metaphor of a tattoo. They can be beautiful works of art, but they come with pain and permanence; you can’t just wake up one morning and decide to wash off your tattoo; it is a part of you.

This month we’ve added some additional articles that talk about conflict, bitterness and expectation because we want to focus our conversation on all types of relationships, arming you with solid teaching that helps point you in the right direction, and perspective, as you live out your faith.

by Andrew Plet t

EDiToRiAl

iT’S likEgETTiNg

iNkED

iT’S likE gETTiNg

iNkEDHOW RELATIONSHIPS ARE LIKE GETTING A TATTOO

PHOTO: ANdREW PLETTJEREMY BUNdY ON LOCATION dURING FILMING FOR THE POISON & WINE SERIES

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Photo: justin driedger

“I don’t love you, but I always will.” (lyric from “Poison and Wine” by Civil Wars)

Recently my daughter introduced me to this haunting song about the beautiful and painful paradox that love can be. We all have felt the euphor-ic sensation that love offers, and we all have tasted the bitterness of love rejected. As I listened to the lyrics, I was reminded of the real, and raw challenge of loving people who don’t always reciprocate that love, or treat us the way they should (I was actually troubled at how sometimes I am that other person). Yet God has called us to love unconditionally: to love our family,

ThE bigPicTuRE

friends, and community without reser-vation or stipulation.

In his letter to the Ephesians, Paul instructs followers of Jesus on how to love in a world that is often loveless. He reminds them that they are different, not because of the clothes they wear, the places they go, or the things that they do or don’t do, rather, followers of Jesus are supposed to be different because they love everyone uncon-ditionally, even their enemies.

I got to thinking about what would hap-pen in the Niagara Region if we were completely committed to this concept. What would change if we were willing to love without expecting anything in return - even when the one we give our energy to repays us with hurt? This is not about being a doormat, but rath-er about starting a revolution where we value people. Where we retaliate

with acts of kindness instead of guns. Where love, instead of selfish ambi-tion, guides our decisions.

Can you imagine such a world? The Bible can - it is called the Kingdom of Heaven! If you have a thesaurus in your Bible, I encourage you to look up the term “Kingdom of Heaven” and read what Jesus had to say about it.

So this month is committed to under-standing what that concept could really look like. It is about learning to love, especially when it is painful to do so. We are hoping to shed the cultural lie that love is a feeling, and that it is about “what I get”. Instead, we are going to learn that loving is rooted in God’s unconditional love for us, and that we are merely a reflection of His love to this world.

I am inviting you on a radical journey to rediscover the reason you exist!

we value people without expecting anything in return

iNFEcTiouSliviNg

iNFEcTiouSliviNg

bill MArKhAM: leAd PAstor

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This year we are going to be extreme-ly active, aggressive and inten-tional when it comes to

our mission at Central.

Whether it is local or abroad, we are going out with incredible passion for the purposes that God has called us to and we need your prayer.

this winter & springwe are sending people out

MiSSioNAlThiNkiNg

ARouNDThE

WoRlD

ARouNDThE

WoRlDANd WE NEEd YOUR PRAYER MORE THAN WE EvER HAvE

Right now we have the largest team in Central’s history serv-ing in Kenya. Over forty peo-ple have given their time, their skills and their resources to go and finish a building project as well as engage in other ministry opportunities.

In March, Central Youth is head-ing back to The Dream Center in Los Angeles with a bigger team than ever. They will spend ten full days in the inner city serving the community there.

Finally, at the end of April we are sending a team to India to follow up with the over $60,000 we raised in December 2012. They will be spending time with girls that have been rescued from sex slavery and assist our local missionaries in their fight against human trafficking, seeing first hand what God is doing through Central and the generosity of its people.

We need your prayer. More than ever we are moving boldly and

swiftly with the mandate that God has given us and more than ever we need your prayer for God’s contintued discernment, favour, and direction.

In addition to all the interna-tional work we are doing, please continue to pray for God to give us favour, wisdom and strate-gic insight for our own city and region. We are witnessing a move of God at Central and we are commited to seeing our city transformed by His presence.

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iT’S TiMETo Dig SoME

DiTchES

iT’S TiMETo Dig SoME

DiTchES

IF YOU HAvEN’T NOTICEd, WE’RE MAxEd OUT - BUT WE KNOW WHAT TO dO:

ANd WE’RE CALLING EvERYONE AT SCOTT STREET TO GRAB A SHOvEL ANd GET INvOLvEd

tIme

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treasure

WE WANT To chAllENgE You To Dig TWo DiTchES: coMMiT To ATTENDiNg ThE 9:30AM SERvicE AND coMMiT To uSE ouR SPEEDY ShuTTlE SERvicE You can dig a ditch by attending the early service or using our speedy shuttle service. In doing so you will create room for new people in our later service and by using our shuttle system you’ll be out the door and in your car faster than anyone else in the parking lot.

**Just in case you aren’t aware, we also have two other amazing campuses (Niagara Falls, Downtown) that you might be interested in checking out.

coMMiT To uSE YouR SkillS AND PASSioNS bY FiNDiNg A voluNTEER RolE oN SuNDAYS With so many people here on Sunday we have huge needs in all of our ministries. Whether its working with the parking team, greeting and ushering, working with kids or on our production team, we are sure that there is a spot for you to contriubute that will be rewarding and exciting.

hElP uS MAkE RooM FoR MoRE PEoPlE The truth is, we’ll have to make some changes to make room for growth. If God taps you on the shoulder to dig some ditches by partnering with us financially to make room for others, we’d welcome that too.

chuRch liFE

this page showsyou how you can

start digging

Bursting at the seams. Maxed out. Overflowing. Those are all phrases that people are using to talk about what is happening at Central these days! If you’ve been to the Scott Street campus on the weekend over the last while you’ve probably noticed that we are out of parking, the lobby is so full you can hardly walk, and when you do manage to get inside the auditorium, there’s hardly a place to sit.

We’ve been setting record attendance numbers and seeing scores of people connecting in our discipleship process (LifeGroups, LifeLessons).

Everywhere you go there are people of all ages, and lots of them! We are in the middle of a very exciting time that is also presenting us with some amazing challenges. God is up to something!

In January, we walked through a series inspired by the book ‘Greater’, by Pastor Steven Furtick. One of the principles we discovered was “digging ditches” in order for God to fill them (2Kings 3:16-20). At Scott Street, we need to work together to dig some ditches that expand our capacity with parking, the lobby and our kids area. In order to do this we are launching ‘Operation Dig-A-Ditch’ and we are challenging everyone to dig deep, and extrav-agantly give your time, talent and treasure, because we don’t want even one person to miss out on the transforming power of God in their lives.

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by Phil CAllAwAy

Six months before my wedding day an older man tapped my shoulder in the post office and offered some free advice. “Ramona’s a lovely girl who deserves a good husband,” he said. “Marry her before she finds one.”

Before Ramona agreed to marry me, she sat me down after church, placed my hands on a Bible and asked me the usual questions: “You are pretty good at basketball, Phil, but have you ever tried hitting a laundry hamper? “Will you refrain from using phrases like ‘I told you so,’ and ‘is there anything to eat around here?’” I kissed her deeply and agreed to work on these things. Before long we stood at an altar as my ordained father peppered me with more questions: “Wilt thou take this woman to be thy lawfully wedded wife, Phil? Wilt thou rinse the sink when thou shavest and make the bed when thou are the last one out of it? Wilt thou affirm, admire, and accept her—and quit eating chicken wings with a fork, so long as you both shall live?” I kissed her deeply and agreed to work on these things.

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In the receiving line, the same man from the post office whispered some more advice: “You want a happy marriage? When the things that attracted you to her start to drive you apart, find a way to reverse the process.” I’ve been thinking about the old man’s advice for 24 years now, and it’s finally starting to make sense. Allow me to explain. When Ramona and I were dating I was attracted to her many attributes, including the way she took life slowly. I was constantly running. She taught me to stop and taste the strawberries. Three weeks after our honeymoon, the lack of speed with which she approached life made my adrenaline race.

During our first year of marriage, I wanted to follow Martin Luther’s example and nail a list of irritations to the bathroom door. I couldn’t quite come up with ninety-five theses, but eight came to mind:

1. Your sense of humor is warped, my dear. The funniest thing I did this week was hit my head on a cupb o a r d door. You laughed as if I were Peter S e l l e r s . This was not funny. Please do not laugh when you read this.

2. A vow of silence is fine for a monk. Our late-night “fights” are as one-sided as a Chicago Cubs game. You grow quiet during arguments. Silence can be a virtue, but it can also be maddening.

3. You are kind to telemarketers. On our first anniversary a phone call interrupted a candlelight dinner I had prepared. You talked for upwards of two minutes with a complete stranger because you were too polite to hang up.

4. Generosity isn’t always a virtue. Last week you made four pies and gave away three. You gave ten dollars to the Girl Scouts and the cookies weren’t that great.

5. What’s next, pickled ice cream? On Wednesday you made banana meatloaf. What other recipes do you have? Can we go through them together?

6. You throw things away. I love to hang onto things, but last week my wool sweater went missing. The one I got for my seventh birthday.

7. Necking won’t fit on the calendar. I love to do things we haven’t planned. Like quick trips to the city, surprise purchases, or necking on a back road to nowhere. You like the necking, but you like to plan for it.

8. I am from Switzerland; you are from Zimbabwe. I love to be on time. You do not. Is this a cultural difference? Meet me in the living room at 8 p.m. sharp and we’ll talk about it.

Thankfully I refrained from nailing the list to our bathroom door. Twenty-four years in the University of Diversity have taught me that if we were the same we’d be in trouble. If we were both spenders, we’d be bankrupt. If we were both spon-taneous, we’d never get anything done. If we kept all my wool

s w e a t e r s we’d need 13 U-Hauls each time we moved.

The Bible descr ibes marriage as two becom-ing one. Ideally it is a partner-ship of two d ist inct ly d i f f e r e n t i nd iv idu-als who are s t r o n g e r t o g e t h e r than apart.

But this won’t happen until we swallow our pride, praise each other’s uniqueness, and encourage each other’s strengths. Though Ramona’s silence caused me grief at first, I’m learn-ing to wait until she’s ready to talk and to remind myself that those who say the most do not always have the most to say. When book sales brought in unexpected abundance, it was her generosity that helped us respond as Christ would, giving away what we didn’t need. Her kindness to phone salesmen was the same kindness that first drew me to her. Thankfully it has tempered with time. She now offers a polite “No thanks,” followed by a click. Or she says, “My husband would love to talk to you,” and hands the phone to me.

I’ve asked her to meet me in the living room at 8 p.m. sharp to talk about this.

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[scott st. campus]

HymnSingTIMELESS WORSHIP

SUNDAY FEBRUARY 3rd & 17th6PM (SCOTT ST.)

Don’t miss this wonderful opportunity to join in uplifting worship and meaningful connection with one another! Our HymnSing is an evening of worship with the classic hymns that have been an

inspiration to the church for generations.

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The recent charges brought against a former football coach at a prominent university brought to mind one of my family’s most painful chapters. When I was growing up, most kids in our small town took at least one class from “Max” on their journey through the sixth grade. To many, Max was a favor-ite teacher — always cutting up, telling jokes and handing out easy As. To me, he became the object of the deepest bitterness that I’ve ever known.

You see, no one knew that over the years Max initiated special relation-ships with his favorite students, who just “happened” to be cute, young girls. My little sister, whom I treasure and love, became one of Max’s victims.

And the day I found out that Max had molested her is still one of the most disturbing, surreal times of my life.

As it turns out, my sister was not the only victim of this twisted teacher’s unholy desires. Girl after girl came forward and revealed how Max had showered them with presents and com-pliments, luring them into his trap.

The more I thought about it, my sad-ness hardened into anger and then blossomed into rage. The seed of bit-terness planted in my heart grew to a full-blown briar patch of revenge. I prayed that Max would suffer eternally in hell, and I vowed to make him suffer on earth before facing God’s judgment.

Most would agree that my bitterness toward Max was justifiable. In the course of time, however, I learned that bitterness never draws us closer to God. Instead, I was punishing no one but myself, and those around me who would experience the scalding spillovers of the acid churning inside me. If you’ve ever experienced such bitterness, then you know what I’m talking about. Over time, our bit-terness poisons our heart.

It’s obviously not a sin on your part when someone hurts you. But if you don’t handle the hurt properly, their sin becomes a catalyst for your own. Then you won’t be hurt once — but hurt twice or even more. That’s what happened to me as I brewed on Max. The more I imagined what he’d done, the deeper my bitter plant grew its roots into the soil of my heart. And the more its fragrant poison infiltrated my own soul.

In the end, my plan for revenge wasn’t necessary. Several years after his crimes were revealed, Max began fighting for his life against the crippling disease, muscular dystrophy. About the same time, I became a Christian and even though I’d started to learn the principles of forgiveness, I ratio-nalized that Max was the exception to God’s command to forgive. Surely God wouldn’t want me to forgive someone who did something as horrible as Max did to those girls.

Unfortunately, I learned that God’s command to forgive doesn’t have exceptions. To make matters more challenging for my bitter heart, I dis-covered the words of Jesus: “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins” (Matt. 6:14-15). No matter how justifiable my feelings were, my self-righteous hatred was just as sinful as Max’s crime in God’s eyes.

Shortly after I started the process of forgiving Max, his body took a turn for the worse. His muscular dystrophy got the upper end and we got word that Max didn’t have long to live. By the miraculous power of God, my sister, our parents, and I then made the deci-sion to forgive Max for his wrongdoing. God had freely forgiven us. How could we withhold the same grace from some-one else?

I sent a note to Max while he was under hospice care, preparing to die in his home. In the note, I wrote how Christ had forgiven and changed me. I explained that God wanted to do the same thing for Max. As simply as I could, I told the story of the gospel highlighting the grace and forgiveness possible through Christ.

After Max’s funeral, I found out the nurse caring for him had read him the note. She explained that Max listened and gave his life to Christ. Even though Max certainly doesn’t deserve it — just as none of us do — he will spend eternity forgiven by God in heaven. God’s grace uprooted my bitterness by reminding me that even though I’ve never molested anyone, I’m no better than Max without the gift that Jesus gave us, the same one he offers to each of us.

Craig Groeschel is the founder and senior pastor of Lifechurch.tv, the second largest church in the U.S and the creators of the popular and free YouVersion Bible App. A bestselling author, this essay is an adaptation from Craig’s new book, Soul Detox: Clean Living in a Contaminated World (Zondervan May 2012). Used by per-mission of Zondervan Publishing. All rights reserved.

Pastor craig groeschel shares his Personal journey through the Poi-sonous Progression of anger, bit-terness and rage.

PHOTO: KAYLA THOMPSON PHOTOGRAPHYPASTOR CRAIG GROESCHEL

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BY JAMES MACdONALd

Paul was not just the g r e a t e s t theologian the church has ever known, he was actually

a relational genius. By the end of his life, he seems to have mas-tered the concept that so often gets us sideways: It is not enough to believe the right things. The challenge is consistently putting those things we believe into prac-tice in the ways we relate to the people around us. Paul helped Philemon with that challenge.

If we look at our lives for a moment we would acknowledge that if we’re sideways, more often than not, it’s relational rather than theological. We can believe the right things but really be struggling to put them into

a devotional from the new testament book of philemon

MAkE ThE APPEAlpractice in our families and our

friendships.

Everybody knows that someone

who knows everything that the

Bible teaches, but can’t forgive

their son. We not only want to be

truth people, but also to see that

truth actually lived out in the way

we relate to one another. Paul was exemplary in that.

So why is it so difficult to put into practice the theology we know to be true? Because we’re selfish. We tend to think about what will benefit us most of the time. And, when we are selfish, Romans 2:8 warns, “But for those who are self-seeking and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, there will be wrath and fury.” Not good. God wants us to put others first by doing what benefits them over what benefits us. And, if all this selfishness is translating into relational strife, God wants to see people reconciled.

The heart of the Gospel is rec-onciliation. God doesn’t want anybody at odds with anyone. God wants everyone humbling themselves and getting along. Sometimes communication can break down: She’s not listening

to him anymore and he doesn’t trust her anymore and so on. Somebody who has the confi-dence of both of the people may have to stick themselves in the middle and bring that together. I want you to do that. It’s what Paul is doing here in this passage of Philemon.

It is stunning that there’s a whole little book in the New Testament that’s not about anything else but helping people reconcile. It’s called Philemon. It gives directions for when you’re on good terms with two people and they’re not on good terms with each other. So, what are you sup-posed to do?

First, make your request about reconciliation an appeal, not a requirement. Paul has written this letter to Philemon. Does Paul love Philemon? He sure does. Philemon 4-7 expresses thank-fulness for Philemon, encourage-ment for further ministry, and personal joy from knowing him. I mean, Paul loves this guy. But notice that love does not neces-sarily mean that you don’t have to challenge somebody about some-thing. Because now in Philemon 8 he says, “Accordingly, though I am bold enough in Christ to com-mand you to do what is required . . .” And the authority should be respected. But notice that the godly leader—and Paul as the exemplary one—doesn’t exer-cise that authority carelessly. He could say, “Hey! Hey! I’m bold enough. I have courage enough. I have position enough. I have confidence enough to command you to do this!”

He could do that. But notice he says in verse 9, “. . . yet for love’s sake.” This isn’t about orders;

it’s about love. He says, “I want to submit my behavior to the highest Law. As I choose how to handle this—as I decide how to conduct myself—I don’t just want to act out of my position.”

There is something higher than our position, men. There is some-thing higher than our position,

moms. There is something higher than our position, pastors. There is love. And love is the highest law.

I love that word. Underline it in your Bible. “Yet for love’s sake, I prefer to appeal” (v.7). “I’m choosing.” That word appeal is a fantastic word too. It means to beg; to plead; to unburden your heart with all of the emo-tional capacity that you have. I could demand you to do this, but instead—because of love—I want to appeal to you.

So when love leads you to approach two arguing children, friends, or whatever relationship God puts before you, don’t just command them to get along. Make an appeal.

JOURNAL:

How will I use what Paul is teaching me today?In what relationships would it be helpful for me to make an appeal for reconciliation?

PRAYER: Father in heaven, I see You more clearly every time I see Your heart for unity. Help me to see the relationships in my life that are ripe for reconcili-ation and help me approach the parties involved with love and a sincere appeal. I’ll leave the rest up to You, Lord. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

“Accordingly, though i am bold enough in christ to command you to do what is required,

yet for love’s sake i prefer to appeal to you - i , Paul, an old man and now a prisoner also

for christ Jesus - i appeal to you for my child, onesimus, whose father i became in my

imprisonment. (Formerly he was useless to you, but now he is indeed useful to you and

to me.) i am sending him back to you, sending my very heart.” ~ Philemon 1:8-12

LOvE IS THE HIGHEST LAW

Taken from Our Journey by James MacDonald, copyright November, 2012 by James MacDonald. Used by permission of Walk in the Word, Elgin, IL 60123. All rights reserved.

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A GLIMPSE INTO THE FILMING OF OUR POISON&WINE SERIES SERMON STARTER

cREATivEbRiEF

Relationships can be serious business. Well, let me rephrase that, they are serious business. As a church we’ve just come out of an intense series called Greater, and after Poison&Wine we are moving into an even more intense series called BeachHead. As a creative team we thought that it might be a good idea

to lighten the mood up a little bit for our February series.

You’ve probably already read most of the Loop so I won’t go into detail again about the concept of our series, just to say that it is less about getting a tattoo and more about things that a tattoo can symbolise. Beauty. Pain. Permanence. For us, that is the counter-cultural aspect of relationships the way God fashioned them. Our culture tell us that when there is too much pain or struggle we can just bail out. Our culture tells us that after relationships have lost their zing, we should just move on to new ones. The decision to get a tattoo is contrary to all of these notions, that is, in order to see the beauty you have to endure the pain, and, once you have it, you have it.

ANDREWPlETTdIRECTOR OF PRINT COMMUNICATIONS,GRAPHIC dESIGNER, EdITOR OF THE LOOP,PASTOR OF PRETTY PICTURES

Photos by: Andrew Plet t

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At Central, we have hun-

dreds of amazing volun-

teers who give their time,

gifts and resources every

week to make our church

the best that it can be.

If you are interested in

volunteering or trying a

FirstServe opportunity

to find a role that you’ll

love, contact our volun-

teer coordinator Karlene

Markham today.

Marlene Reynolds

Marlene Reynolds is one

of our amazing volun-

teers at the Niagara Falls

Campus. She oversees

the bus ministry that was

launched January 26 to

pick up and drop off chil-

dren from our adopted

housing complex every

Saturday night. Thanks

Marlene for being such an

amazing part of Central!

K [email protected]

voluNTEERFocuS

Photo: justin driedger

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lead TeamLead Pastor

BILL MARKHAMExt. [email protected]

Creative Communications

AdAM FRYExt. [email protected]

Ministry Environments

NATALIE vANdERWIERExt. [email protected]

Mission + Collide

JEFF PRICEExt. [email protected]

Executive Operations

MIKE HICKSExt. [email protected]

Pastoral TeamCampus Pastor, Downtown

SHAWN [email protected]

Campus Pastor, Niagara Falls

JUSTIN [email protected]

Pastoral Care

dAvId TOPPINGExt. [email protected]

Worship Leader

GREG SYKESExt. [email protected]

Worship Leader

BECCA [email protected]

Worship Leader

MELANIE [email protected]

LifeGroups

BRENdA dROSTExt. [email protected]

Professional Counselor

AGNES vRIEzE,MSW, RSWExt. [email protected]

Emerging Generations Pastor

GIANPAOLO GALESSIEREExt. [email protected]

Youth Pastor

ALEx SMETHURSTExt. [email protected]

Sr. Kids’ Pastor

JESSICA SMETHURSTExt. [email protected]

Jr. Kids’ Pastor

KATHRYN HICKSExt. [email protected]

Kids’ Pastor, Niagara Falls

JESSE [email protected]

Kids’ Pastor, Downtown

CATHARINE [email protected]

Red Frogs

KEITH HAMILTON-SMITHExt. [email protected]

Print + Graphic Design

ANdREW PLETTExt. [email protected]

Media Director

SCOTT TRAPASSOExt. [email protected]

Production Director

dARRICK vANdERWIERExt. [email protected]

Support TeamExec. Assistant To Lead Pastor

JOLENE HARdERExt. [email protected]

Assimilation Director

EMILY SLUYSExt. [email protected]

Director Of Accounting

MONTE MILLARExt. [email protected]

Reception+Admin Assistant

LINdSAY MORTONExt. [email protected]

Building Superintendent

GREG BURNSExt. [email protected]

Volunteer Coordinator

KARLENE MARKHAMExt. [email protected]

Central Catering

IRIS REGIER + CHRIS FANNELExt. 230

STAFF coNTAcTiNFoRMATioN

Emerging generations Team

creative & Production Team

SCO T T SCHULT z SHARON HAUCKJOE CARUSO JAMIE IdzENGABARRY WILLS PAUL OL AdIPOJOHN SCHROEdER QUINN HOFL ANdRICK RIK K ERINK

The board

CENTRAL COMMUNITY CHURCH240 Scott St.St. Catharines, ON L2N 1H6905.937.5610

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SUNdAY, FEBRUARY 3 HymnSing (6pm - Scott St. Campus)

TUESdAY, FEBRUARY 5 60’s Plus Luncheon(12pm - Scott St. Campus)

FRIdAY, FEBRUARY 8 Couples Night Out (7:30pm - Scott St. Campus)

SUNdAY, FEBRUARY 17 HymnSing (6pm - Scott St. Campus)

SUNdAY, FEBRUARY 24 Encounter Service (6pm - Scott St. Campus)

WEDNESDAYSMorning Prayer (7:15am - Scott)Drop-In (9am - Downtown)TheWell (9:30am - Scott)Central 101 (7pm - Scott)CYM (6:30pm - Scott)

TuESDAYSDrop-In (9am - Downtown)Women/Men LifeGroup (7pm - Downtown)Single Moms Group (7pm - Scott)

LifeLessons (7pm - scott st. campus)AlphaLifeFinancial PeaceHome With A HeartSteps To FreedomGriefShare

ThuRSDAYSNoon Prayer (12pm - Scott)CYM Niagara Falls (6:30pm - Falls)AlphaLife (6:30pm - Falls)Downtown Prayer (6:30pm - Downtown)

FRiDAYSDrop-In (9am - Downtown)

FEbRuARYREcuRRiNg EvENTSThese are ministries that take place every week at the same time in the same location. Please note the campus reference beside the event to ensure you are aware of which campus you need to attend for the event.

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sunday monday tuesday wednesday thursday friday saturday

FEbRuARYuNiQuE EvENTSThese are unique events for the month of February. They are indicated on the opposite page calendar with a grey circle around the date. Please note the campus reference beside the event to ensure you are aware of which campus you need to attend for the event.

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SCOTT ST. CAMPUS240 Scott St.St. Catharines, ON L2N 1H6P: 905.937.5610

SERvICE TIMESSunday Morning [9:30am & 11:15AM]

dOWNTOWN CAMPUS203 Church Street, St. Catharines, ONP: 289.271.1014

SERvICE TIMESunday Morning [10AM]

NIAGARA FALLS CAMPUS6970 Mountain Rd.Niagara Falls, ONP: 905.325.8224

SERvICE TIMESaturday Evening[6PM]