7/2002Copyright Edwin L. Young, PhD 1 IV. *STARS AND STRIPES* FROM GREENHORN THROUGH FOUR STRIPES TO THE FINAL STAR: A GRUELING, DEMANDING CHALLENGE WHICH.

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IV.*STARS AND STRIPES*

FROM GREENHORN THROUGH FOUR STRIPES

TO THE FINAL STAR:A GRUELING, DEMANDING CHALLENGE

WHICH EVERY YOUTH WHO COMES TO THE PROGRAM

SOON ASPIRES TO ACHIEVE AND WORKS HIS HEART OUT UNTIL HE CAN SAY,

“I MADE IT!”

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Beginning with the GREENHORN

Greenhorns must achieve the Stripe 1 criteria to receive Stripe 1

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STRIPE 1To be promoted, you must earn a 7 or better on your ability to self-control and self-manage each behavior. Staff members who believe you are ready will sign and comment on your stripe paper; staff who believe you need more practice will write an assignment that will help you master the specific behavior. When you successfully complete the assignment, they too will sign your papers, recommending you for promotion. Remember, to be evaluated for promotion you must also meet DRESS CODE requirements (nails clipped, appropriate haircut, shaved, shirt tucked in, no low-riding, neat appearance).

Each item is rated on a ten point scale: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

• NO RUNAWAY ATTEMPTS: refrains from planning, talking about, or encouraging AWOL; does not leave HCYV or home without permission

• CONTROLS VERBAL AGGRESSION: able to express frustration and anger without cursing, yelling, screaming, name-calling, or threatening others or staff.

• CONTROLS PHYSICAL AGGRESSION: does not push, hit, kick, or punch people with the intention to hurt, harm or destroy.

• ABLE TO FOLLOW DIRECTIONS AND RULES: complies with HCYV rules; able to obey staff directions without arguing back or delaying.

• HAS RESPECT FOR OTHERS OWNERSHIP: does not steal, asks for and receives permission before borrowing; turns in to staff anything found.

• HAS RESPECT FOR PROPERTY: does not damage, destroy or deface (write or carve on) property.

• Has to secure approval SIGNATURES from: Caseworker; Supervisor; Lead Dorm Parent; Principal

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Stripe 1

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Stripe 2• SCHOOL BEHAVIOR/GRADES: demonstrates appropriate classroom

behavior, good conduct, completes all assignments, and tries hard.•  SOCIAL SKILLS: demonstrates basic social ability; says “please” and

“thank you”, waits turn, speaks respectfully to adults • POSITIVE GROUP MEMBER: is on time, participates appropriately,

takes turns in group discussion, avoids side-talk or disruptive noises, and pays attention.

• NON-AGITATION: doesn’t pump up or bully peers, able to stay out of other people’s business, and refrains from gossip or spreading rumors.

•  CONTROLS HORSEPLAY: knows when, where and how to appropriately let off energy; able to stop any horseplay when directed by staff.

• BASIC SELF-AWARENESS: able to recognize physical signs inside your body, that let you know your anger is starting to come up (list at least 2 signs)

• 1. _______________________________ 2. _________________________________

• List ways you calm yourself down to manage your anger appropriately.• 1. ________________________________ 2. _____________________________• 3. ________________________________ 4. _____________________________• 5. ________________________________ 6. _____________________________

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Stripe 2

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Stripe 3• PROBLEM-SOLVES: able to identify problems or needs, to generate

alternative ways to handle or accept them, keeps trying, and follows through.

• COACHES, ENCOURAGES, MENTORS OTHERS: able to offer encouragement and pro-social advice to others; tells others when they are doing right!

• PATIENCE: able to wait, handle delays, take turns; able to keep self productively busy and motivated while waiting, to refrain from excessive demands.

• PROBLEM-SOLVES: able to identify problems or needs, to generate alternative ways to handle or accept them, keeps trying, and follows through.

• SHORT-TERM GOALS: able to plan ahead.one week goal: _____________________________________________________________one month goal: ____________________________________________________________

• LONG-TERM GOALS: has thought about own life, works toward a positive direction.

• one year goal: ______________________________________________________________• five year goal: ______________________________________________________________• ten year goal: ______________________________________________________________

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Stripe 3

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Stripe 4• SHOWS POSITIVE LEADERSHIP: is fair, honest, trustworthy; able to

maintain own standards amid negative situations/peer pressure • COMMUNICATION SKILLS: uses “I” rather than “you” messages;

can identify and communicate own emotions (ex: “I feel angry about that”).

• ACCEPTS BOTH SUCCESS AND FAILURE GRACEFULLY: is a gracious winner and a good loser; plays fair, uses good sportsmanship.

• ASSISTS IN SOLVING CONFLICTS: calms situations, listens to others, uses legitimate authority to settle conflicts and mediates.

• ENDURES UNAVOIDABLE DELAYS, HARDSHIPS, SETBACKS: has patience, stays motivated, optimistic, problem-solves; able to handle disappointments.

• HAS DESIGNED AND COMPLETED A SPECIAL PROJECT TO BENEFIT TO OTHERS, DORM, HCYV, OR COMMUNITY:

• Write a summary of your project: _____________________________________________________________________________________________

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Stripe 4

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I’m going to rip your heart out for what you did!

BLIND

RAGE

BLINDRAGE

I hate you!

I’m Stripe 4. I am officially a Mediator. I can help them settle this.“Hey, guys, I can see you both are really angry with each other. Let me listen to both sides. Maybe we can find a way to settle this. Would you like for me to try to serve as your Mediator? How about just giving it a try?”

Stripe 4s and Stars Are Trained Mediators

The Pro-social Role of Mediator Can Settle Down the Conflicts in the Institution

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• To be released, you must demonstrate knowledge and mastery over Stripe 1, 2, 3 and 4 behaviors, be able to recite and explain them all to peers you mentor as well as to staff, and have earned your last three home visits.

• H.V. Date: __________________ ,________________ and ______________CW:___________________

STAR

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The Almighty: STAR

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SUPERINTENDENT

Well, OK, he really doesn’t wear this. But he really does deserve it, doesn’t he!??

SUPERMAN

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A STAR ORIENTING GREENHORNS

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A STAR TUTORING STRIPE 1s

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STARS AND STRIPES SUPERSTRUCTURE

• Click: LEVELS IN JOB PROMOTIONS to go to a comprehensive view of the Stars and Stripes superstructure and how pro-social roles and work assignments are integrated with the whole system.

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Final Approval

• Student Name: _______________________ • _____________________ __________ _______________________ __________• End Coordinator Date Community Gov’t. Officer

Date• _____________________ __________ _______________________ __________• Therapist/Group Leader Date Therapist/Group Leader

Date• _____________________ __________ _______________________ __________• Activity/Work Leader Date Activity/Work Leader Date• _____________________ __________ _______________________ __________• Mentor/Volunteer/Church Date Mentor/Volunteer/Church

Date•  

• FINAL APPROVAL• _________________________ ________________• Casework Supervisor Date _________________________ ________________• Superintendent Date

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STARS: “We made it!”

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And . . . a new responsible citizen is on their way back to serve their community!