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It is based on the reality of knowing the good qualities in another person. Infatuation, however, is blind. 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Caring for the well-being of our fellow man. For this reason alone, Ammon and Moav are never allowed to join the ranks of the Jewish people. Since they did not offer bread and water A SERIES IN HALACHA LIVING A “TORAH” DAY Avoiding Sheker (Falsehood) at all Costs (10) When is it Permitted to Lie? (cont.) The next few categories in our list of situations regarding how and when one may deviate from the truth (when no one loses out from the “lie”) are when one does so to prevent: 1) pain 2) fear 3) to honor one’s parents 4) to prevent himself or others from sinning Lying To Prevent Pain or Fear. One may deviate from the truth to prevent emotional pain both to oneself and to others (1) . 1) A common example of this is when talking to a sick person about his condition. If it has been determined by a joint discussion of Rav , doctor and family, that it will be detrimental to his health if he knows the truth, it is permitted to deviate from the truth. It is not just emotional pain that is at stake here but even physical pain and danger, because the spirit and mood of a person has much to do with his physical well being. This is even true if the sick person asks to know about his condition. Similarly, learning of the death of a close relative can also be detrimental to some people, and the same leniency applies. The Rav should always be involved because in certain situations not saying the facts can make things worse, now or in the long run. 2) Certain people become easily frightened about things in a way that unnecessarily takes away their peace of mind. They might ask questions that will cause them fear if they know the real - and for that matter, basic human decency, when Bnei Yisroel fled from Egypt, their unwillingness to help another person is a trait that is totally incompatible with our national heritage and character. Their lack of “honor” is unacceptable. ` ` `" " "h h hi i il l ly y y c c cl l lt t ty y yx x xi i id d d j j je e ex x xa a a d d d" " "e e en n n z z z` ` `n n n q q qh h hi i ii i id d d c c cp p pl l la a ai i il l lw w w , , ,j j je e ex x xa a a m m mi i ii i ig g g z z zx x xh h hr r r l l ll l le e ek k k y y y` ` `x x x answer. One may deviate from the truth to avoid causing this fear. Lying To Honor Parents. A person is permitted to tell over an original Torah thought or halachic ruling in the name of his father in order to give honor to his father. This is based on the gemara (2) and Rashi there that describes the conduct of King Yosum ben Uziyahu. He would sit and judge monetary disputes and arrive at correct Torah rulings which he would say over in the name of his father. Obviously, if a father is not capable of originating such insights, it would not bring him any glory at all. Lying to Prevent Oneself or Others from Sinning. 1) If one is invited to eat by someone whose standards of kashrus are not adequate, he is permitted - so as not to offend the one who invited him - to say, “I have already eaten,” or some similar excuse. (There is a well known story of R’ Yaakov Kamenetzky ZT”L who was invited to eat by someone on Pesach whose standards of kashrus were not up to his. He extricated himself from the situation by explaining that he did not eat gebrochts - whereas the homeowner did. In order that his statement should remain truthful, he accepted upon himself - above and beyond the halachic parameters - to never eat gebrochts for the rest of his life.) 2) If one sees that his friend might miss the time for Krias Shema, or the Friday afternoon deadline for doing work, he is permitted tell him that it is later then it really is, to get him to move quicker (3) . R’ Meir of Premishlan ZT”L would say: “Before you follow in the path of others, first be sure you know where they are headed. For example, I was once at an inn. Outside it was snowing fiercely, and all signs of roads had been obliterated. Eventually, one of the wagon drivers, who had obviously had too much to drink, left the inn, hitched up his horses to his wagon, and went on his way. Soon another driver followed. Not seeing the road anywhere, he simply followed in the ruts made by the first driver’s wagon. One by one, the other drivers did the same. 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