2010 Spring-Summer Newsletter[1]

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A Publication of Hospice of Lubbock Spring/Summer 2010

SIGN OF THE D VE

Where to startPg 14

Financial Planning Services

Wisdom Shared With LoveYou will make it

Pg 16

One Mans Hospice JourneyLiving while on hospice care

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2 HOSPICE OF LUBBOCK Spring/Summer 2010

Hospice o Lubbock has proo that

a basic menu can provide big results. The

21st Annual Mayors Beans and Cornbread

Luncheon raised $60,115.03 in two and a

hal hours time on Friday, March 5 at the

Lubbock Memorial Civic Center.

From 11AM, to 1:30 PM, volunteers

served up beans and cornbread catered by

Riversmiths to more than 2,000 people. At-tendees could add a Klemkes Raider-Alley

Sausage to their plate or a donation o $2.

While the event is known or its menu, thats not the only

thing that keeps people coming back or more, according to

Charley Wasson, the director o Hospice o Lubbock.

You never know who you are going to run into at Beans and

Cornbread, Wasson said. However, the frst person will most

likely be your mayor, since they greet you at the door.

Area mayors have hosted the popular event every year since

its beginning in 1989. This year, Levelland, Wilson, Idalou, Sun-

down, Tahoka, Plainview, Wolorth, Morton, Ransom Canyon,

Shallowater, Post and Lubbock had their mayors in attendance.As people enjoyed their meal, Jim Douglass and Je

Klotzman with Fox Talk kept things running smoothly as the

luncheon emcees.

Holly Kennedy

Live music rom Don Caldwell and The Lubbock Texas

Rhythm Machine also kept the crowd entertained. The band re-

ceived help rom other local musicians, including Mary Fletcher,

Je Bailey, Sheena Fadeyi, Butch Avery, The Itty Bittys and The

Cactus Cuties.

Local celebrities and community leaders worked diligently

as waiters to earn extra tips which directly benefted Hospice o

Lubbock. For the second year in a row, Linda Gaither took home

the Golden Apron trophy, earning a total o $1,319.79 in tips.Its people like Gaither who continue to make the luncheon a

success, Wasson said.

People do not just attend this event and volunteer because

its un, Wasson said. Each person who attends has a special

place in their heart or Hospice o Lubbock.

Money raised rom the event will directly beneft Hospice

o Lubbocks nonunded and underunded hospice patients and

amilies, along with its Grie Recovery Center and Childrens

Grie Camp each summer.

Every year I am blown away by the generosity o the

people o the South Plains. This event would not be possible

without the help o local business owners, community leadersand everyday citizens, Wasson said. You are why West Texas

is the best place to live, and I cant wait to see you at the 22nd An-

nual Mayors Beans and Cornbread Luncheon in 2011.

2010 MAYORS

Benefit of Hospice of Lubbock


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Spring/Summer 2010 3HOSPICE OF LUBBOCK

2010 Golden Award winner, Linda Gaither with Tony Lloyd


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BOArD MEMBErs

Hospice of Lubbock Foundation

Development Board 2010

Amy Baugh

Debi Bostick (Chair)

Cathy Buchanan

Krista Bumstead

Amber Dean

Becky Garza

Michael Hardin, PhD

Mary Jo Lovingier

Sue Moore

Cathy Pope

Frank Ryburn, MD

Ross ShamburgerSarah Weaver

Kim Wheeler

MIssIOn sTATEMEnT

To provide palliative and

compassionate care for

terminally ill patients while

enhancing natural death with

dignity and comfort, regardless

of ability to pay.

COnTACT us1102 Slide Road, Suite 3

P.O. Box 16800

Lubbock, Texas 79490-6800

806.795.2751 | 800.658.2648

www.hospiceoflubbock.org

Message from the Director

CHARLEY WASSON

Medical Director .....................................................Derek Skinner, MDAssociate Medical Director .....................................Melanie Oblender, MD

Associate Medical Director .....................................Michael Ragain, MD

Associate Medical Director .....................................Jeremy Brown, MD

Chaplains................................................................. Elizabeth Abraham, Bruce Cotton

Director ...................................................................Charley Wasson

Clinical Manager .....................................................Cindy Land, RN

Grief Recovery Supervisor ..................................... John Southern, Med, LPC

Volunteer Coordinator .............................................Cheryl Keefer

Community Liaisons ...............................................Rose Chase, Merina Lisman

Editor in Chief......................................................... Merina Lisman

Editor....................................................................... Janet Silver

Bruce and Mary Parks Interview ............................Merina Lisman, Rose Chase

Article Contributions: ............................................. Elizabeth Abraham

.................................................................................Linda Cook

.................................................................................Shirley Eagle

.................................................................................Cheryl Keefer

.................................................................................Paula Miser

.................................................................................Susan Nemec, LBSW, ACBSW, CT

.................................................................................Lydia and Rayli Robinson

.................................................................................Frank Ryburn Jr., MD

.................................................................................Charley Wasson

Design and Printing.................................................Craftsman Printers, Inc.

Katharine Graham, the former publisher of the Washington Post, wrote, Death is

as much a reality as birth, growth, maturity, and old age. It is the one certainty. I can-

not fear death. And yet it seems as a culture we do fear death whether it be our own

or of our loved ones.

Hospice philosophy teaches us what Ms. Graham so eloquently wrote: death is the

one certainty and one should not fear it. Life is about transitions, and death is our nal

transition. I think so often we fear death because it is unknown: we cannot ask those

we trust what it is like or what to expect.

I recently had a hospice patient, a beautiful 83-year-old woman, ask me, Why

can I not die today? I have fought my ght and I am ready. Why can it not happen?

My best answer to her was there are times our soul is ready before our body and othertimes our body is ready before our soul. There comes a time where our body and soul

are in sync with God and that is when that last transition occurs.

Hospice encourages us to recognize and embrace dying and death as sacred. It is

during this sacred time that our soul and body come into harmony, so that we can ex-

perience our nal transition. It is our hope at Hospice of Lubbock that we can support

patients, families, caregivers and those closest in life not to fear death, but to celebrate

life in transition.



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Hospice of Lubbock Features

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In EvEry IssuE

Physicians Perspective Page 6-7

HoL Community Volunteers Page 10-11

HoL Grief Recovery Center Page 14

Chaplains Perception Page 16-17

Chair for customers to try on

shoes in Thrift Shop

Several towels, preferably dark color

Hanging clothes rack -

to hang aprons for storage

Left to right: Mark Grifn-Community Leader,Floyd Price-Councilman, Jim Gilbreath-Councilman

Lettig Go...A Coageo DeciioPage 6-7

Oe Ma Hopice JoePage 8-9

new Fiacial Plaig seicePage 14

Piate, sop & Idia WaioPage 15

Widom shaed With LoePage 16-17

remembeig DaielPage 23


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A good death does honor to a whole life.

Petrarch (1304-1374)

In life we are sometimes faced with painful decisions relating to our own death. This is the story of two charming, mature and

courageous women in that dilemma.

In recent months I had the rich experience of being at the bedside of two very special women at the time of their dyinga sacred

time. Both were friends but before that were patients of mine for many years. Evelyn was a highly skilled nurse, a woman of greatmusical talent as an accomplished singer and later in her career a dedicated worker in hospice. Florine, or Flo, as called by her

friends, was an elegant lady, a musician who played the organ at her church for many years. She also had early training in drama. Both

Evelyn and Flo were devoted mothers of sons. They were women of faith with that unique charm that goes with patience, good humor,

generosity and fullness of life. Ones face reflects the inner person, and both these women had smiles that reflected both condence

and kindness.

Both Evelyn, in her seventies, and Flo, in her eighties, had advanced and refractory malignancies. They had had extensive radia-

tion and chemotherapy and both elected against further aggressive therapy. At this point all proven effective therapy had been com-

pleted and it was their carefully considered decision to Let Go and gracefully accept the fact that their time was limited. At that time

I had the perception that both Evelyn and Flo shared a deep feeling expressed by Randy Pausch in his book, The Last Lecture, When

Physicians Perspective

Letting Go

A Courageous Decision.

Frank M. Ryburn, Jr. MD

DR. FRANK M. RYBURN, JR. MD


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he was dying of pancreatic cancer at a very young age, he wrote, I felt at peace and fullled. My life had come full circle.

In our current scientically advanced medical climate there is often pressure from family and sometimes over-zealous physicians

to push for the use of new modes of potent, often quite toxic chemotherapy. In reality there are some physicians who have great dif-

culty Letting Go when time of cure is passed. Herein lies the beauty and value of hospice care, that is focusing on expert profes-

sional care of patient and family for the remainder of that persons life.

With the unknown nature of death there are two existential fears in the soul of each of us, i.e. the fear of being forgotten and the

fear of dying alone. The continuity of families from generation to generation, and especially the memory of loving family relation-

ships, helps to reassure those facing impending death that they will not be forgotten. It was the second fear, dying alone, in addition to

inadequate control of pain in terminal illness in patients in the hospitals of England, that inspired and motivated Dame Cicely Saun-

ders to establish St. Christophers Hospice in London in 1967.

In those last months and weeks Evelyn and Flo had more frequent visits with their friends and family. There was power and reas-

surance in the presence of those who came. These were enjoyable, good and useful times, looking back on many pleasant and mean-

ingful events of their lives. As the weeks passed their appetites decreased, they began to lose weight. Naps, morning and afternoon,

became more frequent and longer. In the last few days their thoughts and speech became less lucid at times. Communication became

more difcult, but they seemed to be at peace.

It was late fall when Flos last day arrived. Early that day little had

changed from the day before, so Miles, her son, who had been at Flos bed-

side, returned to Amarillo to care for his patients. A few hours later there was

a marked change in respiration and within the next two hours respirations

ceased. Her dying was peaceful and at that time her other son, Blair, and herhospice nurse, Heidi, were at her bedside.

It was early March and Evelyns breathing had become short, requiring

oxygen. On that last day she became less lucid, fading in and out of alertness.

That morning Gwen, her nurse and Elizabeth, her chaplain, both from hospice

had visited. At the time of her death, Bob, her husband, Marty, her daughter-

in-law and Vickie, her long time friend, were in her presence. That afternoon

of her death her sons Don and Adam were en route from Dallas and arrived

shortly after her death.

In those last months and days Flo and Evelyn enjoyed and appreciated

the presence of friends, family and those who loved them. In her book, Cicely

Saunders, The Founder Of The Modern Hospice Movement, Shirley Du Bou-ley vividly conrms the value of presence.

This article is dedicated to Gwen Akeroyd, RN, CHPH, in honor and

appreciation of her many years of skillful and dedicated end of life care to our

patients and their families.

The way in which the staff of

St. Christophers respond to the

spiritual needs of the dying is

summed up in Christs words to

His disciples in the Garden Of

Gethsemane, Tarry ye here

and watch with me.

Edited by: Mazie Ryburn, Stephanie Rodda and Janet Silver

Evelyn Cash, August 7, 1934 to March 25, 2010


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This is part two of a three-part interview with Bruceand Mary Parks. Due to the overwhelming response to part one

in the Winter 2010 Newsletter, Im sure everyone is anxiously

waiting to read this next installment. Bruce is a retired clergyman

who graciously agreed to share his day-to-day experiences on his

hospice journey.

I have to say that you dont look like an 86-year- old man. Get-

ting involved in the health world when you did sure kept youyoung.

Mary: It sure did. That and prayers. At 79 Bruce lost most of his

blood supply and the doctors in Amarillo just shook their heads.

They couldnt believe he walked into the hospital.

Bruce: It was because I was in such good physical shape.

Mary: He nally said, Bruce had the cardio vascular system of

a college athlete. Believe me, in 1964 no one was out exercising

and running. In the different towns we lived in, people would say

to me, Whats he doing getting up at ve in the morning and

running? I saw him running down the street, whats he doing?

And I would say, I dont know, he said he feels better.

Bruce, you were ahead of your time.

Mary: Yes, he was.

So you were a Methodist minister? Well, give us a little bit about

your background. When did yall meet? When did you get mar-

ried? Tell us a bit about your life.

Bruce: Well, we met in MacMurray College and we both lived

in Throck Morton County when we were children. Shes is ve

years younger than me.

Bruce looks over at Mary with a twinkle in his eye as he said,

Thats fair, even though she doesnt look it.

Mary: Im 81, might as well tell it. When you get this age you

show it. (She doesnt.)

Bruce: Anyway, we met in college and

Mary: In 1947 and we married in 1948 so weve been married61 years.

That is awesome.

Mary: He nished MacMurray and I nished at Tech later, but

then he went to SMU to do graduate work.

Bruce: I told Mary this morning that I want to put together a

little book of poems that I have written over the past 40 years for

this Christmas.

Mary: More than that. You wrote when you went overseas in

World War II.

Bruce:Yes. I used to write a Christmas poem every year and Ive

got many of them. Im going to go back and get what I think are

my best and make a little book of Christmas poetry and send it

out this year for Christmas.

What a wonderful idea. How many children do you have?

Mary: We have three and they all live in Lubbock. They travel

with jobs, but one is a librarian for the Frienship School System.

I tell you, when you come to this place in life, you learn the value

of family and friends. We have a lot of friends here. I cant imag-

ine what Id do without these wonderful friends.

I can tell you are very much loved by your fellow Methodist

Minister Association.

Mary: Well, were all friends. We were in MacMurray with

some of them. Over 60 years ago. We go way back.

Bruce: When we rst retired, we were co-presidents of the Sec-

ond Milers, though we havent been able to be with them much.

Mary: We have attended meetings only twice this year (2009).

We couldnt get over the fact that you were there giving a presen-

tation on Hospice of Lubbock. We had no idea. It was the one

time that month we could attend. It wasnt just a coincidence;

God just works things out.Bruce: My current interest is to put some of these poems in a

book for this Christmas. My daughters will help me, but Ill work

on it.

Mary: And he was writing a book on his life. Hes always been

a very good writer, but he hasnt been able to nish it.

Bruce: I think my daughters will be able to end it for me.

Mary: He covers his childhood, we grew up in the depression.

About the time the depression ended we graduated high school,

World War II started and he joined the Navy. He joined before

Pearl Harbor was bombed and he remained there until a year

after the war ended. His book covers his childhood years and our

librarian daughter said, Dad you give the best description of

childhood in the depression that Ive read. And shes a history

major. She loves history.

Bruce: Those were some marvelous times in our country.

Mary: Then his book continues through World War II and

includes his entry into MacMurray College at 23 years of age.

Since he became ill he hasnt been able to complete it.

Can you dictate it?

Mary: Well, our daughters have taken notes and

Bruce: They remember my stories. It will be more about my

experience as a pastor more about my relationships than about

myself. Ive had a great exciting life.

Thats beautiful.

Bruce: Thats my rst one.

When you compile that book we would love to have a copy.

~See next issue for part three

In 1944 I was in Okinawa on a ship and I was a patient in a hos-pital ship off of Okinawa and I wrote this:

I hope that this is understoodId do better if I could

But Christmas caught me hanging roundA place where store bought things arent foundBut store bought things soon rust or fade

And lose the value that weve paidIll just send a prayer this year

God keep you safe from harm and fearAnd may next years Christmas bringThe peace on earth the angels sing

The value of my prayer will stayA material gift would pass away


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Hospice of Lubbock Volunteers

CHERYL KEEFER

Mary Jo has volunteered for Hospice of Lubbock since 2004. During that time, Mary Jo has continually grown with this organiza-tion, learned new volunteer positions and taken on new responsibilities.

After a personal experience with Hospice through the death of a loved one, she chose to give her time as a support volunteer in

our administrative ofces. As she learned more about the Direct Patient Volunteer program, Mary Jo attended our 24-hour training

program and began spending time with hospice patients and their families. Because this experience touched her so, Mary Jo now

actively participates as a HoL training presenter, encouraging new volunteers to nd their niche and persist in their growth as volun-

teers.

Within an ever-changing healthcare climate, she continues to challenge herself, as well as provide consistency and reliability as

she carries out her responsibilities. She doesnt, however, give up one task to take on anothershe just keeps adding to her repertoire!

She still comes to HoL regularly to do the same support work she started out doing in 2004.

Recently, Mary Jo spent several weeks completely reorganizing the kitchen in our Grief Recovery Center, enabling those who

use it to have much more efcient access. She continues to be an active volunteer at HoL fundraisers, our childrens support programs

and other special events, is a member of the Hospice of Lubbock Foundation Board (serving on the Employee Recognition Commit-

tee), and a member of the Board of Directors!!! She actively learns all she can about hospice, and spreads the word about our mission

throughout the community and soon the world!!!

As if her accomplishments here werent enough, Mary Jo has developed a workshop hospice care that has been presented the

past three years at the state meeting of Delta Kappa Gamma, an organization of educators. (Mary Jo retired after 28 years as a Special

Education teacher.) This summer, Mary Jo will have the honor of presenting her workshop to theInternationalDelta Kappa Gamma

conference. What an opportunity to get our mission, along with our name, out on a global level!

One of the most impressive and touching qualities about Mary Jo goes back to the word VOLUNTEER. Mary Jo has achieved all

of this without earning one penny for her enthusiasm, dedication and hard work. She truly exemplies the value of excellence, and we

consider ourselves blessed that she chose Hospice of Lubbock as the benefactor of her kindness!

One of the most impressive

and touching qualities aboutMary Jo goes back to the word

VOLUNTEER. Mary Jo has

achieved all of this without

earning one penny for her

enthusiasm, dedication

and hard work.


Cathy Buchanan, Mary Jo Lovingier, Sarah Weaver


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volunteer Bonnie Hunt who continues to make

wonderful holiday goodie baskets for Hospice ofLubbock patients and their families.

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res,CNA

We Appreciate...

Heidi Hodges, RN was presented the Dr. Alex Munsen

Tender Touch Nursing Award by Covenant Health System

Outpatient Division. It takes a special nurse to hold the

hand of a dying patient, reassuring both patient and family

that death is a natural part of life and all is going to be okay.

Caring for a dying child takes a gifted nurse with a specialheart and skill set that ensures compassion, dignity and

sense of peace. Heidi Hodges is a truly gifted human being

who not only has proven herself as a hospice nurse, but

also has excelled as a pediatric hospice nurse. She has been

recognized by patients, families, staff and physicians for her

excellent nursing skills and her compassionate heart. Heidi

never fails to go the extra mile in helping her patients and

families.

Marisa Ochoa, RN, was presented the Nursing Differ-

ence Award for Hospice/Palliative Care by Covenant Health

System. Marisa is truly a go to nurse for us at Hospice of

Lubbock. Her vast experience lends itself well in both the

community and hospice setting. Marisa lives in Levelland

and truly is a community advocate for end-of-life care. She

has established strong rapport with doctors, the hospital,

nursing homes and community leaders in explaining the

hospice benet for those dying. A dedicated member of her church, Marisa reaches out to those she sees in need and extends

the helping hand of Christ in whatever way she can. She is often called on to explain disease, dying and the death process to

those in her community. Recently, when Hospice of Lubbock faced a difcult challenge through competition, Marisa took

additional patients and did admissions well above the call of duty to ensure patients and families felt supported and knew

they had someone close by if needed.

TWO OUTSTANDING

Hospice stars

Left to Right: Heidi Hodges and Marisa Ochoa


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Special Performers

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Raymond Martinez - MortonRobert Englund - Ransom

CanyonRobert Olmsted - Shallowater

Thressa Harp - PostTom Martin - Lubbock

Gary ZhengGaylon & Coretta KerrH. Terry HinesJ. Ted HartmanJ.Q. Warnick, Jr.

Jack Strong, Jr.Mary Nell StrongZelda StrongTrey StrongMary Kathryn StrongJames MorrisJoe RapierJohn P. CervantezJohn RichardsonJohn TyeMarciano MoralesMary Beth Mittemeyer

Amber McCloudAndy TurnerArden HawkinsBobby RodgersBrent Noble

Carroll & Nadine McDonaldChanda & Josh AllenCheryl & Joe MayesCory DulinDale HoltonDan AldersonDela EsquedaDorris FaverDr. & Mrs. Bruce MaunderDr. Idris Rhea Traylor, Jr.Dustin BurrowsGail Kring

MAYORS CO-HOSTS

AND MORE!!!Abuelos Mexican Food EmbassyBorder Management Co.JAZZ: A Louisiana KitchenZoo-Kinis

ONSORS

thank these special 2010for their Hospice Hearts

Golden Apron Winners

2007 Linda Gaither ~ 2008 Joe Muree ~ 2009 Linda Gaither

REGIONAL Mayors

MEDICAL DIRECTORS

Melanie Oblender, MDDerek Skinner, MD

n-Kind Sponsors

Mayfeld Paper CompanyDelwin JonesRandy NeugebauerStandard Sales/Joe NemethSignProFrame Pro

Land Pro/Richland EstatesContainers On WheelsTexas Tech Red Raider ClubWentz Orthodontics

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tors, Inc.o Fritch, TXnnel 11g

Amber Dean

Amy BaughBecky GarzaCathy BuchananCathy PopeDebi Bostick (Chair)Evelyn Cash (Emeritus)Frank M. Ryburn, MD (Emeritus)

Kim Wheeler

Krista BumsteadMary Jo LovingierMichael Hardin, PhDRoss ShamburgerSarah WeaverSue Moore

DEVELOPMENT BOARD MEMBERS

Bo Bowman - LevellandDonald Klaus - WilsonJack Bush - IdalouJim Winn - Sundown

John Baker - TahokaJohn C. Anderson - PlainviewL.C. Childers - Wolorth

Maurice StanleyMike KempNorma PikeQuincy WhiteRoger Karr

Ron McClendonRudy RosalesScott CollierScott GibsonScott McLaughlinSteve WarrenSuzie BakerTed WillisTom & SammiePratherTruett CratWinn Sikes

Ofcials

City Secretary, Becky GarzaCounty Commissioner, Bill McCayJudge Drue FarmerCouncil Member, Floyd PriceCouncil Member, Jim Gilbreath

Michael Ragain, MDFrank Ryburn, MD (Emeritus)

Council Member, John LeonardSheri Kelly RoweCounty Commissioner, Mark E. HeinrichCouncil Member, Paul R. BeaneCouncil Member, Todd Klein

AYORS

Mary Fletcher

Je BaileySheena FadeyiButch AveryThe Itty Bittysand The Cactus Cuties

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14 HOSPICE OF LUBBOCK

HoL Grief Recovery Center

The Grief Recovery Center of Hospice of Lubbock

is excited to announce a new partnership with the Texas

Tech University Division of Personal Financial Plan-

ning! This new partnership, under the supervision of

Dr. John Salter, Ph.D., CFP, AIFA, and Dr. Dorothy

Durband, Ph. D., AFC, from the Division of Personal

Financial Planning, will offer an internship for masters

level nancial planning students to provide assistance for

families in reviewing their legal and nancial affairs at

no cost!

This new partnership will allow the nancial planning

interns to meet individually with families to review their

wills, trusts, and other legal affairs to ensure that they

are up to date. They can provide assistance to individuals

and families struggling with money problems. Whether

providing educational seminars or individualized coun-

seling, the interns can assist individuals and families who

lack the income and assets needed to retain a nancial planner on their own. The interns do not sell products or services while engaged

in pro bono activities and cannot draw up wills or trusts, but can make suggestions and direct you to where you need to go. In some

instances, they can network with other pro bono associations at Texas Tech to help families get their affairs in order.

Brent Groves is the rst intern of this partnership. Brent began his

internship by doing a presentation to the on-going grief group, giving an

overview of wills, trusts, and nancial affairs. The information prompted

many questions, and several people scheduled one-on-one appointments with

Brent.

These free services are available to current Hospice of Lubbock patients, be-

reaved hospice families, families in the community served by Hospice of Lubbock,

as well as staff and volunteers of Hospice of Lubbock.

To schedule a visit with Brent and to take advantage of these free

services, contact the Grief Recovery Center at 795-2751.

New Financial Services

Available To Hospice Families!

The interns can make

suggestions and direct you to

where you need to go.

SUSAN NEMEC, LBSW, ACBSW, CT


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Welcome all people who have lost someone near and dear to you! Grief Camp helps us kidslearn more about how to get through our grief. Over the last few years I have learned it is ok

to cry. Grief Camp can really help your child and you. Please consider joining our Grief Campthis year. You will like it. It is a good place for children! The teachers that help us are verynice! They will let you cry if you need to. You may be able to see Lydia, Rayli, Kylar, Cade,and Creed if you come to camp. Please consider sending your kids to Grief Camp. It will help

them throughout the years. Thank you for listening to this important message!

By: Rayli (8 years old)

You may ask what in the world do these three things have in

common with kids. Follow along with Rayli and me to nd out.Three years ago this May my husband, David, and I had a

26 year-old daughter, Neshia, die from a very rare form of bonecancer, Ewings Sarcoma. For a mom or dad, there is no deeperor greater pain than having your child die. To make matters even

more devastating, my daughter was a single mom to ave year-old little girl named Rayli. But, as wehave discovered rst hand, when life throws

you a humdinger of a curve on the seaof life, you choose to either sink orswim. You can opt to be like the

Indians and put on your warpaint and battle the struggles towin at this thing called life.

Now, Im not just Raylisgrandmother, but as Raylisays, her mother here on

earth. She is also veryquick to let you know herReal Mommy is in Heaven.Rayli is truly my angel here

on earth!In comes Hospice Grief

Camp for Kids. What an awe-

some concept for my grand-daughter - to go to a day campespecially designed for grieving

children of all ages. Raylis rst griefcamp was a short four weeks after hermothers death. The theme that year, 2007,

was Pirates on the Sea of Grief. She had a fun-lled, yet emotionally packed day. Each and every grievingchild learned that day that it is okay to cry and its okay to laugh

while on their sea of grief. Rayli realized it was all right tohave different types of emotions like feeling sad, having tears,and even laughing. At the end of the day, all of the families and

children came back together for a very special event releas-ing of the balloons. Anyone that so chose could write his orher deceased loved one a note and attach it to a balloon. We all

released our balloons at the same time!! WOW!! Not a dry eye!I felt my daughter was looking down from Heaven and smiling

upon every one of us.Year two into our grief, 2008, Hospice offered Grief Soup

camp. As soon as the letter came in the mail, Rayli was jump-

ing for joy and couldnt wait to go. She kept asking if she would

be in her same group with Ms. Peggy and Ms. LaLani. The verynext second, I heard Rayli calling her cousins, Kylar, Cade, and

Creed inviting them to camp! Rayli was ecstatic to nd out thatshe and Creed would be with her favorite camp leaders, Peggyand LaLani. Rayli and her cousins (as well as the other kids at

camp) used different types of vegetables to describe theirfeelings and grief. Then each camper could take

home whatever vegetables he or she used to

express their grief, and make their ownGrief Soup, with their parents help.

Rayli and I had a great bonding mo-

ment making our soup and talkingabout our feelings.

In our third year, 2009, Grief

Warriors was offered. Onceagain Rayli and her threecousins were excited and ready

to go to Hospice Grief Camp.While there they made neck-laces with beads in a variety ofcolors. Each color represented

different feelings and emotionsexperienced in their grief. Rayli

made a variety of Indian Warrior

type artifacts that let her expressher emotions and grief. It helped

her to see she could put on her Indian

War Paint and be a warrior in grief andlife and still be a winner!Now as we approach summer 2010, Rayli

and her cousins are ready to go to Hospices GriefCamp and have even more fun than ever. They are excited to seetheir friends and camp leaders, and learn even more about how to

handle grief.If you or someone you know a child - or even a teenager -

dealing with loss and/or grief, encourage them to attend this

years Hospice Grief Day Camp. It will denitely be a learningtool for them to use in their grieving process. As for the parent/guardian/caregiver of a grieving child, you, too, can benet from

Hospice Grief Day Camp. Hospice offers a session during thisspecial day for you the adult to share and talk about your

feelings, emotions, or whatever may be on your heart or mind.We ALL need love, help, and encouragement when riding on thesea of life. Hope to see you there!

Pirates, Soup,

Raylis Heartfelt Words And Thoughts About Grief Camp:

Indian WarriorsBy Lydia Robinson

Lydia, Rayli and David Robinson


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WisdomShared With Love

Mommy. Why does

daddy have to go to heaven

right now? He is too young,

and we still need him to be

here with us. This is a portion

of a conversation between a

young mother and her 5-year-

old daughter shortly before

their beloved husband and

father died very peacefully intheir loving presence.

I am often at a loss to

know how to help prepare young mothers and fathers

deal with the enormity of saying goodbye to their spouses

prematurely, navigating the uncharted, chaotic territory

of grief, and then creating a new and uncertain future for

themselves and their children.

When Hospice of Lubbocks Director, Charley Wasson,

was 15, his father, Jimmy, died of a heart attack, leaving

Charleys mother, Shirley, with the daunting task of manag-

ing a household, raising the last of her four children, and

working to support her familys many needs. When Shirleyheard how Susan, a brave young woman, enabled her dear

husband to die with much dignity and love and is now car-

ing for the needs of her young daughters, she was moved

to write the following letter to Susan. Shirleys inspiring

words hopefully will give Susan and others whose lives

have been forever changed by the loss of a loved one, the

courage, determination and grace to embrace a new life

lled with hope, memories, dreams, faith and great love.

Dear Susan,

Though I have never met you, my heart and prayers are

with you now and in the days and years to come. I know

how it feels to be in your shoes, as 19 years ago this past

January I became a young widow, left to raise a child. My

heart is full of empathy for you and for your daughters.

There are so many things that I wish I had been told

as I began my journey and I hope that I can offer a few

thoughts of wisdom to you. I hope something I have writ-ten offers you some assurance and peace.

I wish I had someone tell me that life after Jimmys

death was going to be the biggest trial I would encounter,

but that I was going to make it. I had my doubts many

times, but with the love of family, friends, and most im-

portant, the love of God, I made it and feel like I am now

a better person. My oldest brother died a month before

Jimmy, and I remember thinking to myself, Both of them

are gone. Who is going to take care of me? That was

many years ago and I survived it all.

I wish someone had told me to trust my gut feelings

when making decisions. It is so hard to make a decisionyou are the only one responsible for it. Family support is

wonderful to lead you in the right direction, but you are the

one who has to walk the path. I also know now that if you

have not been alone and totally responsible, you have no

idea what it is all about. Others cannot make your deci-

sions. But advice is good, so dont be afraid to listen.

I wish someone had told me that I would be just plain

mad at my husband for dying and leaving me with our son

Preface by Elizabeth AbrahamHospice of Lubbock Chaplain

Chaplains Perspective

ELIZABETH ABRAHAM


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to raise, forcing me to make all the important decisions in

life. I was also mad he left his four children. I felt I had lost

my security. I felt very vulnerable. But I have learned it is

okay to be mad at him it doesnt mean you love him any

less, you just simply wish he were there holding your hand.

I wish someone had told me how frightening it is to go

in a restaurant and eat alone. There are so many things you

have to do for the rst time without your husband. There

will come a time that something little that means nothingto anybody else really catches you off guard. Take a deep

breath and say a prayer. My best advice is to make a date

with a friend or family member to help you feel at ease

with these events.

During the rst year, do not make any decisions you do

not have to make.

Wait until you can

think rationally.

The rst year

on Christmas,

birthdays, and

other special days Ichanged our usual

routine just enough

to know it was

different, because

it would be differ-

ent the rest of my

life. I did not get

rid of or forget all

our traditions, just

adjusted them. We

moved the Christ-

mas tree from the

living room to

our den (that is where we still put it every year). We had

always celebrated Christmas with the kids and our families

in the living room, so this was a small change, but a change

that signied that things were different, but still okay. It is

also amazing how much changing the furniture will do

and change it often if it makes you smile.

The best advice I have for anyone who has lost a loved

one is to rst trust in God with all your heart and know it

is not His fault. I will not tell you that you will ever really

understand why this has happened, but your faith in God

and lots of prayers will get you through the tough times.

And realize you are never alone. Find your comfort spot.

Find the dearest friend you can, one who will listen and

gently guide you when times are really bad. Friends seem

to sense your inner feelings and even though they want to

help and protect you they are different from family. Family

often wants to just shelter you from any hurt, but there is a

certain amount of anguish you must go through to heal.

I strongly believe in opening the door and letting the

sunshine in. Try to put at least one smile on your face daily

and tell someone that you love them. Try to do something

special at least once a week, and with time it will get easier.

Let your kids know you love them and you are going to

be okay, but you need their love and help to get you all

through this tough time.Remember to tell your kids often good things about

their Daddy; memories are the most important thing you

can instill in them. Dont be afraid to talk of your husband

and dont be afraid to let others talk about him. Memories

carry down for generations. There are things that Charley

has difculty to re-

member about his

Dad, and he was

older than your

daughters. Even

today we talk about

Jimmy and goodtimes we have

both learned and

remember things

that bring warmth

to our hearts,

smiles to our faces

and occasionally

tears to our eyes.

I can imagine

how hard the last

few months have

been for you. It is

tougher than tough

to watch your husband ght a disease and then lose the

battle, especially at such a young age. There will be tough

days ahead, but you will make it through this rough time.

You will do the right things for you and your daughters

even as you wonder if you have made the right decision.

You will emerge from this dark time stronger and a better

person.

Please know that there are many praying for you, and

my heart truly goes out to you and your daughters. Should

you ever need someone to talk to, my time is yours.

May God keep and bless you and your girls.

Much love and prayers,

Shirley Eagle

M e m o r e s c a r o w n

f o r g e n e r t i o s .

Charley Wasson with mother, Shirley Eagle


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Jesus said: I tell you the truth, whatever

you did for one of the least of these brothers

of mine, you did for me. Matthew 25: 40

As Medical Social Workers for Hospice of

Lubbock, we have a ministry to serve as we

have the opportunity to walk in many differ-

ent life situations and assess the needs unique

to them. We look at a patient and familys

physical, social, and emotional environment

and identify problems and their underlying potential. We look at

the patients medical status, symptoms, medications, and exacer-

bations of the disease. Many times just listening and caring may

be our role for their situation.

Medical Social Workers advocate for patients and their

families. We provide counseling for emotional stressors related to

their terminal illness and assist with resolving family conflict is-

sues. Medical Social Workers provide crisis intervention in situ-

ations where patient and families lack adequate food or housing,such as providing food boxes from the South Plains Food Bank.

Often times we assist with utility bills that are past due. We

educate and refer to community resources, such as applying for

government programs (Medicare, Medicaid, etc.). We assist with

long term care placements usually when a patient is no longer

able to live alone or the caregiver is no longer able to care for the

patient.

By Linda Cook

Why Do I NeedA Social Worker?

Many times Medical Social Workers write various letters

for patient and families such as a letter to the Mexican Consulate

in Texas border towns for their love ones in Mexico to travel to

patients homes. Also, letters to Texas State Prisons when wanting

a family member who is incarcerated to be allowed to visit the

patient and say their nal goodbyes and resolve any unresolved

issues.

Legal documents are an important part of what we do to as-

sist patients with completing Last Will and Testaments, Medical

Power of Attorney, Financial Power of Attorney, Living Wills

and out of hospital DNR (do not resuscitate).

Seeking donations to provide special items for patients can

be funeral expense for an infant, transportation to send the patientback to Mexico for burial, buying car parts to have their auto-

mobile drivable again, and even a MP3 player for an infant on

service to listen to soothing music to calm her in her restlessness.

These are just some of the things we assist with for our Hos-

pice of Lubbock patients and families. It is a ministry of love to

be part of these unique situations as a Medical Social Worker for

Hospice of Lubbock.


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Let me count the waysThe Hospice of Lubbock Foundation needs your supportfor the important work our staff performs daily as we go aboutfulfilling the Mission of Lubbocks ONLY non-profit hospice.What does it mean to be a non-profit organization?

Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines non-profit this way:

Not conducted or maintained for the purpose of making a

profit. A primary difference between a non-profit and a for-

profit organization is that a non-profit does not issue stock or

pay dividends, and does not enrich its directors. The en-

richment for Hospice of Lubbock comes not monetarily but

spiritually and emotionally through service to this community.

Hospice of Lubbock does not distribute its surplus funds

to owners or shareholders, but instead uses them to help pur-

sue its goals and mission.

When profit for shareholders or owners is not a consider-

ation, the decision-making process is altered tremendously.

What is best for body, mind and spirit becomes the focus.

Serving the under-served is rarely an option when profit is

the motivator.

Charitable donations are a major part of the viability of a

non-profit. Hospice of Lubbock depends upon the generosity

and spirit of philanthropy that permeates this community.

How can you help?Lets count the ways:Memorial and Honorarium Tributes: Making a donation in

the memory of someone who has passed or to honor some-

one who is living (such as for birthdays and anniversaries) is a

very easy way to help.

Fundraising Events: Supporting the two annual fundraisers

for Hospice of Lubbock is an important way to give. The May-

ors Beans & Cornbread Luncheon every March and Light Up

A Life every December help to provide patient care to those

on our service who may not have insurance or whose insur-ance has been exhausted.

Planned Giving and Bequests: Providing for Hospice of

Lubbock in a Will, Bequest, or Planned Gift is another way

that donors show appreciation and support for the work at

Hospice of Lubbock.

If you would like more information about how to donate,

please contact Hospice of Lubbock today at 806-795-2751 or

visit our website at www.hospiceoflubbock.org and become a

part of the Spirit of Hospice.

Giving

By Paula Miser

The enrichmentfor Hospice ofLubbock comesnot monetarilybut spiritually

and emotionallythrough service tothis community.


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We gratefully acknowledge the following

contributions from January 1, 2010 to April 30, 2010

Every effort has been made to correctly list all contributions to Hospice of Lubbock.

If you note a mistake or omission, please accept our apologies and inform our ofce

of any corrections or changes by calling 806.725.6089.

MEMORIALS

Pauline Arnold

G H P Trucking

Mr. and Mrs. Monty Woody

Edward Aryain

Ms. Vicky Robins

Don K. Baker

Ms. Glenda JonesKenneth Baker

Ms. Leta F. Baker

Robert Baker

Mr. and Mrs. Brian Legan

Mr. and Mrs. Jim WilsonLynn Bales

Fidelity Charitable Gift FundTommy Bednarz

Mrs. Frances Sowder

Connie Beesinger

Ms. Phyllis G. Leath

Patsy Berry

Ms. Donna Powers

Verlon Bigham

Mrs. Lou D. DiekemperMr. and Mrs. Joe D. Scott

Mr. and Mrs. Alfred O. Costanzo

Ms. Carrie T. Miller

Bigham Brothers

Dr. and Mrs. Ennis Moss, Jr.

Mr. Edward MurraySheriffs Department EmployeeAssociation

Ms. Lindy Jones

Mr. and Mrs. Terry S. Key

Plains Capital Bank

Mr. and Mrs. James P. Moss

Lubbock National Bank

Ms. Peggy A. BostonMs. Maurine Selman

Ms. Maurine H. Hearn

Mr. and Mrs. Clarence Monroe

Mr. and Mrs. Ronnie Paulger

Mr. and Mrs. Dennis Richardson

Mrs. Margaret Talkington

First United Methodist Church

J.E. Murfee & Son

Mr. and Mrs. Glory FullerBob Blackwood

Ms. Donna Blackwood

Tye Blankenship

Team Baugh, LLC DBA Home

Instead Sr. C

Mrs. Glenna WylieMs. Tammy Glenn

Ms. Sonja H. Nash

Brad and Virginia L. Bradshaw

Ms. Sonja H. Nash

Pauline Brown

Mrs. Frances Sowder

Kay Buckman

Mr. Sanford Swope

Mr. and Mrs. Roy StanleyMr. and Mrs. Rayburn D. Clark

Mrs. Dorothy L. Collins

Ms. Sandra Searsy

Mrs. Bob Mayo

78th & University Church of Christ

Bobby & Helen Jennings

Ms. Joyce AdamsMs. Marilyn Neill

Mr. and Mrs. Gene Fullingim

Mr. and Mrs. Greg Grothusen

Ms. June SmithMr. Stan Edwards

Pauline Caldwell

Lonnie Wheeler

Mr. and Mrs. Darrel F. GriffithMs. Gayle Settle

Mr. and Mrs. Phillip Lee

Ms. Linda Farris

Ms. Charlotte Burt

Mr. and Mrs. Don R. Parks

Mr. and Mrs. Leon Ware

Grace CampbellMs. Gayle Gray

Douglas Carlson

Ms. Henrietta Cannon-Stover

Billielee Carr

Ms. Joyce M. Combs

Mr. and Mrs. Joe L. Murfee, III

Mrs. Lou D. Diekemper

Mr. and Mrs. George GilkersonLubbock National Bank

Dr. and Mrs. Clifford Breaud

Mr. and Mrs. Kirby J. Hurley

Mr. and Mrs. Michael O. Kerr

Mr. and Mrs. John Blakey

Mrs. Marg McLeod

Lubbock Country ClubMrs. Betty L. Blumrosen

Mrs. Ruth Smith

Mrs. Margaret Talkington

Jimmie Carr

Ridgecrest Baptist Church

Earl Carver

Mr. Roger CarverEvelyn Cash

Mrs. Frances Sowder

Ms. Carolyn M. Feminear

Dr. and Mrs. James R. Moyes

Mr. and Mrs. Michael J. Buchanan

Mr. and Mrs. Darrell Vines

Mr. and Mrs. Mark Brock

Mr. and Mrs. Leon MillerMs. Susan Dorchin

Ms. Leslie Hebert

Mr. and Mrs. Glynn Morgan

Mr. and Mrs. Frank Kilcrease

Mr. and Mrs. Charles H. Brueske

Ms. Edith C. Blackburn

Ms. Donna Cash

Ms. Maxine C. Sigman

Ms. Victoria Thornley

World Vision International

Mr. and Mrs. Don Worten

West Inland Energy, IncMrs. Ruth Hood

Mrs. Mary Jo Lovingier

Ms. Marjorie Manning

Mr. and Mrs. Michael C. Barton

Dr. John Scott

Bruce ChamblinMr. and Mrs. Philip W. SmithMr. Gary Loden

Mrs. Rita Chamblin

Dr. Charles M. Jenness

Mr. and Mrs. John McLarty

Mr. and Mrs. Johnny Franklin

Ms. Shirley L. Peterson TTEE

Ms. Deborah D. OlsonMr. and Mrs. Wilford D. Watson

Mr. and Mrs. Wade Newsom

Ms. Carol Pritchard

Sanford & Tatum Insurance Agency

Dreammaker Bath and Kitchen

Mr. and Mrs. Gerald B. Frank

Mrs. Llona Steele

FirstBank And TrustMr. and Mrs. Christopher S. Sage

Mr. and Mrs. Paul Rivenburg

Ms. Martha Stine

Whit Childers

Mr. and Mrs. Jimmy L. McKenzie

Ms. Tammy Glenn

City BankMs. Marge Nordyke

Rene Chambers

Mr. and Mrs. Robert Mertel

Mr. Harold Rasberry

Mr. and Mrs. Cory Newsom

Mrs. Frances Sowder

First Baptist Church - Wolfforth

Mr. and Mrs. Joe V. SandersAnonymous

Mrs. Judy RostadMrs. Beverly G. Reynolds

Ms. Sheila Schulmeyer

Ms. Lisette Borg

Ms. Bonnie G. Reilly

Mrs. Dorothy D. MooreMs. Paula J. DeForrest

Ms. Sheryl A. Sancibrian

Clenon Cox

Mr. and Mrs. Dalton Oden

Willis Crain

Mr. and Mrs. John M. Penn

Eugnee CrumplerBolinger, Segars, Gilbert & Moss,

LLP CPA

R. Curran

City Bank

J. C. Darnell

Mr. and Mrs. Duane A. Reeves

The Honorable and

Mrs. William R. Shaver

Lubbock Bail Bond

Ms. Wanda ParkerFirst Texas Bank

Mr. and Mrs. John C. Owens, Sr.

Mrs. Carolyn Taylor

Cam Fannin Insurance Agency

Mrs. Ethel McLeod

Mr. Carl PierceMr. and Mrs. William Carlton

Dorothy Davis

Mr. and Mrs. Allen M. Everson

Mr. Lloyd Davis

Ms. Virginia Cain TTEE

Mr. and Mrs. Conrad L. Lohoeffer

Mr. Robert Rigler

Mr. and Mrs. Clark BarnettMs. Mary K. Verhalen

Ms. Dorothy M. Cunningham


Mr. and Mrs. A. I. Chenoweth

Kent Davis

Mr. Tommy Anderson

Mr. and Mrs. Craig Patterson

Ms. Jana GregoryAnonymous

Ms. Brenda Wilson

Mr. and Mrs. Randy Bedwell

Mr. and Mrs. Neal G. Smith

Ms. Brenda Wilson

Ms. Sue S. Castles

Jill DeckmanMs. Dena D. Tilson

Bill Detournillon

Ms. Ruth Earsley

Mr. and Mrs. Harvey Lutrick

Ms. Sharon Dixon

Mr. Roger Carver

Randall Drennan

Ms. Anna C. BorgDorothy Dunbar

Mr. and Mrs. Roy ByrdAnonymous

Mr. and Mrs. Arlan Youngblood

George Fennema

Ms. Susan Fast

Tommie Sue FlemingMr. and Mrs. Billie Elms

Marvin Floyd

Mrs. Charlotte Lynn

Willouise Fortenberry

Mr. and Mrs. Jim Wilson

Pat Foster

Mr. and Mrs. Don GreenBertha Fritz

Mr. and Mrs. Donald R. Jones

Mr. Bob Cope

Ms. Claudia Williams

Fred Jones Farms, Inc.Ms. Kelli Burkes

Jerry Gailey

Mr. and Mrs. Clayton T. Dani

Mr. and Mrs. A. B. Enloe, Jr.

Mrs. Wanda J. Williams

Mr. and Mrs. Mackie Lawren

Texas AgriLife Research Cen

Mr. and Mrs. Harvey GarrisoMr. and Mrs. Dick Liebner

Mr. and Mrs. I.G. Mayfield

Mr. and Mrs. Max ChristopheMr. and Mrs. E. L. Stephenso

Mr. Joe H. Hodges, Sr.

Mr. and Mrs. Arlys Askew

Mr. Tommy O. MiddletonMr. and Mrs. Rex R. Davis

Mr. and Mrs. Gary Meador

Mr. and Mrs. Charles A. Moo

Mr. and Mrs. Joe D. Bryan

Mr. and Mrs. Roger Andersen

Mr. and Mrs. Gerald Ince

Ms. Edna HensonMr. and Mrs. Wanda Mullins

Mr. and Mrs. Howard Garling

Mr. and Mrs. John Maxwell

Mr. and Mrs. Weldon Day

Mr. and Mrs. Bob Etheredge

Mr. and Mrs. Ray Bertrand

Mr. and Mrs. John Camp, III

Creative Critters TaxidermyMs. S. Katy Hilliard

Mr. and Mrs. Randy Hooks

Clifton Gardner

Ms. Linda C. Huffaker

Mary L. Goodnight

Ms. Mary G. Maw

Ms. Mary LutrickMs. Fern Gordon

Mr. and Mrs. Roger McMillan

Betty Tom Graham

Ms. Katie G. Ross

Otice A. Green

Mrs. Frances Sowder

Mr. and Mrs. Choc R. HutcheJosephine Gronda

Mr. Steven Johnson

Ms. Earlene Guess

Ms. Melanie Burkholder

Jessie Gujardo

Head-Duarte Funeral Home

Alvera (Birdie) Hagedorn

Mrs. Lewis J. ChaseMr. and Mrs. Don R. Parks

Diane Elizabeth Hall

Mr. and Mrs. Michael O. Ker

Bob Handren

Mrs. Frances Sowder

Memorials and Honoraria


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Margie Hawkins

Mrs. Frances Sowder

Charles Heathman

Ms. Reta B. Moore

E.H. HillgerMs. Sharon Parr TTE

Fred Holder

Ms. Emilia Mendenhall

Reba Hollinsworth

Ms. Tanya Stocking

Mr. and Mrs. Preston Glazner

Garland HuguleyMs. Renea Livesay

Jane HumphriesMs. Kathy Kendrick

Mr. and Mrs. Bill Felty

Mrs. Tracy D. Gage

Mr. and Mrs. George Gilkerson

Mr. and Mrs. Van MayLevia Ingram

Freedom Post Office

Lewis James

Mrs. Claudene Merriman

Hildegard Jeppson

Mrs. Mary Lou Turner

Evelyn Jeter

Mr. and Mrs. Roland A. BrawnerMs. Bobbie Jeter

Jim Johnson

Ms. Sue HabererMr. and Mrs. Harry Millican

Doris Gayle Jones

Mr. and Mrs. Berhl L. Robertson

Mr. and Mrs. Dennis LilesMr. and Mrs. Arthur W. Hedges

Mr. and Mrs. Donald Caddell

Mr. and Mrs. Donald Garth

Mr. and Mrs. Jimmy D. Carter

Mr. and Mrs. Marion Hagler

Ms. Dorothy Liles

Ms. Leola Sprayberry

Mr. and Mrs. Edwin DawsonMs. Marcelete Oestermyer

Wayne Jordan

Ms. Sue Moore

Arlene B. Kerr

Ms. Amy DrennanMrs. Eunice Pace

Pat ChapmanMr. and Mrs. W. Paul Faulkner, Jr.

Ms. Mary Lutrick

Mr. and Mrs. Eddie M. Hodges

Mr. and Mrs. John Krister

Mr. and Mrs. William K. Lane

Mr. and Mrs. Crispin Green

Ms. Jean GoddardMr. and Mrs. Jerry Fuller

Ms. Pat Hale

Mr. and Mrs. Phillip Marcy

Mr. and Mrs. Tim Kerr

Mr. and Mrs. Harvey Lutrick

Mrs. Cheryl Thompson

Rebecca (Becky) M. Kidd

Mr. Brad Allen

Ms. Laurie Hubbard

Pratas, Smith & Moore

Mr. Chris Sterner

Ms. Lyn JacksonMrs. Peggy T. Spaugh

Ms. Carolyn S. Johnson

Pat Kidwell

Mr. and Mrs. Clark Barnett


Chris KitchensMr. and Mrs. Stephen D. EasterlyMr. and Mrs. Jerry Martin

Lillian Kountz

The Honorable and Mrs. William R.

Shaver

Grace House

Dr. M. M. Ayoub

Mr. and Mrs. Waylon R. CarrollMr. and Mrs. James Walker

Mr. and Mrs. E. E. Rankin

Mr. and Mrs. Charles T. Louder

Fidelis Sunday School Class

Mrs. Covie Williams

Ms. Jackie Wilson

Juanita Kring

Dr. and Mrs. Robert JohnsonDoris Lang

Ms. Ruth Richburg

Robert Lewis

Ms. and Mr. Frances M. Privett

Mr. Rosetta Blackmore

Mr. Harry Hutcheson

Martha M. LoganCarmyn H. Morrow

William (Bill) H. Logan

Mr. and Mrs. Frank Kilcrease

Cindy Lucas

Mr. and Mrs. Charles Sheakley

John Lynn

Mr. and Mrs. John Lynn

Mary MassoniMrs. Johnnie M. Leslie

Elaine MayMrs. Frances Sowder

William H. Mayer-Oakes

Ms. Alice W. Portnoy

Mr. and Mrs. Jimmy Maynard

Ms. Margaret M. McPhersonFreddy D. McLean

Mr. and Mrs. Donald Caldwell

Lois McWherter

Mrs. H. L. King

Butch Medlock

Weiss and Associates, Inc.

Ms. Kay Jones

Mrs. Ethel McLeod

Ms. Jill Watkins

Rushing Family Foundation

Ms. Cynthia Reed

RJD Management Co, Inc.

Joe Mims

Mr. and Mrs. Jerry B. Harrison

Sandra MontgomeryMs. Peggy Lee Reckner

Dale Moore

Mr. and Mrs. Robert L. Parks

Wanda Moore

Mr. and Mrs. Donald Moore

Homer MorrowMr. and Mrs. James Truelock

Neven Mote

Mr. and Mrs. Bryce J. McGregor

Eddy Mudd

Mr. and Mrs. Jim Welch

Hearing Technologies, Inc.

Wolfforth First United Methodist

ChurchEmily Ruth Mukley


Bledsoe OBrien


Charles Owens

Ms. Peggy Bruton

Glenn Peters

AnonymousEula Pierce

Mr. and Mrs. Harve Shavor

Mr. and Mrs. James Acker

Mr. and Mrs. Donald R. Jones

Mr. and Mrs. Joe Schoenig

PlainsCapital Bank

Beatrice PsencikMrs. Frances Sowder

Carl W. Rambo

Mrs. Suzann Brown

Sarah Reed

Mrs. Sheila Butterfield

Mr. Clark Nisbett

Don Sager

Mr. and Mrs. Joe FarrisG. Lynn Shurbet

Mr. and Mrs. Emerson E. TuckerJimmy Skipworth

Mr. and Mrs. Ronald F. Hunt

Mr. Richard Snyder

Central Compress

Mrs. Nelda A. RollinsMs. Jane Alexander

Larry Skylstad

Mr. and Mrs. Kirby J. Hurley

Irene Smith

Ms. Meg Gann

Otha (Pete) Smith

Mr. and Mrs. Roger McMillan

MoDean Sorensen

Mr. and Mrs. George Zweig

Ms. Gayle Settle

Mr. and Mrs. Lewis Eggenberger

Ms. Dena D. TilsonMrs. Tess Williams

Mr. and Mrs. Randy Laycock

Taylor Elementary School

Wanda M. C. Sorensen

Mustang Social Fund

Norma Starnes

Mrs. Joyce Hicks

Doris Stephens

Mr. and Mrs. Charles T. CooperElouise Sukenis

Mr. and Mrs. Randy Via

Ms. Emily Willingham

Ms. Jonnie Bartlett

Ms. Mary Beth Jenkins

Ms. Jerri SukenisRobert Taylor

Mrs. Wanda Taylor

Colorado Springs Internal Medicine

Cleta Thomas

Mr. and Mrs. Randy B. Peeples

Lucille Thomas

Mr. Blaine E. Thomas USAF/Ret. LT.

Col.Hank Thomson

Southwest Business SystemsThe First National Bank of Amherst

Mr. and Mrs. Neal Morgan

Sandefur & Swindle

Mr. and Mrs. Sam Bruce

Caprock Business Forms, Inc.Ernest B. Todd, Jr.

Mr. and Mrs. Clarence W. Hobgood

Billy Tomlison


Wesley R. Tunnell

Ms. Barbara Hannah

Ms. Faye N. KennedyOman Turner

Mr. and Mrs. Richard Ginsburg

Ronald Tyson

Ms. Tonya Jackson

Pinky WaltonRogers, Morris, and Ziegler

Mr. Phillip Semenick

Seymour WaltonMr. and Mrs. J. N. Cotton

Mr. Fred P. Sackbauer, Jr.

Elva Watterson

Mr. and Mrs. Leslie Watterson

Mr. Bill Derrick

Freddie Whillock

PlainsCapital BankMr. and Mrs. Harold Wright

Mrs. Carol Kitten

Mr. and Mrs. Willard Adair

Mr. and Mrs. Johnnie R. Sto

Theodocia Farms

Harden Farms

Mr. and Mrs. Jack Darnell

Wayne Wilbourn

Mr. and Mrs. Randy Bennett

Mr. and Mrs. Clarence E.Henniger

Ms. Linda M. Shipp

Mrs. Barbara Payton

Loretta Williams

Mr. and Mrs. Willard Adair

Mr. and Mrs. Bobby L. Fulle

Raymond M. WoodMrs. Mary J. Lovingier

Loveta Woods

Ms. Loveta Woods

Anneitta Wright

Mr. and Mrs. Clarence W.

Hobgood

Lois Wynn

Mr. and Mrs. James L. PorteThe Real Estate Company

Mr. and Mrs. John Ledbetter

PlainsCapital Bank

Lubbock Remax

Mr. Alan Nelson

Mr. Phillip Gibson

Ms. Barbara A. FrankhouseMr. and Mrs. Greg Parr

Glenda Yerby

First Baptist Of New Deal

HONORARIA

Elizabeth Abraham

Mr. and Mrs. Bill Caldwell

Evelyn Cash

Mr. and Mrs. Eric McKnight

Mr. L. Willis

L. N. Willis

Ms. Kaye AdamsMs. Patricia L. Freier

Ms. Nancy M. Edwards

Mr. Lloyd A. Hendrix

Mr. and Mrs. Tommy E. Patt

First United Methodist ChurBruce Cotton

Mr. and Mrs. Ben B. TrotterElizabeth Hudson

Mr. Frank Hudson

Bonnie Hunt

Ms. Sue T. Phares

Victoria Thornley

Ms. Maxine C. Sigman

Charley J. Wasson

Mr. and Mrs. Charles T. Lou

We gratefully acknowledge the following

contributions from January 1, 2010 to April 30, 2010

Every effort has been made to correctly list all contributions to Hospice of Lubbock.

If you note a mistake or omission, please accept our apologies and inform our ofce

of any corrections or changes by calling 806.725.6089.

Memorials and Honoraria


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Belle Sandner, long-time Hospice of Lubbock volunteer,

died May 6, 2010. Those of us at Hospice knew her as a loving,

condent, resilient woman whose ability to catch you off guard

with her sense of humor was unmatched! She worked as a direct

patient volunteer and also helped in the Thrift Shoppe. Belle

loved to play Bunko with the other volunteers and always had

a special homemade dish to share. We will miss her quick wit,

mischievous smile, and caring heart.

Evelyn Cash, long-time Hospice of Lubbock board member

is remembered on pages 6-7.

Hospice of Lubbock is seeking volunteers for our Memory Bears program. Volun-

teers create a special bear for a family member of a Hospice patient by using a special

article of clothing, such as a shirt, robe, quilt, blanket, etc. Once the Memory Bear

is completed, Hospice of Lubbock staff will give the special keepsake to the family.

Each volunteer will be given a bear pattern to use.

For more information, call Cheryl Keefer,

Volunteer Coordinator at 806-784-4822

Memory BearsProvide Comfort

Belle Sandner and Evelyn Cash

Do you like to sew?

Do you like to do things for other people?


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By Charley Wasson

in the face of his disease. Im going to order that WWII helmet

in case I should fall, I wont hurt my head, Daniel said one day.

Daniel taught us that we should remember to tell those we love

how much we care for them. He had conversations with all of

his family and assured them he would still be present, even after

he had passed away.

There was a peace that resided in Daniels soul that radiated

out to all of us who knew him. Psalms 46.10 says Be still and

know that I am God. Daniel fully understood that he was of

God and God was with him as he approached death. While I do

not fully understand the reasons for Daniels cancer and sub-

sequent journey, I do know that God used Daniel to enrich the

lives of those around him.Grace is a virtue that is not easily attained. Few of us truly

understand and display the beauty of grace. Grace is the knowl-

edge of self, displayed in the softest, most subtle manner during

the greatest times of stress and strain. Daniel was the denition

of grace, especially in his nal months of life.

Just days before he died, Daniel saw Clash of the Titans

with 14 family members and friends. It is appropriate as it tells

the story of a special young man who must go on a journey to

improve himself and save others. Daniels six-year journey led

him through struggles and successes, and while he is no longer

physically here, he left a signicant legend that will be told and

retold for many years to come.Today, I know that the words of II Timothy 4:7-8 truly

speak of my friend Daniel, I have fought the good ght, I have

nished the race, I have kept the faith. Finally, there is laid up

for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous

Judge, will give to me on that Day, and not to me only but also

to all who have loved his appearing.

God had a role for Daniel to teach us about grace, love

and of being true to oneself. There is little doubt that God

received His faithful servant and commended him on a battle

well fought, a life well lived and said, Welcome, My good and

faithful servant.

It was a cold day in January when I rst meet Daniel, a

15-year-old cancer patient, who had been admitted to hospice. I

had brought Daniel a University of Texas T-shirt from my most

recent trip to Austin even though I am a dedicated Red Raider.

His nurse had encouraged me to stop by and see Daniel myself.

During that rst visit Daniel began to tell me about his week

at the hospital. It was not a typical visit to the hospital. Daniel,

the most focused and determined young man I think I have ever

met, had developed a rather long list of things to do before he

died. It was during this hospital visit that Daniel had accom-

plished several key parts of his list.

Charley, it was so cool. I got to drive both a Ferrari and

a Maserati. Can you believe it? I think you need to have that

doctors head checked Im not seeing so well out of this eye

Daniel said as he smiled and pointed to his right eye. Dr. Althos

Colon had heard that Daniel wanted to at least ride in an exotic

car and had picked Daniel up and let him drive the cars, creating

a memory of a lifetime.

Our conversation turned more serious. Daniel had always

wanted to hold a baby something that he was scared to do,

but nevertheless wanted to do. Covenant Childrens Hospital

was caring for a child that was a ward of the state, having been

severely and permanently injured by an adult. The baby boy

arrived to Daniels room crying. Daniel told me how he held

the baby in his arms and how the baby fell into a deep, peaceful

sleep. Charley, if I ever questioned that there was a God, I knew

He was real at the moment. Daniel would tell the baby, Ill

be your brother as long as I am here, then Ill be your guardian

angel.

The next three months would be a life-altering time for those

of us who knew Daniel. Daniel would remind us to laugh, even


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1102 Slide Rd., Suite 3

P.O. Box 16800

Lubbock, Texas 79490-6800

Phone 806.795.2751

Phone 800.658.2648

24 hours / 7 days

www.hospiceoflubbock.org

Non Profit Org

U.S. Postage

PAID

Lubbock, TX

Permit No. 80

Saturday, July 24, 2010

8:30 am - 3:30 pm

Hospice of Lubbocks annual day-long grief camp is for children, ages 5-17,

who have experienced the death of a family member or friend

within the last two years. There is no charge for the camp and lunch

is provided, but you must call to register by July 2nd!

To register or for more information, please contact:

Susan Nemec at Hospice of Lubbock 806-795-2751

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