2010 07 30 Five Love Languages

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Introduction to theFiveFiveLOVE

LANGUAGES

How to Express HeartfeltCommitment to Your Mate

Gary ChapmanGary Chapman


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1. Words of Armation

I can lie for t!o months on a "oodcom#liment.$ %&ar' (!ain


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)ec'less !ords #ierce li'e a s!ord*+ut the ton"ue of the !ise +rin"shealin".$

,roer+s 1-1/

A "entle ans!er turns a!a0 !rath*

+ut a harsh !ord stirs u# an"er.$,roer+s 11


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Loe is a )e2uest* Not a

3emand4ou 'no! those a##le #ies 0ou

ma'e5 Would it +e #ossi+le for 0ou

to ma'e one this !ee'5 I loethose a##le #ies.$


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Loe is a )e2uest* Not a

3emand6aen7t had an a##le #ie since the

+a+0 !as +orn. 3on7t "uess I7ll "et

an0 more a##le #ies for ei"hteen0ears.$


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-. 8ualit0 (ime

9 Giin" someone 0our undiided attention.

9 Sharin" an actiit0 in !hich !e are "iin"our full attention to the other #erson.

9 8ualit0 conersation* focusin" on !hat !eare hearin" % listenin" s0m#atheticall0.


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&0 doe in the clefts of the roc'* inthe hidin" #laces on themountainside* sho! me 0our face*

let me hear 0our oice: for 0ouroice is s!eet* and 0our face isloel0.$

Son" of Solomon -1;


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,rinci#les of 8ualit0 (ime

1. At least one of 0ou !ants to do it.

-. (he other is !illin" to do it.


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=a++lin" =roo' ? the 3ead Sea

If 0ou are a 3ead Sea on a date !itha =a++lin" =roo'* 0ou !ill hae a

!onder ni"ht. 4ou !on7t hae to!orr0* 6o! !ill I "et theconersation started toni"ht5$ She

!ill @ll u# the !hole eenin" and0ou !ill "o home sa0in"* What a!onderful #erson.$


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On the other hand* if 0ou are a=a++lin" =roo' on a date !ith a

3ead Sea* 0ou !ill hae an e2uall0!onderful time +ecause 3ead Seasare the !orld7s +est listeners. 6e !ill

listen intentl0 to 0ou* and 0ou !ill "ohome sa0in"* What a !onderful#erson.$ 4ou attract each other.


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=ut @e 0ears after marria"e* the=a++lin" =roo' !a'es u# one

mornin" and sa0s* We7e +eenmarried @e 0ears* and I don7t'no! him.$ (he 3ead Sea is

sa0in"* I 'no! her too !ell. I !ishshe !ould sto# and "ie me a+rea'.$


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(he "ood ne!s is that 3ead Seascan learn to tal' and =a++lin"

=roo's can learn to listen.

We are inuenced +0 our #ersonalit0+ut not controlled by it.


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,rinci#les of Giin" Gifts

1. Gifts 0ou +u0

-. Gifts 0ou ma'e


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;. Acts of Serice

4ou call me F(eacherF and FLord*F andri"htl0 so* for that is !hat I am.

No! that I* 0our Lord and (eacher*hae !ashed 0our feet* 0ou alsoshould !ash one anotherFs feet. I

hae set 0ou an e>am#le that 0oushould do as I hae done for 0ou.$

Cohn 1


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;. Acts of Serice

4ou* m0 +rothers* !ere called to +efree. =ut do not use 0our freedom

to indul"e the sinful nature: rather*sere one another in loe. (heentire la! is summed u# in a sin"le

command Loe 0our nei"h+or as0ourself.$

Galatians 1-%1;


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,rinci#les of Serice

1. Loe is a choice: it cannot +ecoerced.

-. Serice can +e done out of loe*or it can +e done out of fear*"uilt* and resentment.


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Oercomin" Stereot0#es

A !illin"ness to e>amine and chan"estereot0#es is necessar0 in order to

e>#ress loe more eHectiel0.

)emem+er* there are no re!ards formaintainin" stereot0#es* +ut thereare tremendous +ene@ts to meetin"the emotional needs of 0our s#ouse.


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. ,h0sical (ouch

Cesus reco"nied the im#ortance of

sho!in" loe throu"h #h0sical touch.

Billed !ith com#assion* Cesus reached

out his hand and touched the man.$&ar' 1;1


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,eo#le !ere +rin"in" little childrento Cesus to hae him touch them*+ut the disci#les re+u'ed them.

1;When Cesus sa! this* he !asindi"nant. 6e said to them* Let thelittle children come to me* and do

not hinder them* for the 'in"domof God +elon"s to such as these.$

&ar' 1J1


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A Note to the &en

3o not confuse se>ual desire !ith theemotional need to feel loed.

E>am#le

If 0our s#ouse !as meetin" 0our se>ualneeds as often as 0ou desire* +ut she

!as "iin" 0ou ne"atie !ords*criticiin" 0ou* #uttin" 0ou do!n in frontof others* !ould 0ou feel loed +0 her5$


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(he FiveFiveLoe Lan"ua"es

1. Words of Armation

-. 8ualit0 (ime


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(a'e the 2ui online

!!!.loelan"ua"es.com


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1. Learn !hat 0our #rimar0 Kandsecondar0 loe lan"ua"e is.

-. Learn !hat 0our s#ouse7s loelan"ua"e is.

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