Dec 22, 2015
2
InterpersonalInterpersonal
LISTENINGLISTENING
Fast FactsAbout Listening
We listen at 125-250 wpm, think at 1000-3000 wpm
75% of the time we are distracted, preoccupied or forgetful
20% of the time, we remember what we hear
More than 35% of businesses think listening is a top skill for success
Less than 2% of people have had formal education with listening
The Erratic Driver
Story: Doug Fielding, a prominent NY State Legislator was picked up on the County Road #10 for erratic driving last week. A concerned citizen spotted the dangerous driver first and notified a patrol car in the area. They picked up his trail and followed him for two or three miles to gather evidence of his driving techniques. While they were following him, he speeded up to 85 mph, dropped back down to 40 mph, passed the driver ahead of him, cutting into the passing lane too close in front of oncoming traffic, pulled back into his former lane, cutting off the driver he had just passed. He also went off the road two times on each shoulder. When the hazardous driver was pulled over to the side of the road and stopped, he refused to take the Field Alcohol Indicator test, claiming legislative immunity. “Besides,” he said, “I’m not drunk. I’m just preoccupied thinking about a seminar I’m helping run today at Finger Lakes Community College.
ListeningListening::
“the process of receiving, constructing meaning from, and responding to spoken and/or nonverbal messages.” p. 175
Functions of Interpersonal Functions of Interpersonal CommunicationCommunication
1. Meet our social needs
2. Maintain our sense of self
3. Fulfill social obligations
4. Exchange information
5. Influence others
6. Get and improve our jobs6
7
Listening is Fundamental in Communication
• “Listening creates Reality.”
• Enacts, develops, and maintains a variety of social & personal relationships.
• Most of our time is spent Listening.
8
Listening
Listening makes up 42-60% Listening makes up 42-60% of our communication.of our communication.
WritingSpeaking Reading
Percentage of Communication Training
Mode of Communicat
ion
Formal Years
of Training
Percentage of Time Used
Writing 12 years 9%
Reading 6-8 years 16 %
Speaking 1-2 years 30%
Listening 0-few hours 45%
HearingHearing
A physiological activity that occurs when sound waves hit our eardrums
10
Listening vs. Hearing
Hearing- physical process; natural; passive
Listening- physical & mental process; active; learned process; a skill
Listening is hard!
You must choose to participate in the process of listening.
Listening involves:Listening involves:Attending
Understanding
Remembering
Evaluating
Responding
A – U – R – E – R
12
Define --- Attending?
AttendingAttending
Get physically and mentally ready to listen.
Make the shift from speaker to listener a complete one.
Hear a person out before you react.
Adjust to the listening goals of the situation.
14
UnderstandingUnderstanding – – Accurately decoding the Accurately decoding the message you share with the message you share with the speaker.speaker.
Determine the organization
Attend to nonverbal cues
Ask questions
Silently paraphrase16
Paraphrase the following statements to Paraphrase the following statements to reflect both the thoughts and feelings reflect both the thoughts and feelings of the person speaking.of the person speaking.
1. “I really like communication, but what could I do with a major in this field?”
2. “I don’t know if Pat and I are getting too serious too fast.”
3. “You can borrow my car, if you really need to, but please be careful with it. I can’t afford any repairs and if you have an accident, I won’t be able to drive to D.C. this week-end.”
17
RememberingRemembering
Repeat information
Create mnemonics
Take notes
18
MnemonicsMnemonics
19
A technique used to aid memory – take the first letter of a list you are trying to remember and create a word
HOMES (the five Great Lakes) Huron, Ontario, Michigan, Erie, Superior
A – U – R – E – R
Note TakingNote Taking
20
Take notes when you
are listening to
complex
information.
Key-word outlineMain pointsSupporting evidence
Evaluating Evaluating (Critical Listening) (Critical Listening)
Fact – a verifiable statement
Inference – a conclusion drawn from facts
21
You are Listening CriticallyYou are Listening CriticallyWhen you question whether the
inference is supported with meaningful factual statements
When you question whether the reasoning statement that shows the relationship between the support and the inference makes sense
When you question whether there is any other known information that lessens the quality of the inference
22
RespondingResponding - - communicating communicating attention and interestattention and interest
◦Let others know you are interested.
◦Give vocal responses.
◦Show that you care about the other
person and what he or she says.
23
Guidelines for Guidelines for ListeningListeningBe fully focused on what is
happening.Adapt listening skills and style to
accommodate differences in listening purposes and individuals.
Remember that listening is an active process and you must invest energy and effort.
24
We can think much faster than another person can talk. What can we do with all that extra thought time if remembering is important?
25