1 Right Here Right Now Watch the video "Right Here Right Now". We will discuss your observations: 1.In the Video, how are the people interacting with each.

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Right Here Right Now

Watch the video "Right Here Right Now".

We will discuss your observations:

1.In the Video, how are the people interacting with each other

2.How do you interact with the people around yourself

3.Your understanding about Trust

30 Minute (Full) 10 Minute Version

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Discussion

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Depending on the behaviour (competence) of the other you conclude about his intention

You assume that the other intends to behave the way he is behaving

Your conduct depends on the conduct of the other:– You return the same behaviour or

– You accumulate the feeling, then pass it on to a third person

Your “remote control” is in the hands of the other

Indefinite conduct (anischit acharan)

Reaction (Pratikriya)

Assumptions (Manyata)Feelings (Bhav)?

Conduct (Acharan)?

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Assumptions (Manyata)Feelings (Bhav)?

Conduct (Acharan)?

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Response (Jimmedari)

You rightly evaluate the state (intention & competence) of the other- the other is uncomfortable/excited-The other is reacting due to lack of competence

Your conduct is based on Right Understanding and Right Feeling in yourself

- it is assuring for the other

Your conduct is not controlled by the conduct of the other

Definite conduct (nischit acharan)

Right Understanding (Sahi Samajh)Right Feelings(Sahi Bhav)

Definite Conduct(Nischit Acharan)

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Right Understanding (Sahi Samajh)Right Feelings(Sahi Bhav)

Definite Conduct (Nischit Acharan)

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Depending on the behaviour (competence) of the other you conclude about his intention

Your conduct depends on the conduct of the other:

– You return the same behaviour or

– You accumulate the feeling, then pass it on to a third person

Your “remote control” is in the hands of the other

Indefinite conduct (anischit acharan)

Reaction (Pratikriya) Response (Jimmedari)

You rightly evaluate the state (intention & competence) of the other- the other is uncomfortable/excited-The other is reacting due to lack of competence

Your conduct is based on Right Understanding and Right Feeling in yourself

-it is assuring for the other

Your conduct is not controlled by the conduct of the other

Definite conduct (nischit acharan)

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If we do not have trust on intention, we have a feeling of dominating, opposing the other

In case the other is lacking in competence, we react & show irritation or anger; even break up the relationship

(Small acts of mistrust stay in the thoughts, multiply, grow; doubt, fear, oppression…; opposition ultimately leads to fighting, struggle and even war)

If we have trust on intention, we feel related to the other

In case the other is lacking in competence

1. We interact with perseverence and responsibility with the other, knowing that he/she may react, have uncertain conduct

2. We facilitate understanding in the other once the other is assured in relationship (and not before that)

We make a program with the other based on right evaluation of each others competence

Reaction (Opposition) Response (Trust)

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Complaints about the other

What the other should do. No responsibility

What is not, what is missing

Over evaluation of self – Ego

No effort for self development

Under/otherwise evaluation of self – Depression

No effort for self development

Right evaluation of the other

What I have to do, my responsibility in relationship and order in family, society...

What is

Right evaluation of self

Right effort for self development

Reaction (Pratikriya) Response (Jimmedari)

In your interaction with the other, find out the % time you are responding and % time you are reacting

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Our Assumption about the Other

Indulgence(Bhog)

Abstinence(Tyag)

Right Utilisation (Sadupyog)

Use is primarily for getting sensation / taste (aswadan)

Minimise usage of physical facility

Use based on purpose/property (& then taste)

Consumption, accum. of physical facility for sensation/taste

Abstain from use of physical facility or sensation / taste

Prosperity1. Recognising need2. Fulfillment of need

Other is-Means of sensation-Means of feeling-Resource for physical facility

Renunciation of relationship

Other is like me-Feeling is important in the relationship

Domination & exploitation of-Human being-Nature

Little interaction with-Human being-Nature

Enrichment of-Human being-Nature

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Intention & Competence. Is Desire = Intention?

1. Intention ≡ Natural Acceptance

e.g. To be in relationship, Trust in relationship

2. Desire/Thought/Expectation based on Natural Acceptance

= Competence based on Intention

e.g. To have the desire (feeling) of trust for someone

e.g. To have the thought/expectation of developing PF by labour

3. Desire/Thought/Expectation not based on NA, i.e. based on PC/S

= Competence not based on Intention

e.g. To have the thought/expectation of deriving happiness from sensation from someone

e.g. To have the thought/expectation of depriving someone of his suitcase (PF)

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Desire based on Natural Acceptance

(INTENTION)

PARTANTRATA SWATANTRATA

Desires mostly based on Natural Acceptance (INTENTION)

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Start evaluating desire on the basis of your natural acceptance. If desire is naturally acceptable, it will become definite & continue otherwise it will slowly become corrected or drop off

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Immediate / Short Term Fulfilling Behaviour

Medium Term Justice in Relationship

Order in Society

Long Term Human Tradition

Human Education-Sanskar

Human Conduct

Human Constitution

Human Order

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I evaluate on the basis of body, physical facilities or belief (pre conditioning). I compare with others

I am different from the other

We are competitors:

I make effort to accentuate the difference, to manipulate, exploit the other

1. Our purpose (Natural Acceptance) is similar

2. Our program is similar

3. Our potential is similar

The other is similar to me

We are complementary to each other:

If the other has more understanding- I am committed to understand from the other

If I have more understanding 1. I live with responsibility with the other

2. I am committed to facilitate understanding in the other (once the other is assured in relationship, and not before that)

Differentiation Respect – on the basis of Self (I)

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Trust & Respect

Right Evaluation (with Trust on intention, the acceptance that the other is like me & the understanding that we are complementary to each other)

If I have more understanding than the other:1. I interact with perseverence and responsibly with the other, knowing that

he/she may live with reaction, uncertain conduct2. facilitate understanding in the other once the other is assured in

relationship (and not before that)

If the other has more understanding than me:1. I become ready to understand from the other

From what has been covered so far, right evaluation can include: Priority (Right Understanding, Relationship, Physical Facility) % desires motivated by Preconditioning, Sensation, Natural Acceptance Clarity, harmony in the Self (vs confusion…) Trust on Intention (vs doubt, irritation…) % response (vs reaction…)

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