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Christian Unity •serVlc,es sche,duled

Churches in New Bedford and In Fall River an ecumenical Fall River have announced ob­ service will be held at 7 p.m. servances of the annual Week of Tuesday, Jan. 18, at Our Lady Prayer for Christian Unity which of liealth Church, 642 Cam­begins Tuesday, Jan. 18, and bridge Street. The homilist will will conclude Tuesday Jan. 25. be Rev. Gerard Blais, pastor of

St. Paul's Lutheran Church, Fall The Greater New Bedford Rtiver. Sponsored by NiagaraClergy and Religious Association Neighborhood churches, includ­will sponsor a service in New ing SS. Peter and Paul Catholic Bedford at 7:30 each night of Church, the service is open tothe week, as follows: all area residents. - Tuesday, Jan. 18: Trinity

The national theme for theUnited Methodist Church, 473 75th annual Unity Week isCounty Street (at Elm); "Jesus Christ, Life of the- Wednesday, Jan. 19: St.

Martin's Episcopal Church, World." The diocesan chancery County and Rivet Streets; office has distributed prayer

leaflets and a Unity Week poster - Thur~day, Jan. 20: St. to all parishes and pastors arePaul's United Methodist Church, encouraged to hold services dur­Kempton St. and Rockdale

Avenue; ing the Unity Week. The suggested 1983 prayer ser­- Friday, Jan. 21: South Bap­

vice incorporates the ancienttist Church, 745 Brock Avenue; - Saturday, Jan. 22: Union Breastplate of St. Patrick which /

begins "I arise today throughBaptist Church, Court and Cedar Streets; mighty strength, the invocation

of the Trinity, through belief in - Sunday, Jan. 23: St. Law­rence Catholic Church, County the threeness, through confess­

ion of the oneness of the Creator and Hillman Streets; - Monday, Jan. 24: Friends' of creation."

Meeting House, Seventh and Began in 1908 Spring Streets; The prayer service was de­

veloped by the Graymoor Ecu­- Tuesday, Jan. 25: Pilgrim , ....United Church of Christ, 635 menical Institute, run by the

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By Jerry Filteau Q. When will the new code I !NC News take effect? ... _~ J.,.

A. This is up to the pope and It Is expected that Pope John will be stated in the official

Paul II will issue the revised promulgation decree. It is likely Code of Canon Law Tuesday, that there will be a delay before Jan. 25. Some questions and an­ new canons are effective, afford­swers about it follow. ing time for education and prepa­

Q. What is the Code of Canon r~tion for those affected by them. Law? Some confusion will almost

A. The Code is a unified com­ surely arise. An example of this, New parley on pastor,alpilation of canons or laws gov­ important for the United States, erning the Latin Rite Roman concerns the American proce­

By Jim Lackey Bernardin of Chkago,. chairman the war and peace committeeCatholic Church around the dural norms, simplified proce­of the five-member committee and by the administration on cur­world. Before 1917 there was 110 dures used in U.S. church tri­ WASHINGTON (NC) - The drafting the pastoral letter, char­ rent defense policy and on points such code but at that time, after bunals for marriage cases since committee of U.S. bishops pre­acterized the two-hour meeting made in the second draft of the 14 years of work, the first uni­ 1970. In 1975 the Holy See ex­ paring a pastoral' letter on war Jan. 7 with administration offi­ pastoral, he said. fied body of law was issued. The tended permission to use those and peace has begun writing the cials as "constructive." In addition to meetipg with ad­new code has been in prepara­ norms "until the new order of third draft 0 fthe letter and has

ministration offcials during pre­tion for 20 years, involving the matrimonial court procedl1re is met. again with Reagan admin­ "We didn't resolve all of the istration officials in an said paration of the third draft, Arch­most extensive consultation with promulgated for the Latin attempt difficulties," Archbishop

bishop Bernardin said meetingsthe world's bishops and other church.~' U.S. church officials to clarify certain aspects of U.S. Bernardin in an interview with are scheduled in Rome thisexperts ever undertaken by the admit uncertainty as to whether defense policy. NC News. But the meeting did

church. Tum to Page Three Cardinal-designate Joseph L. result in clarifications by both Turn to Page Two

THE ANCIENT PSALM, 'I will go in to the altar' of God, to God who giveth joy to my youth,' is brought to mind by these transitional deacons, ordained last Saturday at St. Mary's Cathedral. From left, Paul Caron, Richard Andrade, John Perry.

THE ANCHOR' ­Friday, Jan. 14, 1983 Church universalitv'

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reflected in' c~llege VATICAN CITY (NC) - The by the pope are Bishop Joachim TOURS Jan. 5 naming of- 18 new car­ Meisner of IBerlin, whose diocese

dinals by Pope John Paul II is made up of, territory in both Direction of demonstrates his desire to de~ East and West Germany; Arch­Rev. J. Joseph Kierce velop a body more representa­ bishop Jozef Glemp of Warsaw

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liTHE CHRISTUS" in communist-run countries. greb, Yugoslavia. When the 18 new members Of the 138 members of the col­

join the college Feb. 2, they will lege, 120 are under 80, thus eli­increase by seven the number gible to vote for a pope under of nations represented and in­ current church rules. They're­clude, for the first time in years, flect a' European dominance. 'In a cardinal living in the Soviet the new college, they will num-Union. 'ber 59 Europeans, 14 Africans,

Thailand, Lebanon, Ivory Coast, 12 North Americans, 20 Latin' Yugoslavia, Angola, New Zea­ Americans, 11 Asians and four land and East' Germany-will be from Oceania. added to the 50 countries repre­ Although two of Pope John

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and 1st class hotels. See Amman and raine, will have a cardinal with­ 86, an internationl!lIy known' Qumran. Jericho and Jerusa1em, (Old and in its borders. He is Bishop Juli­ French theologian and writer,New), Bethlehem and Bethany, Nazareth jans Vaivods, 87, apostolic ad­ was the only non-bishop on theand Cana, Tiberius and Haifa, Caesarea

ministrator of the Latvian dio­ pope's list. He and fellow Jesuit and Tel Aviv, Dead Sea and Sea of Galilee (Cruise), Garden of Agony and ceses of Riga and Liepaja. Archbishop Martini will join 20 Way of Cross, Waring Wall and Dome of The other church leaders from other cardinals belonging to reli- ' Rock, Mounts of Carmel, Temptation, East European countries named gious orders. Transfiguration and Beatitudes!

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$16'75 British bishops'! conferences. Hoye, NCCB general secretary, The third draft of the pastoral and FatherJ. Bryan Hehir, NCCB

JULY 14-30 is scheduled to be debated by staff adviser to the war and Visit London and Paris. Rome and F1or· the U.S. bishops at a special peace committee. ence, Munich and Innsbruck, Venice and meeting in Chicago May 2-3.Pisa, Geneva and Genoa, Amsterdam and . While in Washington Jan. 6-7 Rotterdam; -Berne and Lucerne, MontI} Archbishop "Bernardin said the the war and peace committee be­Carlo and Nice. Frankfurt and Heid~l· meeting with administration of­ gan redrafting the pastoral. Arch­berg, Cologne and Cortina, Grenoble and ficials, including representatives bishop Bernardin noted that theCalais + Rhine River Cruise! from the State and Defense de­ third draft would follow the(Schedu!ed flight from/to Boston partments and the National Se­ same general outline as the sec­or N.Y.! '

curity Council, was a follow-up ond.TOUR 3 - THE GOLDEN WEST, CANYON: to a critique of the second draJt LANDS, LAKE TAHOE, YOSEMITE, DIS· by William P. Clark, President He said the committee would NEYLAND - CALIFORNIA, ARIZONA, UTAH, NEVADA! SEE THE WONDROUS. Reagan's national security ad­ meet ~gain in Washington Feb. HISTORIC BEAUTY SPOTS OF OUR OWN­ viser. 17-18. It has set a March 15 COUNTRY. deadline for completion of theClark, whose critique of the

third draft so that it can be in FOR ONLY proposed pastoral was delivered the hands of all U.S. bishops by to the bishops during their dis­$1975· - , cussion of the seCond draft at a April 1, one month before the

. Ctticago special meeting. meeting in Washington lastAUGUST 6-23 November, complained that the Tour San Francisco and Los Angeles, draft reflected "fundamental mis­Sacramento and the Wine Country, Son·

readings. of American policies." ora and San Joaquin VaHey, Bass Lake and Carmel·by·the·Sea, Monterey and Thus, according to Archbishop Big Sur, Hearst Castle and Morro Bay,

Bernardin, the meeting between Solvang and Santa Barbara, Santa Mon· Ica and the swallows of Sanjuan Capis· the committee' and administra- Letters are welcomed, but should be no trano, HOllywood and Beverly Hills. San tion officials was "generally a more than 200 words. The editor reserves Diego and option to Tijuana, M~xico. • • • the right to condense or edit. II deemedpresentation of their (the admm- , necessary. 'All letters must be signed IndYuma and Gi'a Bend, Phoenix and istration's) part to us in which include I home or business address.Scottsdale, Monte7.lIma Castle and Se· dona. the Grand Canvlln and Lake Pow. t?ey explained various dimen- ISSlie of peaceell. Bryce' Canyon, Zion National Park slons of our (U..S.) defense and Las Vegas! / policy...· Dear E.ditor: (Scheduled fright from/to Boston or N.Y.! No additional meetings with I for one am very glad to seeInc'udp.s two mea's a day. tins for administration officials are plan­baggage and rooms. d~luxp' and 1st class articles appear in the Anchor hotels and air·conditioned coach. ned, Archbishop Bernardin said, concerning nuclear war. As a

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'Do good, darling'

Mom"s advice ,to cardinal CHICAGO (NC) - Cardinal­

designate Joseph L. Bernardin of Chicago Jan: 5 call~d his eleva­tion to the College of Cardinals "a tribute to the goodness" of the Catholics of Chicago.

He also said it was an "affir­mation" of the work an ad hoc committee of U.S. bishops which he heads is trying to do in draft­ing a pastoral letter on war and peace.

"An honor of this kind also has a personal dimension," Arch­bishop Bernardin said at a news conference. "I am deeply grate­ful to the holy father for the con­fidence he has placed in me."

At the news conference Arch­bishop Bernardin recalled that in appointing him to Chicago, the pope used the word "maxi­ma," meaning "largest," to de­scribe the archdiocese, the larg­est in the country, with 2.4 1J1i1­lionCatholics.

"The Latin word can also mean the 'greatest,''' Archbishop Ber­nardin said. "I have come to be­lieve that too of this unique part of the universal church."

Asked what his mother thought of the pope's announce­ment, Archbishop Bernardin said she was enthusiastic. .

"Its wonderful," hequoted his mother as saying about the new honor. "I love you very much," she, told the newly-named' car­dinal. "Do good, darling."

Archbishop Bernardin said he promised his mother he would try. '

In, a separate interview with the Chicago Catholic, archdioce­san newspaper, Archbishop Ber­nardin said he was surprised at the speed of his elevation to the College of Cardinals.

Many had expected that he would be. named a cardinal, since the Chicago archdiocese tradi­tionally is led by a prince' of the church. But few expected the honor to come' "less than six months after the archbishop's in­stallation in Chicago.

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Archbishop Bernardin said he thought it would be "improper. to have a huge an~ costly cele­bration of his elevation. He sug­gested that those who' might be planning to charter a flight to Rome to attend the consistory might· donate the money to charity instead.

The archbishop will become the 10th U.S. cardinal.

Two of the American prelates are over 80 years of age, thus ineligible to vote for a pope. They are Cardinal Patrick A. O'Boyle, 86, archbishop of Wash­ington from 1948 to 1973, and Cardinal Lawrence J. Shehan, 84, archbishop of Baltimore from 1961 to 1974.

Two others are retired arch­bishops: Cardinal John F. Dear-' den, 75, archbishop of Detroit from 1950 to 1980, and Cardinal John J. Carberry, 78, archbishop of St. Louis from 1968 to 1979.

One is a Vatican official: Car- . dinal William W. 'Baum, 56, ap­pointed prefect of the Congrega­tion for Catholic Education in 1980 after seven years as arch­bishop of Washington.

The others are: - Cardinal Terence J. Cooke,

61, named archbishop of New York in 1968 and a cardinal in 1969.

Cardinal John J. Krol, 72, named archbishop of Phila­delphia in 1961 and a cardinal in 1967.

- Cardinal Timothy Manning, 73, a native of Ireland, named archbishop of Los Angeles in 1970 and a cardinal in 1973.

- Cardinal Humberto Med­eiros, 67, a native of the Azores, named archbishop of Boston in 1970 and a cardinal in 1973.

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tonight Thousands of friends of ex·

ceptional and underprivileged children will dance tonight to the music of the Art Perry and Al Rainone orchestras at the 28th annual Bishop's Charity Ball at

. Lincoln Park Ballroom, North Dartmouth.

Youngsters attending the Naz· areth Hall schools and summer camps will benefit from this top event on the New England social calendar.

A highlight of the evening will be presentation of 37 young ladies from diocesan parishes to Bishop Daniel A. Cronin. With elaborate ceremony each pre­sentee, escorted by her father or other relative, will be intro­duced to the bishop.

Tonight will be the prelate's 13th appearance as ball guest of honor.

The program for the ball, for which tickets will be available at the door, follows:

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PRESENTEES at the 1982 Bishop's Ball had a good time. They included Jeannine Jacques, Mary Montalto (front), Jeanne LaChapelle, Nancy Janick (rear). 1983's presentees anticipate an equally enjoyable experience tonight.

- 8 to 8:45 p.m.: dance music in the ballroom by the Art Perry orchestra;

- 9p.m. to 1 a.m.: dance mu­sic in the lounge by the Al Rain­one orchestra;

- 9 p.m.: introduction of Art Perry orchestra in the ballroom;

- 9:05 p.m.: Bishop Daniel A: Cronin is escorted to his box by George G. Mendonca, president, New Bedford district council, Society of St. Vincent de Paul, and Miss Ethel M. Crowley, presi­dent, Diocesan Council of Cath­olic Women, honorary ball co­chairmen;

- 9:10 to 9:35 p.m.: introduc­tion of presentees to Bishop Cro­nin by Robert McGuirk, Taunton area Society of St. Vincent de Paul;

- 9:35 to 10 p.m.: dancing; - 10 p.m.: Grand March; sing­

ing of National Anthem by Ken­eth Leger; introduction of Bishop Cronin by Msgr. Anthony M. Gomes, diocesan ball director; dancing until 1 a.m.

Highest Prayer "The goodness of God is the

highest prayer and it cometh down to the lowest part of our need." - Juliana of Norwich

(necrology] January 15

Rev. Thomas F. Kennedy, Pas­tor, 1948, St. Joseph, Woods Hole

Rev. Msgr. John E. Boyd, 1977, St. Patrick, Wareham (Retired Pastor)

January 17 Rev. John Laughlin, Retired

Pastor, 1967, Holy Ghost, Attle­boro

January 20 Rev. Roland J. Masse, Assis­

tant, 1952, Notre Dame de

What will new code mean? Continued from page one

this means that the special norms can be used until the new law goes into effect, or whether their use must end on Jan. 25 when the new code is announced, even if new procedures do not go into effect until several months later. They may have to ask the Vatican for a ruling on the question. .

Q. Will the new code make any difference ao the average Catholic?

A. Not immediately. Most changes in the Mass, administra­tion of the sacraments and fast and abstinence regulations have already been made and will mere­ly be officially included in the code. There are, however, long­range innovations in the new code.

For example: substantive hUe man rights within the church are for the first time recognized and protected by law; procedures are established to protect those rights; and a number of laws that discriminated a;;ainst women are changed to eliminate this.

On another level the new code exhibits a very different atti­tude toward the role of law in the church, an attitude it is hoped will gradually pervade Catholic life. Those brought up before Vatican II remember those days of legalism when eating meat on Friday was a mortal sin and people calculated the Communion fast to the minute. They also recall. the post-Vatican II attitude, when many seemed to reject anything that smacked of law or authority. The shift to a law based on theological and pastoral principals is expected to evoke a new respect for law among't:atholics without the leg­alistic attitudes of old.

Q. Will life nn my pall'ish or diocese be changed by the new code?

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specific legislation is left at the local - primarily the diocesan - level.

Whether one is talking of the old code or the new, it is funda­mental that the life of the church is basically spiritual, and law can neither force nor prevent the life of the spirit. Two liturgical celebrations in neighboring par­ishes can fulfill the letter of the law in every respect, yet be vast­ly different in their spiritual and pastoral richness.

Q. How specifically does the new code differ from the old?

A. The new code is much shorter, about three-fourths as long· as the old code. While the old code was modeled on Europ:' ean civil law, the new code reo . flects Vatican II theological views of the church; the sacra­ments, for example, which are central to the church's life, are also central to the structure of the new code. The new code reo flects Vatican II's emphasis on the importance of the local church - the diocese headed by the bishop.

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the moorin9.-, 'Immigration Concerns

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Social scientists, historians and demographers agree that the United States is in the midst of one of the largest waves of immigration in its history. It is estimated that since 1975 the country has annually received one million immigrants, legal and illegal.

What differentiates this tide of immigration from past American experiences is that it is not European. Today, Latin America and Asia account for 82 percent of all immigrants.

A 1982 Roper poll found that 68 percent of those ques­tioned wanted to decrease the number' of immigrants. The

. same poll found that most respondents considered immi­grants from Mexico, Korea, Vietnam, Central Ameri~a and' Haiti to be quite undesirable. It also indicated that many feel that America has lost control of immigration, that the country is being "invaded," that the large Latino influx threatens to turn the United States into a Spanish Quebec and that America's racial composition is being dramatically -altered.

It is also evident that there is increasing opposition to this new immigration. Union leaders, politicians, commen­tators such as Theodore White and Eric Sevareid and advo­cates of zero population growth, all have seemingly joined in warning Americans that this country is forming into massive separatist camps. Some scholars warn that if immigration is unchecked, what is identifiable as America will soon disappear.

Many 'historians, however, point· out that what is occurring is not new to American life. The consensus is that, like peoples of the past, the new immigrants will be absorbed' into the mainstream of American life. Over time, they say, there is little likelihood of the' United States becoming bilingual. English is overpoweringly the language of the marketplace. Most immigrants want to be in that marketplace. -

National TV, national brands and national corporations, together with compulsory education, all factors nonexistent in the past century, will eventually Americanize these immigrants. History has also shown that no major ethnic group in the United States has succeeded in transmitting its tongue and culture to its third generation.

All in all,one can find nearly as many opinions on this subject as there are immigrants. Yet some facts should be faced in the near future for the total welfare of the country and indeed of the immigrants themselves.

For example, past immigrants were marked by a diver­sity of -tongues. Today more than one half our newcomers speak Spanish. There is also no doubt that the new immi­grants account for a higher share of population growth than do longer-settled Americans.

It is evident that no one will remain unaffected by, this migration of peoples. American citizens have made or will be forced to make some important judgments of conscience in this regard.

As this is done it would be well if those already estab­lished in this land remembered that they too are nearly all descendants of immigrants and that their ancestors came to these shores for the same basic reason as today's new Americans. .

If this is kept in mind, perhaps our new neighbors will be greeted with an open hand, not a clenched fist. ­

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By Michael Gallagher

Recently I talked to the pleas­..ant Catholic mother of three children, one a preteen. She saw nothing wrong with taking her children to see "Creepshow." Yes, she thought some parts of it were a bit "gross," but it was

- good as a "spoof." Nor is she ,altogether untypical. Many Catholics seem to be at full alert with 'regard to sexual material in films but careless with regard to violence.

As a further irony, this Cath­olic mother might, as do many Catholics I encounter in the course of giving talks, consider humanism as one of the great scourges of the age. Such is the effect of a particularly virulent form of Protestant anti-intellect­ualism upon those Catholics who apparently have no idea that the

. writings of St. Thomas Aquinas had much to' do with the origin 'of humanism and that St. Thorn­

, as More was an outstanding hu­manist.

But, Aquinas and More aside, did this mother, I wonder, neve.r

'Suffer the little children tn come unto me and forbid them not; for of such , is the kingdom of God.' Mark 10:14

Sex no, violence .yes learn that St. Paul called our

-bodies temples of the Holy Spirit and that we should regard them as such? She would never let her children see a movie that contained nudity. But, tell me, is nudity in movies, in terms of violating the sanctity of the temple of the Holy Spirit, really so much worse than graphic vio­lence' directed against the hu­man body?

Consider ,the following inci­dents, all of which occur in "Creepshow." A walking corpse, rotted and slobbering, takes a

, terrified woman by her head and gives it a half-twist with appro­priate sound effects so that she is facing backwards. Later we get a closeup of a man buried to his neck in sand drowning as the tide covers 'his head. His mouth yields a final air bubble as his eyes glaze over in pain and terror. Another man, his en· tire body covered with' a green vegetable growth, fumbles for a shotgun and blows off his head. Finally, the dead' white skin of a corpse suddenly begins to squirm and bulge grot~squely as

thousands and thousands of cockroaches stir and then start to pour out of its mouth.

If reading about all this is loathsome, think what seeing it must be like. Yet when I saw it preteens were all around me, despite its R-rating. They hooted and howled, of course, at the worst sections: Though I won­der if they really felt that way or if they were ashamed to act otherwise in front of their peers.

IBut I'm being too stuffy, you say. It's all a spoof, you see. It's so horrible that it can't be meant as real. So it's a spoof - get it? If you do get it, then you and I have to part company. I'll take humanism any day to the kind of Catholicism that may draw the line at nudity but accepts the most frightful and nauseating violence with equanimity as long as sex doesn't seem to be in­volved.

Gallagher is afim. reviewer for, the U.S. Catholic Conference Department of Communication. His reviews _frequently appear in The Anchor's television and film column.

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Family Night A ,veekly at-home program for families

sponsored by the Diocesan Office of Family Ministry

OPENING PRAYER Gentle Jesus, help our family

to learn to be more trusting of your Spirit's guidance in our daily lives. Dear Jesus, help us to be aware of your presence in the little things in life as well as the big. Be especially with us as we share this Family Night. Amen.

TO THINK ABOUT Most of us do trust God with

the big things in life; like the fact that the sun will rise and set daily. Yet, it's often hard to trust God in the other things of life. He may have a plan for our life but we may want something different. It's hard to trust God daily with our plans, our hopes, our dreams. Yet, if we can't trust God, where are we?

ACTIVITY IDEAS Young Families

TRUST TRAIN Materials: col~ ored construction paper, scissors, pens, glue or tape. Cut out shapes to make an engine and then a car for every member of the family. Share some ideas about our trusting God. Use lots of examples from nature. Think of some ways the family can

trust God more in their daily lives. Write a family member's name on each car with Jesus marked on the engine. Share some ideas why Jesus should be the engine on the train. Hang the Trust Train .in the eating area for the next few weeks.

Middle Years Families TRUSTING IS . . . POSTER

Materials: magazines, scissors, glue, posterboard, and pen. Sit down and brainstorm all the ways the family counts on God. Look especially to natural hap­penings. Then together create a poster completing the phrase, "Trusting Is . . . " Answer and share ideas on "The more, we trust God, the more we trust one another." True or false? Why?

Adult Families Share some thoughts on why

at times it's difficult to trust God in our daily lives. Read to­gether Isaiah 12:2, John 4:46-53, and then 1 Corinthians 1:21.

\Last one chosen. Several years ago when

our boys were shorter than I am, one of them came home from elementary school dejected and not hungry. So I knew something had gone wrong at school and I asked, "What's wrong, Steve?"

"Nothing," he answered so quickly and emotionally that I knew indeed he had a problem. I also knew enough not to press him so he eventually' offered me his suffering.

"I was the 1ast one chosen to­day," he said.

Suddenly the pain of childhood came back to me in full force. Remember being the last chosen? Maybe you weren't, but I was usually the last chosen in any game requiring speed, be it foot­ball, porn-porn pull-away, or tug­of-war.

I figured it wouldn't help much to share my story with Steve ,be­cause I'm Mom and mothers aren't expected to have played ball well but I was wrong. I did tell him and it did help. He laughed when I told him my four brothers would force me to play ball because they needed a team but then none of them wanted me on their team.

And the side that got me usu­ally added the ultimate humilia­tion by wailing, "Do we have to take her?" They put me in the least significant spot and assign­ed me to chasing balls while they rested between hits. Great fam­

ily sport. The reason my story helped

Steve was that he realized, per­haps for the first time, that I knew how he felt - unvalued, awkward, and unliked. That was several years ago and now my fast and tall son would probably laugh over that day but hope that someday in the future he, too, will draw upon its remem­bered pain if his own child is the last one chosen.

I've reflected since that we are all the last one chosen in some areas of life but we are also the first chosen in others. I was the last chosen in child­hood sports, maybe, but the first chosen to write a play or a pep assembly: A friend was never chosen in an election but she was the one everyone went to for ideas on prom themes and gym decorations. Some first­chosen athletes complain that they aren't even considered for academic achievement, even though they are bright.

Often we parents neglect to let our children know that we failed as children, thinking in some unfathomable fashion that if they discover we weren't al­ways on top of life, it might give them permission to let up. Yet, this might be what they need most to know - that their par­ents were and are human and struggling, just as they are.

Our failure to admit our weak­nesses, failures and experiences

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charge each week to make and serve the snack. An idea - gra­ham crackers with melted marsh­mallows on top. It's called "Jan­uary snowstorm."

ENTERTAINMENT WHAT IS IT? Give everyone

a pencil and paper. Turn off all the lights and instruct everyone to draw a house or tree or per­son. Turn on the lights and re­ward the best (?) drawing. Chuckle!

SHARING - Each share a time he or

she was fearful the past week. - All share what their fav­

orite animal is and why. - Share what each person

likes best about him or herself.

CLOSING PRAYER Dear Jesus, how much your

father in heaven cares for us, his children! Thank you for our world and for the delicate bal­ance of nature. Help us to be ever mindful of our responsi­bility to care for this world. Thank you Jesus for this special' time tQgetlier. Amen.

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gives rise to' perfectionism, a sure way to promote failure in kids. Who can compete with the perfect parent or more accurate­ly, with the parent who was the perfect kid?

I see this problem most evi­dent in faith/value conflicts in our Christian families today. Parents of youth who question the value 'of God, Mass or faith often give the impression that they never had doubts. They fear that if their young people dis­cover their own doubts and faith struggle it will ·put them on the road to losing their faith.

. Yet the speakers to whom youth listen most intently are the very ones who speak of an earlier life without faith, the ones who tell of their hunger for meaning in me, the ones who share their struggle and eventual jay in finding a personal relation­ship with God. Athletes, convicts, and businessmen today are tell­ing their faith stories and young people are listening.

We parents are the first ones chosen to tell these stories to our children. Why don't we?

THE ANCHOR-Diocese of Fall River-Fri., Jan. 14, 1983

Doctors, shot down

The lame-duck session of Congress got generally dreadful reviews, but some people think it redeemed it­self by handing the American Medical Association its head on a platter.

Charles Peters, editor of the Washington Monthly and no Pollyanna when it comes to Con­gress, hailed Sen. Warren Rud­man's David-vs.-Goliath victory over the most formidable of the special interest groups as "the first step back on the road of the politics of selfishness."

The American Medical Associa­tion is the biggest, toughest lob­by of them all. Not only does it give money"':" $1,723,335 in 1982 - it has in the friendly family physician, who cautions his pa­tients against anti-AMA politi­cians, a lobbyist of preternatural influence.

Common cause President Fred Wertheimer regards the AMA's defeat as significant because it shows what one resolute and adept senator - Rudman is a freshman Republican from New Hampshire - can do against a supposedly invincible fat-cat group.

Common Cause has declared war on the PACs, which donated $80 inillion to the 1982 congres­sional elections and have covered politics with a money sludge that could sink the democratic pro­cess as it is generally under­stood.

The AMA had every reason to think it could get away iwth its arrogant demand to be exempt from Federal Trade Commission jurisdiction. It won in the House on Dec. 1, even though the anti­regulatory Reagan administra­tion and FTC Chairman James Miller were against the pro­posal. Common Cause promptly revealed what may have mat­tered more than the merits of the bill: All but 53 of the 403 repre­sentatives who sided with the doctors had received AMA PAC contributions.

But Rudman, one 0 fthe few senators who take no PAC money, was waiting for them on the other shore of Capitol Hill.

The doctors spurned his com­promise amendment and were out in the hall all through the night buttonholing sleepy sena­tors on their way to the chamber. Rudman noted that for the first time in 20 years, doctors were "making house calls" - and at 6 o'clock in the morning.

Rudman had offered to keep st~te control over so-called qual­ity-of-care matters but, against AMA wishes, retain FTC author­ity over anti-competitive com­mercial practices. What the doc­tors wanted, said Rudman, was status "above the law."

"Mr. President," said the for­mer attorney general of New Hampshire, a square-jawed,

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MARY

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cheerful man, "I do not get ex­cited when n see someone at­tempting to perform a frontal lobotomy on the free enterprise system, which is precisely what is going on here."

He won by a healthy margin, 59-37.

Peters and Wertheimer think that what happened in the dawn's early light of Dec. 16 may have beem the battle of Con­cord and Lexington in the war on PACs, whose contributions, al­though legal, have become the equivalent of the millions of dol­lars in illegal campaign funds donated by Richard Nixon's rich friends in 1972.,

PACs of all descriptions gave their record· $80 million mostly to ·incumbents. What the lobby­ists say they expect from their investments is success - the

. chance to go can on an elected official from time to time. But the dismal, inescapable conclu­sion that intrudes on this picture of unfocused cordiality is that they expect the "right" vote on their issues.

Rudman regards PAC money as "a scandan that is waiting to happen."

Rudman promised his consti­tuents that he would do some. thing about it. He will try, with. out much hope of early success, to limit the amount of PAC funds that candidates can accept.

The scandalous dimensions of PACs are laid out by Elizabeth Drew in an cJchaustive two-part series in recent issues of The New Yorker. PACs. have.-grown in number from 600 in 1974 to 3,500 in 1982. Most of the new PACs have been organized by business, which saw them as a means of countering organized labor's groups and obviously has access to much more affluent contributors. They give purses to powerful committee chairmen to make them more powerful - and accessible. Rep. Dan Rostenkow­ski, D-Il1., chairman of the Ways and Means Committee, who has been virtually unopposed since he was first elected in 1958, got '$445,000 in PAC money this year.

Ms. Drew shows us how the Democratic Party, desperate for business PAC money, bent itself out of shape in the squalid bid­ding war foIl' independent oil PAC funds in the 1981 tax-cut bill. Her masterly account offers few heroes. One of them, Rep. James Shannon, D-Mass., was told by a lawyer for the in· dependents, "It's you guys who've caused! this problem ... it's you guys who've put Con­gress on the auction block."

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.' r. Unity' ,. Continued from page one

Franciscan Friars of the Atone­ment. Their founder, Father Paul Wattson, began the Unity Week observance in 1908 as the Church Unity Octave, beginning with the feast of St. Peter's Chair in Rome, Jan. 18, and end­ing with the feast of the con­version of St. Paul, Jan. 25.

During the 1930s the obser­:vance was renamed the Chair of Unity Octave to emphasize the role of the Roman papacy, sym­bolized by the cathedra, or chair, of St; Peter, in any future; union of Christian churches.

After the Second Vatican Council, whose "Decree on Ecu­menism" encouraged, Catholics to pray with other Christians for unity, the Catholic Church and other Christian ,churches have observed in common the Week of Prayer for Christian Unity.

The concept of Christian unity is no longer that of a return of other Christians to the Roman Catholic Church, said At9ne­ment Father Charles V. LaFon­taine, co·director of the Gray­moor Ecumenical Institute.

Instead, it is that of "a con­v:ergence of Christian churches" into a form of unity which is not

EPISCOPAL FATHER Kim Driesbach of At­lanta's Church of the Incarnation explains Shroud of Turin exhibit to a visitor. The exhibit is sponsored by the Atlanta Center for the Continuing Study of the Shroud of Turin, an ecumenical group trying to raise funds to keep 150 shroud photos on permanent pisplay in the Georgia city. Father Driesbach hopes Atlanta will become the U.S. 'center for research on the shroud, believed by many to be.the burial cloth of Christ.

Newman cause MIAMI (NC) - There is

much enthusiasm about the pro­posed canonization of Cardinal John Henry Newman, the 19th century English convert, theo­logian and' author, but Newman scholars meeting in Miami were told that his cause is immersed in paper.

During, a three-day Newman conference at Biscayne College, coinciding with the 137th anni­versary of the English church­man's conversion, an American Jesuit reported that 20,000 un­published letters have been evalu­ated. But he said thousands of books, sermons and 'even news­paper obituary notices must still be scrutinized.

Jesuit Father Vincent Biehl, a Fordham University research professor assigned to the New­man beatification cause in Eng­land, said he sees no obstacle to the beatification and canoniza­tion, but the going is slow sim­ply because so much material is available.

Beatification involves investi­gation of a person's life, writings and practice of virtue and the certification of miracles worked

suffers overkill through his or her intercession. It is preliminary to canonization, declaration by the church that the person is a saint.

Study of Newman as homilist, teacher, essayist, biographer, hymn writer, Anglican priest and Catholic cardinal is a formidable project, said Father Biehl.

He said there is no anxiety about the ecumenical dimension of canonizing a famous convert from the Church of England, be­cause Newman developed his spirituality, sense of prayer and love of the Scriptures as an An­glican.

The conference was convened by Augustinian Father Patrick O'Neill, Biscayne College presi­dent, who has established a per· manent Newman Room in the college library. Another Newman conference will be held at the college next October.

Directors of the Friends of Cardinal Newman Association re­elected Archbishop John Quinn of San Francisco honorary presi· dent, and Father Vincent Giese, editor-in-chief of Our Sunday Visitor, a national Catholic week­ly newspaper, president.

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A lesson for teachers LOS ANGELES (NC) - Cath­

olic educators here recently got a lesson themselves - in the art of being a church-related teacher.

Their professor was Norber­tine Father' Alfred McBride, for­mer director of the National Forum for Religious Educators of the National Catholic Educa­tional Association.

At an in-service workshop on Christian formation, he told 300 teachers that they must master the identifiable body of Catholic knowledge and that as teachers in church schools they must themselves be church-related.

As a practical way of becom­ing spritual, Father McBride suggested that teachers form prayer groups in schools.

"I think," he said, "that pray­ing together is a good idea be-. cause then we see each other, as fellow Christians in this project of education."

Father McBride offered five suggestions for conducting a prayer group:

- Start with silence. - Treat the group as a prayer

group, not a study group. - Treat each other as human

beings, not as professionals. For­get degrees and titles.

- Listen not only to words but also to other persons' feel­ings.

- Trust in God to make the experience work.

A teacher's spiritual life, Father McBride said, involves not only a personal relationship to God but also intellectual mastery of an identifiable body of Cath­olic knowledge.

A Gal1up poll finding that most American adults have a vague knowledge of the major tenets of their religion is also true of Catholics, he said.

"People who cease to know and appreciate their own religion will start to look fQr another reo ligion somewhere else," he said.

"What I want you to do is be­come a literate Catholic, if you're a Catholic. If you're not a Cath­olic, I expect you to become literate about Catholicism."

Rejecting the view that there is no identifiable body of Cath­olic knowledge, Father McBride said, "The two most popular books in Catholicism today are books that contain an identifiable

Blacks, Indians WASHINGTON (NC) - A

record $4.2 million was donated to the 1982 Black and Indian Mission (:ollection, the most in the collection's 99-year history. But grant requests from U.S. bishops, totalled more than $12 million, said Msgr. Paul A. Lenz, director of the mission program.

Noting that the 1983 collection will be taken up the weekend of Feb. 20, he said that many needs remain unmet. "Mission schools are fa(:ed with closing for lack of funds; priests and sisters are struggling to keep old cars going, sometimes for hundreds of miles a week; deacons and catechists must work with outdated reli· gious instruction materials, or no materials at all, and these people plead with their bishops for assistance."

body of Catholic knowledge." Those books, he said, are "Cath­olicism" by Father Richard Mc­Brien, ,chairman of the theology department at the University of Notre Dame, and "Christ Among Us" by Anthony Wilhelm, "which is now selling 1.5 million copies."

After being a spiritual person, the most important thing a teacher can become is reflective, Father McBride said, recom· mending that educators read at least four books a year outside their specialties.

"If you are going to be in a church-related school," he said, "you must be. a church-related person. Bond yourselves to the Catholic Church in three ways - as a community, as an institu­tion, as a heritage.

"In order to make our church schools work well, we have to have church people in those schools, people who love being there and who love being part of the church which has created those schools," he added.

.Bishop scores racial injustice MIAMI (NC) - Just days

after racial disturbances ~rupted

in the city Archbishop Edward A. McCarthy of Miami issueeJ a pastoral letter, in preparation' for almost a year, saying that Catholics and the community at large cannot escape responsi­bility for continuing racism and its effects on society.

While not condoning civil dis­turbances and violence, Arch­bishop McCarthy said Jan. 4 that despite improved legislation and superficial (:hange. the underlying causes of social un­rest, such as poverty and in­justice, remains firmly entrench­ed. ,

A central point of the pastoral letter, titled "One People Under God," is that even Catholics who may not have caused present in­justices are obligated to undo them "lest we become bystand­ers tolerating and tacitly endors­ing evil and thus share in the guilt.

"In no way a Catholic be as­sociated with organizations that promote racial injustice," Arch­bishop McCarthy continued. .

"This being indifferent to the attitudes of racism whi(:h are incompatible with the teachings of Jesus is in itself demoralizing and de-Christianizing and should be despised for this reason as well," the archbishop said.

He added that bla(:k Catholics also have a special calling to con­front the evil of racism.

. Laws make discrimination il­legal, the archbishop said, but it is another thing to "convert hearts and minds," and that is where the churches come in.

"I call for action on three dif­ferent fronts: at the family level, at the chur(:h level and at the community level," said Archbishop McCarthy.

"We all share in the responsi­bility" for this social evil, he said. "Racism is a radical evil which cannot be conquered by human effort alone. We need the strength of the Lord Jesus and the healing power of his spirit."

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Holy Childhood aids youth By Msgr. JohnJ. Oliveira

Diocesan Director Propagation of the Faith

"Mission, A Compelling Nec­essity," was the theme of the ninth national conference of the Holy Childhood Association, held recently in Washington, D.C.

.The three-day parley featured speakers with varying missionary backgrounds and a viewing of new film strips for re,ligious edu­cation programs. (The latter are available at our diocesan De­partment of Education.)

Highlighting the conference· were addresses by His Exellency, Archbishop D. Simon Lourdu­samy, President of the Pontifical Mission Aid Societies.

The Holy Childhood Associa­tion was founded in 1843 in France by Bishop Forbin-Janson. Disturbed by the plight of aban­doned children in China, he ap­pealed to the children of his own country for help, emphasizing that children everywhere share the same Heavenly Father. Re­sponse to the bishop's call was so enthusiastic that Holy Child­hood soon had members all over Europe. It was founded, in the United States in 1846.

Today Holy Childhood assists youth in mission lands through· out the world, at the same time educating Catholic youth to a sensitivity to their brothers and sisters in other countries. Those of an older generation will re­call that it was the Holy Child­hood Association which fostered "adoption" of babies in foreign lands. Today's focus is on pro­viding information regarding children of mission lands.

A major'source of Holy Child· hood revenue is the familiar Christmas Seal program. The na­tional Office of the Holy Child­hood in Washington offers an· nual informative programs to coincide with the school year. Many of the programs, once found only in Catholic schools, can be made part and parcel of a good CCD curriculum.

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"Divorce doesn't really become a parent through death, often final until the death of the child­ battle intense anger. ren." Those words of a marriage The custodial parent can be-' and family counselor illustrate co'me the target of the child's, what may be the. most agonizing venom, she said. The child is concern for divorced and separa­ angry at the situation more than ted persons ~ their children. at the parent, so she suggests

The children of divorced and the parents try to avoid taking separated pare'nts frequently the child's anger personally. don't know how they fit 'in any­ What intensifies the anger ~'is more, co~mented Cecilia Ben­ that the children don't have any­nett, director <If the Institute of body else to get angry at," Sister Pastoral Ministry at Biscayne Marietta commented. "They don't College, Miami, Fla., and mem­ have anybody else to go talk to

o ber of the board of directors of an dsay, 'Mom did so and so,' 'So Beginning Experience, a spiritual the one parent gets all. the renewal program for the separ~­ blame," ,ted and divorced and their fami­ According to Platten, "Kids lies. don't think they should be angry,"

Children used to living in a That makes them feel guiltysociety where most of' their about being angry. "In our soci­friends live with mom and dad ety, the common attitude is that now find they liye with either one . good people don't get ma<;f," he or 'the other, usually the mother. stated. So the kid could feel. And that 'confuses them, Ben­ guilty about expressing even nett stated. They also feel some­ legitimate anger.

. thing is wrong with, them be- Even if the kid does allow him­• cause they live in a single-parent self to get mad, he may not ad­

home. ' mit it, thinking, "If I were good "It's a self-image and identity I would not have these feelings,"

problem," said Bennett. "They Platten added. feel guilty and 'unloved because, "Kids have to realize that all a parent walked out on them." their feelings are valid and not

If a child has a poor self­ try to repress them," he said. image alrea~y, the parents' sep­ "They are really repressing who aration or divorce can reinforce . they are. You have to help the that feeling, she added. kids accept that it is, okay to Ile

,Children often feel responsi­ angry."ble for their parents' divorce, say Parents should try to help their those who work with children of children identify their feelings,.single-parent' families. Children say counselors and those work­wrongly. connect their parents' ing with children of divorced' par­problems with their own behav­ ents. "If you do it with care,ior. For' example, a girl doesn't love arid patience, it helps a lot,"make her bed one morning. Her added Platten. father leaves the house. The girl He and others also advise thatmakes the bed, hoping it will parents don't have to try to bring her father back: The child change. their children's feelings. associates the two actions, "That is saying, 'I don't like you though not making the bed had the way you are,''' he stated. nothing to do with he~ father's

Unless the anger is resolved, It departure. can fester only to explode later Counselors advise that children on in any number of ways. have to be shown' that good be­One way children stay angry havior can't bring their parents

at their divorced or separated'together again because bad be­parents is to keep hoping they havior didn't cause the break-up will live together again. Although to begin with. it sometimes happens, it usuallyBennett said parents must re­

inforce that their children are doesn't. Since anger usually not responsible fo~ the separation comes from not getting what one or divorce, that each parent still wants, the child will probably loves the children, although the stay mad until he stops wanting parents may no longer love each his parents together ,again. Once

-, other. The children also· need to he or she understands his par­ents will never be married toknow they will stiJl be cared

for, although not in the same way each other again, anger can be­gin to cool. they were before, and that it is

all right to come from a single­ Children fear what will hap­parent family. pen to them if something hap­

'Children don't see the separa­ pens to the single parent with tion or divorce as a problem Qe­ whom 'they live. They must be tween their parents but as some­ reassured that they have two thing that deprives them of parents who are still responsible

for them.' a parent,- commented 'Ron Plat­ten, head of Parentship, Inc., of Unfortunately, the kids can get Fairport, N.Y., and a family caught in the crossfire of their counselor who leads workshops parents' emotions, unwittingly 'and training sessions for mem­ becoming the conduit of parental bers of Clual-and single-parent anger. They can also feel guilty families. "They may love both about enjoying their time with parents," he continued, "and as one parent because they feel a result of the divorce, one par­ they are somehow offending the ent leaves, so they feel deprived· other. of the friendship of the one who Sometimes too, the custodial left." ­ parent, more angry at the other

Sister Marietta Russell, a Mis­ .parent than at the child, is ang-, sion Helper of the Sacred Hellrt ered because of seeing the child­and fulltime family minister at ren having fun ,with, the other St. Sebastian Parish in Pitts- parent. At times, the child is

.• bur~h, works with children of, cross-examined by the one par-

Parents have to understand that their children benefit from having a good relationship with both parents, pointed out Kath­leen Kircher, executive director of the North American Confer­ence of Separated and Divorced Catholics. Once parents can come to that conclusion,. many of· their tactics that harm the children stop.

Counselors also warn that chil­dren of divorced and separated parents can be' given too much responsibility. Cecelia Bennett of Biscayne College stated that at the time when a young person is naturally starting to do 'things away from home, he or she can be saddled with always having to baby-sit for younger brothers and sisters.

The single parent can also be­come too emotionally' dependent on children, confiding in them too much. Sometimes an oldest son is expected to do for pis mother what his father previous­ly did for her. That, say coun­selors, is demanding too much from the boy.

Another ball the single parent must juggle for the child's benefit is discipline. The child needs rules, structure and discipline, commented Sister Marietta. But parents' often feel they shouldn't punish the child because he or she has suffered enough because of the separation or divorce. Ad­ditionally, because 'the parents may feel guilty about the situa­tion, they sometimes yield to their children's demands instead of standing up to them.

With disciplining, parents need to stress it is the improper conduct, not the child.. that is being rejected."I love you, b~t I will not accept ,this kind of be­havior. I know you are hurt and I am sorry, but this is not the proper way to express tliat," is an approach ,a parent can, take, suggests Sister Marietta.

The children use guilt to mani­pulate their parents. One sixth

,grader told a friend, "Whenever I . tell my mother she's a bad mother, she gets guilty and buys me clothes,"

Children also try to play one parent off against the other. For example, a boy tells his father that his mother ~aid he was al­ways too busy to spend time with the boy. The father becomes a Disneyland dad, taking the boy everywhere,' spending as much time with him as possible, doing only what he· wants.

Another example: a daughter tells tales about her father when she's with her mother and about her mother when she's with her father.

The advice that applies to dual­parent families is just as valid - but sometimes more difficult - for those in single-parent families: both parents must de­cide on a position of course of action together so they know what is happening.

The child -in a single-parent family frequently sees the cus­todial parent's dating as .a threat to his or her time with that parent.

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Helping Haiti'

NASHVILLE Tenn. (NC) -Many parishes in the Diocese of Nashville have "adopted" par­ishes in Haiti during the past few years. But Dr. Anthony Ur­banek, a dentist-physician and member of St. Henry's Parish, has taken a more direct approach to serving people in that Carib­mean nation by travelling there to provide much needed medical treatment.

The idea of working in an underdeveloped country has been with Urbanek, now 35, since the early 1970s when he was in dental school. He said the op­portunity arose in 1979 when he "was at St. Henry's for Sunday Mass and saw in the bulletin that' they were gathering a parish group to participate down in Haiti." Urbanek joined the group and instantly became the medi­cal coordinator because he was the only doctor.

Upon his arrival in Beauchamp, a small village in Haiti, Urban­ek found a dispensary totally without equipment or supplies. He had brought medicine and equipment donated by Nashville doctors and dentists. There were two trained nurses staffing the dispensary. "The nurses are very good in Haitian-type medicine, for example, obstetrics," said Urbanek.

"They have no concept of modern medicine, though. But they work vary hard keeping up

Serving slums

PHILADELPHIA (NC) ~ J)oc­tors who make house calls are rare. Those who make them in slum neighborhoods are rarer. A doctor who makes house calls in slums, charges only 27 cents for them and wears a Roman collar during most of them is close to unique.

But that is the ministry of Jesuit Father Edward C. Bradley of Philadelphia.

Father Bradley, 54, has served as a flight surgeon in a Navy blimp unit; done cardiovascular research in Stockholm, Sweden; taught at the Medical School of the University of California at Los Angeles; and worked in two small villages in Vietnam while the war in that country was still raging.

All of that took place before he became a Jesuit priest in 1979. Since his ordination Father. ,Bradley has come to realize that he was simply sidestepping a call to the priesthood as he pur­sued those various activities in this country and abroad.

It is ironic that after traveling around the world his priestly ministry has brought him back to care for the sick in the same

DR. URBANEK

with vaccinations and their ob­ Asked about his relationship stetrical work." he added. with folk medicine (voodoo) and

Haiti is among the poorest na­ the local witch doctor, Urbanek tions in the world and the re­ recalled that once a woman with sources available there to Ur­ pneumonia came to him wearing banek reflect its poverty. an amulet the witch doctor had

"I practice very primitive medi­ given to her. He gave her peni­cine. I practice without any kind cillin but told her to keep the of lab tests " .. and without any amulet as well. She recovered in sophisticated piece of 'equipment. about a week, and "two days For example, just to operate I after that the voodoo doctor have to bring my own headlight came in for a consultation. He and my own generator to pro­ had some problems that he need­vide electricity. They have no ed cleared up and he became a running water either," the dpc­ patient of mine," he said. tor said.

He said that in the mornings He sees his visit to Haiti as a he holds a medical clinic and way to fulfill the Christian re­from around noon until after sponsibility to take care of peo­dark' he performs dentistry, ple who have nothing at all, far which he says "consists right less basic medicine and health

programs.now of taki1'!g out teeth,"

FATHER BRADLEY

years ago. When shot at close he continues his practice of range by a drunk husband in­ charging 27 cents for house calls. volved in a domestic disturbance, Asked why ,he does not simply rather than firing his gun at the make the visits for free if he is man whose own gun was empty, going to charge so little for them, Officer Bradley emptied it so Father Bradley said that a house the man would not use it against call is something of value, and back-up officers. the welfare patient who feels he

The legacy that his father 'left • has nothing to give in return is him, especially in the example of really deprived. Not to be able the way he died, was a sense of to reciprocate, he said, must be the sacredness of life, the priest the most" "frustrating thing in said. Father 'Bradley himself al­ the world." . , most lost his life in that same And he added, "It doesn't have slum neighborhood when he to be 27 cents; it can be cheering suffered a heart attack last Jan­ up somebody down the block.

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Dear Mary: My son is 42-years old. I love him very much ~ut

last week I had to teU him to leave our house and rent a room, which he did. Ten years ago he went to California to fonn a band. He was one of the best guitarists. ever.

He, got into drugs; came home and joined a cult for eight years; left about two years ago and came back home, a nightmare for me.

He said he is dedicated to Christ but he is a fanatic. He sleeps on the Bible every night, puts 'religious signs on his car and aU over the house, and says

I .terrible things to.me like I am no good and something terrible is going to haplMln to me. I can't live witlt his lifestyle.

I know the drugs and the cult did something to his mind, but I cannot live with him the way he Is. I tried to help him but I see I can't. I feel n did the right thing by telling him to leave our house. What I want to know is, do you think I 'did? (Ohio)

I certainly do. Your -letter re­flects well a difficulty in the

,relationship between parents and their adult children. Parents

are not responsible for the be­havior of adult children.

At the same time, when an adult child. has serious prob­lems, parents suffer perhaps as much as the child. They suffer first out of love and sympathy for the' child, and second, from their own inability to help. You understand well this double suffering.

Your son's religious commit­ment seems to be a part of his illness. As Scripture shows us, Jesus was a kind and loving per­son. People 'were eager to be with him. About the only peo­ple who angered him were hypo­crites,. those who tried to make mon'ey off sincere worshipers, and those who hanned little ones.

Followers. of Jesus are known by the same fruits of kindness, love and compassion. Your son's cruel and criticaf treatment of you belies his commitment to Jesus. 'We cannot judge or blame

your son. His behavior indicates that he needs psychological help, but he apparently does not think so. You have tried to help by providing for him, and it has made the situation. worse.

You are not responsible for

your son's support or behavior. Since you could not live comfort­ably with him in your house, you were czertainly justified in tell­ing him to 'leave. This may be

. the most loving thing you can do at this time.

Most parents do not wish to give up completely on a child. You might try to keep some ties alive so that you are available when and if your son seeks a better relationship with you.

Keep in touch with your son by such ordinary gestures as in­viting him over for a meal, giv­ing gifts for birthdays and holi­days, perhaps treating him to something you know he enjoys. Do not criticize his religious views or his ,Hfestyle.

Criticism has not worked. In­stead, model sincere Christian

. love and care through your own' life.

It is difficult to be so helpless when a loved one has serious problems. However, by being loving and patient, you are doing all you can at this time.

Reader questions on family IiviJig and chUd care to be an­swered in print are Invited. Ad­dress The Kennys, Box 872, St. Joseph's College, Rensselaer, Ind. 47978.

Asian church small but mighty ALBANY, N.Y. (NC) - -The

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"The dioceses are very much subjected to political pressure because Islam is often the state religion.

However, Catholics "have an influence beyond their numbers,"

'Thailand firsts The Catholic church in Thai­

land is getting two firsts this month.

On Jan. 5 Pope John Paul II announced that the country will -have the first cardinal in its history, 54-year-old Cardinal­designate Michael Michai Kit­bunchu, since 1972 the archbish­op of Bangkok, the country's capital.

January will also see the ar­rival in Thailand of Father Alan Dorsari of Wareham, part of a team that will establish the first Maryknoll mission in the south­east Asian country. Father Bor­

the bishop said. "There are only 200,000 Catholics in Thailand, for example, out of a population of 48 million. But there are 220,­000 students in Catholic schools. So the ieadel,'s of the country hav~ been trained in Catholic schools."

Vocations' have flourished in spite 'of, or perhaps because of, ,the pressures on Catholics, Bish­op Hubbard noted.

"They are really blossoming in South Korea and Thailand. In the latter there are 210 semina­rians. We have twice as many Catholics in the A'lbany Diocese but only 23 men studying for the priesthood.

"Noticeable by :their absence" at the meeting, the bishop said, "were representatives from China and Cambodia, Laos and Vietnam. That is ,the persecuted church."

'Bishop Hubbard got into China for a one-day tour spon­sored by the Chinese govern­ment.

TJle experience, he said, was like being "back three centuries with peasants tilling the fields with ,tools their ancestors must have used."

IBishop Hubbard a'lso toured Cambodian and Thai refugee camps. "I've seen povellty in American inner cities, but that is miniscule compared to what saw in ThaHand," he said.

"·We in America have no ap­preciation of the vastness of their poverty. It's' not only a, 'lack of food and other basics; U's also the' lack of education, health care, skills and culturfll advan­tages.

"Yet ,they maintain rtheir dig­nity and pride and even have hope," he said.

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End of the semester By Father Eugene Hemrick

The semester is over. The midnight oil has been

burnt, the caffeine stained cups cleaned and the ashtrays emp­tied.

As professor of Education 161 at Catholic University in Wash­ington, D.C., I also closed my books for a bit at semester's end. As I set them aside, however, I wondered:

What did 'they really learn? Would they.have been better

off entering the business' world instead of the university? Most students are likely to be re-ed­ucated anyway by the business they choose after graduation.

What goood did it do them to take my course, "Foundations of Education?" The course began with the early Greeks and how they planted the seeds of educa­tion.

There were the Sophists, for instance, who believed a student should be skilled in grammar, rhetoric and logic. Those skills enabled one to use words clever­ly and persuasively "to argu~' in­telligently.

My class also took III big leap to 19th and 20th century U.S. educators. The students studied the philosophical and social thought of William T. Harris and industrialization; Bishop Spald­ing and Americanization; Jane Addams and immigration; Fran­cis Parker and Progressive Edu­cation.

Student presentations were re­corded before a video camera. My students wrote papers and we visited various schools to make the connection between what we had studied about edu­cators and what educators were actually doing. Discussions abounded.

'Xet I find myself wondering what lasting value these efforts produced.

As a young student I too burnt the midnight oil frequently, studying philosophers. Today I am lucky if I can recall their names, let alone their fine points. When the pressure of exams was off, the material so carefully memorized blew away like leaves in the wind.

How I loved to discuss the in­tricacies of an abstract idea. To­day, the business of the moment dictates that I be practical and

,concrete and save my philosophi­cal interests for leisure hours that never seem to come.

Furthermore, I find that with­out my notes it would be im­possible to' recall all the impor­tant facts I emphasized with the students.

-Is it· any -wonder I- worry. about. the real influence a university professor has on his students?

Nonetheless, some memorable moments stick with me.

I remember how one student disagreed with a chapter I had assigned and offered a creative response that made the autht'r's point of view look ridiculous.

Another student used her in­genuity to hold us fascinated throughout an entire class with her presentati,?n.

There was another time I reveled in the improvement of a slow starter and, without a word being spoken, our eyes met and expressed our' mutual-approvat- ,

Perhaps the value of education is not so much in how many facts a student learns and retains at it is in these moments which arrive unexpectedly - ~oments

which could not have happened , if young students and their par­

ents had given up on a college education.

Perhaps ,learning the history of education is not the most impor­tant part of my class. Perhaps the more important part is learn­ing to capitalize on the precious moments when students are en­thusiastic and creative in apply­ing what we are studying. One day, these qualities could make history.

Golden wedding' Mr. and Mrs. Leo G. Belanger

marked their golden anniversary last Sunday as they renewed their wedding vows at Our Lady of Grace Church;' North West- . port. The couple were married Jan. 9, 1933 in St. Anne's Church, Fall River. They have eight children, 30 grandchi~dren

and 11 great-grandchildren.

MEMBERS OF St. Bernard's parish, Assonet,' admire 40-pound cake replica of their church, b,ak~d by Leo Giroux to celebrate the first anniversary of parish's move to building formerly occupied by the United Church of Assonet.

PLANNING ecumenical discussion are, from left, Anna Harrison, Pilgrim United Church of Christ, New Bedford; Sister Dorothy Byrne, OSF, St. Mary's Home, New Bedford; Mark Howard, St. Stanislaus Church, Fall River.

Recognizing the significance of the proposed pastoral letter of the National Conference of Cath­olic Bishops, "The Challenge of Peace: God's Promise and Our Response," and the impact it could have on the nation's lead­ers, the New Bedford Area Freeze Group will sponsor an ecumenical public discussion of the letter on Sunday night, Feb. 6. Details of time and place are to be announced.

The freeze group is beginning its second year as an organiza­tion striving to educate area resi­dents as to the nature and dan­ger of nuclear war and working for an immediate USSR-US nu­clear weapons -freeze, followed by mutual reduction in nuclear arms.

Members welcome interested individuals to their monthly gen­eral meetings which feature speakers, films and discussions. Various committees work on specific aspects of the group's goals. They include education, program, political action and church outreach committees.

The latter promotes awareness of the nuclear situation among congregations of all faiths. Mem­bers include Anna Harrison of, Pilgrim United Church of Christ; Sister Dorothy -Byrne, OSF, St. Mary's Home; Helen Walsh and Joseph Harrison, St. James Church; Ruth Heath, North Dart­mouth Monthly Meeting of Friends; and Mark Howard, St. Stanislaus Church, Fall River.

Activities in which the group has taken part include working for passage of the freeze refer­endum, gathering signatures on petitions, writing 'letters to legis­lators and convincing the New Bedford City Council to endorse the mutual Freeze resolution. Most members attended the New York City peace march last June and in August the group spon·

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Members are available to speak to small and large groups using various films and educa­

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On the way to Jerusalem /1 By Father John J., ,castelo!

Jesus ,is journeying toward Jerusalem, instructing as he goes his disciples and the crowds. Mark has collected some of those jnstructions in Chapter 10.

Divorce is a subject of con­cern to, Mark's community of early Christi,ans. Some Pharisees felt it permissable for a man to divorce his wife, for "Moses per· mitted divorce," as spelled out in Old Deuteronomy 24:1~4.

But Jesus indicates that the dispensation was granted because people did not accept and appre· ciate God's will in the matter.

'He reminds his listeners that "God made them male and fee male." The story in Genesis 1:27 indicates God's intention that people form a union as perman­ent as "one flesh:" Therefore, Jesus says, no one has the right to dissolve the marital union.

Later, to the disciples, he makes the teaching more specific~

"Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adult·,

ery against her." In Jewish law, adultery was

not considered a crime against one's wife but Jesus' recognizes that the woman has rights too. Mark, applying the teaching to' his community, adds that a wo­man is forbidden to divorce her husband, although Roman law permitted .it.

The instruction on marriage is followed by an incident involve ing children, in which Jesus dis­plays indignation that his dis~

ciples should seek to prevent children from approaching him.

This story may have been pre­served because Christians found it, answered' a question as to whether children should be bap. tized -like their parents. '

In fact, when Jesus orders the disciples not to hinder the child­ren, the word he uses for "hin· der" is that used in the baptismal rite. And Jesus'laying his hands on the children brings to mind a gesture used in basptism.

The distinctive characteristics of children in Jesus' day was

utter dependence on others. Therefore, only people who ac­

I k~owledge their dependence on God are open to receive his sav­ing love. ,

A similar meaning can be found in .the story about the rich young man..in-Chapter 10, verses 17~23. The young man is obvious­ly sincere but misinformed. He thinks he can earn God's favor.

Jesus tells him that he cannot earn everlasting life by "doing." Actions are important, but it is more important to surrender completely to ,God's' gracious love. ,

Grace is a gift, not a reward. Jesus is not calling the young man to a life of poverty but is graphically teaching that depend­ence on God, not on wealth or personal efforts, is required.

That is why it is difficult for the rich to enter the kingdom. Their independence is an ob­stacle to dependence on 'God. But, as Jesus says: "with God all things are possible."

The people of the Eucharist II II By Katherine Bird versity of Notre Dame chaplain, Sometimes, for example, Chris·

tries to give people a sense that , tians are reminded of the wealth' People in love frequently reo the liturgy presents a God who of interests and the wide range peat expressions of endearment. loves them without qualification of needs within a Christian com­Few would expect a single "I

love you" to suffice. There is something about the

language of love which cries out for a 'response, notes Nicholas Lash, a theologian at Cambridge University in England. To assure another of continuing love, Lash adds, it is necessary "to renew the declaration, to reinforce and repeat it."

In some mysterious way, such -$tatements build love up:

Lash uses that analogy of a couple's love to spark his dis· cussion of the Eucharist in a book titled, "His Presence in the World."

He points out that the earliest Christians were sure they. were in the presence of the Spirit of the risen Christ. Today, too,­when Christians gather for the, Eucharist, the theologian writes, the same risen Christ is present, shaping the people into his com· munity. '

Coming to the Eucharist, says Lash; is the way Christians reo spond again and again in love and trust to Christ.

Father Robert Griffin, Uni­

and is waiting to help them deal with their shortcomings.

In fact, he 'is convinced that some people reach an important conversion point only after "they have some personal experience with failure," usually as adl,dts. ­At such times, the role of the Eucharist can become easier to understand, he suggests.

The Eucharist is also an 9P­portunity for Christians to learn to live as a loving community.

, Often when the Eucharist is cele. brated, people's needs come to light.

II For children By ianaan Manternach

Baruch was a good and learned man~ People called him "rabbi."

Baruch spent all his time st~dying the Bible. He tried to obey all God's commandments perfectly. He was always eager to learn more about God's word.

So he was excited one day -as Turn'to Page Thirteen

munity by hearing the concerns e~pressed during the prayers of petition at Mass. , An observant college student may draw attention to the needs of the poor in developing coun· tries. ' ,

A high school student in a large metropolitan area may ~ow people from several ethnic groups. Through his behavior, he may stimulate others to zero in on racial injustice.

A busy professional d(;mate~

time reggjarly at a St. Vincent de 'Paul store for the poor. ltis behavior may lead others to simi­lar action.

A Illember of the congregation brings. a handicapped person to Mass each Sunday. By her sere vice, she lives her commitment to Christianity. ,

At the Eucharist, then, the lives of those who serve and those who hav:e special needs are linked by Christ. '

And often we are stimulated by the gifts and concerns of others to look more carefully at our own gifts and at ways to use them.

"THE WORLD and all that dwells there are sacramen. tal, for they speak to us of God and communicate God to us." Commitment to the Eucharist leads to loving service to others, as with this woman comforting a child following a school bus accident. (NC Photo) ,

Eucharistic living II

know your faIth

By Dolores Leckey

The Eucharist - the Mass - . is central to the -lives of Chris­tians in the Catholic tradition. We come together, some each day, to offer God the ordinary fare of our lives, 'bread and wine, "the work of human hands."

In doing so, we remember 'Jesus' final days on earth. On the night before he died, Jesus invoked ,a blessing:' "This is my body," he said as he offered bread to his friends. Then he shared a cup of wine with them saying, "This is my blood."

Across the centuries,and many cultures, the church preserved and treasured those words. The church believed from the begin· ning that the bread and wine of the table (and later the altar)

longer ordinary. They are the Christ.

Television viewers or readers of Evelyn Waugh's "Brides~ead Revisited" will recall the scene when Julia, no longer a prac. ticing Catholic, is challenged by her lover, Charles, to explain the "magic" of the Mass. "You know it's all nonsense," he asserts. Julia's whispered response is, "I wish it were."

Julia cannot shake the mys­te.ry of Christ or Christ's pres­encein the sacrament out of her head or her heart. Perhaps she has partaken too often of the divine food and bit by bit has absorbed too much of Christ into the marrow of her life.

The result: She decides finally that she must leave Charles and walk, alone, a new path. (Both

really became the body and blood of Jesus. '

-In the second century, Justin Martyr said: "We have been taught that the food, over which thanks have been give~, is the flesh and blood of that Incarnate Jesus." !Believers, even the most theologically unlearned or most defiant, know that with those words the bread and wine are no

, Charles and Julia are divorced.) In Julia's anguish one hears

the echoes of St. Augustine: "If then you, are Christ's body and his members, it is your own mystery which you receive." Julia can no more deny the pres­ence of Christ in the Eucharist than she can deny her Own reality.

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13 THE ANCHOR­China h.onors Father RicciEucharistic Friday, Jan. 14, 1983

Continued from page twelve By Nancy Frazier grounds of what is now a school Julia's story demonstrates how NC News Service for future leaders of the Chinese

the Eucharist reaches beyond Montie PlumbingCommunist Party, is open to The Vatican, China and Tai· our conscious life into the hidden visitors by appointment. & Heating Co.wan - often at odds in recentand unconscious dimensions of

Over 35 Yearsyears over a variety of religious Commemorative activities inour being. There, in our secret of Satisfied Serviceand political issues - have join­ Taiwan include renewal pro­places, Christ touches us. There

Reg. Master Plumber 7023ed in praise for a 16th-century grams for priests, Religious and our inner vision is cleansed ever JOSEPH RAPOSA, JR. Italian Jesuit who is considered catechists; workshops on Chinese

see with the eyes of God. so gradually so that we come to

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the founder of the Catholic adaptations of the liturgy; publi. Church in China. cations on Father Ricci's life Fall River 675·7496

nation of Jesus, the Eucharist and work; a traveling exhibition . The unusual display of unity "showing the relationship be­and creation are intertwined. is . prompted by celebrations tween church and country;" and The world and all that dwells marking the 400th anniversary of an evangelization program. there are sacramental, for they ORTINSthe arrival in China of Jesuit

speak to us of God and com· Father Matteo Ricci, who reach­ The Chinese Bishops' Confer­ PHOTO SUPPLYmunicate God to us. Like the ed the island of Macao off the ence "in Taiwan hopes the evan· NIKON • CANON· OLYMPUSpoet Tennyson, who saw God in south China coast on Aug. 7, gelization program will result in ROLLEI - VIVITAR • TENBA every flower, we know that STILL IN VESTMENTS, SONY • PANASONIC1582. .30,000 new Catholics by the end God's spirit courses through the Father ~ohn Cornelius, pas­ 267 MAIN STREETof 1983. universe, from the fallen leaf to tor of Immaculate Concep­ In China, government-run FALMOUTH - SU·1918 the farthest galaxy. Radio Peking recently praised "What we have set as ourtion parish, Seattle, rushes ARMAND ORTINS. Prop.

Where does that kind of aware­ Father Ricci as the initiator of primary objective for this cen·to check on fire set by' ar­ '~e~,ness lead us? If we are willing, cultural and scientific relations tenary celebration was also Mat­sonists during Sundayit must lead, I believe to a delib­ between China and the West teo Ricci's own primary goal in

erate choice to share actively in Mass, killing one worshiper and a' government magazine coming to China," the bishops God's creative and redemptive and causing $120,000 dam­ dedicated two pages to the anni­ said in a pastoral letter. work in the here and now. This versary:age. (NC Photo) "He and many of his followers, has to be a conscious choice, I In Taiwan, the Catholic bish­ in spite of difficulties and dan­think, for we live in a world not ops have begun a nationwide gers, risks and hardships, strove .generally given to the praise, For. children evangelization effort· designed as to reach this goal (of evangeliza­thanksgiving and reverence that a "thanksgiving offering to God tion) throughout their lives, atContinued from page twelve characterize our Eucharist and for his gift to us of Matteo any cost," they added. that could come to characterize he listened to a group of people Ricci's bringing of the faith todaily life. known as Sadducees arguing China."

On the contrary, we live in a with Jesus. They claimed there Providence world which pollutes the air we was no life after death. Jesus And at the Vatican, Pope John MARRIAGEbreathe and the water we drink; -Paul II has indicated his support said there was. Both Jesus and CollegePREP'ARATIONwhere wealth is concentrated for the commemorations by ask­the Sadducees quoted the Bible. among a small percentage of ing the Pontifical Gregorian"Jesus is clearly winning this AT ITS BEST! people while millions go hungry; University in Rome to hold Graduate ProgramB: argument," Baruch thought. "He Give it. GUtdaily where technology and sci· special seminars on the anniver­ Biblical Studies knows the Scripture better than Certificate For Aentific achievement often bene­ ,the Sadducees. I'm impressed sary. Religious Studies Weekend Awayfit only the few. Religious Education with his teaching." "The Jesuit, Father Matteo For Info ContactTOurs Is a world of terrorists Soon the Sadducees broke off Summer '83Ricci, understood and apprecia- ,:.=w. ED & BECKY ST. PIERREand revolution, where nuclear the argument and went away. ted Chinese culture fuIly from .,' 68 Roper Street war is not only thinkable but The crowd cheered Jesus. the beginning and his example Fall Rlwer, MA 02723 Increasingly probable. Then Baruch decided to ask , . EE Tel 875·2276

. should serve as an inspirationThose who claim to be Chris­ Jesus a very important question to many," the pope said in a

tians are caUed to lead eucharis­ about God's law. "Which is the 1981 'address to Chinese Cath­ ONlYFUll·L1NE RELIGIOUS June 19 - 24:Theological Colloquiumtic lives, to forge a coul}ter­ first of all commandments?" he olics during his visit to Manila, 61FT STORE ON THE CAPE - an update weak in ecclesiology (Joseph culture of sorts. I think this Komonchak), moral theology (Williamasked. His question got right to Philippines. • OP£N: Non • Sal; 11- 5:30 Finan). New Testament theology (Richard means, first, a fearless examina­ the heart of God's law. • OPEN 7DAYS Dillon) and spirituality (Gino Bondi). Father Ricci, born Oct. 6.tion of all the ways each of us Jesus did not hesitate. "This during IU/lIllMIr1552, in Macerata, Italy, was ainhibits God's redemptive and is the first," he answered: "Hear specialist in mathematics, astron­ .....30~~~~ Graduate Course Offerings:creative work. o Israel! The Lord our God is ,omy, geography and oth~r sci­It will mean naming and con­ Lord alone! Therefore you shall JUliO 27 - July 15ences. He combined the teaching fessing our own violence and ir­ among .,. offerings:love the Lord your God with all of Scien~e with 'his evangelical Moral Principles William Finan responsibility. It will mean ap­ your heart, with all your soul, Grace and Nature Justin Hennessey mission in China. proaching the sacrament truth­ with all your mind. and with all Human Development Elaine Scully "His vision," according to the fully and humbly. your strength." 428 Main 51.: HyannIS

Juno 27 • Augu.t 5New Catholic Encyclopedia, "was Only then can we begin to 775-4180Then Jesus added "And this is among five offerings: to win the intellectual masterslive in a eucharistic way - a John & Mary lees. Props. Passion/Resurrection T.A. Collins the second: You shaIl love your of Confucian society, using the way that reflects what the Mass Christ Word & Redeemer M.F. Morry neighbor as yourselfl" Liturgy . Giles Dimock ascendency of learning as a mag­means. ,Baruch was surprised. The first net; then, because the cult of of­Only then can we begin to July 18 - August 5commandment Jesus gave was ficialdom was everywhere deeply CAPE CODoffer all that we are and all that among eight offerings: the answer Baruch had expected. inbred, the masses would be in­ Wisdom Literature Helen O'Neill we possess In order to create, COUNTRY CLUB ThessalonianAll good Jews recited that com­ evitably drawn to the faith." with God, a world marked by Corresp. Raymond F. Collinsmandment every morning and Sacraments John Reidcooperation and unselfishness. Father Ricci first set foot on

Adult Education James Kolar evening. But the second com­When Jesus broke the bread the Chinese mainland in Sep­mandment was another matter, 4 ~'Sand blessed the wine and gave it tember 1583 and reached the Lecture SerIes July 5 - 7 even though it came from thefor aU, he summoned us to a new walls of the city of Peking for Gerald O'Colllns CAPE COD'S MOST INTERESTING

Recent Chrl.tologlcal kind of communion. When over Bible too. the first time on Sept. 7, 1598, GOLF COURSE and over we eat his bread and "Excellent, teacher." Baruch but did not enter it until two. DovelopmentsTHEATER· DRIVE drink his wine, the summons bit responded finally. "You are right. years later. P.O. BOX 876 by bit becomes clearer. Surely to love God with all our He died in the Chinese capital NORTH FALMOUTH, • Idyllic Campus

heart, thoughts and strength, l\nd on May 11, 1610, and his grave MASS. 02556 • Full Recreational Facilities to love our neighbor as ourselves, outside the city waIls was a • Planned Recreational is worth more than any burnt donation from the emperor. Excursions offering or sacrifice." The grave was desecrated duro

ing the Boxer Rebellion at theJesus smiled at Baruch. He end of the 19th century, when Eastern Television. was pleased with him. "You are many Chinese rebeIled againstnot far from the reign of God," Sales And Service Western influence, later restored, For further Inlormatlon write: he said. and damaged again during

Department of Religious Studies Fall River's Largest China's cultural revolution of the (Summer Programs) Greater Benediction .. ~ 1960s, another rejection of Wes­ Display of TVs . ProvIdence College "'sn't it funny how people "Prosperity is the blessing of tern influence. The Chinese gov­ Providence. R.I. 02918who get married are all RCA • ZENITH • SYLVANIAthe Old Testament; adversity is ernment recently completedrelated? My dad married my Providence CaUoga admits students ot any race. 1196 BEDFORD STREETmother, my uncle married the blessing of the New, which new repairs to the tomb, restor­ sex, color. creed and national or ethnic origin.

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·fOCU/~== onyooth~ for peace and the de-escalation Resolutions of nuclear buildup."

By Cecilia Belanger

As children we thought we could easily follow Christ's ex­ample; in fact, we 'often made. it a New Year's resolution. Which brings me to my annual question: "What is your resolution for 1983?" Here are some of the an­swers:

"I have to do an overall job on myself. Don't ,like the direc­tion in which I've been drifting, so it's .top to bottom with me. I mean it."

"Lately I've been aware of the old-fashioned definition of sin and I like it. From now on I , answer to myself for my mis­takes. I don't want tl)em explain­ed away as' 'sociological acci­dents,' "

I'm going to laugh more. I've been a grouch all year. People tell me I'm over-religious and don't 'have it sense of humor. I'ye discovered you can be reli­gious and laugh a lot too,"

"Spendipg money on movies ' has got to stop. So few are any good. I'd be better off reading or taking a walk or visiting some- ; one who needs company."

"I've goofed off too much this. year at school. Gonna be more serious in the New Vear. Life doesn't payoff in goofiness - unless you're a comedian." . "For a chang~ I'm going to

give the other guy a break when I think he or she is lying. In ,the past I've been' too quick to judge."

"There's too much ego all around me, and I'm too vain too. I've got to work on becoming more huinble. I've got to be able to take hard criticism because in my case I know it's for my own good."

"It's terribly hard for me to' forgive an injury. I've got to keep working on ,that and do 'a­lot of praying."

"I'm going to spend more time alone. I'm too much with people and still I don't know where they leave off and I begin."

"I'm too obsessed with perish­able things and not enough with

. those of the spirit." . "I'm terrible at making prom­

ises I don't keep." "I've got to stop causing my'

parents so much grief. I don't do anything real bad, but I know some of the things I do' bother them,"

"I've been collecting dozens of new recipes and early in 1983 I'm throwing a big bash and in­viting friends to my first home" cooked dinner. I'm doing' it all myself,"

"I saved over $200 dollars last year and that for me is some­thing! I've stopped buying use­less, frivolous things."

'~I'm going to continue to ~or~

"Last year I,vowed I'd accept this face of mine I don't like and I won the battle. I'm accepting everything about myself, my own nature, my hard-to-comb hair, my uncoordinated walk, and I'm really ,laughing at myself. I'm my own entertainment!"

In striving to keep our reso­lutions, we must guard against either discouragement or self· righteous pride. Alan Paton, the South African writer, tells of a rabbi who urged his people to keep two' slips of paper handy.

On one, to be read in moments of complacency, was written' "I am dust and ashes;" on the other, for moments of despair, "For your sake the world was created,"

Bishop Feehan The chorus of the Attleboro

high school will host an exchange concert this morning with stu­dents from ~cAuley High School, Portland, Maine. The' visitors spent last night with Feehan stu- . dents and will in their turn be hosts and hostessfils' in May, when Feehanit$ travel north for a return concert.

Also in the musical line, the Feehan Adult Chorus has reo sumed Thursday evening r:e­hearsals and is preparing for a spring concert. New members are welcome.

Last night the school's Parent Organization was scheduled to host a lectuie workshop session on use of television programs as a springboard to discuss sex and sexual attitudes with young people.

Bishop Stang Students are preparing for

semester exams, to be held Tues­day through Th~rsday of next week.

Jane Hendricks has been named as one of 10 finalists in the Massachusetts Century III Leaders' Program for 1982-83; and Marjorie Gomez is the school nominee to the Hugh O'Brian 'Foundation Leadership Seminars.

A freshman parents' night will be sponsored by the religion de­partment a,t 7'p.m. Thursday.. ,

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Cronin to its athletic staff, Bishop Feehan students have declared him an honorary

Shamrock. From left with the bishop Maria Betro, Marthe-Anne Healey, Kelly

Reynolds, Stephen Birch, Patrick Shields. (Paul Richard Pboto).

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By Charlie Martin

HEARTBREAKER I got to say it and it's hard for me You left me crying Dike I thought I would never be Love is an eagle but you let me down How can I love you when you ain't around • And I get through the morning and you never call Love should be everything or not at all And it don't matter whatever you do I made a life out of loving you Only to find the dream that! ~~Uowed is dying I'm crying in the rain I should be searclting my world for' a love everlasting Feeling no pain When will we meet again Why do you have to be a heartbreaker 'Is it a lesson that I never knew Got to get out of tl)is spell that I'm un:ler My love for you Why do you have to be a heartbreaker WIlen nwas being what you 'wanted me to be

.Suddenly everything I've ever wanted - ' Has passed me by This world may end' Not you and I My love is stronger' thilR the universe My soul is crying for you Everything can be reversed You made the routes and you could not see You made a life out of hurting me Tell me where do we try Or do we say goodbye

Sun~by Dionne Warwick, Written by B., R., and M. Gibb, © 1982 Arista Records Inc.

THIS SONG describes a typi- out of loving you only to find cal' heartbreak situation and the dream that I followed is dy­prompts,' some questions about ing." expectations in relationships. It is common to ,have hopes One line states: "I made a life and dreams as we enter are­

lationship. If it ends or is signi­ficantly altered, part of our pain comes from realizing our dreams will be unmet and our needs un· fulfilled.

Sometimes we expect, too much from another person and then are disappoin~ed when he or she cannot live up to our

, hopes or demands.

What are guidelines to loving another person? First, we should be careful what we say to others. If we use words loosely or with· out thought, we will surely hurt others. Saying "I love you" can be taken as a promise of un· conditional commitment to an­other.

Second, love is much more about giving than receiving. If our love is based only on get­ting needs met or dreams ful­filled, it may change if this isn't happening. Real love involves giving to another, first of all:

Finally, every successful love also involves a balancing of one's own and another's' needs. Learn­ing to be realistic about what we c~n expect from another involves dialogue.. We must take tl1e risk of telling the other what we need. And every couple should reevaluate their needs as their circumstances change.

Finally, it is helpful to keep in mind that no single relation­ship has all the ingredients to make us totally happy. Still, dis· covering what we can share with each other realistically is one secret to building a lasting love.

Your comments are always welcome and may be u~ed in fu­ture columns. Please address them to Charlie Martin, 1218 S. .Rotherwood Ave., Evansville, Ind. 47714.

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By Bill Morr,issette

portswQtch Aldrich Paces Marion To Upset Wnn

Tom Aldrich scored four goals, including the game-winner at 9:30 of the third period, in pac­ing Marion to a 5-4 upset vic­tory over Fall River South in a Bristol County CYO Hockey League game in Fall River last Sunday.

In the companion game, de­fending. champion New Bedford bounced back from it56-3 loss to Marion in its last previous ap­pearance to pin a 6-1 setback on Seekonk.

Games next Sunday in the Driscoll Rink pit Marion against

Mansfield at 9 p.m., New Bed­ford against Fall' River South at 10. .

New Bedford continues to set the pace and now has an 11 point lead over Fall River South, whose game against Marion next Sunday is crucial to the Southies' pennant hopes.

The standings: New Bedford 11-1-0 (won, lost, tied), FalI River South 5-4-3, Marion 5-6-1, Mansfield 3-6-2, Seekonk 2-9-2.

Post-season playoffs are sched­ueld for March 6, 13, 27, April 5 and 12.

Block of Granite Dinner Upcoming The 13th annual Vince Lorn­

bardi ·Block of Granite Award dinner will be held Sunday, Feb. 13, at Venus de Milo restaurant, Swansea.

The award, sponsored by the Greater Fall River Cancer So­clety, honors the Greater Fall River area's outstanding high school lineman, selected from

.nominees submitted by nine area high schools.

The selection committee is again headed by Jim Sullivan, former head coach of football at Somerset High Scl1ool. Other

members are John Connell, for­mer coach at Bishop Stang High School; John McCarthy, former coach at Swansea's Case High School; Oscar (Pete) Levesque of the Fall River Herald News sports department; Bill Camp­bell, member \ of the board of directors of the Southeastern \ Massachusetts Football Officials Association; Ronald Boulay, for­mer assistant coach at Durfee High School; and Richard Dias, former coach at Dighton-Reho­both Regional High School.

Coyle-Cassidy Off To Good Start Posting a pair of victories in scheduled for tonight.

the first week of play in Divis- The only games tonight in the ion Two Southeastern Massachu- Hockomock Basketball League setts Conference basketball, the are Canton at Foxboro 'and King Warriors of Coyle-Cassidy shared Philip at Sharon and a single first place in that division with game tomorrow has Stoughton Dennis-Yarmouth and Wareham. at North Attleboro. Franklin has

In an early season "crucial," the bye on the weekend sched­

duced the number of unbeatens in that division.

Coyle-Cassidy visits Greater New B~dford Voke-Tech tonight when the Bishop Stang Spartans (I-I) host Wareham, Fairhaven is at Dennis-Yarmouth and Old Rochester at Dartmouth.

Dvision One action tonight has· New Bedford at Biship Feehan, Falmouth at Bishop Connolly, Somerset at Durfee and Attie­boro at Barnstable. New Bedford and Somerset, each 2-0, shared first place entering this week.

In Division Three Bourne and Seekonk, who sported 2-6 rec-·

lin at King Philip. Tomorrow the action is 1n four

sports. In hockey Coyle-Cassidy and Dartmouth meet in the Het­land Rink, New Bedford, at 8 p.m., New Bedford and Barn­stable clash in the Kennedy Rink, New Bedford, at 7:30 p.m., Som­erset- is- at Dennis-Yarmouth in the Cape COd, Coliseum at 6:30 p.m. and Falmouth hosts Feehan at 8 p.m.

In track the spotlight will be on the State .Coaches' Meet in Boston at 10 a.m.D,urfee is host at 1 p.m. to Falmouth 'in gym­nastics and Cape Cod. Tech is

-ords' at-the-end-'of-last- -week -hOme-.t9-the- MiI1toppefS.in-wrest...clash in Seekonk, Diman Voke is ling at 11 a.m. at Holy Family, in the only games

Pontiff praises Legion of Mary VATICAN CITY (NC)

Speaking to a pilgrimage of 3500 Italian members of the Legion of Mary, Pope John Paul-II praised

.the Marian spirituality of their organization, which was founded in Irelan~ in the early 1900s and is now ~ worldwide movement.

"Where Mary is, there is her

Son," said the pope. "When Mary is let go, one finishes sooner or later with the letting go also of her Son."

Throughout much of society a crisis of faith in God has been preceded by a drop in devotion to the Virgin Mary, he said.

tv, movie news NOTE

Please check dates and times of television and radio programs against local list­ings, which may differ fram the New York network sched­ules supplied to The Anchor.

Symb,ols following film reviews indicate both general and Catholic Film Office ratings, which do not always coincide.

General ratings: G-suitable for gen­eral viewing; PG-parental guidance sug­gested; R-restricted, unsuitable for children or younger teens.

Catholic ratings: AI-approved for children and adults; A2-approved for adults a.nd adolescents; A3---:approvedforadults only; A4-separafe' Classification' (given to films not morally offensive which, however, require some analysis and explanation); O-morally offensive.

New Film "The Dark Crystal" (Univer­

sal): Muppet ~asters Jim Hen­son and Frank Oz offer a Talk­ien-Iike fairy tale of good versus evil and the restoring of a shat-· tered crystal to wholeness, which will bring about an a never-end­ing reign of· justice and peace. The story is a bit thin and rather solemn but the old Mup­pet humor survives to make this an enjoyable film for youngsters. However, although rated AI, PG, some classified effects may be too strong for children under six or seven.

Films on TV Saturday, Jan. 15, 9-11:30

p:m. (CBS) _ "Hooper, (1978) _ Burt Reynolds is a Hollywood stuntman contending with a young rival to his preeminence in his craft. Little more than a collection of stunts and bar­room brawls, the movie is filled with profanity and is otherwi~e morally offensive because of its reckless attitude toward human life. 0, PG

Sunday, Jan. 16, 9-11 p.m. Coyle-Cassidy and Dennis-Yar- ule. Next Tuesday it will be (NBC) _ "Young Frankenstein"

..mo~th._clas!ted last Tuesday in North Attleboro at Sharon, (1974) - Mel Brooks' spoof of Taunton in Ii' contesC ffiaf -rEi:' '--StougIUOtlilt-Yoxlmro-anct"Frank"r- the- 'hoITor'classic---includes-·the-·

usual uneven Brooks humor with much vulgarity. A4, PG ~ Friday, Jan. 21, 9-H p.m.

Jim Moser's script raises is­sues important for teens, such as the value of education, coping with a tight job market and cul­tivating a strong sense of self­esteem.

Willy-Bill's plight dramatizes the problems of young black Americans whose rate of un­employment is higher than that

of any other group in the coun­try.

The focus of the program is limited but effective in suggest­ing that the individual who has

a sense of his own dignity and self-worth is on the right road. Produced by Father Ellwood Kiese~s Paulist. Productions, the

program has a timely message for young viewers. Religious Broadcasting - TV

Sunday, Jan. 16, WLNE, Chan­nel 6, 10:30 a.m. Diocesan Tele­vision Mass.

"Confluence," 8 a.m. each Sunday on Channel 6, is a panel program moderated by Truman Taylor and having· as permanent participants Father Peter N. Graziano, diocesan di­rector of social services; Right Rev. George Hunt, Episcopal Bishop Of Rhode Island; and Rabbi Baruch Korff. This week's topic: Communism and Religion.

"The Glory of God," with Father John Bertolucci, 8:30 a.m. each Sunday on Channel 27.

"Spirit and the Bride," a spirit uat· growth program with Dr. Wiliiam K. Larkin, a psycho­therapist, and Grace Mackay, a recording artist, 7 p.m. each Monday, Fall River cable chan­nel 36.

"MarySon," a family puppet show with moral and spiritual perspective, 4:30 p.m. each Mon­day, Fall River and New Bedford cable channel 13.

Sunday, Jan. 16, (ABC) "Di­rections" - Reports on the in­f1uence of ethics upon the busi­ness community.

_Sunday.... J.an. _J6..._(c.ItS.1_·~F..9r_ Our Times" - The Rev. Allah 'Boesak of South Africa exam­ines the issues of political un­

(ABC) _ "Alligator" (1981) _ rest in his nation. The old chestnut about the On Radio baby alligator that grows to Charismatic programs are monstrous size in the sewer heard from Monday through Fri­system becomes a moderately en- day on station WICE 1210 AM: tertaining thriller.. Violence calls _ Father John Randall, 9 to 10 a.m. for A3, R ratings.

TV Program In trying to find work to add

to his family's meager ipcome, a teen-ager learns some hard lessons' about life and his own values in the half-hour Capital Cities Family Special, "Hang

and 11 to 12 p.m.; Father Edward McDonough, 8:15 a.m.; Father Real Bourque, 8:45 a.m.

Father McDonough is also on WMYD from 1:30 to 2 p.m. each Sunday.

Sunday, Jan. 16, (NBC) "Guide­li~e" - Fa~her Ellis DePriest,

__TIght. Wi1ly:~.ill,~' jliri,!g on m..Qr_e_ director of htu~gy for ~he .New than 140 stations through Jan- Orle-amr -ArchdlOcese;-ls- lOter·­uary and early February. viewed about c~urch worship 20

Seeing that his underpaid years after Vatican II. mother has trouble meeting fam­ily expenses, Wi1ly~Bi1l (Todd Bridges) drops out of high school to seek a full-time job. Dis­couraged when he can't find work, he turns to a social work­er (John AmoS) who gives him sound advice on appearance, at ­titude and self-confidence. But remaining unemployed, he checks out an Qffer of fast cash for ped­dling drugs.

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.16 THE ~NCHOR-Diocese of Fall River-Fri., Jan. 14, 1983 ST. MARY, NB ST; ANNE'S HOSPITAL, FR F,irst communion candidates Relationships between hospi­

will receive first penance at 10 tals and community mental a.m. tomorrow. All welcome. DOES YOUR parish

A discussion group meets each at a conference to be ,iointly health centers will be discussed

appear in Steering Points? . Tuesday at 10 a.m. and a Bible sponsored by St. Anne's, Charl- _study ~roup each Tuesday at ton Memorial Hospital and Cor­ Just mail us your bulletin 7 p.m., both in the CCD center. rigan Mental Health Center onIteering pOintl The Athletic Association will Wednesday, Jan. 26, at White's weekly and, your parish meet at 7 p.m. Sunda.y in the ·restaurant, North Westport. In­school. formation: 674-5741, ext. 257. too will be part of one of

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ST. MARY'S CATHEDllAL, FR Confirmation candidates will

a.ttend a retreat Wednesday aft ­ernoon at the Family Life Cen­ter, North Dartmouth.

Year's-end parish statistics show 55 baptisms, 22 weddings,30 first communicants, 22 con­firmations and 52 funerals in 1982.

BL.SACRAMENT,FI!t 'Parents of first communion

candidates will meet at 7 p.m. Sunday in the small chapel.

An attendance survey taken in November showed a total ayerage attendance at weekend Masses of 658 adults and chil­dren. The survey_ was made preparatory of taking a parish census..

ST. FRANCIS OF ASSISI, NB 1982 parish 'statistics show one

adult and 17 infant baptisms,eight weddings, nine funerals (average age 71), 23 confirma­ti{)ns and 12 first communions. Mass attendance is up by five' percent and parish organizations are thriving.

CCD classes will resume late in February.

LaSALETTE SHRINE, ATTLEBORO .

The Prisoner of War and Missing 'in Action committee ofthe DIsabled American Veter­IIns will hold a Dublic ecumeni­cal service 'at .the shrine at 2 n.m. Sunday, Jan. 23. Former POW L'arry Stark will speakand among those In attendancewill be Rep. Barney Frank and George Brook.s, nation ,;1, chair­m~n for POW/MIA Families.

Father Andre _A. Patena.ude, MS, shrine director, will be as­sisted by American Legion arid DAV chaplains a·t the service,

"whose purpose is to remind Americans that 10 years after the Vietnam war nearly 2,500 servicemen remain unaccounted for.

FAMILY LIFE CENTER St. Anne's Hosoital. Fall

River, will hold management workshops' at .the North Dart­mount center Tuesday through Thursday. A confirmation oro­gram 'is scheduled for Wednes­day.

ST. STANISLAUS, FR Polish classes will begin at

7:45 tonight in the school under directi'on of Father Richard Philiposki, S.Chr. Kinder~arten registrations for

September will be accepted at 11:45 a.m. Sunday, Jan. 30. Other grades' will be accepted at 11:45 a.m. Sunday, Feb. 6.

A senior citizens' group is in process of formation. Those in­terested wiJ,l meet at 2:30 p.m.Sunday in the school.'

ST. JOHN OF GOD, SOMERSET Holy Rosary sodalists will re­

ceive corporate communion at , 9:45 a.m. Mass Sunday.

The Women's Guild will hold Moderator's Night on Wednes­day, beginning with Mass at 7 p.m.

The parish fellowship group will meet for Mass and 'a social hour at· 7 p.m. Thursday. Dea­con Tom Prevost of St. Michael's parish, Swansea, will speak.

ST. MARY, SEEKONK Parents of Grade 2 CCD stu­

dents will meet 'at 7 p.m. Sun­day in .the social room. '

The Youth Ministry will meet at 7 p.m. tomorrow at the CCD center.

An appreciation dinner for parish workers will be ·held at 7 p.m. Saturday, J.an. 29, in the church hall. ST. THOMAS MORE, SOMERSET

An appreciation night for par­ish workers will follow 5:15 p.m. Mass Saturday, Jan. 29. Cocktails. dinner and entertain­ment will be on the program. .

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will meet from 9:30 a.m. to noan tomorrow at Our. Lady of Mt. Carmel Church, 984 Taunton Ave. (Rt. 44), Seekonk. ':

ST. RIT~, MARION . The Women's Club will meet

at 7:30 p.m. Tuesday in the rec­tory. Sister Lucille of the Di­ocesan Family Life Center will speak on the Billings method of natural family planning.

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CCD teachers and helpers will lar and thoroughly read .attenda day of recollection di­ features. Send to rected by Father Richard Mc­Nally, SS.CC., at 3 p.m. Sunday at Father. Coady ,Center. The STEERING POINTS program will conclude with .a .... potluck supper. The Anchor Word has been received that a :balloon released last April PO Box 7during the parish's 100th anni­versary celebra·tion was found in December in South Middle­ FaIl River, MA 02722 boro.

O.L. GRACE, WESTPORT A communion breakfast will

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Continued from Page Eight Parents of confirmation candi­

dates will meet at 7 p.m. Monday. "A lot of how the kids will at Holy Name School. Inter­ react has to do witl) the kind of views with candidates will be relationship they have with theirheld a the rectory Jan. 22 and

par~nt," stated Platten of Par­29 and Feb. 5. Catholic ,high school candidates will attend entship, Inc. "If it's an open and parish classes beginning in Feb­ close relationship, the kids will ruary and days of recollections probably understand if theirfor all C'll1o i dates will take

mother is dating again and willplace in March. want her to have close friend­

SECULAR IFRANC.ISCANS, FR ships."Queen of Angels Fraternity If the kids have a poor rela­

members will observe' Visitation tionship with the parent, theyDay this Sunday at a 10 a.m. meeting at Our Lady's Chapel, will create all kinds of problems, 600 Pleasant Street. such as throwing tantrums be­

fore the parent leaves for a dateS'll'.ANNE,FR or making life twice as hard forA fellowship meeting will be

held -at 7:30 p.m. Thursday and the babysitter. a Cub Scout ,pack meeting at the In addition to what might be same -time Friday, Jan. 21: called the usual problems of chil­

dren of separated and divorcedSACRED HEART,. FR parents, those between the ages

Couples married within the . of seven and eight, and adoles­last five years are invited to a meet1ng. at 7:45 p.m. Sunday, cents, face special difficulties, Jan: 23,. for the purpose of according to Sister Marietta. forming. a young couples' club. Younger children deal with

.A sewing group meets at 1 the emotions associated with the p.m. each Wednesday to make loss of a parent through fantasy, pads for the Rose Hawthorne

Home. New members are wel- ­ she explained. Children between come. the ages of seven and eight have

Confirmation candidates will generally outgrown that. "Theymeet 'at 9 a.m. Saturday, Jan. 22. are faced with the cold reality

and often are absorbed by the pain," she said.Sperm bank - Adolescents are especially

vulnerable because at the timerapped the teens are t~ing to separate

VATICAN CITY (NC) themselves fr.om their parents,L'Osservatore Romano, the Vati­ and become independent, "the can's . daily newspaper, has edi­ parent breaks from them." torially criticized sperm banks "This especially strikes adoles­seeking to produce new geniuses cents' view of commitment,"from Nobel prize' winners. The Sister Marietta stated. "Theynewspaper called such genetic question the possibility of everselection "racist~' and compared making a permanent commit­it to Nazi attempts to produce ment. They see it as impossible,supermen. The editorial took as thinking 'If my dad or mom did i.ts point of departure a senes it (divorced), then I might do itof articles published earlier in too.' ..the daily La Stampa of Turin,

Sister Marietta and 'othersItaly. That series discussed a dealing with the children of div­U.S. sperm bank which has as orced and separated parentsits aim the production of geni­stress that despite the difficul­uses' from the donated sperm of ties, children can and do turnNobel prize winners. out to be ve~ healthy and hap­py people.

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