What to expect when you’re expecting a teen!...What to expect when you’re expecting a teen! Author: Michael Swisher Created Date: 2/22/2018 1:46:31 PM ...
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Welcome!
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On a sticky noteWrite down 5 behaviors you want to focus onStick it to the wall
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MICHAEL SWISHER - ARLINGTON PARTNERSHIP FOR CHILDREN, YOUTH & FAMILIES
ERIK ENDO – EVEN START PROGRAM, BARCROFT ELEMENTARY
It’s All Good…Until It’s NotConversations & Advice On
Discipline
Housekeeping…
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Parking Lot…a place to hold greatideas that we’ll get to another day, OR that fall outside of our topic.
I mustache you a question…forfamily-specific questions or anythingyou’d prefer to ask privately.
Welcome!
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It’s All Good
- Aspirations & Attitudes (Jan 10) √- Structure & Routines (Jan 17) √- Expectations & Incentives (Jan 31) √- The Right Response (Feb 7) √- Consequences (Feb 21)
Expectations & Incentives
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- Check-in about anything?- Consequences
ConsequencesI calm down before assigning a consequenceI consider the context and the situation when deciding on a consequenceConsequences are applied, consistently for all and there is follow-through (not empty threats) Consequences contribute to the child’s learning about a behavior or actionConsequences respect the dignity of my child
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3.5 (out of 5)
4.0
3.9
3.8
4.4
- What didwe growup with?
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Consequences
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G - Give guidance, limits, outcomes, and choices
A – Allow child to experience theconsequences of his/her choices
M – Model self-control
E – offer Empathy
S – Help child reflect on new Strategies@apcyf; www.apcyf.org
Consequences
Natural
Logical
Artificial
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Consequences
Natural
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Consequences
Logical
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Consequences
Artificial- Reasonable & Realistic
- Consistent
- With dignity
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Consequences
- No sticker!
- Loss of Privilege
- Chores
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Consequences
Natural
Logical
Artificial
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Consequences
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Consequencesa few more thoughts
P – Whose Problem is it?
E – offer Empathy
A – Ask the child to think of next steps
C – Offer Choices & suggestions
E – Encourage child to come up withsolutions
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Consequencesa few more thoughts
What if…you don’t have any ideas?
Avoid “wait til your father gets home”
ALWAYS keep the Relationship at the Forefront
Questions?
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One Last Thing…
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Tell us how we did!
Contact Information
Michael Swisher703-228-1671 | apcyf@arlingtonva.us
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