Success by Managing Fears

ACHIEVING CONFIDENCE & SUCCESS

AGENDA

1. Understanding where fear & anxiety comes from & why

2. Getting to know your 4 Fear Blocks (GAIL’s)

3. Learning how to control fear & anxiety

4. Achieving what you want

By the time you’re 17 years old, you’ve heard “No, you can’t,” an average of

150,000 times. 

You’ve heard “Yes, you can,” about 5,000 times.

 That’s 30 no’s for every 1 yes. That

makes for a powerful belief of “I can’t.”  

STATISTICS

1. How has these numbers of “No, you can’t” affected your life?

2. How has it affected your level of engagement?

3.  How do you recognize and overcome these inner fear blocks?

Take a moment & think about that.

Understanding Fear & Anxiety

• Anxiety & fear is actually your friend.

• It is a protection mechanism from your unconscious mind which is always trying to protect you.

• It thinks that there is something to be fearful or anxious about when it comes to doing something (especially something new).

G.A.I.L.

The Four Fear Blocks

LIMITING BELIEFS

Accepting something that LIMITS me in some

way.

QUESTIONS TO ASK

Where did I get

that BELIEF?

How is that

belief SERVING

me?

INTERPRETATION

This is MY storyNothing means anything until I give it meaning.

How much of this story is My Interpretation vs the

TRUTH?

What’s ANOTHER way to look at that?

QUESTIONS TO ASK

ASSUMPTION

This happened to me in the PAST.

It’s going to happen again

QUESTIONS TO ASK

Just because it happened in the past, why does it have to be

TRUE now/future?

What can I do DIFFERENTLY to get a different result?

What have I done before that has been SUCCESSFUL?

GREMLIN

MY INNER CRITIC

What is my Gremlin SAYING?

How much POWER does it have over me?

QUESTIONS TO ASK

QUIZ

If I’m up for a promotion at work, I will probably not get

it.

This is just who I am

They are going to find out I am a phony.

I have to work hard for my money.

There are no more ideal men/women out there for me, all the good ones are

already taken.

He didn’t call me so he’s probably not interested

A Change for The Better

1. You get those anxious thoughts, feelings, behaviors and fears

2. Put your attention on your desires. Focus on how you would like to be different.

3. You longer play into the anxiety or giving it life.

4. You’re telling your unconscious mind that this is the new strategy, way to act & react that is still safe.

5. Direct your “friend” to a newer future and new opportunities.

WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE MORE CONFIDENT & LESS

FEARFUL ABOUT? WORK HEALTH

RELATIONSHIP ANY SITUATION

• Put your attention on the successful completion of achieving this situation, your desired outcome.

• When we do that, we are changing our focus, we

are taking our focus away from anxiety and fear and putting our attention & intention on our desire.

• You’re educating your body to be free of those

negative thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

QUESTIONS TO ASK

What could I learn from this situation?

• What could I learn about this future

situation that will allow me to go through it in a far more effortless

way?•

How can I do this in the most wonderful way?

WHY ASK THESE QUESTIONS?

• When you think about anxiety and fear you’re thinking, “I don’t want this to happen and I don’t want that to happen. I don’t want to look silly. I don’t want to fail. I don’t want to be rejected.”

• When we have those thoughts and feelings, we’re telling our unconscious mind to look for more things like that.

WHY ASK THESE QUESTIONS?

• By asking how you can be different and what you can learn from this, you’re telling your unconscious mind to search for the answers…the new strategy.

• You’re giving your unconscious mind the strategy that has worked in the past and can work with you in the future

• You’ve done it successfully in the past and you’re just applying it into the future situation.

HOW OFTEN?

5-10 minutes everyday just before you go to sleep and upon waking up for a period of a

week or two

In time your unconscious mind will fully absorb it and take

it in unconsciously because it runs and

works through habitual processes.

WHAT DO I GET?

1. You’ll feel more confident, grounded, secure in who you are & decisions you make.

2. You’ll expand your model of the world 3. You’ll expand your comfort zone 4. Your unconscious mind will say, “I’ll do it

automatically for you.”5. Wonderful opportunities will begin to

happen

Statistics

1.80% of successful people are focused on accomplishing some single goal.

2.84% of successful people believe good habits create opportunity.

3.76% of successful people believe bad habits create detrimental luck

4.86% of successful people believe in lifelong educational self-improvement  

What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

ACHIEVING CONFIDENCE