Ed Batista, The Art of Self-Coaching @StanfordBiz, Class 6: RESILIENCE
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The art of
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self-coachingEd Batista
Class 6:RESILIENCE
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Small groups 40 minsResilience 25 minsA conversation 25 minsFor next time… 5 mins
Agenda
Power
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PowerTake “power pose” research with a grain of saltNot debunked, but there are open questionsKey point = The importance of the bodyHow we feel (literally) How we feel
Resilience
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A resilience storyUse your RQ
4 minutesReflect
small groups Debrief in yourWhat was that like?What did you experience?
Thank your group
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your partner Debrief withWhat did you learn?What do you want to remember?
Thank your partner
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Debrief What happened?
Crucible stories
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Meaning-makingMental modelsConnections
ResilienceBroader than DavidsonKaren Reivich & Andrew ShattéAbility to persevere & adapt when things go awry
Resilience
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elements
ResilienceKaren Reivich & Andrew ShattéWhat constitutes resilience?What is resilient behavior?
elements
ResilienceEmotion regulationImpulse controlOptimismCausal analysisEmpathySelf-efficacyReaching out
elements
As always… “A map is not the territory it represents.”
~Alford Korzybski
RQ assessmentWhat are these results?
NOT aptitude or proficiencyFrequency of use & comfort level
RQ assessmentWhat do your results tell you?
What would you like to try?
ResilienceEmotion regulationImpulse controlOptimismCausal analysisEmpathySelf-efficacyReaching out
elements
ResilienceAwareness may begin to shift behavior(As with mindset & other models)Where do we go from there?
elements
Resilience & its
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absence
Resilience & itsLinda GrahamWhy might we lack resilience?Why might these behaviors be difficult for us?
absence
Resilience & itsChildhood & insecure attachmentConditioned habitsImplicit memoriesNegativity biasTrauma
absence
Resilience & itsSub-optimal conditioning is the human condition. Must that be a permanent problem? No.
~Linda Graham
absence
Resilience & itsChildhood & life experiences matter……and change is eminently possibleNeuroplasticity is keySo what can we do?
absence
MindfulnessOKWe got itWe’ll meditateWhat else can we do?
Many pathsABCsIcebergsThinking trapsConcepts in Reivich & Shatté from CBT
Many pathsAll variations on a themeIdentify, explore & challenge mental models
Mental models
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Our perceptions shape realityHow we define experiencesHow we see ourselves
ABCsAdversity Consequences*
*Emotional & behavioral response
ABCsAdversity Beliefs* Consequences
*Mental models about self & the world
ABCsAdversity Beliefs ConsequencesWhat beliefs do I hold about myself?What beliefs do I hold about adversity?What beliefs do I hold about the situation?What practices help me address these questions?
IcebergsAssumptions & beliefs in 3 key areasAchievementAcceptanceControlStrong emotions when challenged
IcebergsWhat are my assumptions & beliefs regarding…Achievement?Acceptance?Control?What practices help me address these questions?
Single-looplearningAssumptions
& Beliefs ResultsStrategies& Goals
Double-loop
Results
learningAssumptions
& BeliefsStrategies
& Goals
Thinking trapsTunnel visionOvergeneralizeJump to conclusionsPersonalize (or externalize)Magnify neg. & minimize pos.
Thinking trapsTunnel vision Big pictureOvergeneralizeJump to conclusionsPersonalize (or externalize)Magnify neg. & minimize pos.
Thinking trapsTunnel visionOvergeneralize Narrow focusJump to conclusionsPersonalize (or externalize)Magnify neg. & minimize pos.
Thinking trapsTunnel visionOvergeneralizeJump to conclusions Slow downPersonalize (or externalize)Magnify neg. & minimize pos.
Thinking trapsTunnel vision OvergeneralizeJump to conclusionsPersonalize (or externalize) Look out (or in)Magnify neg. & minimize pos.
Thinking trapsTunnel vision OvergeneralizeJump to conclusionsPersonalize (or externalize)Magnify neg. & minimize pos. Balance
ReframingThe meanings we assign Emotional responseRe-interpret a situation Shift our emotionsOur mental models shape our experiences
EmotionNot rocket scienceHard to do under stressGet MESSy to build capacity
management
Putting it together
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Putting it togetherWhat strategies are working for you
now?Which ones would you like to try?Reflect
To sum up
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Resilience is dynamic & multi-dimensionalWe can employ our unique strengths……& address our weaknessesMental models are keyMany paths to success
VulnerabilityRead Brené Brown & my post (2 videos)TEDx on Vulnerability (20 mins)Shame & Empathy (8 mins)
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Meta-EmotionsWorksheet
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Meta-EmotionsComplete AFTER doing the readings
Worksheet
Another story…Experiences that involve feelings of
vulnerabilityEmbarrassment, remorse, guilt, shameUse the sheet to identify 5 storiesYou’ll choose which one to tell4 minutes to tell it
Looking ahead…Vulnerability, Unhappiness, Success
Less normative, more subjectiveLess research, more application
Other items…Slides posted on my siteWeekly assignment due Tuesday 9pmI’ll comment on as many as I can starting Saturday
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