Basic Parenting information for Filipino parents

BASIC PARENTING INFORMATION FOR FILIPINO PARENTS

A presentation of MS. LOVELEIH G. QUEMADO

A story of the father, the son and the crow

A story of the father, the son and the crow

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son.

Suddenly a crow perched on their window. The Father asked his Son, "What is this?“ The Son replied "It is a crow“

After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, "What is this?"• The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a

crow".

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, What is this?“

At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. "It's a crow, a crow"

A little after, the Father again asked his Son the 4th time, "What is this?"

This time the Son shouted at his Father, "Why do you keep

asking me the same question again and again, although I

have told you so many times 'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not

able to understand this?"

A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born.

On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary :-

"Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window.

My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow.

I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child".

While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

Theme:

“THE SECRETS OF HAPPY, CREATIVE, CONFIDENT AND COMPETENT KIDS”

According to Mark Rotella (1998) the best parenting is ‘starting from the seed’.

The chief task of parenting is to

ensure survival. (children)

PREPARE FOR THEM BEFORE THEY COME TO YOUR WORLD

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PARENTING

Do We Really Need Parental Training?

Start with the Basic

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•Now in the 21st century when man is understanding & perfecting everything, parenting is no exception.

•There are serious mistakes by not so competent or careful parents.

•Understanding of common failures and ways to correct them may be needed in few situations.

•Awareness about what we do, why we do and how we do

•But, anything, which is good in natural flow, should be allowed to retain its beauty and charm.

Parents Education on Parenting

1. Rights and Duties of Parents

2. Rights of our children

3. Liabilities of Parents

4. Stages of Development of our children

5. Social Environment of our children

PARENTS????

Who are they?

Parents are…..

May I ask the parents to complete the STATEMENT?

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Parents could be…

• Biological• Adoptive• Foster

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Rights of Parents

PD 603- issued by Pres. Marcos in 1974

Art. 43. Primary Right of Parents.

The parents shall have the right to the company of their children and, in relation to all other persons or institutions dealing with the child's development, the primary right and obligation to provide for their upbringing.

Rights of Parents

PD 603- issued by Pres. Marcos in 1974

Art. 45. Right to Discipline Child.

Parents have the right to discipline the child as may be necessary for the formation of his good character, and may therefore require from him obedience to just and reasonable rules, suggestions and admonitions.

Duties of Parents

Art. 46. General Duties. - Parents shall have the following general duties toward their children:

(1) To give him affection, companionship and understanding;

(2) To extend to him the benefits of moral guidance, self-discipline and religious instruction;

(3) To supervise his activities, including his recreation;

Duties of Parents

(4) To inculcate in him the value of industry, thrift and self-reliance;

(5) To stimulate his interest in civic affairs, teach him the duties of citizenship, and develop his commitment to his country;

(6) To advise him properly on any matter affecting his development and

well-being;

Duties of Parents

(7) To always set a good example;

(8) To provide him with adequate support, as defined in Article 290 of the Civil Code; and

(9) To administer his property, if any, according to his best interests, subject to the provisions of Article 320 of the Civil Code.

Duties of Parents

(8) To provide him with adequate support, as defined in Article 290 of the Civil Code; and

(9) To administer his property, if any, according to his best interests, subject to the provisions of Article 320 of the Civil Code.

Duties of Parents

Art. 47. Family Affairs.

Whenever proper, parents shall allow the child to participate in the discussion of family affairs, especially in matters that particularly concern him.

Liabilities of Parents

Art. 59. Crimes. - Criminal liability shall attach to any parent who:

(1) Conceals or abandons the child with intent to make such child lose his civil status.

Liabilities of Parents

(2) Abandons the child under such circumstances as to deprive him of the love, care and protection he needs.

Liabilities of Parents(3) Sells or abandons the child to another person for valuable consideration.

(4) Neglects the child by not giving him the education which the family's station in life and financial conditions permit.

Liabilities of Parents

(5) Fails or refuses, without justifiable grounds, to enrol the child as required by Article 72.

(6) Causes, abates, or permits the truancy of the child from the school where he is enrolled. "Truancy" as here used means absence without cause for more than twenty schooldays, not necessarily consecutive.

Outside School….

Liabilities of Parents

It shall be the duty of the teacher in charge to report to the parents the absences of the child the moment these exceed five schooldays.

(7) Improperly exploits the child by using him, directly or indirectly, such as for purposes of begging and other acts which are inimical to his interest and welfare.

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Liabilities of Parents

(8) Inflicts cruel and unusual punishment upon the child or deliberately subjects him to indignations and other excessive chastisement that embarrass or humiliate him.

(9) Causes or encourages the child to lead an immoral or dissolute life.

Liabilities of Parents

(10) Permits the child to possess, handle or carry a deadly weapon, regardless of its ownership.

Liabilities of Parents

(11) Allows or requires the child to drive without a license or with a license which the parent knows to have been illegally procured. If the motor vehicle driven by the child belongs to the parent, it shall be presumed that he permitted or ordered the child to drive.

Art. 60. Penalty. - The act mentioned in the preceding article shall be punishable with imprisonment from two or six months or a fine not exceeding five hundred pesos,

or both, at the discretion of the Court, unless a higher penalty is provided for in the Revised Penal Code or special laws, without prejudice to actions for the involuntary commitment of the child under Title VIII of this Code.  

Rights of the child (PD 603)• rightsofachild -edited.pptx

Stages of Development of our children

• sigmundfreudpsychosexual.ppt

• psychosocial.pptx

Social Environment

• Family

• parenting-130303204749-phpapp01.pptx

• CHILD ABUSE.pptx

THANK YOU!!!