1 Peter 3:1-7 Better Husbands Better Husbands & Better Wives & Better Wives.

1 Peter 3:1-71 Peter 3:1-7

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CONTEXT

Neither are Christians(Bad husband - bad wife)

She Obeys Gospel(Better wife - poor husband)Her example converts him

(Better husband - Better wife)

Responsibilities are part ofbeing holy (1:15-16)

1 ¶ Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward--arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-- 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror. 7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

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Spiritual

Priority / EmphasisPriority / EmphasisSpiritualSpiritual

• Fears & Trust in God (vv. 2, 5)

• Concerned About Husband’s Soul (vv. 1-2)

• Pure (v. 2)

• Focus on Inward - Not Outward (vv. 3-6)

Not:Labor for meatthat perishes

(Jno. 6:27)

But:Labor for meatthat endures(Jno. 6:27)

Not:Outward adorning hair/gold/apparel

(1 Pet. 3:3)

But:Hidden person

of Heart(Jno. 6:27)

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Spiritual

Respects HerHusband

Respects HerRespects HerHusbandHusband

• Submits to Him / Obeys (vv. 1, 6)

• As her “Lord” [leader] (v. 6)

• Fear (v. 2)

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Respects HerHusband

Disciplined

DisciplinedDisciplined

• Watches What She Says (v. 1)

• Watches Her Example At Home (vv. 1-2)

• Sincere (v. 4)

• Gentle & Quiet Spirit (v. 4)

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Relationship to God

Priority:Priority:Relationship to GodRelationship to God

• Motive: That Prayers - Not Hindered

• Concern: How His Relationship to

God is Affected

• What Godly woman would not want

to follow such man?

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Leader

Priority:Relationship to God

LeaderLeader

• Takes Responsibility

• Leads with Understanding & Respect

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Leader

Priority:Relationship to God

Respects HisWife

RespectsRespectsHis WifeHis Wife

• Understanding

• Honors Her

• Weaker Vessel

• Views Her as an Equal

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God’s WordGod’s WordIs The StandardIs The Standard

• Not:

> Own concepts

> What everyone else does

• Means: Different / Hard / Change

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Communicate

God’s Word IsThe Standard

CommunicateCommunicate

• Evidence: He leads - she submits He understands

• Means:Talk & Discuss rather than fuss & fume Agree before they act

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Thinking ofThe Other

Communicate

God’s Word IsThe Standard

Thinking ofThinking ofthe Otherthe Other

• She:> Yields to his leadership> Concerned about his soul

• He:> Wants to understand her> Views her as precious vessel

• Practice:> Self Denial (Mark 8:34)> Golden Rule (Matt. 7:12; Phil. 2:4)

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