When love and school collide

When Love And School Collide…Striking a balance between love and school..

Prepared by: Brain Gyverne P. Agwilang

Adolescent Development Adolescence- transition between

childhood and adulthood Conflict- reconcile who you are and what

society expects you to be in all facets of your life like: Choosing your career and friends Exercising freedom and limits; and Adhering to certain ideologies and principles

Outcome: sense of identity

EMOTIONS

Response to a whole organism including body reactions, expressive behaviors, and experience.

NegativeFear Anger motivation for

movingGrief away from what

oneHate does not want .

CHEMISTRY OF LOVEAttraction, love and relationships

are fueled by actual chemicalsPhenylethylamine(PEA)Norepinephrine(NE)DopamineOxytocinSerotonin

WHAT MAKES US FEEL ATTRACTED TO ANOTHER PERSON

1. Propinquity- closeness2. Complementarity- opposite attracts3. Similarity- the same interest and liking4. Personality- identity

Arousal- short lived : 6-24 months

Sternberg’s Theory of Love

There are three(3) components that can be shortened or lengthened according to the amount of presence in the relationship. This results to the eight(8) types of love.

INTIMACY ( LIKING)

ROMANTIC COMPANIONATE

LOVE LOVE

PASSION FANTASY LOVE COMMITMENT

(INFATUATION) ( EMPTY LOVE)

COMPLETE/ CONSUMMAT

E LOVE

Stages of Love and How they May be Positively Handled

A. “Meet Cute”The beginning stage

PROBLEMS: love can destroy our routine

Practical Tips in Balancing the Falling in Love Stage with Studying Believe that balancing love and school

can be done Assess yourself Be honest with yourself Establish that your studies matter to

you Follow through by finding a set-up that

works for you and stick with it Chill out

B. “Together Forever”

Maintaining Relationship

Support for the relationship accept and respect each other’s endeavors Be familiar with interpersonal needs of your partner

Inclusion: including your partner in your goals and future aspiration

Control: learning to give and take

Affection: having similar needs for affection and manner of expression

C. “Happily Never After”The breaking up stage

What happens when your relationship ends? Why do you experience this feelings?

Effects: 1. Increased blood flow2. Tensed and swollen muscles3. Headaches4. Stiff neck5. Chest pain6. Serious gastro-intestinal problems7. Post-relationship cold

Practical tips in handling break ups:

1. Limit your wallowing2. De-clutter/ be organize3. Focus on your studies4. Keep a gratitude list5. Give back6. Hang out with your friends7. Compliment yourself8. Keep this in mind: “whatever cheers the mind,

help cure the body.”

Romantic Love and Premarital Sex

Effects of premarital sex1. GUILT- awareness of wrongdoing2. SHAME- state of disgrace3. REGRET- feel sorry for something

***Any sexual experimentation outside of marriage is a mistake.

Advantages of Abstinence to Premarital SexFreedom from:

1. Unwanted pregnancy2. Marrying before you are ready3. Abortion or adoption4. Sexually transmitted diseases5. Exploitation6. Guilt, depression, disappointment, worry,

and rejection7. Use of contraceptives

Freedom from:1. Be in control of your future2. Use your energy to

accomplish life goals3. Develop healthy dating

relationships4. Respect yourself and others5. Establish greater trust in

marriage6. Enjoy being a teenager

How to say “NO” to premarital sex

1. Give reasons for your decision.2. Avoid people and places that will tempt

you to do the act.3. Look for friends who will support your

healthy behavior.4. Stick to your decision to change. Be

assertive when you are pressured.

Teen marriages fail at a higher rate than do marriages of people in their 20s or 30s.

Higher education is associated with marital stability.

ForeverLove at first siteDestinyFaith

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