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There is power in forgiveness in marriage

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THERE IS POWER IN FORGIVENESS IN

MARRIAGE

To sustain a marriage, then you must learn to forgive your spouse.

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We are living in very difficult times and the marriage institution is under great threat. Husbands and wives have continued mistrusting each other. There is so much societal pressure on the institution of marriage. To sustain marriage , I know, there is the Power of Forgiveness.

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This week I was handling a serious issue with a couple that is about to call of their marriage. My message to this couple is that, the answer is not parting ways, but in forgiving each other.

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What It Means to Forgive Forgiveness is incredibly

powerful. A daily dose of forgiveness can save a lot of marriages. But what, exactly, does it mean to forgive? What are the “active ingredients”? How do we learn to forgive?

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In forgiving one another, we draw on the forgiveness that Jesus has given us by making a decision to release another from the penalty of sin.

Forgiveness is releasing the other from the penalty of sin so the relationship can be restored.

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A decision to release. You must make a decision to

release and not hold back. Forgiveness means letting go

of your right to punish another and choosing through the power of God’s love to hold onto the other person rather than his or her offense.

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In the process of forgiving, the first barrier you have to remove is within yourself. You have to decide to see your spouse instead of the offense. Often the decision to let go has to be renewed daily, hourly, or even more often.

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A decision to sacrifice You cannot forgive till you know you are sacrificing.

God’s forgiveness required the sacrifice of His Son to pay the penalty for sin. Our forgiveness requires sacrifices, too, though of a different sort.

An important way that you sacrifice your claim to justice is by refusing to bring up the matter in a harmful way. Friday, April 7, 2023

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A decision to trust that God is up to good.

Place all your decisions in God. As Jesus sacrificed He had to

entrust Himself to God. He had to trust that God would really deal with the sin that He, Jesus, was paying for. He trusted that forgiveness would make a difference and that His sacrifice was not in vain. He trusted that God would renew and restore His people. Friday, April 7, 2023

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Your forgiveness doesn’t guarantee a change in your spouse, but it does guarantee that you’ll grow and that you’ll be protected from bitterness. Trust that forgiveness is the path that God provides to draw back the curtains that separate you and your spouse. Trust that forgiveness will renew your marriage.

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A decision to grow You cannot remain in the

same place when you forgive. You actually grow your marriage.

No matter how sincere the confession and commitment to change, your spouse may again sin against you.

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Remember that change is a process. The forgiveness that God gives us based on Jesus’ one-time death on the cross is bestowed on us day by day for the rest of our lives. A purpose of that forgiveness, restoring us to His perfect image, is a process that takes a lifetime.

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Identifying Our Real Enemies

Too often in marriage when there is offense and conflict, we identify our mates as the enemy. Our mates are never the enemy. If we learn who our enemies really are, we can effectively fight the battles in our marriages and rise to victory. Our real enemies are the powers of darkness and our own flesh. These enemies often go unnoticed in the heat of battle.

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Our flesh seeks to please itself and cannot please God. The apostle Paul warns us about our flesh, in Romans 8:8, "Those who are still under the control of their sinful nature can never please God."

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The powers of darkness intend for all marriages to be destroyed. If you commit to God and your mate, you will wrestle with the forces of darkness. Ephesians 6:12 declares, "For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places."

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Forgiveness Is Not Forgiveness can be quite painful when it involves someone you are madly in love with. In marriage, forgiveness is not "Don't worry about what you did, I'm fine with it and we all make mistakes." We are plagued by an abyss of pain, anger, bitterness, and resentment. Forgiveness is not lip service.

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These unchecked feelings can potentially become emotionally, mentally, verbally, or physically murderous. Forgiveness is not being so numb to pain that we are oblivious to reality. In marriage, when we embrace numbness our hearts transform into ice. Forgiveness is not forgetting the offense. Forgiveness is not choosing to inflict the price for the offense.

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Struggling to Forgive How do you forgive someone

who was never supposed to hurt you in the first place? Why forgive them? What about all the damage to your marriage and family? The best answer is you must; forgiveness was extended to you.

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Jesus said in Matthew 6:14-15, "If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins." If you refuse to forgive, you operate in sin and in covenant with Satan.

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These questions and declarations are hard to swallow. I have battled with them in my marriage, but I came out victorious.

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We struggle to forgive because we justify our rights and inappropriately apply God's Word. Many of us have declared inwardly or outwardly, "The Bible said, 'Be ye angry.' " We forget the rest of the Scripture verse: " … and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath" (Ephesians 4:26, KJV).

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If we are honest, many of us are angry and sin for days, weeks, months, years. Many of us will carry the sin of unforgiveness to our grave.

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Forgiveness becomes a struggle when we seek to please our flesh. We struggle because the Holy Spirit demands that we be like Christ. God is as displeased with unforgiveness as he is with sexual sins, deception, lying, and envy.

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We must remember that any sin either of us could commit, Jesus paid for at Calvary. Who gave us the right to make our spouses pay for sin when we did not?

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Real Forgiveness Is Real forgiveness is threefold. 1. Forgiveness means excusing the

penalty for an offense, offering pardon.

2. Forgiveness means renouncing anger and resentment.

3.Finally, forgiveness is a choice. God gave all of us the power to choose.

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These definitions are simplistic, but they pack enough power to loosen the stronghold of unforgiveness. As an immature Christian, I thought I had the right to be angry and my sin was justified. It never was.

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Loosening Satan's Grip The devil understands the power

of forgiveness. He had the opportunity to behold the glory of God and the kingdom of heaven. He has been doomed to hell and is mad and desires us to share his fate. Satan knows that forgiveness redeems and restores relationships.

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Satan is employed to steal, kill, and destroy. Unforgiveness opens the door for him to hold us back. As the sun sets and we nurse anger, bitterness, and resentment, the devil smiles. We have embraced the power of darkness.

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God's forgiveness propels us into salvation and restoration. Your marriage can be restored and bring glory to God.

 

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To sustain our marriages, we are compelled to forgive. There is power in forgiveness.

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